r/DatingOlder

I'm looking for a genuine long-term connection with a mature, older man. Ideally someone local, but I'm open to online if the right person comes along. I want to build something real, start as friends, take things slow, and see where it goes. When I commit, I'm all in. Loyalty, respect, and love are what I bring to the table, and I expect the same in return. If you're ready to give me the world, I'll give you mine

hi there!

i'm f21, and i've always had a thing for men that are older than me. since guys my age haven't worked out so far, i decided it's time to try something new! :p

a little about me: i'm 5'10, sporty with some curves, long brown hair, green eyes, couple tattoos. due to the fact that there are plenty of creeps on here, i'd like to chat for a bit before i send any pics of myself!
some things i like: reading (mostly romance & fantasy), video games, hiking & nature in general, anything artsy & crafty. plenty more interests & hyperfixations, but those are the main ones. you'll definitely never run out of a conversation topic with me, that's for sure. :p

now about you: anywhere between early thirties to mid forties! active and fit - not looking for someone who sits around all day and lets themselves go! love me some muscles, tats and dark hair.
the personality part is definitely more important though: looking for someone caring & dominant but gentle, who still knows how to take the lead in a relationship. a good sense of humour & taste in music gets you a long way with me as well. c:

important: i'm not looking for a purely sexual relationship. i want real connection. so please don't text me if that's not for you! also: your location doesn't matter for me, as long as you're fluent in english. i'm also open to relocating at some point.

i'm probably forgetting half the things i wanted to mention, but oh well. feel free to dm me any questions that might've come up!
looking forward to hearing from you! <3

edit: please don't just send me a simple "hi". put some effort into your intro message! :p

hello I am not exactly sure how to start this but surprise surprise Im looking for an older man. There isn't really a limit but please be 30+. I know finding relationships on here is really difficult but I will still try my luck. I want this to be long term where we eventually get married and have kids. I am open for both me having a career or being a stay at home mom. We will have to talk about this later on. For looks Im genuinely not picky | just like taller men but that also isn't necessary. I want someone funny tho who I can laugh with and someone smart and romantic would be great too. I am from america so if we have a big time gap that probably wont work since we cant text much. I wrote online in the title because I prefer to start like that. I want to meet in the future ofc but I am limited with my budget and time rn unfortunately.
Also just adding I don't send nudes so Im sorry if thats all you're looking for.
If you are still interested Im happy to chat but please type more than "hey" please

I’m more so seeking a genuine relationship, I do not mind an age gap so that’s why I’m posting here, if you’re just here for a weird fetish please look somewhere else. Communication is very important, being honest and just genuine. There is no need to lie to me, I don’t know you so what are you losing by being honest. I love reading, baking, history, documentaries, and cooking. I’m a little bit more on the quiet side so it takes some time to warm me up. I’m biracial, shorter, and more on the curvy side.
I am a female with needs so if a relationship is too much for the moment I’m okay with a FWB situation.
If this interests you dm me or comment :) say more than just a hey please , tell me about yourself
PLEASE DONT DM IF YOUR NOT FROM OHIO

haii i'm jessie!! 22 from the midwest :3 i wanna start off by saying im not new to age gap relationships and have had numerous in the past but obviously they never lasted lol, im looking for a real connection and not a fling or hookup

some stuff about me!!

• im 5'8 with blonde shoulder length hair, around 230? ish?
• i love vintage things and thrifting/antiquing
• more of a dog person but kittys are just as adorable :3
• i love to read and draw, i mostly read sci-fi/fantasy things
• little addicted to shopping >.<

im more than happy to send u a pic of me, or jus look at my profiles :3 but i hope you send one too !!! im not too picky when it comes to preferences but nobody over 55 pls !! i like the 40-50 range, being tall is also a plus :p

anyway thnk u for reading!! hope to hear from u <3

This is probably incredibly stupid in so many ways for me to do but here I go. Longest post of my life: celiac section first, KINK D/s section below it.

I am absolutely looking for a UNIQUE D/s bedroom dynamic within an outside regular relationship. I desperately need it in my life.

I have celiac disease and have to maintain a strict gluten free diet to stay healthy, and it makes me insanely high maintenance. I can’t eat out and I have to make all my own food and I buy ingredients not premade meals. I require a SAFE KITCHEN for me to prepare, store, eat my gluten free food safely with no cross contamination exposure, we’re talking ppm parts per million exposure will get me sick.

I have been diagnosed for over 14 years now and I have managing my celiac down pat thanks to lots of systems and approaches. Most of my celiac required needs are not noticeable to others and I do my absolute best to not have it impact others. However the reality of celiac is that it impacts everyone around me, accommodations always have to be made and it requires life adjustments and 100% dedicated and commitment from my partner to help keep me safe at all times.

Celiac makes my life and literally everything I do, just trying to exist incredibly hard, by a fuck ton. I need help with things all the time like helping cooking sometimes and helping haul the ridiculous amount of ingredients I need home because I have to maintain a really deep pantry in order to live and stay celiac healthy etc.

