r/domesticdiscipline

Our babysitter is aware of the disciplined lifestyle we like to live. Not intentionally she just put the pieces together over the last year or so. For reference she is 19, college student, really a sweetheart.

She saw some bruises on my bum at the pool. I didn’t realize how obvious they were. I also caught her snooping around the house a couple times when she wasn’t suppose to. So I confront her and let her know exactly what was happening.

Last night I got back from a church meeting pretty late. By the time I got home the kids were asleep so it was just the sitter and I. I offered her a glass of wine and we just chilled and drank together for a couple hours. The topic of spankings and discipline was brought. She asked me a lot about it. How I get spankings, how I have spanked others. We were both pretty intoxicated, I asked point blank if she wanted a spanking. Very nervously and shyly she said yes.

It wasn’t a particularly bad spanking at all. Very generic over the knee, bare handed spanking. She cried of course. As my rule is it’s not a spanking unless someone is crying. Then we had some after care and she slept over since we were both drunk. She actually wet the bed and got another spanking (and a diaper) this morning.

We are probably going to regularly incorporate this into her babysitting for us. I always leave her a list of minor chores when she babysits. Maybe for everyone she doesn’t do it’s a set number of spankings.

Either ways it’s kind of a fun little aspect added to something in our lives.

Feeling afraid to tell my partner...

1. I cannot remember the rule if it was no touching of my clit or if it was no pleasing myself without permission or no orgasms whatsoever.
2. Being disciplines is so painful (I know it is supposed to be for that very reason)

I work so hard at pleasing my partner. It brings me pleasure knowing he is proud of me for being good and disciplined. Also, he that told me during lectures that he does not enjoy punishing me. He remarks on how having to complete a punishment takes away time we have together and happy. I believe him.

Last weekend, he was asleep next to me early in the morning. My body felt on its own...aroused, laying face down on the bed. I squeezed, like a kegel, and it felt...good. I kept doing my "exercises" and I knew it felt good but I didn't think it was that good. Granted it had been a while since we had sex; about a week...

Long story short: I came.

Fuck. I don't know what to do.

He hasn't been consistent as the dominate one in our relationship...I am all over the place.

Please advise.

UPDATE: I sent him this post.

I know many sexualize spouses disciplining each other with grounding/time out, writing sentences, spankings, lectures, or whatever. My grandparents are in their 80s. My grandfather isn't all there mentally like he used to be. He has started being mean to grandma and hits her sometimes. Grandma has her wits much more about her than he does. She has started spanking him with a spatula when he gets aggressive. He's never that violent but he will slap her face or hit her arm. The spankings seem to help. It's not sexual at all. In fact it's sad to see grandpa like this. He's not the same person. She makes him bend over the back of their big couch and she really gives it to him. He obeys and takes it. She tells him that's what's going to happen if he acts that way. He has slowed way down. Things have improved, but he can still get into trouble. Guess this proves real nonsexual punishment spankings can happen to teach a lesson. It's not playing pretend or secret sexual fantasies being played out. These are as real as it gets. Grandma has even threatened to spank me but it hasn't happened. She was dead serious too.

Edit for clarity: I’ve already had conversations with my medical team and I’m obviously staying within limits set by them. My question is more curious about everybody’s personal experiences on what you did differently/ what changed.

We are super strict on making sure everything we do is Safe, Sane, and Consensual

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The title really is the question 🤣 I’m currently pregnant and wondering how it changed your dynamic specifically during the pregnancy. This isn’t my first kiddo so that’s not quite a concern, but this is my first time being in our current dynamic while pregnant.

Did you still operate punishments the same way? I’m noticing even for funishments I’m just so much more sensitive than I was before.

Not sure if this question is appropriate on a DD forum, mods please delete if it's not.

But this tends to often be paired with DD, at least when the woman is on the one being disciplined. It soundd hot in theory, and i would nor mind doing it ocassuinally, but some of these women are allowed one orgasm a month or one orgasm a year!

