r/HEM_NSFW

Where do you put your hands during the massage? Do you put them up by your head or down at your sides?

I typically put my hands up by my head. Toward the beginning of most massages they stand above the head and I use that opportunity to put my hands on their ass. Now and then they will eventually move my hands to my sides if that is part of their massage.

Is there any benefits to starting with hands by sides? Is there some placement that I have not thought of thaT allows/encourages feeling them up?

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Do they usually put a condom on you before or can you pay extra for without a condom ? If so how rare is it to find a place that does L2 with no condom

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i’m noticing some bumps on the back of my neck and wondering what does the community do after a session: do you go back home and shower, use alcohol wipes or something else.

back to the bumps, i’m guessing it’s from using the same pillow my eskimo brothers have used :(

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I was just wondering do Indian and Arab Massage Parlors exist? I like to switch it up sometimes!

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I traveled for work and visited quite a few AMPs in the US and other countries. I retired to a small town and was worried that I might not get the opportunity anymore.

I started looking around and checking some online reviews and found two places that looked promising. One was too close to a couple of businesses I frequent. The other one looked promising and had discreet parking.

I went for the third time today and I‘m really enjoying the “local” flavor as they‘re starting to know me. They have a reasonable house fee and tip for extras. I got a nice massage, with L1, prostate, and feeling up some nice nipples. I’m pretty happy to find this place in my little home town.

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I was thinking should I call to see if a AMP of interest offers FS ? Or should I just walk in and ask ? Or is something that is not to be asked and just find out during the session? Because I don’t want to waste my money and time. Sorry I am new to this.

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This is my second time at the same place they offer hot stones and today I was offered a 4 handed massage but they always cover me up and never get near to tease. Even during the table shower they put a wash cloth. Do I keep going in hope or just go for a different place?
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If they tell you to take off everything besides your underwear then just know they thats not a HEM AMP. This happened twice to me lol, I should have known but im all for second chances.

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Do you guys find there is a better time for better service? I’ve tried an AAMP at 2am and it was no good but wonder if that was just a one off? I normally go afternoons but might want to go soon after opening mainly so they’re at their “cleanest” part of the day but also think they might not be as turned on and willing to go above and beyond if it’s early. I’ve also had decent experiences close to closing time where they allow me to give them facials due to last costumer of the day but that’s about the only extra benefit I’ve see from that time of the day.

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Idk maybe it’s just me but I noticed a pattern, if a AMP offers/does/uses hot stones then that means most likely there will be no HE. This is just based on my newbie experience as a new hobbyist.

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I've only ever been to two AMP's. One was a dud and I've been going to the second one exclusively.

I got there at opening and said my 'annyeonghaseyo' greeting to the Mamasan. The MT was beautiful. Thin and on the younger side, with amazing breasts. She had nice big nipples too! How is showered before going to the AMP but the Table Shower was thorough. Nice and hot, which is how I enjoy my showers .She spent time washing the bootyhole which was a first from my visits.

Two other clients came in as I sat in the sauna next to the shower room. I'm brought back to my room after a couple minutes and the MT asks what I'd like.

Last time, I did L3 with another MT there and just wanted either L1 or L2. I decide on L2. The MT does a very light sensual finger nail grazing all over my back and buttocks. No massage today, but that's okay.

L2 begins and what can I say, she's perfect and the service is perfect. I give her a little extra on top of the agreed-upon tip and I'm out the door after a hug and picking up a nice cold water bottle and mint.

Being the degenerate that I am, I decide to visit another AMP just a mile or so up the road, for the first time. Because why not lol. I got duped, I'm afraid to admit. I provide the house fee, which is a bit more than my ATF, that I've been going to. When I get to the room a beautiful Latina greets me and immediately says it'll be an amount that's way above what the prior AMP was and that it was L3. I asked for just L1 and she shook her head and said only L3. I mentioned that I don't have the amount that they're wanting and I also don't want L3. She opens the door and as I begin to walk out, the Mamasan asks me to wait a minute and I mention I don't have what they're asking (and I wasn't looking for L3) but the Mamasan insisted on getting another girl for me. This one is a beautiful Asian, similar in body to the first MT at the ATF. She brings me to another room where she asked me to dress down and I reiterate that I only want L1. I mention an amount that I'm comfortable with and again she goes back up to this same amount that the first girl had mentioned and says that it's L3. I mentioned that I don't want L3 and that I would prefer just L1 but she says that she'll do L2. I know we can't talk prices and tips but just to kind of give you an idea the price at my ATF for L3 is the same price that they were asking for L2. No table shower. There wasn't even actually a massage portion of the visit. She had me lay on my back and went right to L2. After a couple minutes she asks again if I wanted to do L3. At that point, I asked how much extra beyond the agreed upon amount and she gives me the same numbers as before. I haggle a small amount off but then mentioned that I don't actually have that cash to which she said that she had a payment app that she could use. Annoyed at myself that I didn't just walk out at the beginning I pay the extra and L3 began. To give credit where credit is due, L3 was good. As good as it was in my prior L3 experience at my ATF. With both of these AMP's, they undress and I'm able to caress them which is amazing.

