r/femaleruinedorgasm

I just found this page and had to share my most recent experience. I’ve heard of ruined orgasms but never knew how to achieve them until now.

It was a total accident. I was rubbing my clit through my underwear while laying on my right side and I finally felt properly aroused to edge and prolong my excitement. But i rubbed a bit too fast and stopped. I normally get small spasms when I edge but this was different. It was deep and all consuming. It felt so good, and i wanted to ride the wave. And then it abruptly stopped. I was so frustrated. I felt like I didn’t cum. I didn’t even get to properly touch myself.

I had free time the next day and accidentally ruined myself again. I was on my stomach just putting pressure on my clit through my underwear and then it happened again. It felt so good and then it abruptly stopped. The spasms feel so damn good.

When I tried to properly masturbate this morning, teasing and edging myself to have a normal orgasm, it sucked! I was like, that’s it? My ruined orgasms felt so much better. How can I do it on accident again😪

i’ve been ruining my orgasms for the past few days and keep seeing videos of others ruining so hard it makes my cunt drip just watching it. I want to ruin harder than i ever have, clit twitching, pussy clenching so hard and so desperately it makes me cry. what are some ways i can make my ruins even more intense?? i want to be left shaking and crying, my pussy so sensitive and desperate that i can still feel it dripping and aching for more.

I want you to pound me senseless while I stay taped open, drooling and whimpering, turning my tight little hole into a sloppy, ruined mess that only you own. I’ve spread my legs so wide and taped my dripping cunt completely open for you, just like a helpless, brainless puppy in heat. My swollen clit and pink insides are totally exposed and vulnerable ready to be teased, stretched, fucked, and completely destroyed.

There is nothing better than the sharp ache of an overstimulated clit shutting down instantly during a ruined climax, and that is exactly how every girl should be forced to handle her pleasure since true releases are banned and our only job is constant denial. Men are allowed to cross the line, but we just ride the wave endlessly, which means wrecking my peak is the only type of satisfaction I care about now because the physical tension from a locked-up climax feels absolutely incredible, especially since I am already up to seven ruined orgasms this afternoon

I've been edging and I really want to cum but good girls ruin their orgasms... tell me to ruin, if I get peer pressured I'll do it for sure.

I know a ruin is what I need, I need to be good and and ruin my orgasm, I just wanna cum so bad >.<

I’ve spread my legs so wide and taped my dripping cunt completely open for you, just like a helpless, brainless puppy in heat. My swollen clit and pink insides are totally exposed and vulnerable ready to be teased, stretched, fucked, and completely destroyed.
I want you to pound me senseless while I stay taped open, drooling and whimpering, turning my tight little hole into a sloppy, ruined mess that only you own.

So i want to make a spin-the-wheand for when I'm edging and I'm trying to get ideas of what I should put on there besides just "ruin" and "keep edging".

Does anyone have any suggestions? Like punishments, conditions, etc

Also what should the chances of actually being allowed to ruin be? I don't wanna make it too easy on myself ;)

Obviously stopping as early as possible and maximizing the “hang time” (that ruined edge) is key, but I’ve also heard about clenching and holding it in. Does that make the ruin worse (less pleasure) or actually reduce the ruin?

Also, does using less stimulation — like just one finger and going very slowly help ruin it more effectively?

I can’t really test these myself because I’m denied, but knowing this would be really useful for when I accidentally ruin one. Does anyone have experience with these techniques or other methods to completely ruin an orgasm and minimize pleasure/relief as much as possible? Thanks in advance!

So I've never been able to have back to back orgasms. I'm not multiorgasmic, but I can ruin multiple orgasms. I've once ruined 20 orgasms in 30 minutes because I was told to.

Last night I was given permission to cum from my boyfriend so I decided to edge for a while, get myself all nice and wet and desperate. I've not had in orgasm in about a month and have been too busy to even play with myself, so I took my opportunity to enjoy this.

Unfortunately for me, with my unlimited orgasm budget, I knew I wanted more than 1 so I decided I'd ruin a few of them before having a proper one. Just to prolong the experience.

The first one was normal. Almost too tame. I ruined it so gently I could barely tell I ruined it. It was like a hard edge. I clenched my pussy just to see if I did ruin it and as it clenched involuntarily afterwards, I knew I'd ruined it.

The second broke me. I was listening to a nice short audio that promised a ruined orgasm at the end. Got myself to the edge as he asked. Took my hands off when he said to. Touched myself gently when commanded. But when if came time to cum, he didn't say ruin it... he'd promised the ruin the whole audio and said to ruin it when he said cum. I expected a "cum, now hands off!" Or even a "3, 2, 1, ruin it!". What he did was far worse. He just said "Cum—" and the audio cut out right there. And I ruined completely alone. No voice telling me to ruin it. Just one cut off command and my hands pulling away just before I properly went over. My orgasm ruined from the cut off voice more than my own hands.

Normally when I ruin, it feels good after. Despite the frustration. Not this one. This one hurt. I gripped the sheets knowing full well what I just ruined. I ruined what could've been my best orgasm this year. Toes curling, head on fire, brain melted, body shaking, legs weak... I felt what my body wanted to give me and what I cruelly took away. It was a hard and long orgasm I could've had but instead it was ruined. I felt the ruin continue for a full minute or longer. Half way through my body was still struggling for the orgasm.

