r/CanadianAffair

I need to vent, and I genuinely want to know if I’m the only one losing my mind over this.

We are all here for a reason. Most of us say we’re coming from a dead bedroom, feeling lonely, or just craving that missing spark. We already carry enough weight in our daily lives honestly, things haven't been going that great for me lately, and this was supposed to be a safe escape. Instead, it just feels like a constant exercise in frustration.

I don't get why ghosting has become the default setting for people. Just recently, I was talking to a woman every single day for two straight weeks. The chemistry was great, the vibes were there, and we finally set a solid plan to meet up. Then, on the actual day of the meetup, absolute silence. She just disappeared into thin air.

Not long after that, I connected with someone else where everything clicked perfectly. We shared the exact same struggles, wanted the same things, and to top it off, we both lived right here in Southwestern Ontario. We had a few days of amazing conversation, and then... poof. Gone.

It’s just incredibly discouraging. It makes you feel completely hopeless when you're looking for a genuine connection to escape a tough reality, only to be met with mind games. If you’re not ready for this, or if you're just looking for a quick dopamine hit from chatting, why lead someone on?

I’m honestly at a loss and don't even know what to do anymore. Am I just having terrible luck, or has this community completely turned into a graveyard of ghosted connections? Let me know if you guys are dealing with the same crap, because I refuse to believe I'm the only one exhausted by this.

I need to vent, and I genuinely want to know if I’m the only one losing my mind over this.

We are all here for a reason. Most of us say we’re coming from a dead bedroom, feeling lonely, or just craving that missing spark. We already carry enough weight in our daily lives honestly, things haven't been going that great for me lately, and this was supposed to be a safe escape. Instead, it just feels like a constant exercise in frustration.

I don't get why ghosting has become the default setting for people. Just recently, I was talking to a woman every single day for two straight weeks. The chemistry was great, the vibes were there, and we finally set a solid plan to meet up. Then, on the actual day of the meetup, absolute silence. She just disappeared into thin air.

Not long after that, I connected with someone else where everything clicked perfectly. We shared the exact same struggles, wanted the same things, and to top it off, we both lived right here in Southwestern Ontario. We had a few days of amazing conversation, and then... poof. Gone.

It’s just incredibly discouraging. It makes you feel completely hopeless when you're looking for a genuine connection to escape a tough reality, only to be met with mind games. If you’re not ready for this, or if you're just looking for a quick dopamine hit from chatting, why lead someone on?

I’m honestly at a loss and don't even know what to do anymore. Am I just having terrible luck, or has this community completely turned into a graveyard of ghosted connections? Let me know if you guys are dealing with the same crap, because I refuse to believe I'm the only one exhausted by this.

I am a white male, early 40s, married 10 years living in Vancouver, BC - and my wife is cheating, which I’ve known about for some time.

Without any bitterness or judgement whatsoever, I’d love to hear from the perspective of a cheating wife - what would your husband have to do to reignite the relationship? How would he be able to get your attention refocused on him?

If you’re a cheating wife and can spare a bit of time to advise a husband on what he can do to be better, I really want to talk to you!

I guess I'll give this a try.

I've been in a dead bedroom for as long as I can remember and my husband feels like a roommate. I'm dying for some attention and I hope I can find a local man who can be my friend and lover.

I'm fit and lean, caucasian, 5'6" and height-weight proportionate. I've been told I'm attractive and I'd be a catch if I was ever single but I don't want to break my family apart just yet. I'm not looking to break apart any family but I want more than just a friends-with-benefits. Regular communication and connection and important to me.

Before my inbox blows up, I prefer taller men who are educated and clean. Recent testing is a must. Give it your best go. A nice, thorough introduction about who you are and what you want will make me more likely to reply.

Feeling pretty bleak in my search, but I’m already lowering my standards in my marriage, might as well uphold some for an AP lol.

Just your typical emotionally and affectionately neglected house mom/wife. Bedrooms not dead, but it kinda is when your fantasizing about anyone else during so.
Looking for a long term, good ole fashioned love affair without changing our situations.

I’m taller than average (almost 6ft and up club worthy)
Thick & curvy but in all the right places, I stay active and enjoy the outdoors, conventionally attractive and 420 friendly. I’m typically attracted to taller men, with darker features. The more “seasoning” in your bloodline, the better but not a requirement.

I get that life gets busy, but if you can’t even keep up with messages throughout the day, this probably won’t work.
I’m looking for that “can’t wait to check my phone” type connection.

Is there anyone on here that is actually real?

I’m 31, a professional with a steady career and a simple, grounded life. I’m not here to disrupt anyone’s world or change anyone’s situation — including my own. I’m looking for someone who understands the reality of being committed and still feeling that undeniable absence. If you’re not attached, we won’t be a match.

