u/Hollocho

Doing activities together is a great way to deepen your connection with your Dom/Sub, be it cooking, reading, watching a move or gaming together! There is always a shared interest you can explore with your partner!

I'll start:

Me and my Sub used to play pokémon together, we would battle using random teams and the winner would win a free question (it could be anything, within our boundaries) to ask the loser. We used these moments to do check ins, do small requests or get to know each even more!

I've also started reading her favorite manga, so we could discuss about it when we were just fooling around.

What about you guys? What are some bonding activities you do with your Dom/Sub?

Hey everyone! Everything discussed here comes from my experience as a Dom, take it with a grain of salt.

I've been lurking for a while and some of the rants i have seen in here feels like a lack of communication, from both sides.

We're in a time where people seek quick and instant gratification and when they don't get it, they will move on to their source of gratification and someone always get hurt.

So, to try and remedy that, make sure to always communicate your needs, your wants, your boundaries and your deal breakers. Make sure to emphasize your boundaries and deal breakers, those are important!!

Your Dom/Domme should be your safe space, they should be where you can be vulnerable and open about yourself. If they refuse to listen to your feelings, your needs or boundaries, it is time to rethink your dynamic!!!

But remember, communication goes both ways! So make sure to listen to your Dom/Domme needs and wants too. Remind them that you're also their safe space and that they can be vulnerable and open with you!

Hope this could be of any help, stay safe everyone 🫶

Hey everyone! Everything discussed here comes from my experience as a Dom, take it with a grain of salt.

I've been lurking for a while and some of the rants i have seen in here feels like a lack of communication, from both sides.

We're in a time where people seek quick and instant gratification and when they don't get it, they will move on to their source of gratification and someone always get hurt.

So, to try and remedy that, make sure to always communicate your needs, your wants, your boundaries and your deal breakers. Make sure to emphasize your boundaries and deal breakers, those are important!!

Your Dom/Domme should be your safe space, they should be where you can be vulnerable and open about yourself. If they refuse to listen to your feelings, your needs or boundaries, it is time to rethink your dynamic!!!

But remember, communication goes both ways! So make sure to listen to your Dom/Domme needs and wants too. Remind them that you're also their safe space and that they can be vulnerable and open with you!

Hope this could be of any help, stay safe everyone 🫶

At some point in life we all had a taste of this dynamic and felt "i enjoyed this a lot, i liked it" and started exploring, researching and probably seeking more of it.

Mine happened when i was still dating my second girlfriend, at the time we were dating for a year and lived in neighbouring cities, which meant that we couldnt see each other very often. During summer break she came to visit for a whole week, we were both still in our 17s and were sleeping in different rooms. Every morning i would sneak into her room so we could have some private time, and i bet you can guess what a curious and horny couple are up to. We both still had our v cards, but we were always exploring, touching and learning what the other liked and what made us feel good.

On the very last day of her stay, she consentend for me to give her some oral pleasure for the first time and thats where it all began...

Being able to hear her trying to hold her moans, see her hands gripping tight on the sheets or reaching for my hair, her body squirming and moving closer for more. Until she squeezed her thighs around my head and pulled me closer by the hair, she came just like that.

When she finally released me and i got to lay on her side, she was already a sobbing mess. At first i thought i did something wrong and immediatly pulled her closer to my chest to try and giver he some consolation, but that was when she reassured me that it was alright and that she was crying because she was happy, she told me that on that very last day she felt comfortable and secure enough to let me do it and she enjoyed every moment of it.

There is a bit more to this story but in that moment i first "awakened" to be a pleasurer, all that intimacy, trust and giving that kind of joy to someone i loved and cared made me feel soo good.

So, how about you? When did you first "awakened" to this?

How do you view them? Does your dynamic have them? Do you like them? Hate them? Do you try your best to get rewarded/punished?

No, i'm not talking about punishments that will hurt you either physically or mentally. I'm talking about a gentle pinch, extra teasing and edging or some denial as punishments.

Would love to hear all your opinions!