Been to a few spots and they’ve been all hitting the mark in terms of signs. Except 2 of them will ask at the end if I want to pay to extend the time. I’m not sure if this is a subtle signal or just an extension. What’s your experience?
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There is an AAMP that is pretty close to me, but it's generally not quite my cup of tea, but if the lady is decent, it's a pretty good value. My usual AAMP is a long drive, and expensive compared to a typical AMP, and all the AMPs in my usual area are closed thanks to the ICE-men.
So I decided to bite the bullet and hit the local AAMP. There is no massage or pretext. I get undressed, hit the shower real quick to clean up the day's swamp @$$, and back to the room. She gets undressed and is actually quite attractive, but with some extra pounds. She drops to her knees and starts a pretty good BBBJ. After a bit of this she has me get on the bed and she climbs on to resume her BJ, and I ask her for 69.
We're each doing our mutual thing and I eventually erupt, and she doesn't skip a beat. Some MTs will swallow, but normally they would hop off immediately to go spit. This did not happen. Instead, she kept going. At first I thought she was just doing a nice post-nut cool-down, but she kept motoring, and at one point it became clear that she was working to get a second round from me, which was NOT EVER going to happen. Not anymore, at least.After about 5 minutes of this I tapped her butt to let her know she should stop.
We chatted and cuddled for a few minutes before I grabbed another quick shower and headed out a few grams lighter.
4HEM
I’ve recently started hosting privately instead of at the spas. Endless reasons why I chose this over that.
My clientele isn’t booming just yet, I’ll get there. No Walkins or Advertising from elsewhere so I understand that there will be less clients for me.
I would like to go back but just to a different spa (that isn’t a sister spa). I’ve also considered dancing again, but at a different club…
Being Miss Independent is who I wanna be. Am I be unrealistic?
4HEM
Speaking for a friend of mine. He typically gets 60 minutes and enjoys the massage, but it doesn't do much for him sexually. So he finds himself getting stuck in his head, trying to just keep getting turned on in case she does anything grabby early on. But of course it has the opposite effect.
So lately, "full mast" comes and goes, and isn't locked in until he gets a chance to start touching them. I guess he's a romantic.
The other bummer is usually when they undress, they do it quick in a corner or something. It really gets him going if he can undress them, but it seems like they don't really understand what he wants a lot of the time.
Just wondering if anyone else is like this.
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Everyone I go to has cameras and I’m afraid if a raid happens the cops will see all the records.
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does anyone know what happened to the website AMPreviews? It helped a lot reading all the reviews but for some reason it was taken down. Any alternativ you guys would recommend? 4HEM
First time and it didn't disappoint!
She played up for the camera and loved it!!
I’m a 25-year-old Hispanic guy. After a long-ass week I finally said fuck it, today’s the day I’m getting a happy ending. Been thinking about it for a while.
I went on Rubmaps, cross-checked some Google reviews, and picked a spot that kept getting good mentions about one specific woman. Hit the ATM, then headed straight there after work.
Soon as I walked in the bell rang and this busty mature Latina came out fat ass, big tits, not the prettiest face but I’d smash in a heartbeat. She spoke Spanish, I speak Spanish, so it felt easy right away. And I’ll translate from here.
“Hey amor, you here for a massage?”
“Yeah.”
“60 minutes?”
I paid cash and we went back to the room. She told me to take everything off and stepped out. While I’m still undressing she opens the door without knocking and gets a full view. I’m like “still changing!” She just smiles. Then when I lay down she makes me stand up again so she can fix the towel and blanket properly, so yeah, she saw everything.
We start chatting while she’s massaging me where we’re from, how long she’s been doing this, all that. She’s working my legs heavy and making sure to grab my ass every time she comes up. Once I flip over she does my chest and neck for a bit, then stands up, looks at me, and just grabs my cock.
“You want it?”
I said yes instantly.
She asked what I had for a tip. I was already horny as fuck so we worked something out. She said she’d take her tits and ass out. Deal.
She pulls her top down and drops her pants. God damn, those fat tits looked even better up close. She gets right to it one hand on my balls, the other stroking like a pro. I’m grabbing her tits and ass, pulling her closer so I can suck on them. She definitely knew what she was doing.
She tried sliding a finger in my ass and asked if I wanted it. I passed. She went back to stroking and playing with my balls, talking dirty: “You like this?” and “What I love most is getting that nut out of that cock.” The way she said it with that face… I was done. I exploded everywhere and she kept slowly stroking, milking every last drop.
