I have a fantasy. It's me, you, and another guy. You'll be an observer while I play with him. I'll tease you, and you'll have to give me all your money to get my attention. You'll be sitting there with a hard cock, but you'll have to get my permission to touch it. Do you have enough money for me to move on?
You wake up and wait for permission to go to the bathroom. To get ready for work, you ask permission. Even to drink coffee, you need permission.
I will control your every step, every action. Before you do anything, the first thing you will think about is me. The next thing is sending money, so that I will see your need for my direction. You will be a very obedient puppy if you want permission to pleasure yourself at the end of the day.
Will you endure the whole day, giving me complete control? Or will you break down and disappoint me?
Personally, I've long noticed a pattern: people who practice BDSM rarely think about it. Perhaps it's because it's becoming increasingly popular, but ironically, everything is becoming more superficial.
For me, kinks and dynamic play have always helped me better understand myself and my desires.
But I've noticed another interesting and important thing: it allows me to heal. To heal from the opinions imposed by society, to heal from my own blocks that prevent me from enjoying myself.
For a long time, I thought that dominating men was... something strange. After all, men are supposed to be strong and dominant, and women are fragile and submissive. And when you get rid of these boundaries, life begins to seem more holistic. And with self-understanding comes a greater understanding of others.
But the people coming now, not only to femdom, but to BDSM in general, are mostly pursuing only the goal of self-gratification. Rarely does anyone consider this option as part of self-discovery.
What do you think about this?
I'm really tempted to buy my most devoted submissive a collar. I think such displays of power are especially powerful in strengthening relationships. What do you think about this? Do collars have significance for you as a symbol of submission?
A question for everyone. What do you value most in a long-term relationship?
For me, it's important to feel that both are interested and fully engaged in the connection, without any excuses or mere pretense. When both are immersed in the dynamic and building a strong connection, the pleasure doesn't come from the actual exchange of money. It comes from the fact that the connection is so strong that money is an additional incentive to enjoy it. Money isn't the primary goal, personally for me.
I'm specifically addressing those Subs who are serious and actually participate (or have participated) in findom. How do you usually know if a Domme is right for you? I know many dommes ask for tributes first and then communicate. But among Subs, I often find that a little communication is needed to determine whether a connection will work. Or is browsing a Domme's profile with her posts and information often enough to determine if it's right for you?
I notice in the profile descriptions of certain Dommes that they're in real-life relationships.
So, I have a question:
Subs, how do you feel when you realize you're simply the one fulfilling your Goddess's needs while someone else gives her the attention she needs?
And Dommes, how often does your boyfriend know about this? And how does he react when someone else sends his girlfriend money?