u/Numerous-Analysis-46

I realised today that it's almost been a year since I've been on a date and I don't know how I feel about it, like I chose to take a break but I didn't think it would last a year but I still don't feel ready to go into the shit show that is the dating game nowadays.

But yeah I haven't felt the touch of another person for a while which means no kinds of cuddles at all, no hand holding, no headpatts, I MEAN WHAT IS A BOY MEANT TO DO WITH NO HEADPATTS?!?!

So does anyone have some advice for how I can sort of comfort myself, not in a sexual way but just to cuddle by myself to fill the void 😔

Hi I'm Tom, I'm pretty new to be honest but I'm hoping to be a service sub for a domme. I want someone who I can worship and see their happiness as my own and at the same time I can learn how to be the best sub possible.

I'm 6'3" with long curly dark hair with a slim but defined muscular build. I'm happy to send photos to anyone interested in being my domme although I would preferably like a photo back as I've had to deal with catfishing WAAAAY to much on Reddit lol

I'm fairly new to most stuff, although I'm pretty experienced with ass play and I've got moderate experience when it comes to chastity. I've tried a few dommes before for very short periods but none of them were a good match but every time we ended on good terms. I took a long break from any kind of dating both online and IRL but I've been getting back into the swing of things in the last month but currently in not talking to anyone. To be clear my limits are anything blood, scat or piss and those are none negotiable.

Outside of kink in currently working full time as an engineer designer but I'll be going back to university to finish my degree in September for 8 months but I'm interested in continuing any sub/Dom dynamic throughout then. I like to go to train Muay Thai lots, I've only done one fight but I love training three times a week and I have another fight in the next couple weeks. Even though I do alot of physical activity I'm still a big nerd at heart; I love games of any kind, movies, reading and I've started playing guitar this year. I have both autism and ADHD so hopefully I can find a domme who lets me talk about my hyper fixations, but in terms of the autism/ADHD I don't have any special requirements so no worries there :)

Looking for a gentle domme who knows how to put me in my place still, I love to be praised in any kind of way but I'm also into a bit of degredation which feels odd to like both lol. I feel like if I was to fit a certain sub stereotype I'd either fit the knight role due to my size and how protective I can be or the little role since I love being taken care of myself.

The kind of communication I hope for if we talk online is a minimum of texts and photos but preferably calls(audio or video) and voice notes, I'm often free to message throughout the day but I'm only available to do other stuff in the evenings for now (UK time)

Would love a more experienced domme to take me under her wing but I'm open to any experience level, if you're interested feel free to give my profile a look/DM me and tell me a little about yourself :)

Thank you

Hi I'm Tom, I don't have too much experience as a sub if I'm going to be honest but I'm hoping to be a service sub for a domme. I want someone who I can worship and see their happiness as my own and at the same time I can learn how to be the best sub possible.

I'm 6'3" with long curly dark hair with a slim but defined muscular build. I'm happy to send photos to anyone interested in being my domme although I would preferably like a photo back as I've had to deal with catfishing WAAAAY to much on Reddit lol

I'm fairly new to most stuff, although I'm pretty experienced with ass play and I've got moderate experience when it comes to chastity. I've tried a few dommes before for very short periods but none of them were a good match but every time we ended on good terms. I took a long break from any kind of dating both online and IRL but I've been getting back into the swing of things in the last month but currently in not talking to anyone. To be clear my limits are anything blood, scat or piss and those are none negotiable.

Outside of kink in currently working full time as an engineer designer but I'll be going back to university to finish my degree in September for 8 months but I'm interested in continuing any sub/Dom dynamic throughout then. I like to go to train Muay Thai lots, I've only done one fight but I love training three times a week and I have another fight in the next couple weeks. Even though I do alot of physical activity I'm still a big nerd at heart; I love games of any kind, movies, reading and I've started playing guitar this year. I have both autism and ADHD so hopefully I can find a domme who lets me talk about my hyper fixations, but in terms of the autism/ADHD I don't have any special requirements so no worries there :)

Looking for a gentle domme who knows how to put me in my place still, I love to be praised in any kind of way but I'm also into a bit of degredation which feels odd to like both lol. I feel like if I was to fit a certain sub stereotype I'd either fit the knight role due to my size and how protective I can be or the little role since I love being taken care of myself.

The kind of communication I hope for if we talk online is a minimum of texts and photos but preferably calls(audio or video) and voice notes, I'm often free to message throughout the day but I'm only available to do other stuff in the evenings for now (UK time)

Would love a more experienced domme to take me under her wing but I'm open to any experience level, if you're interested feel free to give my profile a look/DM me and tell me a little about yourself :)

Thank you

So I'm fairly new to being a sub I'd say, I spoke to this domme for a bit over a month but about an hour ago she politely messaged saying she didn't think we were compatible in the long run so now I don't really know what to do because I enjoyed having a domme but is it fair to jump straight into trying to find a new one?