After she gave me a warm towel, let me shower quick, then slipped me her number. “Text me when you’re coming back. Sometimes they don’t like telling people I’m here.”
First time doing this so I got no clue what normal rates are. If you know the scene and wanna tell me if I got a fair deal, just message me. 4HEM
I’m in my car writing this fresh from the session I just had.
When I first started this hobby, I wasn’t sure if I was looking for adventure or simply just a good time. I’m still extremely new to all of this, so I want to make it clear that these are just my own personal opinions and reflections on how I think I want to navigate this world moving forward.
First off, thank you to everyone in this community who shares their insight and experiences. It genuinely helped me feel more comfortable exploring this hobby. Also, fair warning, sorry for the wall of text.
My very first session was about a month ago at a local AMP. The MT I met was super attractive, friendly, welcoming, and honestly just took great care of me. Long story short, it ended with me tipping extra to have another MT join us, and it turned into both an L2 and L3 session. Overall, it was an amazing first experience.
About a week later, I went back to the same place and saw the same MT again. At that point, I already knew she was my ATF. Since she remembered me and there was already familiarity, I paid the HF and tip upfront, and it turned into another great sensual massage along with another really good L2/L3 experience.
That being said, I still wasn’t sure how much I wanted to explore this hobby, so for my third outing, I decided to try a different AMP. Long story short, it just wasn’t great. It felt very mechanical and left me pretty dissatisfied overall.
After that, I came across an ad for an independent provider and thought maybe it would feel more personalized or customer-focused. Unfortunately, same result. It felt mechanical again and honestly just left me feeling shitty afterward.
So I basically went from hitting the ground running with two amazing sessions to suddenly being two-for-four.
At that point, I started thinking maybe I was going a little too hard too fast and should slow down for a bit. But I also felt like I needed a palate cleanser after those last two experiences, so I decided to go back to the original AMP one more time.
I got greeted by my ATF, paid the one-hour HF, and got taken to a room. This time, though, a different MT came in instead. Honestly, I welcomed it immediately because she was really cute, attractive, bubbly, and friendly right off the bat. It's just an overall great vibe.
To shorten things up, she was already great during the massage before any extra tip even came into play. After the flip, we ended up having an amazing L2 session, and we spent the rest of the hour cuddling, laughing, and just vibing together. It honestly felt really genuine and comforting.
And sitting here now writing this, I think I realized something about myself: I’m a creature of habit. I always have been.
That AMP is officially three-for-three for me, and every MT I’ve interacted with there has made me feel welcomed and taken care of in their own way. I think I’ve realized I value consistency, comfort, and good energy way more than constantly chasing adventure.
Hopefully, that place and those ladies stick around, though I know things can always change in this hobby. But for now, I think I found my groove.
Just wanted to share my experience and perspective. Thanks, y’all.
4HEM
I’ve had my fair share of L1 experiences over the last 4 years. I’m starting to get bored of it and I’ve contemplated going to L3 for a while now.
My problem is that every time I attempt to go to a place for L3, I chicken out. A million thoughts run through my mind like getting busted, STD’s, a bad performance, etc.
For anyone that’s also dealt with this, what helped you get past this? Is L3 even worth the stress in your opinion? 4HEM
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This post will be updated whenever new wiki pages, revisions, or useful community resources are added.
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| FAQ | The essential beginner guide explaining etiquette, expectations, safety, and how to engage respectfully. |
| Acronyms | A complete glossary of abbreviations and common terminology used across the community. |
| Code of Conduct | Community standards that define respectful participation and appropriate communication. |
| Community Rules | The official subreddit rules covering privacy, posting, and compliance expectations. |
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| AMP Guide | Learn how to identify and visit Asian Massage Parlors responsibly and within community guidelines. |
| AAMP FAQ | Understand how AAMPs operate in apartments, houses, or hotels, including booking and rotation details. |
| Websites | A reference list of forums, directories, and research platforms used by hobbyists. |
| Ad Check | A practical guide to verifying ads, identifying red flags, and protecting personal information. |
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| Signals | A communication guide for reading and responding to nonverbal cues in a professional and respectful way. |
| Happy Endings | A detailed explanation of what to expect during an erotic massage and how to maintain proper conduct. |
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| VOIP & Texting | Tips for using secure communication tools and safeguarding your personal number. |
| What to Do If Busted | Step-by-step instructions on what to do if questioned, detained, or charged. |
| Scams & Threats | Identification of common scams including cartel threats, deposit scams, and impersonation tactics. |
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| Sexual Health & Prevention | A comprehensive guide to testing, protection, PrEP, PEP, DoxyPEP, and local health resources. |
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| Flairs | Explanation of post and user flair systems, including media and verification categories. |
| Provider Participation | Guidelines for providers who wish to engage safely without promotion or solicitation. |
| AMA Guide | How to request and conduct a verified AMA event in coordination with moderators. |
| Media Submission Rules (Photos & Videos) | Standards for consent signage, privacy, and submission quality for all visual content. |
| Water Bottle Tradition | An explanation of the discreet community photo tradition used to signal session experiences. |
| Discord | Instructions for joining the official Discord and troubleshooting access issues. |
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I went to my favourite AMP a couple days back to see my ATF. Some miscommunication on the phone happened and the mamasan basically said "oh she's not working today". I was like well shit might as well try someone new. I said "well who do you recommend?" She gave me a name and said "she good".