I miss that spark — the passion, the warmth, the feeling of being seen and wanted. I miss someone who checks in because they want to, not because they have to. Someone who feels that same pull toward connection, attention, and emotional chemistry. If you’re married and missing that too, then you’ll understand exactly why I’m here.

I’m a confident BBW, fully aware of who I am and what I bring. If my body type isn’t for you, please don’t reach out. I want someone who genuinely appreciates me as I am.

Discretion is non‑negotiable.
Communication is essential.
Connection comes first.

I value men who understand that trust and conversation build the foundation before anything physical can happen. I’m not interested in ghosters or half‑hearted energy. I haven’t done this before, but I’m serious — if you’re the right person.

I’m easygoing, down‑to‑earth, and I enjoy a simple life. If you’re attached, missing that spark, and ready to build something meaningful and discreet, I’m open to getting to know you.

I promise you, I am real.

There's nothing quite like an affair. The risk, the unknown, the buildup of excitement as you move closer and closer to a new connection. It starts with cautious flirting, and if all goes well, it builds up to mind-blowing sex. There really is nothing quite like it.

We would keep it a secret, nobody needs to know except us. A safe and comfortable place for us to explore our desires together without judgment or pressure. Discretion and safety go without saying. I take this seriously, and hopefully, you'll be able to see that I do. We should both be abundantly clear that we aren't trying to change our situations at home and take the necessary OPSEC precautions so that it wouldn't happen.

I'm tall, in shape, sophisticated, and I love a good conversation. I am kink positive (message me to find out more), I have a very high sex drive and I need to find someone who's equally driven in that department for it to be a good match. I'm looking for a female who is attractive and confident but also submissive and willing to let themselves release and let go with me. Someone who craves passion and will allow me the opportunity to experience it with her. I want a sustained connection that grows over time and is worth putting work into. I'm not here for a one night stand.

I think you'll be very happy you reached out.

Happy Canada Day to all my adulterous Canadians!

Break out the poutine and Nanaimo bars while you throw back some beers and enjoy some fireworks, all while wearing your Canadian tuxedo and listening to The Hip!

🍁🦫🎆🇨🇦

43F | Ontario | Married | Looking for an Online Only Relationship

I’m trying something a little different because I know exactly what I’m looking for.

I’m not searching for endless small talk, and I’m not looking to jump straight into sexting. I want the kind of connection where those things naturally grow because we’ve built something real first.

I want the person I’m excited to tell about my day. The one who wants to hear about my workout, my wins at work, my kids, and all the random thoughts that don’t fit anywhere else.

Fitness is a big part of my life. I’m an early riser, in the gym before work, and usually in bed fairly early. Consistency, communication, and kindness matter far more to me than perfection.

I don’t expect someone to be available 24/7. We all have careers, families, responsibilities, and lives. What I do hope for is someone who enjoys intentionally making time for each other.

Think of it like virtual date nights.

Maybe it’s two or three evenings a week when we both know we’ll sit down with a drink, put our phones away, and just enjoy each other’s company. Some weeks life happens. A kid needs you, work gets crazy, plans change. Just tell me. Communication means everything to me.

I’m looking for someone emotionally mature, curious, and consistent. Someone who asks questions because they genuinely want to know me, and who enjoys conversations that go beyond “How was your day?”

If attraction grows—and I hope it does—I absolutely want the flirting, the chemistry, the intimacy, and eventually the sexting. But I want it to be built on trust and friendship first because that’s what makes it meaningful for me.

If you’re looking for a genuine online relationship where we choose each other, make time for each other, laugh together, flirt together, and become part of each other’s everyday lives, I’d love to hear from you.

Please be around my age (40+) and tell me more than just “Hi.” Tell me what you’re looking for, too.

I’m in a long term relationship and not looking to change my current situation, just add some magic to my life.

I enjoy a balanced life, travel and new experiences, alongside quiet, grounded moments that help me recharge. I take good care of myself, and I’m both educated and accomplished in my professional life. I appreciate the same level of drive, self-awareness, and ambition in someone.

Emotional intelligence and strong communication are very important to me; I appreciate someone who can express themselves openly, listen well, and navigate connection with maturity and care. I value good conversation, real chemistry, and the kind of connection that makes you feel wanted, heard, and a little distracted.

I’m here for something light, respectful, and genuine - no drama and no ONS. My professional world is very interconnected and privacy and discretion are extremely important to me. Looking for someone based in the greater Montreal area only, and non smoker is a must. I prefer men closer to my age (35-45).

Married suburban mom looking for the hot neighbourhood dad. I'm educated, professional, white, blonde, in shape and attractive, sarcastic and confident. Affectionate and fun but looking for intelligent conversation. Think: a healthy mix of class and sass and you've gotta be able to keep up!

I want something real, with actual meaningful connection, both emotional and physical chemistry. I'd like someone who isn't just looking for something 'extra'.