I was maybe there for thirty minutes and paid a full hour house fee. Yikes. Yeah, I'm a dunce. Anyways, I still want to branch out to other AMP's even with the two not-so-great experiences at the non-ATF AMP's. I've been told that latinas are where it's at as well so I'd like to see if other parlors have Latina MTs.

But ugh. I gotta go make back that money now haha.

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I just was wondering are all AMP franchises the same ? Let me clarify, I went to one amp spot that did not offer HEM. Then I seen the same business at a different location and was wondering will I have the same experience? Or can this be different?

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Beginner hobbiest only been to like 3. def would enjoy to be on all 4s, pop once at start then after the flip, pop one more time. Any advice? 4HEM

TLDR: Treated myself for my birthday. HE in the morning and another in the afternoon. Amazing bbbj with a neat water trick from the first session. Then 4hands with the 2nd session. HBD to me.

Kinda long read and sorry for TMI.

I knew I wanted to treat myself for my birthday this month. Since my birthday is so close to the 4th and with the world cup happening, its hard to do a proper party or hangout. So I said, screw it, and got back to back HE sessions.

The places I went are sister locations. They are my go-to places for HEM. These AMPs never disappoint. I first place I went to had a new girl I never met. She was a nice young Asian girl with some curves. I thought she was the most attractive MT I seen. I went in for 30min. The massage was great. I'm a big tall guy, but she knew how to push my body and crack my back, which was a first.

This was a first for me, but she did this water in her mouth trick for a bj. I never had anyone do that before. It felt really nice. She essentially played with my member like a water whistle. It was amazing. Then finished RCG. They offer discounts for bday, but decided not to accept.

Then I went to the other location later after running errands. This MT was nice, skinny, petite. She was so bubbly. I love when they are super giggly. This session ended up turning into a 3-way. I'm all about it. The 2nd girl was also very attractive. FS session, 69 and CG. After climax, my MT went back for a BJ to clean me up.

All in all, best Bday to me.

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I’ve been going to this place for a long time, 2 or 3 years. I’ve seen probably 4 or 5 girls cycle through during that time. There are only 2 there now and they both have massaged me dozens of times. We have a routine set without exchanging words or tips until after everything is complete. My issue is that they both just do L1 without question or anything. How can I get them to L2? Like I mentioned.. we don’t even really talk. It’s very weird, but I sort of love it. I’m just wanting to get a little more from my session and am curious if there are any suggestions aside from the obvious “just ask.”
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So I have an experienced Chinese therapist (late 50’s) she’s very good with her hands and knows what she’s doing but I’m new to massages and am wondering if there’s anything I should be trying? I’m pretty inexperienced sex wise in general and she knows 0 English.

The massage was great and it ended with a happy ending including a bit of butt play and now that I know I have the hookup I wanna get everything I can out of it. Lol I’m curious about some of the things I’ve seen in Asian porn videos like nuru and/or milking. Any suggestions? 4HEM

I monger when I travel and visit the same area every few weeks. I started going to a new place to see if there was more to be offered. First time with the new place the MT was enjoyable. Good massage and HE. On my second visit I opted for a table shower. The same MT made it highly enjoyable with lots of play by the backdoor. Went to the room for a massage and she offered to take off her clothes after the flip. She asked for an amount I've tipped for L2 at other places, which was double the house fee. Said I didn't have that much but tipped a decent amount. The top came off, she put bottoms back on. I'm heading to the MP again maybe Monday. Do you think there is L2 available based on what has transpired already? Obviously I can always ask and have tip money set aside. Just curious as to your experiences. TIA. 4HEM

I finally got up the courage and decided I was going to get a HEM. I found a 'nicer' shop near me that had some decent reviews. The power went out at home from the storms yesterday and it was getting hot in the house. The wife had been disappointing me for a while and she and the kids went to her mother's to stay cool. I offered to stay home and keep an eye on the pets. I knew the shop was in an area that had power so I didn't bother to call ahead. I get to the shopping center and the parking lot is empty except for two or three cars and I thought maybe the power was out, but as I drive by I notice the lights are on. I park, walk straight up to the door, and there's a sign that says they're closed today.... I've been holding off because all of the shops are really shady near me. I finally had the opportunity and worked up the courage and it didn't work out...

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When visiting a AMP/MT, should I be shaving? I personally like to keep myself groomed, clean or at least cut down. What would be the best for this?

Edit: thank you all for your insight and suggestion, the common answer seems to be: doesn’t matter, just be hygienic. When I find a regular MT I will be sure to ask for preference.
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So I was leaving my favorite spa after another fun time. I usually park a little distance from the spa, and as I am walking to my car I see this guy who appears to be heading directly toward the spa door. The clincher is that he was looking around like he was at the top of the FBI's 10 most wanted list at a police convention. He was more obvious than a giant turd in a punchbowl.

This goes back to something I say here all too often. Know and understand the risks as they apply to your situation. You can't get arrested for walking into a spa. If a spa is too hot for some reason, and someone could recognize you, find another location, or whatever he had going on. If it makes you that nervous, find another venue that's more private.

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