u/Dependent-Hunt6634

Married 3 years, two young sons.

A year ago I told my wife I fantasize about MFM. She was shocked, felt disrespected, and even worried about getting pregnant by the other guy (I never mentioned creampie). She angrily agreed to “do it once” just to satisfy me, him bare, me with condom, probably to show me how crazy it was.

I dropped the topic after that.

But this past year I’ve been softly testing the waters:

• Detailed hotpast talks during sex → she blushes hard but gets soaking wet.
• Started making her call me “Daddy” and talk dirty like her ex did → she gets extremely wet.
• She bought a very revealing swimsuit that shows off her ass. I told her I get turned on by other guys seeing her, and suggested a public beach. She surprisingly agreed.
• Now I use a dildo while fucking her doggy — she sucks it eagerly and says being used rough turns her on (she’s very submissive).

Does this sound like she’s becoming more open to a real MFM? Worth bringing it up again, or should I keep going slow?

We’re from a conservative East Asian country, so she won’t show it openly even if interested.

Any similar experiences or advice on next steps would be appreciated.

My wife and I have been married for three years and are blessed with two young sons.

A year ago, I confessed my fantasy of sharing her in an MFM threesome. She was deeply unsettled and felt disrespected. She even asked whether I wasn’t afraid of her conceiving another man’s child, even though I had never suggested going unprotected. When I brought it up again, she became angry but reluctantly agreed to do it once to satisfy me, on the condition that the other man would go bare while I wore a condom. I believe she wanted me to experience firsthand how absurd the idea truly was.

Since then, I have never raised the topic again.

Yet over the past year, I have gently guided her through softer explorations. During intimacy, I ask for vivid details of her hotpast. Though she blushes with embarrassment, her body responds unmistakably, as she becomes intensely wet. She insists she feels neither excited nor unexcited by it.

Recently, I learned that her ex used to make her call him Daddy and speak lewdly during sex, so I began doing the same. Her arousal is now undeniable.

A few months ago, she purchased an extremely revealing swimsuit that beautifully accentuates her curves, full hips, and long legs. The first time she wore it at a family-oriented hotel pool, I felt a strange mix of embarrassment and excitement. Later, I told her how arousing it was to see other men admire her, and suggested we visit a public beach so others could see her. To my surprise, she totally agreed.

Lately in bed, I have introduced a dildo. While taking her from behind, she eagerly sucks and worships it as if trying to draw out its release. She becomes deeply immersed and confesses that the sensation of being used excites her. She is profoundly submissive by nature.

I would greatly appreciate your insights. Do these changes suggest she may now be more receptive to a real MFM? Should I gently raise the topic again, or continue with more gradual steps?

We come from a relatively conservative East Asian background, where women are culturally expected to appear modest, even if their private desires run deeper.

Thank you in advance for your thoughts.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

I got publicly outed on bull’s house party, exactly when she was sitting on his lap, his hand all over her legs right in front of everyone…

That moment when your secret fantasy identity gets forced into real life hit different. The humiliation was intense.

My wife is the classic cold, elegant, high-class type of girl. I’m the kind of guy who’s attracted to strong women…I like reliable, dominant types like my momz…so her personality is totally my type. But in bed she’s extremely submissive. Seeing such a strong woman down on all fours like a bitch in heat waiting to get fucked gives me such a crazy rush because of the contrast.

The other day while we were having sex, I asked her what was the sluttiest thing she ever did with her last ex. She told me he’d make her sit, grab both her own ankles, spread her legs straight into a V-shape, completely exposing her pussy, and call him “Daddy” while begging him to fuck her, with a vibrating dildo inside. He would just sit there and watch until he got satisfied. Her ex was more than ten years older, and from what she said, he didn’t treat her very well, at least the fact that he refused to wear a condom because “it feels better raw” says a lot( yeh I know, my wife was easy too.).

I’ve never seen my wife act that bitchy, and I can’t even imagine her saying “Daddy, fuck me.” I know she was probably submissive with other guys too, but having this vivid image still makes me jealous and insanely turned on at the same time.

I also keep wondering… how do her exes remember her when they think back on fucking her? What do they really think of her as a woman? What would they think of me marrying such a woman.

I met my wife through family. She was the sweet church girl who attended every Sunday and told me upfront she was only dating for marriage. As a former player, I initially didn’t plan to go deep with her.

But she was so into me that one night I brought her home, pinned her down, and after she clearly said yes, I fucked her raw… well, after putting on a condom. She seemed so innocent I was genuinely worried she might still be a virgin.

Months later when I asked about her hotpast, she casually told me about her ex (a guy I actually know). They used to fuck like rabbits in his room, afternoon and night, every single time, no condom ever. He always pulled out and finished in her mouth or on her asshole.

Now I’m lying in bed watching her sleep next to our two-year-old son. My eyes trace her thighs and that perfect ass, and I can’t stop thinking about it:

If her ex was balls-deep inside her, pounding away, and just once she got too horny, grinding back on him like a slut while his cock throbbed against her cervix… if he failed to pull out in time and pumped his load straight into her womb.. my entire life would be gone. She’d be his wife. My son wouldn’t exist. Everything depends on whether that guy managed to yank his cock out every single time before he exploded.

After my wife told me some hotpast details, like the time she was fucked by one of my friends(before we met), I can’t stop thinking about it. She said he threw her on the bed, licked from her tits down to her belly button while fingering her until she was soaking and making loud wet sounds. Then when she begged, he said he would fuck her without a condom, and she actually let him, and he cum in her mouth eventually.

Now whenever we have sex, I catch myself doing the exact same sequence and imagining how fucking good it must’ve felt for him to score her like that. It makes me rock hard every time.

Do any of you do this too? Replay her specific stories in bed and try to feel what that other guy felt? Got any other similar ways you use her hotpast to get off?