u/Interesting-Fish-809

A post I came across recently finally gave me the push to write this. I’ve wanted to for a while, but if you’re in Saudi you probably already know the awkward part... finding someone kinky isn’t necessarily the hardest thing. Finding someone who actually wants the same kind of connection you do is

I’m a male Dom living in Riyadh, looking for a submissive woman I genuinely click with. Someone I can build an actual relationship/dynamic with, not just trade a few horny messages with and disappear a week later.

Being in Riyadh or Saudi would obviously be amazing. Having the same language/cultural background would make a lot of things easier too, so I’d especially love to meet someone Arab. But I’m also realistic enough to know I’m searching in a pretty small pool here, and I don’t want geography to make me miss someone genuinely special.

So yes, I’m completely open to online.

And I don’t mean online until I get bored because we can’t meet. If the connection is there I’m perfectly happy letting something real grow online, whether it eventually becomes in-person or stays online. Consistency, voice calls when we’re comfortable, sharing our days, flirting, teasing, rules, little rituals, having someone actually present in your life.distance doesn’t automatically make a dynamic fake to me.

I’m also not looking for someone to call me Sir five messages in or hand me control because I put Dom in a post. Honestly that does nothing for me.

I like the part before that.

Getting to know each other, stupid late night conversations, laughing at each other, attraction slowly becoming obvious, learning what makes you feel safe and what makes your brain short circuit a little and eventually reaching that point where submission actually means something because you know the person you’re giving it to.

This is my second proper dynamic, so I’m not going to pretend I’ve been doing this for twenty years or know absolutely everything.

my previous dynamics taught me a lot though. My sub had come from an abusive relationship with another Dom and sometimes trauma/flashbacks from that would unexpectedly show up during scenes. There were moments where everything seemed completely fine and suddenly it wasn’t.

I wrote a post about it before because I genuinely didn’t know the best way to help her and wanted advice from people with more experience. The thing that stayed with me most from that experience is that dominance isn’t impressive to me because someone can be rough or give orders. The harder part is paying enough attention to another person to know when to push, when to slow down, when something has changed, and being someone they don’t have to be afraid of disappointing.

That matters to me a lot now.

Doesn’t mean I want some painfully serious dynamic where we spend our lives discussing boundaries over a spreadsheet I love the fun side of this too. Teasing, obedience, possessiveness, praise, rules, control, making someone squirm because she knows exactly who’s responsible for it... all of that is very much alive and well.

I just want it attached to a woman I actually care about.

Someone who can be submissive with me and still have her own personality. Be sarcastic. Disagree with me. Send me nonsense at 2am. Tell me when I’m wrong. Have her own interests and life. I’m not looking for a blank little “yes Sir” machine.

Experience isn’t a requirement either. If you’ve known you’re submissive for years, great. If you’re newer and still figuring out what submission even looks like for you, that’s completely fine too. I’d much rather explore that together than have either of us force ourselves into some generic internet version of what a Dom and sub are supposed to be.

The biggest thing I’m looking for is genuine interest and effort from both sides. I’ll give you that and I want it back.

And pleaseee if you decide to message me, give me a little something to work with

You don’t need to write me a novel or send some formal application. Tell me who you are, where you’re from, what made you realize you were submissive, what kind of relationship/dynamic lives in your head, or literally just tell me which part of this post made you think “okay maybe I should message this guy.

I’ve talked before about how much I struggle with completely blank DMs and I am apparently still fighting this war

If your entire opening message is just “hey” I’m going to assume Reddit kidnapped the rest of it.

But if you actually read all of this and something here feels familiar to you, come say hi. Local or a thousand miles away.

I’d rather find the right person slowly than the wrong person quickly.

I’m honestly getting pretty frustrated and could use some advice from people who have experience with online D/s.

I was previously in a D/s relationship with a woman here in my country and it was honestly something I cared about a lot. D/s relationships are already pretty rare to find here so I felt really lucky to have found someone I genuinely connected with. The feelings were mutual and for the most part we were really happy together.

The main issue was that sometimes during scenes she would get flashbacks related to past trauma. I actually made a post about it before and we tried a lot of the suggestions people gave us but unfortunately she kept feeling guilty about it and ended the relationship a few times. I kept trying to reassure her that we could work through it together but eventually we did end things because I realized I didnt want to push her into staying if she wasnt genuinely comfortable. The last thing I wanted was for our relationship to become another source of trauma for her.

