u/IceTheNice

Does a night of attending a concert and listening intently to some amazing musicians on stage, and then having thought provoking discussion about what we saw afterwards, sound romantic to you? If you're one of the few people that can say, "yes," then keep reading!

I'm here today looking for, "the one," (so that means I'm monogamous) who really gets me, and appreciates music and art the ways I do. Previously I had settled for those who didn't get it, or even worse, looked down on me for how I am, but now I will be completely open about how weird, but hopefully lovable, I really can be. For now I'm talking about the important things, but the intimacy side of things will be touched on at the end, and I encourage you to move on if at any point you learn something about me that makes you think this won't work.

What kind of partner am I?:

I hope to be the one you can trust to be your truest self around. Sometimes I am sarcastic and poke fun with some dry humor but generally I am very accepting. I can be a bit dense sometimes therefore I request open and clear communication, which I will also give to you consistently. Honesty is, in my opinion, the most important thing in a relationship. Everything is built upon that. My laid back and somewhat shy nature can come off as boring to some, but if I feel truly accepted for who I am around you then I begin to open up. You won't need to be the big powerful domme woman all the time with me, it's okay to be vulnerable and need comforting. I think while I don't always give the most wise advice, that I am a really good listener.

As for an, "about me.":

I'm a musician, at this point I'm sure of that. Will I be working day jobs to pay the bills? Yes, but music will always be my passion and primary focus. Almost everyday I can will be spent experiencing it as both a listener and creator. I need someone who is in that same sort of headspace, who can live a life of music and art and creativity. It's not a glamorous one, unless I get lucky. I'll never have the kind of career that can buy a house, I don't and will never want kids, and obviously living with a music maker is gonna get noisy at times, so you'd best be someone who loves the noise or joins in with it. We can talk specifics about our tastes if you're interested but to give you a really quick example of how, "out there," I am here's one of my favorite songs. If it's new to you then I'd like you to try and listen very intently to it, and tell me what you think of it in your reply to this personal. If you're someone who is saying, "you think that's weird?" then absolutely come show me what's what because I'd love to meet someone who can push my own boundaries further.

As for the more boring stuff here's some general boundaries I didn't mention earlier that I'm going to set:

• I'm not religious. If you are that's fine, but do not at all push anything on me
• I don't really indulge in drugs/alcohol, I'm not against you doing so as long as you are safe and responsible. If I can tell you've got a problem or you really need that stuff to have fun then this won't work.
• No bigots! Pretty simple, if you can't tolerate my terminally online queer friends and such then DNI
• OBVIOUSLY you should be at least 18+, otherwise I'm not too worried about age as long as you know what you're signing up for with someone, "younger."

A brief physical description is that I'm a 6' 0" skinny guy with glasses and long brown hair (very generic). I do have interest in exploring dressing fem in public, as a non-kink thing, but that's going to be a ways down the road from now. I am not one to be picky about your own appearance/body. As one of the best male role models once said...

"I like girls."
- JoCat

Finally, time for the gross, nasty, and absolutely vile kink stuff...

I think what's most important is just to establish that I am 100000% a sub, not much of a switch at all. Sure I've had one or two sexual experiences in the past where I took charge but if you're not extremely confident as a dom and enthusiastic about the role then you're not going to be very satisfied with our bedroom life. I am open to a lot of things, especially if it's something you yourself really love doing. I'm the sort to match your energy but I do not engage in the following...

• scat/piss
• illegal things
• extreme pain/emotional degradation
• things involving other partners

I'm going to go on about the things I like, some fantasies, etc. Do not feel as though you need to meet any of these though it'd probably be best if you're at least on the more, "gentle femdom," side of things. Obviously as the title may have suggested, one of my big things is petplay. As someone who can overthink a lot and feel tons of self doubt I'd love the security of having an, "owner," who loves me unconditionally, and whom I submit to unconditionally. I also like the idea of someone who can physically overpower me and have their way with me. Being a service sub is something I feel I'm great at. I will please you, to the best of my abilities, in any way you command! I do have a soft spot for the mommydom and caregiver/little type of dynamic as well but please don't feel like you're going to be expected to literally baby me. I am a capable adult who can take care of myself, I only mention it for the rare few who are very enthusiastic about these things. If anything I've mentioned is a huge turn on for you then we can discuss it more but otherwise don't worry about it if you're not into this stuff. I am well aware of how niche it all is.

LAST PART:

I'd heavily prefer someone local, let's meet up and do some things together. If our personalities don't connect then feel no shame in moving on, as I will do the same if I feel that way. Again, you deserve the perfect fit for you. If you're online then you have to be capable of relocating to Chicago because I worked hard to move here and it's where I plan to live out my life (unless things go extremely wrong.) We are going to start as just friends first. That has to work out before we can go any further. If this exhausting personal seems appealing to you then do reach out, but definitely try to put some effort into your response and tell me all about yourself! Hope to hear from you soon!