I wish I could domme my fucking endometriosis

That's it, that's the post. Holy fuck though 🙃

Edit: on second thought, what's y'all's fav pizza toppings? I just realized I'm in a pineapple friendly environment. My go to is pepperoni/bacon topped pineapple and pickled hot+sweet peppers. It hits (almost) every section of taste buds at once, but I'm a bit bored and want ideas~🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 1 day ago

why we move to telegram (and why it isn’t a ~scam~) 🕸️🐛

Seeing lots of confusion lately from new subs about shifting to telegram for sessions and/or dynamics. It's worth clarifying that this is simply operational security and convenience.

Reddit’s automated safety tools aren't built for the nuances of consensual power exchange. Historically, the algorithm struggles to distinguish between legitimate kink dynamics and actual harassment. In the year that I've been lurking, I’ve seen way too many accounts get purged or suspended because a sub got PNC, panicked, and reported the chat, triggering an auto ban.

I don’t conduct professional dynamics in a space that’s liable to nuke my work on a whim. Telegram is private, supports actual tools like voice notes, and keeps the business off an algorithm that lacks discernment.

So, if a Domme asks you to move to Telegram, it’s usually because they prioritize the longevity of their work and the security of their interactions. It’s just a standard business protocol for those of us who take this seriously. 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 4 days ago

why we move to telegram (and why it isn’t a ~scam~) 🕸️🐛

Seeing lots of confusion lately from new subs about shifting to telegram for sessions and/or dynamics. It's worth clarifying that this is simply operational security and convenience.

Reddit’s automated safety tools aren't built for the nuances of consensual power exchange. Historically, the algorithm struggles to distinguish between legitimate kink dynamics and actual harassment. In the year that I've been lurking, I’ve seen way too many accounts get purged or suspended because a sub got PNC, panicked, and reported the chat, triggering an auto ban.

I don’t conduct professional dynamics in a space that’s liable to nuke my work on a whim. Telegram is private, supports actual tools like voice notes, and keeps the business off an algorithm that lacks discernment.

So, if a Domme asks you to move to Telegram, it’s usually because they prioritize the longevity of their work and the security of their interactions. It’s just a standard business protocol for those of us who take this seriously. 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 4 days ago

my colin robinson joi vision 🕸️🐛

imagine: you click the video. you’re greeted by thicc colin. bald cap, glasses, monotone inflection, big ol’ tiddies struggling to be contained in the most boring thrifted beige suit jacket vintage Sears could provide.

i drone on about the granular, tedious origins of capitalism, draining your life force while interjecting, “hey, uh, while i have you here, take out your smartphone and click that link. normally i’d find it real rude to have your face in your phone, but uhhh given the circumstances, i’ll let it slide. ten times. anyways, stroke faster. so, did you know the transition from feudalism to capitalism relied on the forced enclosure of common lands to manufacture a landless workforce? and uh, your complete inability to hold even a half chub while i explain surplus labor exploitation is really surprising. keep clicking. keep paying.”

the challenge of making someone cum to something that tortuously mundane is incredible. instructing them on how to finish while i’m mid lecture on some dry economic theory they don't give a shit about...holding them there, draining their funds, energy, and cum while i’m talking about supply chains and administrative hierarchies?

objectively hilarious. I've never tried it, but weaponizing extreme boredom as a power dynamic seems like the ultimate test. Has anyone done anything like this?? 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 5 days ago

my colin robinson joi vision 🕸️🐛

imagine: you click the video. you’re greeted by thicc colin. bald cap, glasses, monotone inflection, big ol’ tiddies struggling to be contained in the most boring thrifted beige suit jacket that vintage Sears could provide.

i drone on about the granular, tedious origins of capitalism, draining your life force while interjecting, “hey, uh, while i have you here, take out your smartphone and click that link. normally i’d find it real rude to have your face in your phone, but uhhh given the circumstances, i’ll let it slide. ten times. anyways, stroke faster. so, did you know the transition from feudalism to capitalism relied on the forced enclosure of common lands to manufacture a landless workforce? and uh...you know, by the way, uh... your complete inability to hold even a half chub while i explain surplus labor exploitation is really surprising. keep stroking. keep sending.”

the challenge of making someone cum to something that tortuously mundane is incredible. instructing them on how to finish while i’m mid lecture on some dry economic theory they don't give a shit about...holding them there, draining their funds, energy, and cum while i’m talking about supply chains and administrative hierarchies?

objectively hilarious. I've never tried it, but weaponizing extreme boredom as a power dynamic seems like the ultimate test. Has anyone done anything like this?? 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 5 days ago

my colin robinson joi vision 🕸️🐛

imagine: you click the video. you’re greeted by thicc colin. bald cap, glasses, monotone inflection, big ol’ tiddies struggling to be contained in the most boring thrifted beige suit jacket vintage Sears could provide.