Apparently the girl was a bit new, so I was a bit nervous as to whether she'd be good or not. I like the relationship I have with my ATF, she knows what to do and doesn't do the whole massage bit in the start, just gets to work. When I entered the room, the lady was basically half asleep on the table and just woke up.
This lady though, she seemed late 30s, skinny physique but good ass. The face was okay but the body was young. I'm a big fan of nice hands and arms. Her pressure was great. Light and gentle, and her teasing was very to the point, when she went to my legs she just starting grazing the balls and I flipped immediately.
Maybe it was because it was our first session today but the handy was incredible. Usually they start jackhammering but this lady teased my cock for a solid 10-15 mins. Trying different strokes, using her fingers, teasing my frenulum, after a while I was going wild. She was very patient and kept asking "feel good?". It was great fun, almost made me forget all about my ATF.
By the end of the teasing I was so ready to finish that when she actually started stroking properly I was overstimulated and finished within a minute. She didn't have the best personality or communication skills. She wasn't as chatty as my ATF so I was a bit awkward with her. And when the massage was over she just rested her head on the bed and fell back into a nap. I was like wtf.
She just did her job, and that's it. But she did it very well. I tipped accordingly and told her I'd be back. Now I'm considering seeing her again instead of my ATF for the next few sessions, but idk if she gave me this much attention because it was my first with her, or if this is just how she is.
4HEM
I used to be within a 20 min drive from a 24-hour AMP, which was my go-to. I'm now over an hour away, so I've been looking for one close to my area, but It's just disappointment after disappointment. Either they skimp.on the massage and try to turn a 60 min session into 15 min, or they overcharge massively for the lackluster services. I'm 35 and I prefer them to be around my age, if not a little younger but a lot of the ones I've gone to they are easily pushing late 40s-50s.
I've tried the online review sites, tried Google reviews, and even tried going to some of the backpage-esque sites but it's always false advertising. Any one have a sure fire way to make sure they can find what they're looking for?
4HEM
I had my first AMP experience without a H.E. I was kind of disappointed as I was looking forward to it but I enjoyed the massage at least. I spent a total of $110 for it smh. $55 for full body 1hour plus tip $20 upfront. Then when the last 10 minutes was coming up she whispered extra 30 minutes for $30 , I was like okay this must be the part where the H.E. Is coming up I was excited. But nope 30 minutes went by without a H.E. She was like times up and I asked her for “extra” she said only regular massage here. I thought this spot signaled H.E. AMP, it had neon lights and closed late. I guess I was wrong. Not saying the name but it is located above a comic book store in midtown east !
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So last time I saw my ATF at my favourite AMP I experimented with AI. Prepared a small text in Chinese translated with context to help her do a happy ending specifically how I wanted it. It ended up going well but not perfectly well so this time I made it way more detailed.
I not only explained to her how to stroke, but how I wanted her to tease and slowly build up the strokes. I also told her what to do when I finish and how to know that I am about to. This is all very important for me personally because I take about 20 mins to finish. I want to finish in 30 seconds like most guys, way more fun for me.
I also told her what stuff to say or do you turn me on verbally. Personally I'm not a big fan of the generic stuff they say "oh fk me" "oh u so hard" "nice big cock fk me". It's a turn off and a distraction. I'd rather they make noise or breathe or say something I'd want them to say.
