r/fatadmirertalk

So I experience ableism, racism, sexism, and anti-queerness. With the resurgence of the R word, I've been thinking more about how little I experience covert ableism, et al. I feel the structural effects of them and do get a wild comment every now and then, but it's not really in my face day in and day out, at least online and in the liberal/moderate cities I've lived in. Like I can remember each time someone's called me a racial slur. But a fat bitch*? Couldn't tell you. The frequency and boldness with which people say fatphobic shit feels really unique. Do people who also live at these intersections feel this way or is just the communities I find myself in?

*I realize this is simultaneously a sexist comment

I decided to try to get back into the dating scene after a sort of chaotic decade of life. I know ghosting isn’t a strictly bbw/ssbbw thing. It just destroys my confidence when someone says “oh body type doesn’t matter” or “I love big women” but disappear after I share what I look like or shorty thereafter. I’d much rather a “hey, this isn’t working out.”

I can't believe that I need to say this here. We love fat men. You'll are lovely.

So where are the women who love us big guys are there more groups I can’t find on here? I’m trying to find some people that would love to see me and make them happy and my self happy ! I appreciate the love from my last post I’m done being sad and feeling hurt . Thank you all for the kind words . Someone will find me sexy and love to see me so where can I look I need some groups or links lol dms open

I’m 50 and 113kg. My gorgeous wife is 47 and 100ish kg. She has a fantastic bust, beautiful round tummy, nice chunky butt and in between her legs is my paradise.
I have tried to make her feel hot and sexy for years. We have been together for 29 years. To me there is no one hotter than her.
I bought lingerie, correct size. Told to return it which I did. I tell her how she makes me feel, I’d happily be intimate with her multiple times a day.
This woman just scoffs at me and gets upset. She is in perimenopause which doesn’t help.
What am I doing wrong? What does she not hear what I’m saying and believe it?
Plus size ladies, I’d love some insight.

Hello,

is this a common thing?

I would like to hear your thoughts/experience/advice on this topic.

Thank you

Hello!

I've been gaining weight intentionally, and I'm finally approaching being overweight. I now have a bit of a pot belly going.

I'm currently around 200 lbs, at 6'4". I had started this journey at a stick thin 155.

I paused my gain for a bit, but my wife and I had a real discussion about it and she thinks we could make videos to sell.

This would involve POV (from my perspective) of her playing with my belly and teasing me - and of course feeding me to fatten me up!

So of course, as new videos are made I will get fatter and fatter...

I asked her how fat she's comfortable with me getting and it's up to me.

There doesn't seem to be a lot of this type of content, so I'm wondering if any of you would be interested in watching it.

If so, how fat do you think I should get? How many pounds should I gain?

It does feel like I'm the only one. When I accidentally end up in a relationship I feel safe enough and I mention that I love the fuller softer form and when I dare to mentioned that the greatest love one can show towards me is the will to be softer and so in the end I get the same results by me ending up being alone. So I'm at the point to never share what I like because it only proves that loving a softer shape is something to be demonised, especially since said individuals "defeating" said struggle by loosing significant weight years prior and me darling to mention that their past selves where what I'm looking for is just labeled as wrong.

So by learning from my mistakes I decided to never mention what I enjoy for in any future relationship to mention what calms my mind and soul because clearly I do not deserve such.

Waaaa

Je me déteste quand j'éprouve ce sentiment. Pourtant c'est humain.

Je suis séparé depuis 3 ans d'une longue relation.

Je suis passé par divers étapes la colère, le déni, la frustration et j'en passe

J'étais absolument pas prêt à rencontré quelqu'un ni même pour un soir. Trop de haine dans le corps. Je me suis donc concentrer sur le travail. Mais en dehors de ça peu de vie social.

Puis, les beaux jours aidant, je viens tout juste de ressentir un sentiment d'apaisement. Je me suis trouvé un nouveau groupe d'amis. Parmi il y'a de bien jolies filles dont une très ouvertes (manque de bol, elle ne peut pas être à la table de celle pour qui je suis ici avec vous) et c'est cool.

Le MAIS c'est qu'un de mes pote plaît plus que moi et surtout vis à vis de 2 superbe créatures qui sont plus à mon goût que lui.

J'ai appris qu'il recevais des nude d'une en particulier et ça m'a profondément vexé, énervé et déçu, sachant qu'il savait qu'elle me plaisait et qu'il n'a jamais eu de mots tendre ou d'attrait pour les femmes rondes. Et le pire c'est qu'elles se battent presque pour lui.

Dorénavant, a la guerre comme à la guerre. Je veux tt mettre en œuvre pour réussir à contrecarrer ses plans (même si c'est elles qui décident) . Si vous avez des conseils ?

Puis je me dis, si tu veux quelque chose tu va le chercher la ou il est, et même si c'est dans les bras d'un autre, mon bonheur passe avant tout

I don’t want this post to just come off as me fishing for compliments. I guess I’m really looking to hear from women around my age if they really find overweight men attractive. I’ve gained a lot of weight since starting WFH back in 2020. As my weight increased, I’ve noticed how many less dates I get on dating apps and just how less women interact with me in general out in public on a day to day basis.

For most of my life I kind of took myself out of the running when it came to finding love and a meaningful, reciprocal relationship. I just assumed it wasn't something that was really in the cards for me. Over the last year or so, though, I've done a lot of work on my self-image. I definitely still struggle with my body image at times, but for the first time in my life I genuinely believe there are people out there who might see me very differently than I see myself. Communities like this one have actually been a big part of helping me get there.