I require a gluten free safe kitchen, I can’t afford a place on my own right now, I can’t live with friends or random roommates cause of gluten exposure and not being able to trust them with my safety living with them requires, I can’t live alone because of just little everyday help I need like opening the 12 cans of beans I need to big batch meal prep because it hurts my hands too much or hauling 8 cases of beans home to add to the pantry, take the trash out so I can get chopping food, normal and really easy stuff for a strong dude to do without thinking or wasting energy.

Fuck if you help me cook I’ll do anything for you.

I don’t need outrageous help but I need help without question.

I’m looking for my Dom, my person, and I need to be able to move in with you or we get a place.

I’m looking for my everything because I don’t know how to do anything other than go all in in anything I do, I want to be everything to my person, please them in every way possible and be their perfect sub fuck toy they cherish, care for, protect, nurture and support and fuck until I melt.

When I date someone, that person becomes all that exists in the world, I become fully addicted to them, making them happy and being their everything.

I LOVE TO PLEASE MY PARTNER, turn them on and get them off, this pleases me more than anything in the world.

I’m looking for someone that wants to find their most dedicated loyal addicted to you submissive there is, they are ready to go all in dive deep and won’t look back.

I will literally commit my everything to you, to making you happy and keeping you pleased.

I am well AWARE everything I’ve said is ENDLESS red flags, I know this makes me an extreme liability to whoever I’m with. But I literally have no other options and laying it all out there, so I’m hitting for the stars while sick to my stomach putting all my most vulnerable hard truths out there.

If you want me to move in, not work and fully commit to being your partner and sub focused on pleasing you and you financially support us, I would give my everything to you.

I’m deeply kinky deeply submissive deeply desire my person to dedicate my life to pleasing them and being everything to them.

Ugh I hate saying the following but it’s relevant and one of the first things asked, well first, no kids, never married, and I have what people keep telling me is a smoking hot body and I do not look my age at all, cringe. I’m naturally beautiful cringe and don’t need makeup to look beautiful, I don’t look like a different person when the makeup face paint comes off. I’m in great shape, athletic, fit yet curves in all the right places, great tits, long legs and a long torso. People tell me all the time I’m really attractive and in great shape, so much so it happens in a fetishized way and it’s deeply uncomfortable for me. I do not like any of the endless unwanted attention I get regarding my appearance, it’s commented on almost daily, and I do my best to avoid this but it’s impossible. I absolutely need a strong dude that can stand by me and help protect me from this onslaught. I’m not crazy beautiful or anything I’m just considered uniquely very attractive to all genders for some reason in a weird fetish way that I have never understood. I don’t like talking about my looks and I hate that it’s always commented on, I will otherwise rarely talk about my appearance.

\-I’m high energy mover and a shaker type person

\-I’m not religious and that’s not changing

\-I don’t have kids (I don’t care if you do) and at this point of just turning 43 I’m in my selfish era and no longer want my own kids though I can still get pregnant, a lot would have to be in place for me to sign on to having a baby at this point but I won’t officially say a hard no to it

KINK D/s Section:

I just turned 43F don’t think I’ll ever meet my person because I’m a very intense (I can’t help it) dominant person in every aspect of my life. I’ve been literally kicking guys asses and taking names since the day I was born, it’s just how I’m wired. I’m a happy lighthearted easy going but passionate deeply intense dominant female. I grew up playing as the only female on an all guys team in all guys leagues playing one of the most competitive quite known for fighting challenging sports and I’m fucking good at it. There’s a high likelihood I could literally kick your ass, I’ve beaten the shit out of many a dude my age and bigger and won, I am tough as nails and don’t take shit from anyone and will get in anyone’s face. I’m fiercely against physical violence and fighting, I just know how to throw down if it happens and life experiences and the sport I played it happened all the time, especially because I was the only female I was a constant target so I had to get tough in order to play the sport I loved. I got my shit kicked all the time too, it made me a stronger fighter. I say all this to give a view into how “tough” I am, I can most likely kick your ass and will absolutely do it if you cross me or anyone I love. I am fierce and intense and it exudes out of me in every way from all angles.

I describe myself as a combination of opposites. Fierce strength and passion, tender gentle care, I happen to be considered really attractive to a lot of people and the attractiveness compared to my intense competitive sports I played is so opposite, everything about me in some form is a combo of opposites that I won’t go into more detail here so I don’t out myself.

I have no problems “meeting” guys in my life but my problems lie in I can’t find the type of guys I’m interested in. Again people find me attractive and I have no problem meeting people to date, nothing ever hits though because they don’t have the qualities I want. I end up in vanilla relationships and it sucks.

Where my problems lie is that when it comes to the bedroom I love to be fucked and incredibly hard. I love to be dominated, I don’t want to be in control, I don’t want to have to think, I want to be fucked relentlessly, orgasming over and over until I can’t move can’t think, body sore in the best way, ass red and hurts from being smacked so much, I want to be utterly owned, taken dominated used, all of it. Obviously I need to be completely respected and safe to let this happen.