i drone on about the granular, tedious origins of capitalism, draining your life force while interjecting, “hey, uh, while i have you here, take out your smartphone and click that link. normally i’d find it real rude to have your face in your phone, but uhhh given the circumstances, i’ll let it slide. ten times. anyways, stroke faster. so, did you know the transition from feudalism to capitalism relied on the forced enclosure of common lands to manufacture a landless workforce? and uh, your complete inability to hold a even a half chub while i explain surplus labor exploitation is really surprising. keep clicking. keep paying.”

the challenge of making someone cum to something that tortuously mundane is incredible. instructing them on how to finish while i’m mid lecture on some dry economic theory they don't give a shit about...holding them there, draining their funds, energy, and cum while i’m talking about supply chains and administrative hierarchies?

objectively hilarious. I've never tried it, but weaponizing extreme boredom as a power dynamic seems like the ultimate test. Has anyone done anything like this?? 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 5 days ago
▲ 3 r/payforworship_findom+1 crossposts

You’re staring at a smoke you’ll never light and a foot you’ll never touch. The dirt under my nail has more personality than you ever could. You want to stay in the Vortex? Prove it with a tribute that actually makes a dent. Don't bore me.🕸️🐛

You heard me.

u/gilded-gloom — 7 days ago

starting out, staying sane, and the truth about lurkers🕸️🐛

i’ve been seeing a lot of newer dommes stressing about consistency and lack of engagement. tbf, my profile, while very intentional and curated, isn't exactly bursting with content. i'm currently more of a lurker and commenter than a poster, but i’m intentionally taking my time.

for context, i moved a couple years ago, lost my irl dynamics, and then last year a friend of mine that's a successful domme here introduced me to the virtual side of things. i didn't even know this existed, so i’ve spent the year just studying and really getting the lay of the land before fully diving in.

she showed me that a lot of her subs are watching from the shadows. she doesn't get flooded with upvotes, yet she has subs messaging her regularly because they wait until they feel safe enough to approach. it makes sense. there are sooo many bots and people just cosplaying as a Dom/me for a quick buck, so subs are rightfully wary and selective. Especially with newer accounts.

it also reminds me of my art career. i burned myself out for years trying to "perform" for the algorithm as if it were a job, and it totally sucked the joy out of it. i looked like i had zero traction, but after a while i had a few loyal clients and others coming through word of mouth in the background. it wasn't enough to live off of then, but once i stopped trying to force it and treated it like a creative passion instead//essentially throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks//that’s when things actually started to take off.

so i'm applying that same energy here. since this is a kink and not a job, i refuse to stress about the metrics. looking like you have no traction from the outside doesn't automatically mean you’re invisible. i’m staying authentic and having fun because i know the right dynamics will happen when they’re supposed to and they'll be incredible.

anybody else feel like the lurker reality is a huge part of this space? 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 10 days ago

starting out, staying sane, and the truth about lurkers🕸️🐛

i’ve been seeing a lot of newer dommes stressing about consistency and lack of engagement. tbf, my profile, while very intentional and curated, isn't exactly bursting with content. i'm currently more of a lurker and commenter than a poster, but i’m intentionally taking my time.

for context, i moved a couple years ago, lost my irl dynamics, and then last year a friend of mine that's a successful domme here introduced me to the virtual side of things. i didn't even know this existed, so i’ve spent the year just studying and really getting the lay of the land before fully diving in.

she showed me that a lot of her subs are watching from the shadows. she doesn't get flooded with upvotes, yet she has subs messaging her regularly because they wait until they feel safe enough to approach. it makes sense. there are sooo many bots and people just cosplaying as a Dom/me for a quick buck, so subs are rightfully wary and selective. Especially with newer accounts.

it also reminds me of my art career. i burned myself out for years trying to "perform" for the algorithm as if it were a job, and it totally sucked the joy out of it. i looked like i had zero traction, but after a while i had a few loyal clients and others coming through word of mouth in the background. it wasn't enough to live off of then, but once i stopped trying to force it and treated it like a creative passion instead//essentially throwing shit at the wall to see what sticks//that’s when things actually started to take off.

so i'm applying that same energy here. since this is a kink and not a job, i refuse to stress about the metrics. looking like you have no traction from the outside doesn't automatically mean you’re invisible. i’m staying authentic and having fun because i know the right dynamics will happen when they’re supposed to and they'll be incredible.

anybody else feel like the lurker reality is a huge part of this space? 🕸️🐛

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u/gilded-gloom — 10 days ago
▲ 6 r/FeetDomination+1 crossposts

Are you convinced that if you zoom in enough, you’ll actually see what you’re entitled to? You won’t, you wouldn't even know what to do with the real thing. My feet are all you get. Stick to the wrinkly soles and stop straining your eyes on the blur; that’s a privilege you haven’t earned.🕸️🐛

u/gilded-gloom — 12 days ago

Mirrorless camera suggestions??

