Is Being a Sadist Automatically a Red Flag?

I am a single sub bottom currently dating and I find sadistic guys very attractive. Not 24/7 Sadists, but in bed only. I can't help it, that's just how my heart has always felt😅 But I am afraid that sadism in a man is a symptom of something darker like a personality disorder. And since I am looking for a relationship (more than sex), I wonder if my desire for a Sadist comes in contradiction with my desire for a healthy relationship. Have you had any experience that informs an opinion on this issue?

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 3 days ago

29M Boywife looking for Sadistic Dom Hubby ❤️

About Me
I am a 29-year-old, skinny/fit and olive skin cute introvert who genuinely loves people but prefers a peaceful home. You can usually find me lost in a great book, hiking through the woods trying to look for friendly forest animals, or spending hours in the kitchen perfecting a recipe— I dream of cooking for my Man one day.

What I’m Looking For
I am ready to build a deeply meaningful, monogamous future with the right man. I am looking for a masculine, mature, driven, and thoughtful partner who is serious about creating a family and a real life together.

My dream is to stand beside my partner as a devoted, traditional "boywife." I thrive in a supportive, home-centered role and am fully open to relocating for the right person.

Privately, I am naturally submissive and a bottom, looking for a strong counter-balance to build a loyal, lifelong bond with.

If you are a traditional man ready for his biggest supporter, please send me a message with a bit about your own story. I look forward to connecting!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 4 days ago

Is Being a Sadist Automatically a Red Flag?

I am a sub bottom currently dating and I find sadistic guys attractive. Not 24/7 Sadists, but in bed only. I can't help it, that's just how my heart has always felt😅 But I am afraid that sadism in a man is a symptom of something darker like a personality disorder. And since I am looking for a relationship (more than sex), I wonder if my desire for a Sadist comes in contradiction with my desire for a healthy relationship. Have you had any experience that informs an opinion on this issue?

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 4 days ago

29 [M4M] Sub looking for Long-Term Relationship #Montreal

About Me:
I am a 29-year-old, tall, skinny/fit with Mediterranean looks, currently looking to build a deeply meaningful, monogamous relationship with the right man. Personality-wise, I’m an introvert who genuinely loves people and socializing, but I truly recharge in a peaceful home environment. You can often find me lost in a good book, hiking through the woods trying to make friends with cute animals, or spending hours in the kitchen perfecting a recipe—my current obsession is baking the ultimate chocolate cake.

What I'm Looking For:
I am looking for a masculine, mature, driven, and thoughtful man who is serious about building a real future together. My dream is to find a partner to stand beside as a devoted, submissive "boywife." I thrive in a traditional dynamic where I can take care of the home and support my partner, and I am entirely open to relocating for the right person.

Compatibility & Intimacy:
Within our private life, I am naturally submissive and a bottom.

If you are a serious, family-minded man who fits this description and is looking for a loyal partner to build a life with, please send me a message with a bit about your own story and bio. I look forward to connecting!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 11 days ago

Tops, would you have sex with or date a 29yo virgin bottom?

Because of all sorts of circumstances, I never got to bottoming. I had one bad hookup that did not go far. Then thought I would look for a relationship, but the pandemic happened, I gained a ton of weight and lost confidence.

But I lost that weight, now I am fit and feel good about myself again! Would you be weirded out to know your partner is inexperienced at such a late stage? How do you feel about late bloomers?

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 12 days ago

29 [M4M] Boywife looking for Dom Husband #Montreal

Looking to build a meaningful monogamous relationship with a good man who wants a devoted and obedient partner by his side. Can relocate.

Personality wise, I am an introvert who still loves people and socialising! I just prefer staying at home cooking for hours (chocolate cakes are my recent obsession), reading a book or hiking in the woods - making new cute animal friends.

Physically, I am tall, Medditerenean looking, slim/fit, boyish (borderline femboy haha) and handsome.

Sexually, because compatibility is important, I am a bottom and submissive.

You're my type if you're tall, masculine, mature, thoughtful, driven and serious about building a relationship. If you fit the profile, please message me with your bio. Thank you!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 16 days ago

29 [M4M] #Montreal Sub Boywife looking for Long-Term Relationship

Looking to build a meaningful monogamous relationship with a good man. Open to having kids. Or just adopt a dog or cat! Can relocate.

