r/femaleruinedorgasm

Normally I skip orgasms completely. The crash afterward, that heavy mood drop, total energy drain, and sudden loss of all interest, is just too brutal. That tiny bit of extra intensity you get at the very end simply isn’t worth it. Still, sometimes things slip and I end up going further than planned. While trying to reduce the damage on those occasions, I noticed something interesting: most of the nasty aftereffects seem to come from the later fading stage of the orgasm, once the peak sensations have already died down. So I started stopping early by counting my contractions. The first few are by far the strongest anyway, so by cutting things off after a limited number I still get around 70% of the total pleasure, but only a fraction of the usual post-orgasm hangover. I’m talking maybe just 10% of the normal crash, and my desire bounces back almost immediately. Five contractions feels like the sweet spot for me. I count them out, pull away all stimulation right at five, and then actively bear down and hold tight with my pelvic floor muscles. That seems to shut down any extra involuntary contractions that would normally follow. It usually stops things well before the halfway mark of a normal orgasm. You do need a pretty solid pelvic floor to hold it for around 15 seconds, so people trying this might have to train up for a few weeks first. Interestingly, it doesn’t seem to matter if I make those early contractions weaker or not — I can let them be as strong as they want with zero downside. Holding at five feels strange at first, but in a good way. It’s oddly satisfying, just in a completely different, less sharp kind of pleasure. Anyone else playing around with something like this, or am I the only one doing this weird experiment?

I’m very curious how everyone here relates to ruins. I know there’s some debate over if it can be called a ruin if you enjoy it. It’s debated what exactly constitutes a ruin. For this poll I’d like to just keep it open. If you feel it’s a ruin it’s a ruin. I’m just curious how each person experiences them. In comments I’d be curious to know if people self-ruin or are ruined by partners. If the experience of ruin matches the desire.

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When I started exploring orgasms, I didn't realise for years that I wasn't actually having a proper orgasm. I didn't even know what a ruined orgasm was. When I found out though, it felt right, like ruins were meant for me. I get intensely sensitive right as I'm about to tip over and, before I knew about ruins, it was my instinct to pull away. I don't think I should fight that instinct, it would be like fighting biology or something.

So idk why but the whole entire idea of someone ruining their own orgasm on purpose is so ridiculously hot and psychologically kinky. I love masturbation, love edging, but both love and hate ruined orgasms. I’m a girl and love masturbating my clit and edging it but I def live and hate ruining its orgasm.

I would ruin my orgasm on purpose like pretty darn frequently before and got into it ever since I first started edging but it’s been just so hard to commit to doing it again and I’ve just been binging on full hard orgasms if I’m being honest cause my clit just loves them. Ruining is SUCH a mind-fuck for me.

Idk if that makes sense but it’s just been hard for me to sacrifice full orgasms for ruined ones again cause I’m also scared I’ll get hooked on ruining again and yea lol I’m kinda scared of doing that to my clit again lol I’m so conflicted.

What do y’all think is really best for my clit and me? Are there any good benefits to ruining one’s own orgasm on purpose? Thanks!

Before you begin, ask yourself one question:

Have you trained your body this week, or have you simply given in to your impulses?

A disciplined woman does not start with pleasure.

She starts with preparation.

She trains her body, sharpens her focus, and proves she can stay in control.

This test is extremely effective for measuring your control and your ability to stay focused when your mind and your throbbing pussy want nothing more than to explode. In that state today, you will instead be challenged to focus, take control, and master your horny mind, the ache, and your greedy pussy screaming for more. This is important.

Step 1 Pelvic floor training:
Complete the following before step 2:
- 10 slow contractions, holding each for 10 seconds
- 50 quick hard and fast squeezes
- 10 controlled push repetitions and hold the push for 10 seconds

Step 2 edging with a pussy control twist.

Every time you get to the edge you:
- Perform 5 quick pulses
-Hold one strong contraction for 5 seconds

Then back to stimulation.

