u/Fair-Raspberry-2522

I have had a long term partner before that ended, but I recently decided to come back to try to find a new partner. I meet people online fairly often, we chat for a bit, but before any play I make sure we discuss things like safe words, limits, and expectations. We get through it, but afterwards they seem to completely lose interest or just ghost me.
Here’s where I need help. Consent and agreeing on what we’re looking for is important, as I’m looking for a long term. What do you expect a dom to do, how to bring it up, and what turns you off?
I know talking about this isn’t fun, but it’s important and that is where I’m losing people. Any tips?

I’m a soft Dom looking for a female sub interested in exploring a blackmail dynamic built around trust, attachment, accountability, and the thrill of vulnerability.
What interests me isn’t humiliation for its own sake, but the psychological aspect, knowing that walking away feels difficult, feeling that nervous excitement when your Dom has leverage you’ve willingly provided, and using that leverage to reinforce commitment, obedience, and connection within agreed boundaries.
My style is firm but caring. I enjoy creating a dynamic where a submissive feels safe, desired, challenged, and just a little afraid of disappointing me. The goal is a long-term D/s relationship built on communication and mutual enjoyment.

What I’m looking for:
Female sub 18-29yo
Interested in blackmail, accountability, and psychological control
Able to communicate openly about limits and expectations
Interested in building an ongoing dynamic rather than a one-time session

What I offer:
Experienced, respectful communication
Clear boundaries and respect for your boundaries
A soft-dom approach with structure and consistency
Emphasis on consent, trust, and discretion

Limits, safewords, and expectations will be discussed thoroughly before anything begins.
If this sounds appealing, send me a message introducing yourself, your experience level, and what draws you to this type of dynamic.

I know the world is so scary, everyone is out to get you, but you did such a good job today. You’re so strong and I’m so proud of you.

We’ll start slow, introductions, chatting and getting to know each other. Work on building trust mainly. I’ll slowly gather information on you until I have enough to use against you, at which point our relationship will change and the blackmail will start. I won’t be as kind or friendly, but I’ll manipulate you, give you tasks and projects and you’ll provide proof. Eventually, I’ll control your diet, wardrobe and schedule. Everything about you will be up to me, even your posts on social media will be approved by me first.

Your safe word will be RED and you are highly encouraged to use it if you ever feel uncomfortable.

Introduce yourself in the first message, include ASL and feel free to ask any questions.

I want to blackmail you into becoming a public slut. Start with posting pics on Reddit, gain a following, then move into selling. Make an onlyfans, keep it private and eventually start posting and promoting it on your social media. Everyone will know what you do, they will be able to see you for cheap.

This will start slow, build trust, get to know each other a bit. Once I have what I need to blackmail you, I’ll have you post, gain access to your accounts, slowly build your confidence and have you grow your following. I will remain in control, throughout, but you will keep all financial gain as I want no part of it.

You will be a puppet for me to control, it will be a complete TPE relationship. If you have questions, please ask. If you reach out, introduce yourself with your name, age, and location.

Are you ready to hand over control to someone who knows exactly how to break you down, slowly and deliberately?
M here, experienced and methodical, looking for a dedicated victim who craves the real psychological edge of blackmail play. This is deep and immersive, the kind where you feel genuinely trapped, exposed, and powerless.
I’ll dig into your secrets, assign risky tasks, demand proof, control your orgasms, and push your limits with humiliation and exposure threats. Once we begin, I won’t make it easy for you to escape. You’ll feel the weight of real submission.
Only serious or curious subs should message. Expect to prove your commitment early.
Tell me in your first message:
• Age
• Your experience with blackmail, TPE, and similar experiences
• Hard limits
• What scares and excites you most about being blackmailed
I will be strict, creative, and relentless once we agree on terms. Safewords and the ability to stop will always exist, but they won’t make the fantasy feel any less real.
If you’re ready to feel genuinely vulnerable and owned, message me.

I’ve been active here for a while and decided it’s time to make a post. I’m a 24yo man who believes men are superior and women belong in their natural place, beneath us. This isn’t some weekend kink or bedroom game for me, I’m looking for a woman who feels the same deep down and wants to live it.

A little about me:
I’m young, athletic, and I work out regularly while watching my diet. I work in sales and have plenty of time to give you my attention. I’m mentally strong, decisive, and I enjoy being in charge. In my free time I hike, camp, read, and snowboard. I’m straightforward, no-nonsense, and I don’t apologize for my beliefs about gender roles. I’ve had relationships where I kept a woman in a submissive dynamic and nothing turns me on more than watching a girl slowly break and accept her place.
I have brown hair, beard, my right arm is tattooed and my ears are pierced. I take care of myself and expect the same from my woman, your body is for my pleasure and it should be kept clean and healthy.

What I’m looking for:
A woman 18-25 who accepts or craves misogynistic leadership. She should be naturally submissive, eager to serve, and turned on by being degraded, objectified, and put in her place. I want full control - free use, strict rules, humiliation, breeding, TPE, or whatever else I decide. Looking for someone who wants to be collared, trained, and owned. Open to online at first but real life ownership is the goal.

I’m based in Washington state and prefer someone relatively local or willing to move.

If you’re a woman who gets wet from being reminded she’s inferior, who wants her opinions dismissed, her body used, and her life structured by a stronger man, message me. In your first message, tell me your age, location, why you’re on this subreddit, and describe how you see your place under a man. Bonus if you include a photo and are ready to prove your obedience quickly.

I’m only interested in feminists or brats if they are ready to see what’s wrong with their ways and want to change. I want a genuinely submissive, inferior girl who knows she belongs on her knees and in the kitchen unless I want her somewhere else.

I am looking to blackmail an inexperienced woman into being a “toy” for others enjoyment. We will start friendly and calm, but the dynamic will change. You will be asked to do more pathetic or degrading things, I will request more and more, and when you tell me no, I’ll threaten. I will turn you into a Reddit slut for everyone to enjoy.

I’m looking for someone inexperienced within the kink community, preferably younger but that’s not necessary. Someone willing to explore and experiment and make posts. I will not request anything that will put you in harms way or get you in any legal trouble.

Feel free to ask any questions. If you reach out, please introduce yourself with your age. If we decide to have a dynamic, I will need verification you are real.