Personality wise, I am an introvert who still loves people and socialising! I just prefer staying at home cooking for hours (chocolate cakes are my recent obsession), reading a book or hiking in the woods - making new cute animal friends.

Physically, I am tall, Medditerenean looking, slim/fit, boyish (borderline femboy haha) and handsome.

Sexually, because compatibility is important, I am a bottom and submissive. Into things like chastity.

You're my type if you're tall, masculine, mature, thoughtful, driven and serious about building a relationship. If you fit the profile, please message me with your bio. Thank you!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 23 days ago

29yo houseboy looking for Dom Hubby❤️

Looking to build a meaningful monogamous relationship with a good man. Open to having kids. Or just adopt a dog!

Personality wise, I am an introvert who still loves people and socialising! I just prefer staying at home cooking for hours (chocolate cakes are my recent obsession), reading a book or hiking in the woods - making new cute animal friends.

Physically, I am tall, Medditerenean looking, slim/fit, boyish (borderline femboy haha) and handsome.

Sexually, because compatibility is important, I am a bottom and submissive.

You're my type if you're tall, masculine, mature, thoughtful, driven and serious about building a relationship. If you fit the profile, please message me with your bio. Thank you!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 25 days ago

29 [M4M] submissive boy looking for Long-Term Relationship #Montreal

Looking to build a meaningful monogamous relationship with a good man. Open to having kids. Or just adopt a dog!

Personality wise, I am an introvert who still loves people and socialising! I just prefer staying at home cooking for hours (chocolate cakes are my recent obsession), reading a book or hiking in the woods - making new cute animal friends.

Physically, I am tall, Medditerenean looking, slim/fit, boyish (borderline femboy haha) and handsome.

Sexually, because compatibility is important, I am a bottom and submissive.

You're my type if you're tall, masculine, mature, thoughtful, driven and serious about building a relationship. If you fit the profile, please message me with your bio. Thank you!

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 26 days ago

29 [M4M] #Montreal Sub boywife looking for Long-Term Relationship

Looking for a serious monogamous relationship with a Man who is Husband material. Open to long distance relationship and relocation.❤️

29yo sweet and docile type who aspires to become your boywife! I enjoy cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your granny would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking slim and yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

Sexually, I am a total bottom, into chastity, CD, feminization,...

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 2 months ago

29M Good Boy looking for Long Term Relationship ❤️

Just an aspiring boywife looking to build a long-term monogamous relationship with a Man who is Husband material.

Sweet and docile type who enjoys cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your typical introvert would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature, smart and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 2 months ago

[CAN] #Montreal Aspiring Boywife looking for Long-Term Relationship ❤️

Looking for a monogamous relationship with a Man who is Husband material.

29yo sweet and docile type who enjoys cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your granny would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking slim and yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

Sexually, total bottom, open-minded to kinks, including chastity, feminization and CD.🥺

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 2 months ago

[CAN] #Montreal Aspiring Boywife for Long-Term Relationship

29yo sweet and docile type who enjoys cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your typical introvert would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 2 months ago

29 [M4M] good boy looking for Dom Hubby #Montreal

Sweet and docile type who enjoys cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your granny would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 2 months ago

29 [M4M] Sub looking for loving relationship #Montreal

Sweet and docile type who enjoys cooking, reading, gardening and more hobbies your granny would be into. I also like working out everyday - beats taking ADHD meds! Plus it keeps my body looking yummy. Outside of home life, I am driven! Always pursuing my dreams...so I do have a more adventurous side!

I was built for a long-term relationship. I am loyal, caring, receptive, loving, disciplined and want to create meaning. I am also submissive. Born this way, always been part of me. So I am looking for a compatible partner whose Dominance is part of his DNA. A man who is masculine, mature and also seeking a long-term relationship.

Some of my other interests include nerdy stuff like science-fiction, aliens, fantasy, anime... Following politics like I would follow reality TV "When you're born you get a ticket to the freak show..." Art! Drawing and visiting art galleries. Hiking and exploring nature.

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u/Maximum-Traffic-9137 — 3 months ago