The experience was mind-blowing. She immediately said "ok yes I understand don't worry" and went to work. The pressure and strokes were great and the finish was amazing. Best part was that she herself seemed to enjoy it more too, maybe because she was more engaged in the whole activity and hearing it in her native language made it more easy for her to do her job.
I would strongly urge you guys to give this a try. Just remember to tell gpt to add cultural context to the translation to make it more accurate. Otherwise it tends to give very literal translations for words like "teasing" or "finishing".
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So I had just moved into a new area and on my way to the local home improvement store yesterday I noticed a amp across the street. Figured I'd drive by after picking up a few things. Immediately hit all the right chords, tinted/covered windows, open to 10, generic stock photos etc. figured why not? Let's pop my head inside and see what the vibe is. I was greeted at the door not two steps in by a much older woman (probably MMS) and I had noticed that they had 30 min options so like everything else that day I thought what the hell.
As she was telling me that the 30 min didn't come with a flip, I noticed certificates of license for the ladies that work there (which Ive never seen before at other amps). At this point I could've walked away but I've been sleeping on an air mattress for a few weeks so yeah still wasn't a bad idea to soothe some sore muscles. She leads me to the back after paying the HF and I strip down all the way, throw the towel on the floor and just lay down. Knock on door and then a pronounced "OH!" As a new MT walks in, she sees me laying in my birthday suit. At this point I'm like yeah def nothing's gonna happen just enjoy the massage.
We start chit chatting a bit and then after a few mins of silence. I can feel her only using one hand on my back, and it def feels like effort suddenly dropped and that's when I hear it. The soft click clack of texting. I didn't say anything but was like ok? Lol then suddenly both hands again. This must of happened 2 or 3 more times during the session. Can't lie I was hoping she was texting MMS about extra services but I didn't get my hopes up. Then at the end I got the hot towel clean up and she told me to "hold on to my towel" and then left the room. Confused I waited a few mins before I got up and got dressed. I never thought to check the towel when I left to see if she left me anything.
So as I'm walking out i notice a nice plush robe on the back of the door, I get to the front desk and hand the MT a small tip (regardless of extra service or not I always like to tip service folks) and ask about if they have a table shower. Her eyes light up again and before she can say anything I assure I didn't mean now but next time I come in it would be nice to include. She gives me the price for 30 mins but then tells me it's included in the 2hr massage. Both seem pretty happy and give me big smiles as I walk out the door.
So no idea how it went, I know I look younger and a lot less deviant than I am but now I wonder if that's to my disadvantage or if I just did all the wrong things. Afterwards I did some research and they seem to have a few reviews that would imply good times to be had but I'm kinda at a loss if I should go back. It's prob the closest one I found so far to my new place.
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Well, Vietnam set the bar so high that I don't think any other place can compete.
Anyways, I was in Hanoi and found this L2 place online. Due to local laws and police, nothing more than L2 is allowed in spas and apparently they are pretty strict about it. Anyways, I took a taxi there and was met outside on the street by a doorman. He said something on the walkie talkie and led me into the elevator.
As soon as I got off the elevator, I was greeted by an older lady and led into a waiting area with massage chairs that reminded me of the massage place from Rush Hour 2. This was the only part of the experience I did not like. I was really hoping to get out of here soon because there were other mongers in here, probably 4-5 guys, most with a friend or a group of guys.
A guy in a suit came over to me and handed me a menu. The shortest and cheapest option was 60min and included L1 and L2. The next level up was 80min and included L1 & L2 with a "finish wherever you like" clause. The next steps up were more time and more finishes.
I picked the 80min option which was priced about the same as what the house fee for a 80min massage would cost in the US, paid, then was led to a room. Let me say that this was the nicest massage room I've ever been in. There was a shower with steam sauna, bathtub, sink, urinal, and a large bed.
I sat down and a waiter brought in tea and fresh fruits. A few minutes later, a young woman, very thin, and early 20s came in. I'd give her a 9 out of 10. She was in a stunning black dress and heels. Her English speaking abilities weren't great, but she tried her best. She told me her name and said she was 20. She asked if I wanted the sauna and I said yes.
She turned on the sauna and I went inside. As I was in the sauna, she started running the bath. A few minutes later, I was burning up in the sauna, so I came out and she led me into the bathtub. At this point she was completely nude. Her body was very nice and the only negative I'd say was fake boobs which I'm just not a fan of.
