u/JhonToroAu

Hi everyone, I wanted to share my situation. I’m a 34-year-old man married to an older woman (39). We’ve been married for three years.
We’re conservative Christians and try to live our faith. We’re open to having children, but none have come along yet.
When we were dating (we dated for a year), I could tell she wanted to be with me — so much so that we couldn’t stay chaste and we made love a couple of times. She didn’t want to marry me at first because she’d told me she has endometriosis and thyroid issues, and with her age we might not be able to have kids. Honestly, I didn’t mind — I just wanted to be with her, and making love with her was the best thing. After we got married, because of the endometriosis and the pain during intimacy, we had to stop having sex for three months before her surgery and another three months for recovery. After that it was tough — by the next year our frequency was at most once a month (I honestly expected that after getting married we’d be more intimate). Then moving house, relationship conflicts, and stress at her work made her grow distant from me. We’re in couples therapy and we’re trying.
She tells me she wants to be with me and that she desires me, but in the moment she doesn’t feel the urge. It’s been really hard for me; I’ve fallen into porn and masturbation to cope. It’s been six months since we were together. I don’t want to hurt her, but I want to have intimacy with a woman.

Has anyone been through something similar? Thanks for reading this far.

Hi everyone, I have a question about my wife and I’d like to chat with someone and get opinions (especially from women) about whether she might be a cuckquean or interested in the topic. I’ll need to give a bit of context first. We’re a young married couple (3 years married), Christian and conservative. She’s 39 and doesn’t have as much libido as I do (34), mainly due to health issues like endometriosis, hypothyroidism, a lot of stress at home and work. Plus, we’re both in psychological therapy due to childhood trauma (she was abused as a kid). Our intimate moments are pretty rare (every 4 or 6 months), and honestly, it’s becoming harder to understand the situation.

However, something different happened this weekend. On Friday, we had sex just like always — she was trying and making an effort, almost without desire, and I was trying not to be too forceful and to be gentle. I thought I’d have to wait until next year. But today, after going to church, we had passionate sex. Here’s where I start to suspect something.

At church, a group of young people were doing a college tour, and I was serving at the altar. My wife noticed that many of the young girls were looking at me. After mass, when we went home to rest in bed, she started teasing me about it — saying things like “Did you see those girls? They were looking at you,” and “Watch out, you might go with one of them.” I teased her back, asking “Why not? Since you don’t want to be with me (in intimacy).” She playfully hit me, a bit jealous, and then we started kissing.

This time, she took the lead and had me kiss her on her breasts, and that’s when we made love again. She didn’t come, but I could tell she was very wet.

That’s the story — sorry it’s so long. What do you all think?

Hi everyone, I have a question about my wife and I’d like to chat with someone and get opinions (especially from women) about whether she might be a cuckquean or interested in the topic. I’ll need to give a bit of context first. We’re a young married couple (3 years married), Christian and conservative. She’s 39 and doesn’t have as much libido as I do (34), mainly due to health issues like endometriosis, hypothyroidism, a lot of stress at home and work. Plus, we’re both in psychological therapy due to childhood trauma (explain more in dm). Our intimate moments are pretty rare (every 4 or 6 months), and honestly, it’s becoming harder to understand the situation.

However, something different happened this weekend. On Friday, we had sex just like always — she was trying and making an effort, almost without desire, and I was trying not to be too forceful and to be gentle. I thought I’d have to wait until next year. But today, after going to church, we had passionate sex. Here’s where I start to suspect something.

At church, a group of young people were doing a college tour, and I was serving at the altar. My wife noticed that many of the young girls were looking at me. After mass, when we went home to rest in bed, she started teasing me about it — saying things like “Did you see those girls? They were looking at you,” and “Watch out, you might go with one of them.” I teased her back, asking “Why not? Since you don’t want to be with me (in intimacy).” She playfully hit me, a bit jealous, and then we started kissing.

This time, she took the lead and had me kiss her on her breasts, and that’s when we made love again. She didn’t come, but I could tell she was very wet.

That’s the story — sorry it’s so long. What do you all think?