I’m shifting into virtual dynamics, so I’m on the hunt for a mirrorless camera. I typically shoot with film and DSLRs. But film isn't exactly feasible for SW, and my DSLR is so clunky and heavy that I find myself avoiding it entirely because it hurts my hands to use these days.

I’ve been trying to rely on my new phone, but I just switched to a Moto Razr (obsessed with the flip novelty, but the camera quality is ATROCIOUSSS).

I keep seeing the Sony ZV series, but I’ve heard they’re overrated and struggle with "moody" low light aesthetics.

I’m planning to get this sub funded, and I only buy refurbished gear because I try to avoid contributing to waste/hyperconsumerism as much as possible, so I’m looking for something high quality that I can give a second life.

Needs:

🐛Size: classic point and shoot size, not a DSLR brick

🐛Great in low light and 4K capable for reels.

🐛Needs a seamless app for simple camera--->phone transfers.

✨🐛interchangeable lenses would be amazing, but not a total deal breaker.

Appreciate any insight! 🖤

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u/gilded-gloom — 13 days ago
▲ 5 r/censoredloserporn+1 crossposts

I’ve got the venom, but you’re stuck with the pixels. I wonder which of you is desperate enough to ask for a taste~

u/gilded-gloom — 13 days ago

bored of figging, moving on to ~relishing~

Ginger alone is so uninspired at this point. I'm bored of it. We’re moving on to broader horizons.

Garlic, ginger, onion, pickled banana peppers, and a cornichon, all chopped up and shoved into a mesh bag to steep until I’m tired of hearing the whining. When they finally take it out, they have to garnish their dinner with it because food waste is obviously inexcusable. They’re eating it, I’m hysterical, ~relishing~ in their blend of relief, disgust, and humiliation. God is good👹

u/gilded-gloom — 18 days ago

Throne UI/UX frustrations//Do subs even notice "collections"?

Subs: When you click on someone's throne, are you actually using the collections at the top? If not, do you sort low to high? And if you don't do either: if you click a link and see a wall of $500-$3k items immediately, are you noping out, or do you actually take the time to look around?

Dommes: I’ve put way too much time into curating my Throne to keep it aesthetic and immersive, but the platform’s default sorting keeps shoving my most expensive "unicorn" items right to the top, probably shocking the subs while hiding all of my more accessible tribs. (Note: I haven't uploaded all my custom collaged covers yet, the current state is a bit of a mess).

It seems like Throne has the ability to drag and reorder items, but it just doesn't save? I'm so irritated lol, how are y'all handling this?

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u/gilded-gloom — 18 days ago

:::Estate sale loot drop:::I think I officially traumatized the homeowner’s daughter lmao

I went digging through a dead grandpa’s closet and found a vintage Madonna Playboy. I got all this for $15 but the look on the (I'm assuming) daughter’s face when I went to pay was priceless 💀

Aside from the Playboy, I scored a full ritual/prayer kit, a resin tooth display, a vintage Bozo light switch plate, and a tarnished little mirror. Def think the guy was a dentist. Anyways i’m honestly just excited to start shooting content with the mirror and the prayer kit components. the Playboy is too precious to collage.

u/gilded-gloom — 21 days ago

:::Chastity:::in person vs. online?

I'm a bit stumped on how that would translate virtually. Obvi fantasy is one way to go about it, but is mailing the key also standard?

Tbh that seems like such a nightmare given how unreliable the postal service is💀 if the key gets lost, the power is basically with mailman instead of me. I don't find that part sexy lol. So how are y'all managing this?

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u/gilded-gloom — 23 days ago

Why Giles whyyyy ::: the good ones always go first

I'm not typically a parasocial person, but losing David Lynch (my REAL!! grandpa) and now Giles (my REAL!! dad) backtoback has been actually upsetting.

Anyways::: I’m binging Buffy for the 736th time. It's so fucking campy, I love it. I started watching as a kid when my "dad" wouldn't wake up to take me to school, so i'd binge watch and reenact Willow/Tara and Buffy/Faith scenes with pillows all day (and somehow didn't realize I was gay until my twenties). Lmaooo

Is anyone else grieving our "father figure we never met" this week? Are you also on your 3,837th rewatch of BTVS? Waaa ;:;:;

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u/gilded-gloom — 25 days ago