I'm drawn to men that are confident, funny, self-aware and intelligent. The taller the better, in shape with a muscular build. Tattoos are always a plus 😉. A man who knows when to take charge but what it means to earn eachother's trust and respect.

Please be age 40-50 and have children. Being of similar age and stage matters for me, based on my experience. Prefer someone around GTA or able to travel to meet.

I don't like games or arrogance, we're too old for that. Someone who is genuine and intentional but also cautious and careful. OPSEC and discretion of high priority. Consistent communication but understands we have lives to attend.

I am selective and don't want to waste my time or yours, so please DM only if we match on all those levels and we will take it from there.

I’m 31, female, attached, and lately I’ve been feeling the absence of something I can’t ignore anymore — that spark, that connection, that feeling of being seen, wanted, and understood. I know I’m not the only one out here who feels this way, and I’m hoping to find someone who truly gets it.

To be clear: I’m not looking to change my situation or yours. I’m not here to disrupt anyone’s life. I’m looking for someone who’s also attached, who understands the need for discretion, and who’s craving that emotional connection that’s been missing.

I’m not chasing something purely physical. For me, the physical only matters when there’s a real connection behind it — communication, consistency, and genuine interest. If you’re someone who ghosts, we won’t get along. It’s just not fair.

A bit about me:

I’m easygoing, relaxed, and down‑to‑earth. I adore my cats, I love horror movies, and summer nights are my happy place. And yes — you should be someone who loves beautiful BBWs, because that’s who I am.

If you’re in a similar place in life and looking for something meaningful, steady, and discreet, I’d love to talk.

Good morning fellow degenerates. My AP of 6 years has just announced her trial seperation much to her, her family's and my surprise. She's doing it for her, not me, as we both know I have 7 years to go until my youngest is out of the nest.

I want nothing but the best for her and it doesn't see like right moment to ask about our future plans; it's all pretty raw and she probably just doesn't acutally know. She seems excited to share this new stage of her life with me, but I can't, no matter how hard I try or how many reddit threads I read, get rid of the knot in my stomach that tells me a timer has been started on the really good thing we have going on.

Whether there is heartbreak to endure or not, I'd like really to remember this time of our lives as the happy memory it was and avoid a jealous or resentful finale. What's the gentlemanly move here?

Unfortunately I've made one, 2 1/2 years of bliss has backfired on me, and its hitting pretty hard, caught strong feelings, which could be expected and manageable, where I went wrong is, she was divorced single with a younger child, and a great distance away. We delt with the distance very well and accommodated us every week, but the time has come where she needs more, a father for her child, and a future life partner, I should of known better to invest all of myself into what we had without foreseeing the future, my love was blind, and now im crushed thinking of her with a potential new flame. Has anyone made regrettable mistakes they can share, id like to be educated on situations to avoid, sorry don't have a single sole to discuss this with, just you fine folks.

So I've been on Reddit for 3 months and have posted twice here. Each time being absolutely overwhelmed with messages and deleting the post shortly after lol sorry

To be straight up I am attractive. I've been told I'm hot, a good few times, beautiful as well, Definitely heard cute and adorable too. But of course that wouldn't make me everyone's cup of tea. I am confident in myself though. My husband in real life is also attractive. Yes, I'm here looking for more but that does not mean I'm going to lower my standards. So if that makes me picky or a bitch so be it ?

I'm a shorty that's heavily alternative with glasses. I am an active person in life, not just the gym (which I don't go to enough) I love food, animals, hiking and swimming. I'm a mom of 2 in a long term marriage. I am not looking for long distance or online only. I am a cake eater through and through and I am not looking to change your situation or mine at all.

I am generally drawn to tall, strong men. I know how typical but it is what it is lol because I'm small, I like to be lifted up and moved around easily when needed :p I like guys who enjoy to take care of their appearance and care about their style. Of course, if you wear chucks or Vans and a backwards cap, you'll probably make me melt.

I am not just looking for sex. It is extremely important that we have an emotional bond first. I'm looking for that extra oomph in my day. The good morning. Good night messages, sexting, flirting, the support, our hearts racing and our minds fogged because we just want to look at our phones and talk.

Maybe I'm looking for a unicorn that doesn't exist in Nova Scotia, lol so many people here are in Toronto. I feel like I would have much better luck there. Anywayssss

I'll keep trying every so often as you never know what could happen.

If you made it this far and want to DM me, i'd like to know your current hyper focus song. The one you can't get out of your head.

Lonely MILF for discreet sexting and maybe more 😘 I'm an attention-starved girl in a DB who wants to get under your skin and be on your mind. I want to bewitch you. Nothing drives me wilder than being wanted, so come show me how much you want it.

You are tall (I am too), married (I am too), and respectful when it's important but nasty when it's needed (I am too).

I hope you have snapchat, because that's my preferred platform.

I can't wait to hear from you ❤️