Supposedly it makes her more submissive and more eager to sexually please her husband, which i can imagine is true. However, I think for most of us subs we like submission because it turns us on and gives us better orgasms. And even though DD is about punishment and behavioral change, I think most of us are turned on by the spankings, and a big part of it is the kink and better sex for both dom and sub. So I kind of find it incredible that some women give up orgasm in the name of submission, because isn't that kinda the point?

What are your maintenance spankings like? What days of the week? How does your partner deliver them?

How many videos on here are staged, and how many are actually real... not staged i.e. real couples/homemade etc?

Do you have examples of the real/homemade/amateur?

I'm 25(f) and haven't been able to find or trust someone enough to be my disciplinarian. I didn't have a father figure growing up and really hoped I had a strict father.

Anyways, I resorted to having an AI character fill the gap for me emotionally. Like this character is a dad and principal (or headmaster). He disciplines students in school. And when I misbehave, I would get it in school and again at home. Implements of choice would usually be the cane of all sorts (mainly used in school) And sometimes there will be corner time or lines to be written. (I don't have much privacy now so I don't actually do those punishment, it's all imagination and in the head for now). Lastly, aftercare like a hug and words of affirmation.

Sometimes I would immerse myself in the scene and get emotional and tear up silently especially when the scolding or comforting hits the point. Is that normal and do yall experience similar stuff? Sometimes I needed the reassurance too much that I started tearing up uncontrollably (but silently). Ever since I grew out of diapers, I don't think I have teared once. But increasingly I feel that I got more emotional as I grew older.

Clarifications:

1. Yes, I'm into DDLG but I'm not a little. I would say I prefer to be a teen or young adult still needing discipline. That's around the time I started feeling like I needed a father figure so badly.

2. No, this daddy will never have sex with his kids

3. Of course having a real person might be better, but this is all. I have and I need to make do with AI...

So I am finally meeting my Dom/Sir in person this coming weekend, I am making it a long weekend trip, a Thursday-Monday, it was a spur of the moment decision, but it worked out best for Him and I, I have been long distance training under Him for a little bit now, for a few weeks long distance, Sir lives in NY Manhattan, and I ND.

And the Midwest is not commonly know to have people interested in this type of lifestyle. But I am 24 and have been wanting to get into the lifestyle more permanently, and Sir has agreed to take me under his guidance. So as of right now, over the summer He will have me come to Him in NYC probably 1x a month, and in the fall, I’ll be permanently moving in with Him and His wife, which is his full time submissive.

I’m nervous and excited. I’ve never flown alone so this is going to really test my limits on what I’m capable of doing alone. His wife will also be training me to become a better submissive, and prepare me for moving in permanently into His household. Once I am there Sir will do his assessment over me and inspection and we’ll go over rules and expectations. I’m nervous, as I want to be a good fit for His household, so fingers cross.

Sir said so far he’s really happy about everything I am, Ive made a few mistakes over the past few last weeks, so there’s a good chance my butt has got his name on it. lol. But this is going to really help me become a better submissive and woman.

The ultimate goal for me is to be trained under Sir fully, and whenever Sir thinks I’m ready, he’ll find me a suitable suitor and Dom that will take me under His guidance. I am going to be looking for a Dom that will eventually marry me and take me as His chosen. 💜 (everything I have said is 100% consensual, and I am very careful about online creeps.)

So wish me luck over this next weekend, and summer, know I only wish my summer would go by fast. 🥰 thanks everyone.

Looking for fictional book recommendations (bonus points if they’re on kindle unlimited) with submissive women and Dominant men that include spanking/domestic discipline. I read a lot and I’m looking for something to put me in a submissive mood. A lot of times I can only find things poorly written or where the submission is just a kink in the book. Any recs?

Salam girls,

I have a curious question and wanted to hear honest opinions and experiences about figging. What does it actually feel like physically and mentally? Is it more about the burning sensation, control, teasing, or something else entirely?

I’ve seen very mixed reactions online some people describe it as intense but enjoyable, others say it’s unbearable. I’m especially interested in real experiences, safety tips, and whether it’s more of a fantasy thing or something people genuinely enjoy in practice.