u/qthrow12

Hello!
I'm a 38M abdl/little and am soft and am looking for my mommy to be caring and soft as well. Anger that is actual anger triggers me. But if its play anger thats ok. I also have a femme side that is not a fetish, its just a part in me that has been coming out a lot in the past year. I still am a male though. I hope you can embrace me and support me with that.

I'm looking for an online or preferably in person ontario Canada mommy/caregiver.

I am very into 24/7 lifestyle/dynamics. I'm still very new to all things fet, I know some things I like, but am still learning.

I believe a relationship like this requires trust, honesty, communication and care.
I don't believe in a one way relationship. I want to be there to support you, care for you, love you (actually or platonically) and learn all about you. If we connect, you will be more important then the dynamic to me and I will show up for you the best I can. When I know you and we connect, you will become my world and your happiness matters more than mine. When I connect I REALLY connect and in my experiences strengthens the bond we will have.

I like 24/7 because I like talking with others, I never expect immediate responses, but always appreciate it. I'm emotionally available and am demisexual, so emotions and connecting is very important to me over play. I want to give up control to you, it will be slow as the trust builds. But I like rules and structure and over time will want to give up more control if you will take it.
I would hope that rules and structure you choose are not just for sexual reasons, but also because you care enough about me and listen to me enough to implement things that benefit my life and make me a better person. For example, I had an enforced bedtime in the past and she had made sure I had a minimum 8 hours of sleep. I was staying up until 1am on work nights getting 5 or 6 hrs of sleep.

I've been described as having puppy energy. I am open to talking about anything, from how your day is going, to listening to bad day problems, to sex talk. Sex talk is especially wonderful during work hours haha.

I have a lot of dreams and fantasies from pure moments to sexy deep ones. I will spend most of my time being little without a sexual component, but I will get needy often still and love to share those moments. You will hear about paw patrol, its definitely my favorite kids show. Barney's world is a close second.

Please reach out if you think we are a match. If you have any questions reach out. Please give me a shot and I don't think you will be disappointed.

Hello!
I'm a 38M abdl/little and am soft and am looking for my mommy to be caring and soft as well. Anger that is actual anger triggers me. But if its play anger thats ok. I also have a femme side that is not a fetish, its just a part in me that has been coming out a lot in the past year. I still am a male though. I hope you can embrace me and support me with that.

I'm looking for an online or preferably in person ontario Canada mommy/caregiver.

I am very into 24/7 lifestyle/dynamics. I'm still very new to all things fet, I know some things I like, but am still learning.

I believe a relationship like this requires trust, honesty, communication and care.
I don't believe in a one way relationship. I want to be there to support you, care for you, love you (actually or platonically) and learn all about you. If we connect, you will be more important then the dynamic to me and I will show up for you the best I can. When I know you and we connect, you will become my world and your happiness matters more than mine. When I connect I REALLY connect and in my experiences strengthens the bond we will have.

I like 24/7 because I like talking with others, I never expect immediate responses, but always appreciate it. I'm emotionally available and am demisexual, so emotions and connecting is very important to me over play. I want to give up control to you, it will be slow as the trust builds. But I like rules and structure and over time will want to give up more control if you will take it.
I would hope that rules and structure you choose are not just for sexual reasons, but also because you care enough about me and listen to me enough to implement things that benefit my life and make me a better person. For example, I had an enforced bedtime in the past and she had made sure I had a minimum 8 hours of sleep. I was staying up until 1am on work nights getting 5 or 6 hrs of sleep.

I've been described as having puppy energy. I am open to talking about anything, from how your day is going, to listening to bad day problems, to sex talk. Sex talk is especially wonderful during work hours haha.

I have a lot of dreams and fantasies from pure moments to sexy deep ones. I will spend most of my time being little without a sexual component, but I will get needy often still and love to share those moments. You will hear about paw patrol, its definitely my favorite kids show. Barney's world is a close second.

Please reach out if you think we are a match. If you have any questions reach out. Please give me a shot and I don't think you will be disappointed.

