u/bezforever

That’s it, that’s the message. Dating as a domme? Utterly soul sucking. Life draining. I can’t even begin to describe what I’ve experienced this past year.

Here are some stories from this past WEEK alone.

Finally found a local sub who checked off all of the boxes, who I found attractive and was starting to like after talking with for a bit, and *BAM* - he canceled our planned date and ended things super abruptly.

I cried a bit, dusted myself off and tried to move forward. The next one?! Oh you know, just found out he was secretly FULLY MARRIED and had a whole wife. (Contacted the wife to let her know because clearly I’m doing to lord’s work out here.)

Next one after that? Found out (by no admission of his own) that he was spending 10k+ on cam girls. Please, don’t even get me started.

One after that? Having some great general conversation, attractive, seemed sweet/decent, even sent me photos of his entire family/siblings and spoke in depth about his life, exchanged numbers, etc. - and bam, woke up blocked and ghosted the next morning.

There’s plenty more but I’m just… baffled. How are y’all single dommes doing that are seeking a relationship? I feel like the dating market is insane right now and I’m just close to calling it quits.

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Editing because… WTF? Since posting this, I’ve received a message that started with the following. You cannot make this shit up.

“Okay, so...this is going to be a breach of social etiquette. I want to say off the bat that I haven't come here to shame you or judge you. I came here because my story might be something you'll appreciate hearing.

I saw your post in FemdomCommunity and then I stalked your Reddit profile and I see you're 250 lbs and 5'3" tall. If you're content with that body, then feel free to stop reading. There's nothing wrong with being content with any body type.

But, if you are unhappy with it, I might have some thoughts that could help you…”

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship. (I’m happy to go over limits when messaging.)

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible. 

I'm a 5'3" Caucasian BBW (250 lbs.) with long brown hair and brown eyes. I'm ready to find a life partner and am looking for a committed relationship that leads to marriage and children. My timeline is to move in together within a year maximum.

Personality: I'm the sweetest person you'll meet, can be spontaneous and playful. I can also be super direct, serious and sensitive. I'm an introvert and homebody by nature (INFJ). I'm passionate about helping others. I aim to create a radically vulnerable space where people feel safe sharing their deepest fears and desires through transparent communication. I lean towards an anxious attachment style while dating. I hold left-leaning political views. Nothing matters more to me than integrity in every sense of the word. I'm big on communication and like to speak daily either through messages, calls, video or voice notes! I prefer giving out my phone number once comfortable instead of using a communication app.

Interests: Overall, I find joy in quiet routines, cozy nights and new adventures. I'm open to trying most things at least once. I feel most recharged when I unplug from technology and spend time outdoors. I enjoy exploring new cities on long weekend road trips and immersing myself in culture, food and history. Day to day, you’ll find me taking care of my plants at home, going for a night time walk or getting lost in a book. My last six months of adventures include: a ski trip with friends, yoga and meditation, a hockey game and soccer match. I especially love riding ATVs, shooting and bonfire nights. My current goal is to focus on gradual weight loss so I can get back to my more active interests, like hiking and strength training again (though I have a ways to go).

My "Type:" Character matters more to me than looks ever will. I do have a thing for a rugged, country looking man though (think: beard, broad shoulders, solid build, grounded presence). I'm ultimately looking for a man who is kind, genuinely decent and ready to build a life with another. They should be stable in all areas of life. I'm comfortable connecting with anyone within a 5-hour drive of Northern New Jersey for the right person. Ideally, they are 30-early 40s, prefer the BBW body type in a partner, share liberal political views, open to relocation and are a great communicator. I get along with men who go with the flow, are easy going and remain calm under pressure. Someone romantic who enjoys doing thoughtful gestures is always a plus too! And a good sense of humor :) But most importantly, my partner should be a consistent and reliable man who can handle difficult conversations with respect, follows through on what he says and has a willingness to resolve issues.

Kinks: I would love a FLR with submission that extends beyond the bedroom. Kinks that really excite me include: orgasm control, chastity, breastfeeding, full body worship, cucking, CBT and impact play. Any kink would be introduced slowly and gradually with my partner and not at the forefront of the relationship.

If you're going to reach out, please provide a detailed first message or I'll assume we're not compatible.