To be clear we were always just a friends with benefits kind of situation so I never invested my emotions to much so I'm not that sad really although maybe I just need to process it. She said she'd rather not continue contact at all though and with her being my teacher when it came to kink I feel a bit lost all of a sudden.

Any help would be greatly appreciated, If you read all this I hope you have a nice day🙂

I'm back to exploring the world of kinks after taking almost a year long break from anything dating wise and after talking to a domme she told me about a thing called sub frenzy which I had never heard before but when she sent me some stuff to read up about it I found it super helpful but I'm still struggling with it a little and I wondered if anyone had some good advice.

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So for me I suffered/still suffer a bit from sub frenzy by wanting to jump completely head first into everything without taking my time, I still have the urge to explore every kink under the sun and getting back into all this stuff has multiplied my libido by 100 which doesn't help at all lol.

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Thankfully the domme I'm talking to kind of encourages as many orgasms as possible but I'm finding myself wanting to touch myself again almost immediately after I've already done so. I've used a chastity cage before but that takes self discipline when you're alone and right now I don't have the discipline to keep it on anymore.

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I'm not necessarily saying it's a bad thing how I'm touching myself a lot but I wondered if anyone had some advice how I could slow myself down a bit without going cold turkey again because being part of this community is a really good release for me.

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If it's worth mentioning I've got ADHD so I already was kind of rampant with my libido but now it's really affecting my concentration in day to day life lol.

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Thankyou to anyone who actually read all that😅, hope everyone has a good day

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Hi everyone,

So I used to wear a cage a fair amount and even slept in it a bit but I took a break from anything kink for a while. Now I'm getting back into it and last night I tried sleeping in the cage again but the chaffing was SOOOO bad, it felt like the underside of my junk was on fire. To be clear it's the part of my junk that sits on the bottom of the ring, I've tried putting some lube on the skin and ring, I wondered if my skin sticking was the problem so I also tried putting a folded up tissue between the skin and the cage but it still burns.

I know my ring is sized correctly and it feels very comfortable in every other way, it's just the chaffing.

I'm wondering if putting a plaster (bandaid for Americans) on the underside of my junk would help since that won't be rubbing against my skin as it's stuck to it.

Any advice would be HUGELY appreciated,

Thankyou 🙂

Hi I'm Tom, I'm pretty inexperienced to be honest but I'm hoping to be a service sub for a domme. I want someone who I can worship and see their happiness as my own and at the same time I can learn how to be the best sub possible.

I'm 6'3" with long curly dark hair with a slim but muscular build (I train Muay Thai three times a week). I'm happy to send photos to anyone interested in being my domme although I would like a photo back as I've had to deal with catfishing WAAAAY to much on Reddit lol

I'm fairly new to most stuff, although I'm pretty experienced with ass play and I've got moderate experience when it comes to chastity. I've tried a few dommes before for very short periods but none of them were a good match so they ended on good terms. I've just spent 8 months out of the dating scene completely including online stuff but after working on myself I'm willing to try again. To be clear my limits are anything blood, scat or piss and those are none negotiable.

Outside of kink in currently working full time as an engineer designer but I'll be going back to university to finish my degree in September for 8 months but I'm interested in continuing any sub/Dom dynamic throughout then. I like to go to train Muay Thai lots, I've only done one fight but I love training three times a week. Even though I do alot of physical activity I'm still a big nerd at heart; I love games of any kind, movies, reading and music (I've started learning guitar the past few months). I have both autism and ADHD so hopefully I can find a domme who lets me talk about my hyper fixations, in terms of the autism/ADHD I don't have any special requirements so no worries there :)

Looking for a gentle domme who knows how to put me in my place still, I love to be praised in any kind of way but I'm also into a bit of degredation which feels odd to like both lol. I have a big praise kink. I go crazy for headpatts and cuddles of any kind so I require a lot of affection in person. I definitely fill the little/puppy role

Would love a more experienced domme to show me the ropes but I'm open to any experience level, if you're interested feel free to DM me and tell me a little about yourself :)

Thanks

Pretty much what the title says, how did you meet either your sub or your domme?

I haven't done any kind of dating for a while now but after working on myself I'm interested in trying again but I'm really curious about finding a domme but I don't really know where to find one.

So I'd love to hear how you guys met your subs/dommes, thanks everyone!