Since then I’ve been trying to find another online dynamic but I’m honestly having a really hard time.
I’ve made posts saying pretty clearly that I’m a man looking for a woman and somehow most of the replies I get are from men. Sometimes they dont even seem to read the post at all One guy literally messaged me saying: heyy mommy i saw your post id loveee to be ur puppyyy im an 18M

So now I’m sitting here wondering if people just dont read or if I’m doing something wrong with the way I’m posting lol.

The problem is that there really isnt much of a local kink community where I live. There arent munches or regular meetups that I know of so meeting someone in person through the community isnt really an option for me.

For those of u who have found an online D/s relationship successfully, especially when u didnt have access to a local community, how did u actually do it? Are there better ways to approach finding someone online or better places to look?

I’m not looking to rush into anything. I just genuinely miss having that kind of connection and I’m getting pretty tired of posting and getting completely unrelated responses 😅

Any advice would be really appreciated because at this point I’m starting to feel like the internet is determined to pair me with the exact opposite of what I’m asking for lol

hey everyone!! who's ready for todays task? ngl this one is gonna be intense. if you're brave enough to take this on, drop a comment below rn so we can get everyone else hyped up!

first focus and follow everything exactly. before you even start.

gather your stuff and put it on the bed right next to you grab your lube, some ice cubes in a bowl, a warm towel, a silk scarf or feather, and your vibe and dildo. have your blindfold ready in your hand.

now undress slowly, piece by piece. the second you're completely naked, tie the blindfold over your eyes immediately. from now on you see absolutely nothing.

put a ton of lube on your fingers, trace them over your nipples, down your stomach, and straight onto your fucking clit. start massaging it in light circles, then gently slide two fingers deep inside your wet pussy and start fucking yourself hard with them. ride your fingers as fast and heavy as you can, building that heat up, but you are absolutely not allowed to cum yet.

reach out and grab the ice. run it over your nipples for 15 seconds until they harden, then go straight down to your clit for another 15 seconds. the moment you shiver, drop the ice and press the warm towel firmly over your pussy and nipples to make the blood rush back. then grab the silk scarf and glide it softly over your nipples and between your thighs. switch up the rhythm, fast then slow, just surprise your body since you can't see what's coming.

now drop into a deep squat while keeping your eyes covered to flood the area with blood. slide your dildo inside your pussy and press it up toward your g-spot. hold that pressure right there, take quick shallow breaths, and slightly rock your body. then turn your vibe on its highest speed and put it directly on your clit for 30 seconds. speed up your rhythm but you are strictly forbidden from cumming. if you're about to drop over the edge, pull it away for 5 seconds then put it right back.

here is the 3-6-9 edging challenge for level 1, you fucking bring yourself to the absolute brink of climax using the vibe and dildo together 3 times. right before you explode, pull everything away, close your legs, and hold your breath for 5 seconds. do this 3 times and your reward is that you get to untie your eyes and cum however you want.

for level 2, you gotta fucking deny yourself 6 full times on the edge. the pleasure will multiply and your whole body will be shaking

for level 3, you must stop yourself 9 times. you will endure the intense burning and desperation,

on the last rep of whichever level you choose, use the vibe and dildo together with the fastest, most intense fucking motion you can handle. the exact second you feel the orgasm exploding, rip the blindfold off. the sudden light with the violent climax will completely wipe your mind and clear every ounce of tension.

after you finish, lie flat on your back and take 10 deep breaths. rub your lubed hands over your whole body from your toes to your neck to ground yourself. drink some water to get your energy back and just rest without moving for 10 minutes.

once you're totally done with aftercare, come back to this post, find your original comment, and reply directly under it to share your experience, how incredible it felt, and exactly how many fucking times you managed to edge!

Hey my cute puppies and kittens. I have a completely free night ahead of me and I want to spend the next 3 to 4 hours totally focused on training a cute good girl and breaking down that human mindset until you're just daddy's needy little pet.

To tell you a bit about myself, I love the mental side of petplay, the deep conditioning part, and just helping a girl sink completely into that helpless puppy headspace where you don't have to think about anything else.

We are gonna talk and negotiate a lot in the dms before we start anything, just so you know. I really care about communication, your boundaries, and safety first ofc, so a safeword is absolutely mandatory.

The plan for tonight is pretty intense: negotiation, stripping your humanity, obedience training, desperate praise, and then plenty of sweet aftercare. It’s gonna be a long, deep, and pretty trance-heavy session, so definitely be ready for it.

I'm only picking one good girl in 30 minutes so make your intro stand out. DM me with your age, hard limits, and tell me why you want to be daddy's good girl tonight.