Goal:
- Reach the edge at least 12 times
- Regain full control each time
- No orgasm
- If you happen to tip over the edge, ruin your orgasm

The purpose with this is to feel how muscle control changes your sensations and helps you hold yourself together when your body wants to give in.

A trained woman does not rely on luck.
She trains until her body responds exactly the way she wants it to.

A warning for the needy sluts reading this.

This challenge will be much harder for some of you than others. The weak ones will have a rough time.

If your pelvic floor is weak and untrained, you may struggle to follow the contractions properly. If your muscles are highly sensitive, each squeeze can make your pussy throb harder, grow wetter, and push you dangerously close to the edge.

That is the point.

A few well-timed contractions can turn a needy pussy into a trembling mess. Your body may start begging to cum long before your mind is ready.

Good.

That is where your discipline is tested.

Can you keep squeezing and relaxing while your pussy is swollen, desperate, and aching for release?

Or will you lose control like a selfish little slut the moment things become too intense?

A woman learns to stay composed even when every muscle in her body and pussy is trying to drag her over the edge.

Reflection:
- Did you remain in control?
- What part of your body or mind felt weakest?
- What was the hardest part?
- How did it feel contracting and take control of your pussy when reach an orgasm?

Good luck from Sir

Any suggestions for porn where female orgasm is ruined by accident during sex

A couple nights ago, my husband had me right on the brink with his fingers, then pinned me down and pulled away right as I started to tip over the edge. It was this weird mix of awful and amazing that’s tough to describe. I was desperately fighting to free my hand so I could reach my clit, but he kept me firmly in place. We’ve played with this before since he loves seeing me writhe around, but it had never been that intense.This morning while he was at work, I started touching myself while replaying the whole thing in my head. Once I got close, I kept rubbing my clit through the start of the orgasm and then completely stopped. I just sat there letting the waves crash over me with my clit throbbing, refusing to give it any more attention. It was so frustrating and uncomfortable… yet I fucking loved every second of it. First time trying it by myself and I’m pretty sure it won’t be the last, lmao. Just felt like sharing

jsut ruined my orgasm for the first time and it felt sooo good. i went for a few more rounds but on the fifth or so i accidently came T:T

Despite wanting to be a good edgeslut I have zero self control and after not even an hour of teasing myself I came at least three times in a row yesterday. It could have been more but this whore could hardly tell their orgasms apart.

I think I need a denial dom to message me with suitable punishments…
Kinks include bondage, edging, ruined orgasms, latex,humiliation, degradation, piss, rimming, facesitting, intox

I am writing this about her and for her with her consent. She didn’t wish to be named so I will not name her. She didn’t want to read it before I posted it so I hope I get everything correct.

I met her on another app that allows toy control. We hit it off really good really fast taking often online. We are both into much of the same kinks and enjoy sharing our time. We talked quite a bit and played often for a few days when edging and denial was brought up. She has never denied herself and had no actual desire to as she stated from her spreadsheet orgasm tracking and ranking system (I kid you not) that she averages more than every other day, but she trusted me enough to give it a try.
Since the day she has given orgasms to me I have allowed he to have 2 orgasm sessions. The first one she was allowed 1 orgasm. A few days later while being edged, I surprised her with a big session. I was edging her over a call and a remote toy and when we were close the end of the session, I allowed her to let loose. It was a massively intense bunch of orgasms, with her cumming somewhere near 10 times (a decent number for her).
Since then it has been 10 days denied. A few days ago she admitted to me that the edges may actually be feeling even better than the orgasms themselves. She has been working so diligently towards this goal with me and doing everything I ask of her. I have only had a short time with her, and am so proud of how much she is putting into this. I will let her cum soon, but she doesn’t know when or how and won’t until it’s time. I am 100% sure she is going to love it though.

Thanks for reading. I’d like yall to provide maybe some ideas for her to orgasm (nothing demeaning), some encouragement, or just general thoughts. One of her kinks is exhibitionism and I’m sure would like to read your comments.