So I've been putting myself out there, and...it's been rough. I've met people I really connected with only to find out they were married, emotionally unavailable, or they just ghosted without warning mid-conversation. I know that's dating, and I know people of every size deal with ghosting and disappointment, but I really have to stop myself from being like "oh, its because I'm fat, and if I was pretty this wouldn't have happened". I'm trying really hard not to become cynical and to remind myself that finding your person usually means kissing a lot of metaphorical frogs first....but I'm also 41, and after another disappointment I found myself downloading dating apps again, lasted less than an hour before deleting them, and remembered just how profoundly they are not for me. They feel like poison to my soul.

So I'd really love to hear from those of you in bigger bodies who have found happy, long-term relationships. Where did you meet your partner? Was it online? Through friends? A hobby? Reddit? Pure dumb luck? I'm not looking for advice on optimizing my dating profile or which app to try next. I'm honestly just looking for some stories that remind me this is possible, because I'd really like to keep believing that it is.

To add context,I come from a conservative Arab Muslim culture that sees discussion about sexuality as a taboo I hit puberty at the age of 14 and I always liked fat girls(like really big) but I was very ashamed because people at house and school always bullies them and thought they are ugly and most importantly that obesity is unhealthy and that being attracted to it a sign of manipulation and control because a loving partner will support their lover to lose weight for their health not keeping them fat because they find it sexy,I struggled a lot with my sexuality (used to post here too about it back in the day) and vented to strangers online about it because I felt as long as obesity is unwihealthy,my desires are wrong,I couldn't even discuss it in my native language because of the shame and the conservative culture towards sex

Anyway,this day I managed to be honest with my friend(he knows I like fat ladies but I didn't say it explicitly to him in our language Arabic or said it in voice,I just said it in text messages),I literally told him that I love girls to be fat and that they are the most beautiful and my type then asked about details about weight and etc,I told I like girls who are above 90Kg(200 lbs ) to even 120-140(300lbs ) and that I like big round bodies not a muscular fat one,I was really excited to do that and he said jokingly that he will help me to find the most beautiful fat girl to date,I told him I was anxious when I told him this because this is the most honest sexual discussion I ever had

Note:sorry if this post sounds like an obsession with sex or creepy stuff, I'm really not like that and I respect women for being humans but I really had anxiety all my life because of the conservative culture, bullying and my preference

I'm proud to love the big girls with no shame no more

I love myself and my life with all its challenges

Thanks

as someone who is a ssbbw and this can go for any size, gender, etc, but I deal with extreme hyperpigmentation in my intimate areas, inner thighs, my bum and crack, and it's jus so... I'm not speaking for others who deal with this, but sometimes I personally feel so yucky and ashamed of myself for it. I've tried so many remedies to get rid of it. I grew up with it, like I've always had dark knees, dark neck, etc and it might be genetics too?? I'm also Hispanic, but I dunno.. that's why I also really haven't done anything intimate with others, besides one person who was a girl, but that's another story! I guess I jus wish I didn't struggle with this because it makes me really feel bad about myself and I have a harder time showing those areas to others

So I’m 36 definitely a big guy fuck it I won’t like 460lb
I have always been a big guy. But lately I have hated my self I don’t mind being the big guy but I’m always the joke of the gaming party like on Xbox with my friends it’s always big jokes and I laugh it off and joke back but man it gets fucking old. My ex of 11 years off and on like we have kids together they are not mine by blood but only know me as their father. So they are mine is how I see it no matter what. We are off and on all the time me and their mom. The other day she made a comment after we had sex and said you really need to get a bigger dick. And it broke me like yea I know I’m fucking big weight wise and yea I get it because of that I have a small penis. But fuck it hurt.

Like I said I don’t know if I’m in the right place to vent like this but I needed to. Thanks

Hello, I’m so happy to find this in a man aged 47 and Irish, I’m wondering if there are any Irish or northern Irish SSBBWs about here ? I’m six one tattoos and beard and muscular build. Ireland seems to have no SSBBWs that I can find so please come say hello and I’d love to chat and have a laugh. Dave

J'ai découvert cet espace par hasard et j'en suis très très content.

Je peux enfin m'exprimer, partager avec des personnes qui sont là pour la même chose que moi. Profité des témoignages de personnes plus expérimentés.

Je me sens libre. Et ça, ça n'a pas de prix.

So my wife is somewhere between 260 and 300 lbs I’ve only seen the scale a few times and her weight fluctuates a lot. I’m not specifically attracted to her because of her weight, I like women of all shapes and sizes but I do enjoy her size. So since we started dating I’ve been trying to get her to take the mustache ride and she’s always said no because of her size she thought she would hurt me. Well idk what came over her but a few nights ago she asked if we could do it and I couldn’t have said yes faster. It was amazing! It was about 10 minutes long and by the end of it she was just grinding on my face.

Does anyone else have any experience getting their face sat on by a big girl?

J'aime trop cette période.

Je peux sortir mes ensembles polo sport, des fêtes s'organise plus souvent ça part même en vacances. Ça picole un peu plus aussi 😂.

Mais vraiment ce que je préfère, c'est regarder ces jolies filles déambuler dans leurs robes d'été, tu sais? Les coloré qui lorsqu 'elles sont bien ajusté.

Qui les rendent sexy à mort. Des femmes ordinaires qui cachent sous le tissus de véritables déesses.

Dédicace à Cathy qui cette semaine m'a vraiment rendu fou

Im a 23 year old fit 6ft black man who actually Finds BBW’s attractive and their my type but they’re kind of hard to talk to in Iowa where I live but I’d really like to become friends with one, chat and maybe a bit more tbh.