u/ItsJustMarcOhh

I'm so tired of this dumbass dating culture. NO. I don't want to just fuck.

I wants bros that talk about normal bro shit and can also spend one night out of the month gooning to the same stuff. Maybe you want to touch another dude in private and not be touched. I don't care. If you want me to do something to you, just ask me, man. It's 2026 and relationships have evolved.

If your a woman, I'm a great gay best friend. I like helping pick out outfits and listening to you talk about that asshole from last weekend or that shit coworker that always gets on your nerves talking about your man. I can also be the intimate partner when you feel lonely. We don't have to have sex, but maybe you want to feel the touch of someone that respects you for who you are. A strong woman that just feels bad right now. That's fine.

We're past the days of old when things were black and white. Things are messy and complicated. Can't we just make this shit normal already? Obviously looking for long term. ACTUAL FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS. I already have my core group of which I've done this with a few male and female buddies, but obviously people find their one and only. That's fine too. Doesn't mean I have any less love to give. If you wanna just hang or talk, also fine.

If you're up to the challenge of beating the social norms, shoot me a message or comment. I'm so done with this fuck ass dating scene. I've given up on that and am now in my era of fostering normal, sexual people into healthy and long lasting relationships. I don't mind being the one before your special one as long as you maintain our friendship. Super low maintenance guy, if you haven't noticed.

Let me know, EP, TX. I know y'all are felling the pressure too. Come chill with someone chill.

By no means am I an expert. In fact, I'm only doing this because of a post that I really connected with here provoking a deeper understanding of my own psychological process which is a little terrifying to navigate, but nonetheless, very comforting in knowing it's just natural. So I begin...

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I've personally hit the bounds of these relationships. Personal boundaries. I'm like 75% Mexican and 25% American. Mexicans are so proud of legacy and most importantly, family.

Most of our decisions are based around our family. At least in my two families. Not that that hinders us, but it might sway our bias in major decisions. Just being honest.

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That being said, I've noticed that the closeness in these families is very much filled with a different type of sorrow. There's a lot of deep love amongst close family members, but discontent because of the respect we have for those around us. Our friends and loved ones. A lot of confessions about this person kissing that person or admissions of love over phone calls. Disney type shit. But no one pursues. No one crosses lines. Everyone lives "normally" as miserable NPC's having children with people they don't really love. Or at least, not the way they talk about the way they love their cousin or aunt. It's a little sad.

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I've personally been part of much smaller circumstances as well like same aged cousin crushes and an occasional heart flutter for an older aunt or cousin. There was a fleeting moment I had with my mom where we discussed a world during the Great American Lockdowns of 2020, but that's about it for me.

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The most personal to me being my 1 year younger cousin (me[33] cousin[32]) that is autistic that I grew up defending from even my own older sister because of her disability. She's always been seen as the weakest link, and that's one thing that I hate about the older generation in my family, but I digress. That's a whole other discussion. I've always loved that girl deeply. Deeper than anyone I've ever loved before. Even myself. I often cry about the fact that my aunt doesn't take her mental disability seriously enough and is unintentionally keeping her from experiencing true connection with others especially in a romantic sense. She doesn't think this stuff is real or that my cousin needs help with guidance of processing and understanding these different emotions. Instead, she shelters her and keeps her from the world so she won't be taken advantage of... She's being a mother, and I understand that more than most growing up in a household with only a mom and sister since I was 11. I respect my aunt's decisions, but the only time out my sweet cousin gets is with me and when I see her socialize.... It breaks my heart. It really does. Knowing that my aunt isn't giving her a chance to flourish. My cousin has shown signs of affection towards me and it's been very difficult trying to explain that I can't be "that" person for her, because honestly... I can see a world where I can be happy with her and just give up on these current dating norms. I'm so tired of it, and I'm only fucking 33. But even I'm confused about it all and think it best to just convince my aunt to let my cousin be. Try to get her her own place or a roommate so she can finally live her life.