In the bathtub, she poured water on me and then started lathering me up with soap. It felt like she really enjoyed this and wasn't just doing it because she was getting paid. She massaged my junk and parts under the junk, and was giggling the entire time. Finally, she faced away from me and sat in my crotch area and started washing my legs. During this time, I was able to touch whatever I wanted.
After the bath, we went to the bed and enjoyed some fruits and tea, then she got started on the massage while I was laying on my stomach. The best part was "nuru" gel which has this interesting cooling sensation. She poured some of that on and rubbed her boobs on my back, going up and down. Eventually she asked me to flip over and started with the same thing on my chest. Nuru gel with boob rub.
Eventually she moved lower down and got to work. I finished quickly after saving up for a few days, then she went over to the sink to spit and wash out her mouth. Then she came back to the bed and gave me more massage, snuggled, then ate more fruits and drank more tea.
My favorite part of the experience is that she felt like she enjoyed everything she was doing. Let's be honest, she was being paid, but she didn't feel like she was just going through the motions.
4HEM
2nd time posting here.
Going to a new AMP today so wish me luck, seen it for a while but saw some absolutely stunning women inside so thought I'll check it out now . Anything I should try this time round?
4HEM
So this last weekend I went out of state for a weekend trip with some friends. On Sunday I left a little early so I could get home and catch up on some sleep. For a little background I planned on doing some shopping on this trip but didn’t end up using my whole budget. I decided since I already have this money I should stop by my favorite place.
I WhatsApp messaged my favorite masseus and asked for an appointment for Sunday right around the time I’d be passing by that area which is on the way home. She said it’s good and I got excited. She also gave me a different address. Still close by the old place but she said she works somewhere else now. It happens so I was cool.
Fast forward to Sunday and I’m getting excited. 5.5 hours to there gives you a lot of time to think. I get there and it’s the typical spot. Abandoned and kinda sketch looking. I ring the bell and a different girl answers. I ask for my lady and she says she’s not here. I’m like what do you mean. She said she’d be here. The MMS came in and said “this her friend. She really good.” I was contemplating leaving but I thought I already came this way may as well. I tell them okay and we go upstairs. Yeah this place was two stories lol.
We discuss payment. She said just give her whatever you give the other girl. I gave her a little less just bc of the bait and switch but she was cool with it. She leads me to the bed which is a full on queen bed. She puts on some Chinese pop music. She gets undressed and she looks great. Nice natural breasts and an average sized butt. She gets on and starts kissing down my chest.
As she gets lower she goes into a BBBJ. It wasn’t that great honestly. Couldn’t feel much. She does this for a few minutes and then says “You ready?” I ask ready for what. She goes to the bedside table and pulls out a rubber. She then proceeds to put it on me and gets into cowgirl. At first she goes slow just up and down. After about a minute she starts feeling it and starts fucking me. I felt like a girl at this point. She was thrusting back and forth and side to side. I think she was enjoying it more than me. I could feel her muscles clenching a little. She had her face next to me then her hands on my chest. I was rocking up and down the bed. I’m a big dude so this is not an easy feat.
This went on for a little bit. I finished after a few minutes but she seemed so into it that I let her go until she was tired. She then hopped off and laid down next to me to catch her breath. She looked at my member and said “good boy”. She then proceeds to grab some wipes and cleans us both off. I still had some time left on the session so she gave me a massage. This was a great massage. Usually at these places you only get one or the other.
She rubs my back all over. Using actual technique that I’ve had done to me at legit places. After driving 13 or so hours round trip it felt real good on my back. After that she cleans me off with a warm towel and we both get up and get dressed. She takes me downstairs and says “give me a hug”. She squeezes me tight so I reciprocate and lift her off her feet. She laughs and giggles then says have a good day. I walk back to my truck and think for a minute. Wow that was great.
While it was a bait and switch it was amazing. The other girl I expected was hot but she was kind of out of it last time. She just sat there and expected me to do everything. Whereas this girl was the total opposite. I got to lay there and be a pillow princess. She also offered me some food but I was going to the local burger joint on the way home so I declined. Also wanted to get out of that sketchy neighborhood.
4HEM
New to this hobby this year. I try not to frequent too much and only go when I have excess cash.
I like trying new spots while I’m still finding my go to. I have a short list of places I really like but only repeated places once.
Before I try a new spot I like to call in and check the vibe. I check prices and ask for a card to make an appointment. Recently also been asking if they offer table showers.
Does anyone else scout ahead? Part of me does it because I like to know where I’m going and it helps eases the nerves of an already semi nervous situation.
4HEM