r/domesticdiscipline

My partner and I just got started with DD a few months ago. It was my idea and we have been working to ease her into the disciplinarian role.

Right now we are working on what to say before, during, and after a spanking. I know I like instructions, such as “bend over” and the like but I am looking for other phrases we can implement.

What phrases do you use or like to hear if you’re the one being disciplined?

My favorite part of being punished
is what comes after.

The sharp little pinpricks
still burning in my skin,
reminding me exactly why
I ended up over your lap.

I hate knowing the correction is coming.

It scares me.
And I still want it.

Because I trust you to be fair.
I trust your hands.
I trust you enough to surrender
even when I don't want to.

Then you rub my sore skin gently,
your fingertips soothing
the places that still sting.
The punishment is still there.
I can still feel it.

But now your hands are comforting me.
The lingering sting
beneath your gentle hands.
The safety of knowing
I'm loved.

The paddle is firm.
Your hands are gentle.
That’s my favorite feeling. ❤️

Everyone give me your best punishments while traveling. We are staying with family.

My husband tries to address issues in the moment and not save up punishments, but we aren’t seeing a ton of options while we are traveling. Thanks in advance!!

Every society has its own instruments for punishment; in the US, it's a paddle, and in China, something similar. Which country are you from, and what tools were used to give spankings there?

I have been really lazy lately and skipping my chores, and feel like I need to discipline myself. However, I know I probably won’t do a good enough job on my own. I need someone (preferably male) to provide me instructions on exactly what to do so I don’t go easy on myself. DM’s are open :)

Long time lurker and first time poster.

41M and 44F with 3 young kids at home. We have always been spankos and am looking to give DD a try slowly. Recently we got our kids out of our bedroom into their own rooms, which is a big win for us :)

Now we are updating the furniture in our home with furniture from IKEA. Any suggestions as to any IKEA furniture good for spanking activities? I read that the Poang chair was good (sub has to kneel on the armrest). We are around 5'6 140 pounds

Any other good pieces of furniture or implements from IKEA? Any medium level severity implements from IKEA that's quiet?

I don't think about a spanking bench or a pillory standing there.

More like a cane or tawse hanging on a hook at the wall or a wooden frame with rice in a corner. Something you see only when looking detailed around the place?

And, next question: Should there be hidden hints this is a "discipline household"?

My posts get removed whenever i post in my own community subs so i thought I’d ask here as a last resort.
I feel like kink in general is a very western thing and it’s very taboo in my community. I need someone to talk to about it because i really want to implement DD in my relationship with my future partner but it feels impossible to find like minded people around me.

Feel free to Dm me if you’ve had any experience you’d like to share and thank you so much !!!

I've always been fascinated receiving childish disciplines and/or punishments.

Some punishments include spankings, corner time and mouth soaping to name a few.

Being disciplined and given an early bedtime always sends me back to childhood.

Especially while it's still daylight outside. This intensifies the discipline and/or punishment.

What discipline and/or punishment makes you feel little, submissive and perhaps humiliated?

I wont go super into it here but will respond to comments or DMs.

So my stepfather (basically just my dad I've lived with him since I was a toddler) is a bit old fashioned when it comes to discipline. he thinks the best way to do it is with a spanking, either as a direct consequence of something or for prevention. the spankings themselves aren't anything crazy I'm not like stripped naked and caned or anything, its over my underwear with the hand 99% of the time. I kinda think i'm too old but I guess i'm a little biased, and it does help me with my attitude and grades, and I also get its his house his rules. What are your guys opinions?