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Gents I've been extending and pumping for almost two years. Not sure about any gains to be honest but I haven't lost any size as I've started losing EQ as I age I'm 44 now. I'm on daily Cialis but have lost erection during the day and morning wood is also less now. Probably due to stress at work and at home.

Anyway I'd really like to correct my bend I have two areas one is at the very base that curves the entire shaft left. The other is 1/4 way from the base with a slight bend to the left. I think the two bends takes at least 0.5 to 1 cm off total length when erect.

I have a penimaster which I don't use often enough. I only have time in the evening so I try to have it on with a 1kg weight for about 20mins then 20mins of interval pumping at 23kpa ~7inhg. The left bend pushes the glans against the pump and I usually get bruising on the left and it's not comfortable.

Any suggestions is welcome. I've tried pushing the penis to the right during the day in my undies to try to correct it. Also have tried penimaster during the day and extending it as ads to the right. Which provided temporary correction before it went back. I just don't have enough hours to wear it. I wear a tight suit for work so all day extender shows.

Gents I've been extending and pumping for almost two years. Not sure about any gains to be honest but I haven't lost any size as I've started losing EQ as I age I'm 44 now. I'm on daily Cialis but have lost erection during the day and morning wood is also less now. Probably due to stress at work and at home.

Anyway I'd really like to correct my bend I have two areas one is at the very base that curves the entire shaft left. The other is 1/4 way from the base with a slight bend to the left. I think the two bends takes at least 0.5 to 1 cm off total length when erect.

I have a penimaster which I don't use often enough. I only have time in the evening so I try to have it on with a 1kg weight for about 20mins then 20mins of interval pumping at 23kpa ~7inhg. The left bend pushes the glans against the pump and I usually get bruising on the left and it's not comfortable.

Any suggestions is welcome. I've tried pushing the penis to the right during the day in my undies to try to correct it. Also have tried penimaster during the day and extending it as ads to the right. Which provided temporary correction before it went back. I just don't have enough hours to wear it. I wear a tight suit for work so all day extender shows.

I'm 44M HL I'm asian 178cm 85kg very fit, healthy, work out regularly and have a very successful professional career. I have been in a deadbed room marriage for the past 10 years. I have 2 gorgeous boys.

I work in sydney CBD and so if you're around and interested I could always pop out for a coffee and expand my circle. Hopefully get the spark going and I can send those flirty funny messages to you.

I've been so bored, looking to get excited again.

my wife 44LF just isn't interested in sex. It's been like this for 10 years. We've been in and out of counselling and on verge of divorce many times initiated by me. Last night we were about to start she told me to stop sending her sexual jokes and content. I've only sent 3 in the last few weeks in hope she would give me a blow job. I haven't had one in 10 years not even for my 40th birthday that's the only thing I requested. I said to her who else would I send it to? does she prefer me to send to some other girl? I really don't think that's too much. Getting sex is such a big deal with her and probably lots of women. She has to be in a good mood, I have to have done everything she asked. She can't be tired. It's always conditional. I just want sex when I want it. Sex is weaponised unfortunately.

I got angry lost my erection. I don't feel like a man anymore. Even during sex when we have it. She just lie there don't move. I'm bored, tired, I want sex on my terms. I want hot sexy sex that the woman participate 50/50 effort. But that's not the case.

I walked out of the bedroom. Turned down sex for the first time. I've given up. I want to be a man rather be slave to sex and to her.

Not sure where to go from here. She is perimanopause.

I could

1. tell her that we don't need sex anymore as there's always fight over it (from me). Tired of dead bedroom. I'll try to get it somewhere else.

2. be patient with her and continue to work on it. I've been working on this for 10 years of marriage. It's completely my fault. She was like this before we married but we had more frequent sex. I just never knew to look out for these things and expect it to get worse and to this stage.

3. just quietly find a FWB. I get excited with girls flirt with me. I'm not bad looking for my age(I think).

Tell me if I'm going about it wrong. I'm open to feedback. Feel confused, angry, upset.

Ever since I’ve started PE my post void drip has been getting worse. On days where I pump a bit more in pressure it’s noticeable no matter what I do. I try to shake and sit there and wait but the moment I sit in a chair there’s a bit more pressure there’s always a bit more that drips out.

Anyone else experience this? I am 44 and getting a bit old. So some of it is definitely natural and normal.