Hello!

What I am primarily looking for is a long-term relationship and partnership. I want something meaningful, emotionally close and lasting with the right person. I’m always happy to talk, get to know people naturally and see where things go over time.

ABDL is the biggest part of my kink identity and represents me the most. I’m primarily looking for a mommy/caregiver dynamic built around love, emotional safety, affection, structure, support, care and protection. Ideally, I would love this to be a real 24/7 relationship dynamic and lifestyle rather than something that only exists during scenes or play. ABDL for me is not just a fetish; it’s a comforting and healing space where I feel safe, protected, loved and able to fully relax and trust someone. It brings out my deeply submissive, loyal and affectionate side.

I love caring dynamics much more than harsh control. A gentle female-led relationship, mommy domme or nurturing caregiver dynamic would fit me best. I want emotional closeness, affection, reassurance, mutual support and a relationship where both people genuinely care for each other and actively show up for one another.

Another side of myself I’ve started exploring more recently is my femme side through women’s clothing and self-expression. It’s something that feels authentic and enjoyable to me. I do dress in public sometimes and I’m slowly becoming more comfortable and confident with it. Always looking for women to go shopping with! I’ve done this before and it was honestly so much fun. There’s something really nice about being accepted, encouraged and able to explore that side of myself openly with someone supportive.

I’m someone who values being emotionally available, supportive, attentive and dependable in relationships. I genuinely enjoy listening, helping people feel safe and cared for, and being a positive and consistent presence in someone’s life. I’ve been told I have very “puppy dog energy,” which honestly feels pretty accurate.

Outside of kink, I work in IT and have built a comfortable, stable life for myself. As of May 2026, I’m also going back to college online for a new degree while continuing to work full-time. I’m always interested in learning, growing and trying new things.

I enjoy gaming, movies, painting landscapes, digital art, piano, drums and getting out to explore when I have someone to share experiences with. I can definitely be a homebody at times, but I also enjoy adventures, road trips, cozy nights in and making memories with people I care about.

Sexually, I’m still very inexperienced. I’ve never had in-person sexual play and I’m honestly waiting for the right person and connection rather than rushing things. I’m interested in learning together naturally : affection, kissing, cuddling, intimacy, pleasing a partner and building comfort and trust over time. I care much more about connection, mutual enjoyment and shared comfort than trying to chase some perfect sexual experience.

If any of this resonates with you, feel free to message me. I’m always happy to talk, answer questions about ABDL, or just get to know someone naturally.

Mommies, please don’t abandon your littles. The connection you form with us is so deep and vulnerable. Some of us have abandonment issues, some of us get through the day because we have you in our lives.
you see the true us, a side we may never truly show to anyone else. A side that we were afraid to share. A side we don’t fully understand until we find you.

a trust forms that feels unbreakable at times, but you can still break it. You are so important to us, I would have done anything for mommy, not sure I could now. I would never abandon a friend in need, never mind my mommy who I put before everything.

why am I saying all this? Because my mommy for the past 2 months has slowly been pushing me aside, she stopped pet names, she stopped engaging and now she doesn’t even care about me or what’s going on. I’m 37 and decided to do another college degree,this is huge life changing for me. She hasn’t acknowledged it at all.

my birthday is in a couple days, I’ve told her, chances are she will forget and it’s going to hurt. But you know what she expects me to do? Keep engaging in the dynamic.
She is going through a lot in life right now and i understand. But when I had 2 of the most awful scary days in a few years a couple months ago, I showed up for her and her problems. She didn’t even know about mine. I would always show up for those I care about, even on the worst of days.

you mommies mean so so so much to us. Please keep us in mind, you are literally our world. For all the mommies that already do this, thank you for being so special and I wish so much I had a mommy like you right now. this post is from frustration, anger, sadness, but maybe it’s going to be helpful to some.
littles tell your mommies you love them and mommies do the same. Give ‘em the biggest tightest hug.

I think you are all amazing and special for letting us be who we are. *hugs* ❤️