The thing with me is I don’t sleep around, never had a one night stand, my clit and horniness only work for one dude at a time and I absolutely MUST have that mental connection with him first established in order to let them fuck me.

My problem is I keep ending up in vanilla relationships and it’ll be ok for a while but it always ends up not being enough.

I need a deep level of respect and understanding before I let a dude into my kinky little world, otherwise I keep it on lockdown. But so far my luck is that when I do finally feel safe enough to show someone my world, they are just too vanilla.

I’m highly sexually confident and comfortable with myself, I get off so easily and cum over and over, I’m wild in bed, I know I’m special and something to be cherished protected and cared for. I need the mental connection I need to know I can trust you completely with my safety and vulnerability and I need to be able to let go completely and be fucked relentlessly.

I am absolutely looking for a unique Ds bedroom dynamic within an outside regular relationship. I desperately need it in my life.

You:
I need you to be very dominant and very intense in bed, I need it rough, very fucking rough, make it hurt so good.

You must have the stamina and endurance to make me cum numerous times (12-15 times minimum) every time we play prior to fucking me, nonnegotiable, I need you to be obsessed with making me cum. I’m insatiable. I cum INSANELY EASY (if I’m aroused enough I don’t even have to touch myself to orgasm) and I cum over and over and over, accomplishing 15 orgasms for me is magical easy and takes no time at all, for reference I had 41 orgasms in one session getting myself off the other day taking my time at 75 minutes long. Only getting me off 3-5 times will annoy me to no end and not in a good way, and it will make me not want to play with you again.

If your kink is denying me orgasms we won’t work, it’ll just make me legitimately not like you. I’m trying to let go, not think and be so overwhelmed with sensations and orgasms I lose my mind and can’t think, not denied orgasms that will only bad frustrate me and piss me off. I need to be forced to cum so many times I can’t think I’m so overwhelmed and overstimulated all I can do is feel, pushed past my limits until I can’t take it, and keep going.

For me a good foreplay orgasms amount is at minimum 12-15 orgasms before sex. I’m an insanely horny female and I need to get off at least this many times before sex, am I clear? Insatiable.

Free use is a requirement within agreed upon parameters, I need my partner to not just want the idea of free use in conversation but actually fucking does it in the relationship. I want to be my partners everything and I need free use, I need them to own me and take me whenever they want how they want when they want even if I don’t want to, nothing stops it but the safe word and I just have to submit and take it for your pleasure. Free use is always only about your pleasure and you have your way with me.

Physically I’m tall 5’8 athletic fit and feminine but very fucking strong. I need you to be bigger and stronger than me, I need you to be able to manhandle and pin me down and absolutely over power me. I’ve said it a bunch but it really fucking needs repeating, I need it absolutely fucking rough, very rough.

You need to be into tying me up helpless and using me how you please, you absolutely have to be into forcing me to orgasm over and over and smacking my ass hard constantly making it fucking bright red and sore. I need the pain pleasure of it, make it hurt so good, for everything.

Out of the bedroom you need to be able to handle my intensity and not be threatened by my dominance. My dominance will absolutely bleed through and I’ll need you to absolutely assert your dominance and put me in my place. I do need someone that will push back at me.

So again, I need you to be sexually very intensely dominant and assertive aggression in the bedroom and own me, and I need you to be obsessed with making me cum to the point I can’t take it anymore, and then keep going pushing my limits.

I have no idea how I go about finding the kink I need within the relationship I want.

I can’t settle for just vanilla the rest of my life and I’m doubtful there’s a dude strong enough to meet my strength and roughly fuck me how I need to be fucked in bed.

I often attract guys that are submissive attracted to my dominant personality, and though I’m very flattered and definitely do dominate at times when I want to, it’s just not what I’m into. My intensity and personality need challenge, I don’t want to walk all over anyone and it happens in these situations unfortunately.

So yeah I guess my fear is that I’ll never end up finding what I want and need, both safety and security and being relentlessly fucked in one. But I’m finally honest with myself that vanilla WONT cut it.

I don’t know where the fuck I’ll go from here. But the reality is I haven’t been laid in years and I finally just got my sexuality back after dying from a bad relationship. So I’m more horny than ever, nothing is cutting it and I’m left at a life crossroads if you will, not knowing how to find these qualities in one person.

You:

You need to care about the environment, nonnegotiable. Smart, funny, kind, good communicator, actually mean what you say, you don’t have anything to prove, comfortable discussing your feelings thoughts and emotions, within my age range or older, open minded, the answer to the gatekeep question is the great black wasp, you’re looking for a long term relationship, you’re even tempered, you have lots of patience, people consider you a good person and you try and be the best version of yourself.

love traditional gender roles
daddy goes to
work and makes the money, drives us everywhere, decides what we do, who i see, everything. this means i can focus on thinking only how i can be more pretty for him, as he deserves a soft, feminine princess. except when i'm craving his hand prints on my butt ☺️
i love protector men and men who are usually double my age, a mean, grumpy man who lets me occasionally see another side of him.
i've always been this way and knew i was put on earth to please men 🎀