r/fatadmirertalk

Ever since I was a child I've been attracted to fat women.

Always liked everything fat in a woman and it's not just the obvious parts in a woman's body like boobs, belly and ass. Double chin? I'm turned on, back rolls? I'm going wild, chubby hands/feet and my dick's producing pre-cum. I fully own it and I've always been open about my preferences but I've also always tried to find an answer.

Why does my friend prefer a slim body but my dick goes out of my underwear when a girl is walking with a fat jiggly belly in front of me??

Is there something psychological behind it or is it just an evolutionary thing within my genes? and if it is an evolutionary thing then why doesn't my brother find a fat woman as attractive as I do?

I'm writing this hoping that there are more people like me who are interested to know the reason behind their intense love for fatter bodies. I love fat women a lot and I'd really like to know why I'm so different.

(People have always seen me to be different, someone who's not like everyone else in the way I act and the way I handle situations. I tend to be cold and not very caring but I am deeply empathetic)

Hi there.

I'll start out by saying I'm someone who's pretty open minded when it comes to body types, but would say I'm more attracted to women who are curvy/plus size. I'm pretty short and leanish so part of me likes to think that I see the contrast as very attractive (it's the same case with taller women but that's for a different topic). I typically hear about how amazing cuddling is with women of this body type. And well, I also have a thing for thighs and ass so...

Anyways, the main reason I'm posting is because I'd like to hear about your experiences with someone who's on the lower end of average and how you made it work. I feel like I'm average but have been called small a couple times and it's been weighing down my confidence. But the main reason is because since I know curvy/plus size women typically have a lot of cushion, it may be harder with someone who's not packing. I'm in a bit of a stalemate because on one side, I'm attracted to these kind of women and would not want to exclude them from my dating pool if I didn't have to. On the other, I would want to be able to give my partner as much pleasure as possible, and I'd hate to fall for someone, only to find out we're not physically compatible, or worse I get laughed at again. I feel like the only things I've been able to find online would result with getting cucked/cheated on which I'm not into or is good for me mentally...

I'm pretty inexperienced if that wasn't obvious so that may also play a part into why I'm so in my head about all of this, but I'd like to hear about if it's still worth pursuing if I'm not big.

I admire all sizes of bbws but the one thing I don't get is why the smaller butts don't get more attention. I love a girl with a big belly and no ass. The contrast is what just drives me wild. I love a big booty too but would take a flat butt over a big booty any day? Am I alone in this?

Yeah its a pretty straightforward question, but am i strange for liking that or?

On one hand, I don't want her to think I'm shaming her. We do have a relationship where she KNOWS I love her body and I fuck her for HOURS and knock out out of the park.

On the other hand, i don't want her to think I'm fetishizing her because of a number. She wants to lose weight to get healthier and asked me if I'll still love her if she lost weight before, and I really would because she's the love of my life.

Her weight truly doesn't matter to me and won't increase or decrease my attraction to her. It would only satisfy my curiosity.

How do I go about asking her?

sorry, a little bit of a venting post. i just seem to have a lot of bad luck, specifically when it comes to dating. i've only really dated two people before. the first one took a full year to introduce me to his family. and when it happened, i felt that his family was a little bit judgmental of my weight. it was never really that bad, but i only went to one or two family gatherings in the 3 years that we dated. he also wouldn't hold my hand in public or really even go on any public dates with me. lots of movies at home and takeout.

the guy i'm seeing right now has yet to even officially ask me to be his girlfriend. much less introduce me to family or anything. i know his ex was a college athlete and very skinny. it just gets to a point where i can't help but feel like im only good enough to be kept hidden. he's never outright said anything bad about my weight or anything like that, it's just so hard. i feel like im wasting my time for a guy that doesn't even think im worthy of meeting his family or friends. (seeing eachother for a year and a half btw? like?)

i'm sorry for venting, and i know it's a downer. this has just been my biggest dating complaint as a fat woman. and i know ive seen men talk about being ashamed of their preference here before. it just really sucks feeling like you're not good enough.

and i know everyone is just going to tell me to leave him, i get it. i'm just a little crazy and too attached right now. let me be a little emotional 😔

I've been a fat admirer as long as I can remember, but there was a time where I felt a touch of insecurity pursuing big girls because I was naturally tall and skinny. Sometimes I'd overhear a fat girl say "oh I could never be with a skinny guy, I'd break them!" "It wouldn't look right!" etc. and feel dismayed. Like I had to make myself as big as possible to be attractive to them.

As we mature and unpack a lifetime of fatphobia I came to realise a lot of fat girls felt this way because of societal expectations that fat people had to couple up together. And this is so not true!!

In fact, I've come to find the size and weight contrast in the women I've dated extremely hot and you'd be surprised how many normies find it alluring too. I once saw this dynamic described as 'storybook cute.'

I'm more muscular and athletic now, and lying in bed with a woman who has a big, soft, jiggly belly while I have a narrow, toned waist. Veins which bulge in my hands while hers are soft and pudgy. Toned legs wrapped up in her enormous, pillowy, cellulite covered thighs...

It's the dream. It's everything I could ever want. It's giving pampered princess vibes. It's giving spoiled and taken care of.

If you're a fat girl, and your dream man is someone skinny or "in-shape," Girl, he's out there for you. Don't you dare believe you're unworthy because of your size. There's so many of us dreaming of a woman like you.

I've been single my entire life, I've also been heavy set all my life, and I've always wanted a genuine romantic relationship but it seems like most women aren't into it, which is fine but I'm always constantly rejected or ghosted, how do you keep going after a lifetime of failure? I just want to be touched and cared for and feel genuine longing, ugh.

Hello from a long time lurker in this community!

Although I am happily in a relationship myself, I'm looking to build a little side project for those in the community who struggle with dating. Resources like feabie and curvage are great, but they have a bit of a legacy feel to them, here is what I am thinking:

• There would be three facets to this website/app:
  • A Hinge style swiping interface where you could match and converse with people, but also tip them snacks/meals. Ideally this one-to-one format doesn't just favor content creators. I'm definitely not against content creators, I just think your average feedee deserves love too.
  • An anonymous reddit-style feed where you can make posts, like and comment. If you enjoy a user's post/comment, you can choose to follow them, and if they agree your profiles would be revealed to each other. I'm in favour of this because it maintains your privacy, but if you really resonate with someone you can match them.
  • An old-school anonymous confessions pane. You send up to 3 anonymous, private letters a day to people in your mutual dating pool. You can say whatever is on your mind. Same deal in terms of the reveal, it has to be mutual.

It goes without saying: 18+, no nudity, privacy (moderators can see your texts for safety reasons but they can't link it to your account).

I have plenty of ideas about how to make this work but I don't want to overload you with details. What I am looking for is feedback on this idea. Does it sound good? Do you have any things you would like to see? Thanks!