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I'm a little over two weeks into a lockup with my husband (he's my keyholder), and I've noticed that I seem to be swinging back and forth between two states of mine, one where I feel super masculine (I'm now exersizing more, eating better, and just generally feeling really good alongside more manly), but also more feminime (especially when I see his penis/erection compared to my cage and I'm reminded that compared to him, I'm not nearly as 'complete' of a man when I'm like this, I have a deep need to 'take care of him' both sexually and just in general). I feel almost like I'm two different people driving the same body, weirdly enough.

This isn't meant to be a post where I complain about the dynamic, far from it. I find it fascinating that I'm almost pendulumning between two different states of mind, both of which center around the idea of being locked away and needing an outlet for my pent-up horniness. One that focuses on improving myself and my life in meaningful ways, and the other which is focused on making my husband feel good when he's home (I'm more touchy and willing to have deeper conversations about topic I know nothing about), either by taking on more chores or being more receptive to our conversations.

For the record, I may not be labelling these mental states correctly, with my current language and vocabularly the closes approximation that I can think of one side being masculine and the other more feminine. I do not mean to be reductive in this sense, please let me know if there is better terminology I could use to describe this!

Tops, how do you like to best punish your bottom and put him in his place? I’m entering a period with my husband where I’m caged for him for a month (length is varying depending on his feelings) to service him and his beautiful cock and would love suggestions for how I can be punished if he thinks I should be!

I'm considering purchasing a Mature Metal Jailbird cage and had a question on sizing that I was hoping someone in the community might be able to help me with? I'm on the smaller side and am currently in a Cherry Keeper Stub (although I can fit in a Micro, trying to wear that more consistently if I can). I am confused though on how I should size the Jailbird cage, and am currently debating between the standard Jailbird with 1 1/4 or 1 1/2 inches for length, or the Mini Jailbird (which has a length of 1 inch), but I'm concerned on how it'll fit me compared to the sizes of the CK cages that I'm familiar with.

Is there anyone else that was in a similar situation as me that might provide some insight? I'd rather not make a crucial sizing mistake if possible and I'm not finding a lot of information about this online. Possibly the best route is just to ask MM support?