I was watching video recent and my member has a left ward bend and it’s been bothering me. It’s not an issue before but now that I’m on the pe journey and know more I want it to be straight. While watching a video from Janis he mentioned that if you masterbate with your right hand then you potentially over time could damage your member and thus if you do it with the right hand you may get a left bend. Which I think matches my scenario. I’ve never heard of it mentioned this way. Just wondering if others think it makes sense.

Also want to know if anyone have any practical advice to correct the bend that could be applied gradually. Thanks in advance.

What do you think about this situation?

I'm 44HLM and wife 44LLF I've been struggling with duty sex for the last few years. I know it's better than most and I'm grateful I'm still getting some. However, I've grown really resentful over the years. Last weekend she told me to hurry up as apparently our sessions are always too long for her (I think only because she's just not interested) and the moment she finishes she tells me to hurry up. I've told her before that it's really not nice. This time I wasn’t angry but just hurt and upset and stopped then she felt bad..

I'm trying to reframe my thinking but atm I just feel hurt, sad and angry I think it's disrespect and no consideration of my feelings and emotions.

I often wonder am I an asshole because of my needs the relationship is strained and I'm putting pressure on her. Then I also think we got married and I've always been like this if anything I needed more before and I was promised sex every second day now I have to beg, grovel, complain and be grumpy to get anything. Why am I acting this way :(

I’m 44m on cialis. As I get older I find my EQ getting worse especially the last year. I think stress and lack of sleep haven’t helped average 4-5hrs of sleep. I pump religiously for 20mins at 6inhg at 3 min sets on daily basis. I do find after pumping I’m fatigued and have less nocturnal erection.

My EQ has definitely decreased. I used to be able to will myself to an erection now I just can’t anymore.

People suggested Angion I don’t think it’s for me. I also don’t understand how it’s any different to pumping. I can’t get enough of an erection to do it anyway.

For those who pump and soft clamp. Does soft clamping help with EQ?

Thanks

I've been pumping for about a year now 20mins session around 6inhg nothing too high as I've been worried about injury. I now have a loss in EQ for sometime, maybe stress, maybe age. A number of people have recommended Angion method. I've gone through the material and tried it for one session. So I have no idea what I'm doing really.. other than testing AM1. I have trouble staying erect during AM1 and apparently I shouldn't be using porn. So I already have problem with EQ and without stimulus it's very hard. With pumping I just let the pump do the work. I don't understanding both pumping and AM is about getting blood in to engorge the D. So what is the difference really ?

Hey I'm 44m, fit and healthy. I feel like my EQ has gone down after last 12 months of almost 20mins daily pumping only at 23kpa ~6-7inhg. EQ definitely doesn't feel as strong as it used to. I take 5mg daily cialis as well. I was wondering if it's just because my D is fatigued or from stress from work? Do you guys soft clamp to try to improve EQ and does it work? Thanks!

I'm married with a demanding and highly successfuly career that requires me to be in control and sharp all day. At home we have a dead bedroom situation for over 8 years. My wife is a good woman but she has neglected me for so long. My 45th birthday is coming up, I want to feel alive again. Looking for a married successful woman whose in a similar situation. Not looking to blow up anyone's marriage or mine. I'd love to start chatting and explore this side safely and see if there's a connection. If you're patient, and understand discretion please message me.

I need to trim to get a seal for pumping. Wife finds the stubbles rough. Just wondering anyone have any tips to manage this situation. Thanks in advance.

I'm 44HLM, my wife 44LLF my wife tries to have sex once a week after much complaining and threatening from me about leaving. We've gone through several psychologist and now seeing a sex therapist. My wife is just low libido. It doesn't matter what I do. Anyway we envitably have sex maybe twice a month if I'm lucky or once a month. I really need it twice a week minimum.

I think the sex is just pity sex. She's really not interested and she doesn't move... I've posted here several times before just to vent.

It's a sad existence. We have two little boys one's got ADHD and Autism so life has been tough. She also works a full time job. But at some point you ask yourself why is it she has time for work outs, pole classes, catch up with friends but not you.

Yes I know she's just low libido for me...

I really just want to tell my kids never to get married...

Hi guys what do you guys use when you have hair? Wife wants me to keep it otherwise I would shave. I’ve been using a donut sleeve from zenhanger but it’s so thick my base is not expanding. I’ve also bought juicy oxballs but it won’t create a seal with the hair. Any advice would be great. Thanks in advance.