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As a strict top, I find the dynamic with vers guys very confusing.

Almost every time I hook up with a vers guy, they refuse to pick a lane and its often vague messaging like "im down for whatever" but then the actual hookup feels disconnected and like they're waiting for me to direct everything or they aren't sure what vibe they want, every time i play with a vers guy, i have to make all the decisions.

If you're vers, what are you actually looking for when you tell a top "I'm down for whatever"?

Do you prefer taking a clear back seat with a top, or do vers guys only play well with other vers guys and is something not for me to understand?

Where can i meet bears and otter types in LA for gardening, camping, hiking and pool hangs?

Im not into nightlife, so the bar themed nights aren’t for me. loud music mixed with alcohol isnt the type if connection im trying to make.

Growlr has a bad ux design thats stuck in the year 2000 and its practically empty in LA. I dated an older bear a while ago who mentioned a bear community in Los Angeles, but he only lived here for a short time to film a show and things didn’t work out between us.

Im all ears if someone could tap me in because my eyes are starting the bleed looking at all these 0% body fat hairless profile pics of guys saying “fit 4 fit only”. Please advise.

Real cruising doesn’t require being glued to a phone, begging for face pics and typing "into?" to a guy 100 feet away from you. The app just made an entire generation of guys completely incapable of making eye contact or reading a room without using a screen as a middleman.

You aren't cruising, you're actually playing an adult video game with GPS trying to order a hookup like its DoorDash.

Real cruising was spontaneous in real time in physical places without someone expecting perfectly angled and lit photos before an encounter.

Sniffies completely ruined the art of cruising and today’s gays have lost the skillset entirely.

Looking to relax and decompress. Ive been to century plenty of time and knows what goes on there. Looking for some variety and would like to hear of others gay bros experiences at Wi.

Has anyone else noticed a crazy amount of snakes at Black’s lately? Every time I've gone over the last few months, I’ve nearly stepped on one. No rattle or sound at all, just right there on the path ahead of me.

Taking a break for a bit because my heart can't take it anymore. Is this just peak rattlesnake season or is the population just unusually high right now?

Maybe its just me, but the apps aren’t working anymore.

Between bots and guys no longer being able to formulate complete sentences other than “hru”, to then take over 2 months to falsely coordinate a hook up and then ghost, hook up apps are no longer useful in getting quick action.

How are LA bros getting any these days if you’re not a weho gay?