Hey my cute puppies and kittens, this task is for those into pet play—if it’s not your kink, please skip!

I’m working on a session for a girl who’s into pet play and a little humiliation, she can’t have a dom in real life and prefers online play. She’s also super shy and doesn't do cameras or pics and prefers online-only. I’m trying to design a session that focuses entirely on obedience and her internal experience. I’d love for any of you to try this task, lmk how it feels, and if you think it’s a solid start for our session before I send it to her!

The Session Start:

You’re my little puppy, excited but still in training. To prove you’re a good girl:

Strip completely and stay naked until the session ends.

Get on your knees—no standing up allowed until it's over.

No human words allowed, only
puppy sounds (woofs, whines, etc.).

Wear a collar (tail plug is optional).

Place your favorite drink in a bowl.
Attach your leash to a piece of furniture so you can't reach the bowl easily.

I want you to whine and woof, acting frustrated because you can't reach your treat. But since you're a good puppy, you have to figure it out and finish it all. Once you do, you get lots of praise.

I’m not a pet play expert, and the no-photo boundary makes it tricky, but I really want to make this special for her. This is just the intro—the session continues with other things like fetch later—but I really need your feedback on this specific start. Did it feel immersive? Was the frustration/humiliation right?

Let me know your thoughts in the comments, puppies!

hey there pups! i’m an owner who is super into the psychological side of petplay, deep conditioning, and helping a pet sink into that perfect, helpless sub-space. i actually have a completely free night ahead of me, so i’m looking to spend the next 3 to 4 hours totally focused on training a cute sub and breaking down that human mindset until you're just a needy little pet .

we are gonna talk and negotiate a lot in the DMs before we start anything. i really care about communication, boundaries, and making sure we're on the same page about your needs/wants. safety first ofc, so a safeword is mandatory!

this is the game plan for tonight: [ negotiation & limits ] ──> [ part 1: stripping humanity ] ──> [ part 2: obedience training ] ──> [ part 3: desperate praise ] ──> [ aftercare ]

it’s gonna be a long, intense, and pretty trance heavy session , so definitely be ready for it. i'm only picking ONE puppy in 30 minutes, so make your intro stand out! drop me a message with your age , hard limits, and tell me why you want to be adopted and trained tonight. chat/DMs only, can't wait to find my new pet

Hey everyone, I'm Eli Mercer. I'm 22 and looking for a long-term online D/s relationship. My last dynamic ended due to a mix of some personal issues and, ultimately, because I had to move to a distant country and she couldn't handle being strictly online. So I really need someone who is genuinely okay with the distance from the start.

Since we'll be online, I completely understand that privacy and comfort come first. There's zero pressure for photos or anything like that until we fully trust each other. I'm not just looking for a text-buddy or random chat; I want to build our trust step by step through daily rules, tasks, and structure.

Kink-wise, I'm pretty open-minded and love things like sensation play and pet play. However, I have strict limits against CNC and anything involving bodily fluids, blood, or high-risk breath/medical play. We can discuss the full checklist later.

I'm looking for a long-term connection, so please only reach out if you're looking for the same. If things don't work out, I'd want it to be just a matter of personality compatibility, nothing else. Also, proper negotiation is super important to me—I always want to check what we both need, want, or refuse before jumping into anything

Hello everyone,
I’m a relatively new Dom (this is my second dynamic) and I’m looking for advice on how to support my new Sub.

Before we started anything physical, we spent a long time talking, discussing limits, boundaries, fantasies, and building trust. She came out of a previous relationship with a toxic/abusive Dom, so I wanted to make sure she felt completely safe.

Recently, we agreed to try a small light scene. Everything was going great, she was very responsive and enjoying it, but suddenly, she started crying heavily.

I immediately stopped the scene, comforted her, and held her until she felt safe. After she calmed down, she explained that it wasn't my fault at all she had a sudden flashback to her ex-Dom and experienced a trauma trigger.

I spent the rest of the day reassuring her and making her laugh because she kept apologizing and was terrified that she had frustrated or disappointed me. (I am not frustrated at all I just care about her well-being).

We tried again some time later, but the flashbacks/triggers still happen occasionally. I really care about this girl and want to make our dynamic work, but I know that trauma can't just be talked away.

how can I help her navigate these flashbacks during or after scenes?

How can we rebuild her sense of safety without triggering her past trauma?

Any advice from experienced Doms or Subs who went through this would be highly appreciated