I could've touched myself. I could've played just a little bit, with my nipples, with my pussy, with my clit, anything and it would've saved it. I knew any touch and I could enjoy the amazing orgasm even if it would be shortened from the ruin at the start. Anything would've saved it. I could've had the perfect orgasm. But I didn't. I kept my hands by my side. Legs spread. Pussy throbbing. I almost cried it was so powerful.

Two minutes after the ruin, I could still feel it. The pulsing. The ruin. And I knew it was too late to save it. My best orgasm had been ruined and I knew it.

Desperate for another one, I tried to pull another ruin or even a proper orgasm out of my poor pussy. But I was broken. I had one more weak ruin, that may have just been a sad edge, and called it a night. This ruin had been so strong that I couldn't even have my multi-ruins.

I went to sleep horny, tossing and turning all night. I woke up grinding my pussy into my sheets trying to get something more. I'd never been so needy after a ruin. Ever. Now I have to go to work knowing that's going to be my last orgasm for a while. My worst orgasm, my worst ruin.

obviously stopping as early as possible and getting as much hang time as possible but i have also heard about clenching and holding it - does this ruin it more or less? also does less stimulation such as utilising one finger and going slowly ruin it more? i cant really test these due to being denied but this is also why this is useful information for when i accidentally ruin so does anyone know about these methods as well as other methods to completely ruin it?

F4A, 22. I’d love to be a plaything for a couple that won’t let me cum; dominant women are also more than welcome! Everyone, send me your favorite lesbian porn and give me tasks to do—maybe involving ice, since it’s so hot out...
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Im trying to find out the best way to ruin my orgasm and wanted some opinions

What’s the most frustrating way to ruin it ?

Option 1: After several edges, go really slowly, get right to the edge with a soft touch go over it, then stop completely to make it as slow and frustrating as possible
Option 2: After several edges, go fast, get right to the edge, then pull away at the last second to make it feel even more desperate

If there are others way too I’m open to know

As those of you who have followed me for a while already know, I prefer combining edging with pelvic floor training.

Why, you might ask?

The answer is simple. It takes a tremendous amount of control to manage both at the same time.

That is what separates an experienced woman from a complete beginner who still has a long way to go.

A woman who can control herself, handle repeated edging, and stay connected to and in control of her pelvic floor muscles is rare.

That is a shame.

My view of a woman in denial is not just that she should edge, follow instructions, and be accountable for her actions. She should also develop real control, both mentally and physically.

So where do you start? You start here, with me.

Whether you are completely new or already experienced, there is always more to learn.

In my experience, younger women are generally much weaker when it comes to pelvic floor control than older women. So just because you are young, tight, and attractive… sit down for a moment. If I put you head to head in a challenge against a woman in her forties, there is a very good chance she would outperform you.

Being able to manage your needy pussy when it feels like your brain is about to explode…

That is control.

Todays challenge is simple.

Throughout the entire pelvic floor workout below, you must continuously stimulate yourself, either with your fingers or, preferably, a vibrator.

Whenever you get close to orgasm, back off, regain control, and then continue.

The important part is this:

No matter how close you are to an edge, you must keep following the pelvic floor workout exactly as instructed.

That is where real control begins.

Block 1 – Strength
10 rounds.
Contract as hard as you can for 10 seconds.
Relax completely for 10 seconds.

Block 2 – Speed
50 quick contractions.
Contract. Release. Repeat.
Focus on clean repetitions.

Block 3 – Control
Repeat 5 rounds.
Light contraction – 5 seconds.
Medium contraction – 5 seconds.
Maximum contraction – 5 seconds.
Relax completely – 10 seconds.

Block 4 – Endurance
3 rounds.
Hold one strong contraction for 60 seconds.
Rest for 30 seconds.

Block 5 – Recovery
10 slow repetitions.
Slow contraction.
Slow release.
Fully relax between each repetition.

Block 6 – Failure Round
3 rounds.
20 quick contractions.
Immediately hold one maximum contraction for 20 seconds.

Rest for 20 seconds.

When the kegel blocks are done, ruin your orgasm be spreading your pussy wide open and let it contract and twitch for nothing.. you did such a good job!

When you finish:

Which block was the hardest?

When did your muscles start to fatigue?

Was strength, endurance or control your biggest weakness?

What will you improve before doing this workout again?

How was it to edge as you did the kegels?

Real control is not about one perfect contraction. It is about maintaining quality when your muscles want to quit.

Good luck!

Oh my gosh, I just completely ruined my orgasm for the first time and the sensation was absolutely incredible! I was literally staring at myself in the mirror watching my body completely twitch out of control, and it was honestly the cutest thing ever. It definitely made me wish I had a partner there to guide me through it, but honestly, making myself melt completely solo was still an absolute blast.

I’m still trying to figure out the perfect timing for ruined orgasms… Last time I pulled my hand away right at the edge and felt a lot of clenching and lingering pulses afterward, even without touching myself anymore, but I didn’t feel that desperate “ruined” feeling. For those of you who intentionally ruin your orgasms: When exactly do you stop stimulation? Right at the edge, or a second before? What signs tell you that you’ve successfully had a ruined orgasm? Any tips would be appreciated!