u/Muted_Apricot_4640

Like if you prefer a maintenance spanking every week, are you still wanting a soft dom?

Not sure if this question is appropriate on a DD forum, mods please delete if it's not.

But this tends to often be paired with DD, at least when the woman is on the one being disciplined. It soundd hot in theory, and i would nor mind doing it ocassuinally, but some of these women are allowed one orgasm a month or one orgasm a year!

Supposedly it makes her more submissive and more eager to sexually please her husband, which i can imagine is true. However, I think for most of us subs we like submission because it turns us on and gives us better orgasms. And even though DD is about punishment and behavioral change, I think most of us are turned on by the spankings, and a big part of it is the kink and better sex for both dom and sub. So I kind of find it incredible that some women give up orgasm in the name of submission, because isn't that kinda the point?

If that is what we as women found while looking for men to submit to, there would be a lot more submission! They are often waxed down there too. Yum. Well I tend to find gross or average looking men who want to be treated like Gods. If I am hot for a guy, and he is worthy of love and respect because he treats me so well and is such a good person, my submission comes naturally. All I want to do is please. It's the greatest joy of my life but, most men looking for a submissive women do not inspire those feelings, to say the least. They more often inspire the opposite.

Do the kids know that the sub is spanked or punished? Do they know that the HOH is the head of household, and final decion-maker?

To what extent does this extend to the kids. People today often really let their kids disrepect them/talk back to them (the kind of stuff that would get you smacked or at least punished in some way in previous generations.)

At the same time, the level of respect and the severity of punishment in your relationships is quite high. It would be odd if your kid could speak to dad in a less respectful tone than his wife.

Do you spank your kids? I know many people consider it to be abuse nowadays and it's illegal in some countries. But if it work for adults why not kids? I don't put much stock into psych studies. Psychology is barely a science and they can't even agree on most things among themselves (each faction has evidence that contradict some other faction). Kids today are worse off by every metric (school performance, independence, mental health). Lots of people will say kids can't consent to spanking like adults, but they can't consent to any other form of punishment eirher, or their forced schooling, or the values you instill in them, so I am not sure of the difference. If you do spank your kids does the HOH do it, as in wait until your father gets home type stuff?

Finally, do you want to pass on these values to your kids? Like would you prefer they had the dynamics you have because they work so well for you?

I hope these questions are ok to ask here.

I constantly see videos of women having duty sex while their doing dishes or something. I always thought that men found duty sex to be a turn off (though every woman has to do it now and then). But here it seems to be some sort of ideal, like the woman will give her body away even when she is not in the mood. And sort of get that: please your husband no matter what, this is what this community is all about, but why is duty sex an ideal? Wouldn't the man rather his wife was passionately into it?

ETA: I routinely meet men who divorced their wives after 20 years because all they every got was duty sex. They wanted to be desired.

ETA 2: I realize most of the responses are from men. The consus seems to be "it's a kink, get over it." For some it's a two sided kink, but for others it is largely a one-sided kink (as in the woman gets any pleasure at any point maybe 20% of the time, pure guess of course). I would love to hear from the women more.

Not sure if this is an appropriate post for this forum. If not, mods please remove. But I just watched it for like the fifth time, and it just shows such a perfect example of classical masculinity.

It came in 1942 and requires some historical understanding, that i didn't originally have, in order to fully glean the meaning it had for audiences which made it the ultimate classic.

But Humphrey Boghart and Paul Henreid do such a good job of portraying what make men masculine and attractive. They are strong characters with unbending wills. They have noble characters. Humphrey Boghart is more jaded, rough around the edges, but clearly has a soft heart inside that comes out whe it counts. Paul Henreid is noble through and through. They are in love with the same woman, noble in her own right, very well. They do what they believe is right fearlessly.

They are not confused about what manhood demands. I love it. Just thought I would share it.

ETA: I posted this because so many women today don't know what a real man is.