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I've talked to so many different members in my family about this. If they've had even the slightest brush with this type of situation and I can confirm that it has been overwhelming yes. On both my mother and father sides. But everyone's just okay or unhappily married and settling down. I seem to be in the last wave in my era to be single or without kids. There's very few of us left, and even the ones left have wondered about why no one has ever just tried. At least tried. I guess everyone has the same thought process of not wanting to be ridiculed for the rest of their life by their community or the Internet. It's very upsetting knowing that there's just this universal affinity for what could be, but it's just such a hard thing to navigate even after all these years. While I don't even know if I would ACTUALLY participate personally or not.... It very much breaks my heart to know of the possibilities from my fellow family members of what could have been. The procreation part is definitely a scary thought on everyone's mind so that alone might be enough for everyone. Who knows. I support it up until kids which is a harder topic for me to discuss, but I am generally so appreciative to read personal stories and know that the bravery to come out with these stories is still out there. You are not alone. Live your life. Be careful. Be kind. And just love.

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If you'd like to discuss anything about any similarities, I'd be more than willing to talk. Especially Hispanic or LatinX community members. I'm interested to know if your families around the world experience similar heartbreak and understanding about this type of stuff. Keep it clean. I'm not looking for no adult content brain crap. Just want people to know there are outlets out there that support while not personally diving in.

Nothing too crazy. Would love to just watch you change. Undress and then dress. Try on a few outfits while we talk about what looks nicer while I casually touch myself.

I won't ask for help or be too intrusive, but I do like to moan every once in a while until I climax. It would be nice if I can finish on a piece of your clothing, but I don't mind just finishing and cleaning up my mess.

My best friend is getting married and doesn't let me do it as often anymore. We had such a good thing. I told her I've never been weird about it before, but she's hesitant, which is fair. So I'm trying to look for that same vibe.

BRING CASUAL FRIENDLY MASTURBATION BACK AGAIN

I don't enjoy attention. But I hate being alone. I don't want to be in crowds, but I like talking to people.

It's been hard to find partners to say the least. I'm manly, but sensitive. I like to be alone, but I'm clingy. But regardless of how lucky I am, I've never passed up an opportunity with someone close to me casually satisfying me.

Some examples I can mention are like a friend I've known since middle school letting me cuddle nude with her for years. It's never crossed the line, but it's gotten close. It's mostly a lot of us just rotting in her bed. She likes that I can listen and engage with her while she tries to "make me squirm," as she said.

A married coworker and friend I've known for a while that wanted to try out some gay stuff and it turned into full frotting and him wanting to try anal. We switched.He said he couldn't imagine trying anything that crazy with anyone else. It was kind of cute. We don't mess around often, but it's always great when we do.

I have a cousin that I grew up with that let me impregnate his wife because he became sterile from working at a shit factory in Mexico. The three of us talked about it extensively. I didn't think it was a good idea to be honest, but my cousin reassured me he would never ask anyone else as he thought of me as a brother. When it came to the day, I thought we were going to a weird ass lab so I could cum in a cup, but my cousin's wife said I would say least enjoy the mess of a situation we were in. My cousin agreed wholeheartedly and her sent me 150 bucks to take his wife on a date. Said he would be out for the day and would be back the next day. So I went through with it. I got dressed, took her out to an arcade, bought some snacks, and went back to my cousin's house with her where we got high and watched movies until we got so baked that we started having sex. It was fantastic and she really let me unload in her. I actually haven't finished in many girls. Like 7 or less.

Another one is the time I took my autistic cousin's virginity because my aunt and I talked about how she would never have a genuine relationship because people just don't give her a chance. My cousin and I grew close because we were the youngest runts of the family. Her disability was never a thought to me and my aunt loved me for it. I must have been 29. Maybe 28. My cousin is about a year younger. My aunt asked if I would be open to the idea of teaching her to be intimate because she trusted our bond. It was a lot. But I knew where she was coming from. We talked and I agreed to it, but my aunt asked if I would be open to the idea of her being able to watch, or maybe be in the room just in case my cousin got overwhelmed. It was odd but I told her it really couldn't get any weirder. So over the weekend, my aunt "supervised" me being sexual with my cousin. It's not that she isn't functional, but her emotional understanding is very limited, so regardless of my cousin and I being butt naked and doing weird shit in front of her, she was very helpful in intervening while sitting next to or on the bed while asking my cousin if she was okay along the way. It was really wholesome, actually, despite me actively finishing inside my cousin's while my aunts played with my hair and acted rather maternally towards us both during the process. Weird, but extremely enjoyable.

I don't talk much, I listen a lot, and keep to myself most of the time, but I do like this incarnation of "You have everything you need"

I don't always hit when I bat, but I have a lot of opportunities to swing. Can't anyone relate or help me understand why my life is this way? I'm not complaining.