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I was caged for 27 of the 30 days in June, which is a new personal record for a month for me. I’ve been locking at least semi-regularly since the start of last October and I’ve been trying to track my progress.

Prior to doing this, I was masturbating usually 1-2 times daily. I believe this was severely impacting my mood , demeanor, and overall behavior. I have certainly cut back on the total number of orgasms per month, though looking back, I’m surprised that I’m having as many as I have. Part of this is because I’m counting prostate milkings as an orgasms. I have only formally jerked off by myself twice since February 5.

June
- 27 days locked
- 7 total orgasms (5 w/wife, 2 solo/caged)

May
- 24 days locked
- 7 total orgasms (4 w/wife, 2 solo/caged, 1 solo)

April
- 19 days locked
- 4 total orgasms (3 w/wife, 1 solo/caged)

March
- 17 days locked
- 5 total orgasms (3 w/wife, 1 solo/caged, 1 solo)

February
- 13 days locked
- 7 total orgasms (4 w/wife, 3 solo)

January
- 0 days locked
- way too many orgasms

December
- 15 days locked
- 7 total orgasms (3 w/wife, 1 solo/caged, 3 solo)

November
- 3 days locked
- 7 total orgasms (2 w/wife, 5 solo)

October
- 22 days locked
- 8 total orgasms (3 w/wife, 3 solo/caged, 2 solo)

I’d like to get back to October so that it’s been a full year. However, I’ve been locked for 100 days this year (out of 146 days, all since Feb 5) and 140 days since the start of last October (273 days ago).

Does anyone have any femdom-themed book suggestions that they could make? I’m sorry if this has been asked before. I tried searching first, but came up empty-handed.

Thanks!

I’ve been trying to “normalize” chastity with my wife by self-locking more. While she has definitely gotten more used to me wearing it, we’re still miles apart from where each of us would prefer to be. That’s a work in progress. She HAS noticed the benefits of my self-locking. I clean the kitchen and living room areas daily, I make our bed daily, I’m helping with the kids’ laundry and towels (I already did my own laundry and she prefers to do her own), I cook dinner every night and clean after, and I give nightly foot massages.

For whatever reason, she can’t get over the mental hurdle of holding the key. I used to masturbate at least once per day, often twice (I’m 44, for reference), and I feel my masturbation habits were related to the sporadic depression I have experienced on and off over the years.

All that said, I’ve been wearing the cage as often as possible, and I take it off when she asks. Usually I will wear it on week days and take it off on weekends so it’s not on if we get intimate. I’ve been tracking the days I’ve been locked, the amount of orgasms I’ve had (with her and on my own), the amount of orgasms she’s had, and if I’ve done any anal training (always solo). This all began February 5.

February
13 days locked (all after 2/5)
3 solo orgasms (all before 2/5)
1 anal session
4 orgasms with wife (3 from PIV)
9 wife orgasms

March
17 days locked (I did not lock on our week long family vacation)
2 solo orgasms (1 solo prostate milking)
3 anal sessions
3 orgasms with wife (1 from PIV)
3 wife orgasms

April
19 days locked
1 solo orgasm (caged)
2 anal sessions
3 orgasms with wife (2 from PIV)
7 wife orgasms

May
24 days locked
3 solo orgasms (1 milking, 1 caged)
4 anal sessions
4 orgasms with wife (2 PIV)
4 wife orgasms

There is definitive self-improvement here. I’ve been working out regularly, I’m helping more around the house, and I’m eating better. I don’t miss jerking off daily at all. I just wish my wife would show any sort of interest in being some part of this journey. It kind of sucks that she is so adverse to it all.

Anyway, just thought I’d share. Hopefully this can inspire someone else to go on a journey of self-improvement as well!

Stay locked!

I’ve been diving into more and more prostate and anal play over the past few months. As most of you will surely agree, this is addicting. While I certainly find myself craving it almost daily, I usually play once a week at most. I’m sure that I can safely do more, but I’m curious is there’s a limit for how often you should do it before you start running into medical issues like prolapsing.

For reference, I’m only using a toy that is 7.5” insertable and about 5.5” in circumference. I’d like to start playing more with width and depth (separately). I’d also be curious how upping girth or length could factor in. I suspect I could somewhat safely play daily with my current toy, but size changes may change the answer.

As recently as this past January, I was jerking off twice per day, at least. Working from home only made this worse. While it felt good, I realized that I didn’t like how I felt about myself afterwards.

I have been dabbling in chastity on and off for a few years and wanted to see if locking up would help. The results have been somewhat mixed.

On the one hand, I’ve SIGNIFICANTLY reduced the amount I masturbate. I’ve physically jerked myself off to completion exactly twice since the start of February. That said, I now have been masturbating anally about once per week in that same time period. I’ve also been able to cum by gently tapping my balls repeatedly, though I’ve only done this a time or two.

However, I also watch significantly more porn now and find myself scrolling Reddit constantly. I’m able to do this while working, but I’m looking for ways to focus even more.

Not sure if anyone else has tried this approach, but I figured I’d throw that out there.

I had posted here a few months back, and I wanted to provide an update. This may not carry much meaning for many of you, but I’m hoping it helps someone out there.

At that time, I had gone from self-locking during working hours on weekdays to self-locking 24/5 on weekdays, and I was seeking advice on how/if I should mention it to my wife. At that time, she had been unaware of my self-locking, and the instances where I had asked permission to lock didn’t always go over well. She felt like it was adding responsibility to her already busy life. I had felt like there were many benefits to chastity that she was not considering. I felt like taking a “prove it” approach might help to sway her.

I ended up proceeding with my self-locking and not telling her until she noticed. She didn’t appear to notice for several weeks (she’s not always the most observant person). This was despite the fact that she usually gets a nightly foot rub from me and her feet often end up on my crotch while I’m working on them.

Eventually, I had to come clean. She doesn’t work on Fridays and I work from home most days. On a few occasions now, I’ve been having lunch with her, and we’ve ended up getting intimate midday. I’ve had to stop her and go get the key to unlock. She’s just smirked at me. I’ve informed her that I’m basically wearing it full time during the week these days. She has just sort of shrugged it off and has told me I could do whatever I want. I do think that this is beginning to have the desired effect and is becoming more normalized for her. I told her that I would also be leaving the key in her nightstand in her jewelry holder, and she is welcome to take it if she ever feels comfortable with that.

She has definitely noticed an overall change in my behavior for the better. I have been much more deliberate about my chores. I do the majority of our grocery shopping. I cook, and I do most of the cleaning up afterwards (other than the kids putting plates in the dishwasher). I keep the kitchen and living rooms clean. I make our bed daily. I do all of my own laundry as well as the towels and the bedding (she insists on doing her and the kids’ clothes, though I’ve been making an effort to assist).There are other things around the house that I do as well, but the point is that I’m contributing at a higher level and more consistently, and she has taken notice. What she hasn’t done (or, at least, she has not conveyed) is connect the dots on the correlation between the self-locking and my increased discipline.

That’s where we’re at today. It’s obviously not a monumental change, but it is definitely a welcome one. I did not like feeling that I was hiding it from her, even if I wasn’t actively trying to conceal it. Hopefully, she may take the key for a few days, and I will be sure to update you all if she ever does.

For now, baby steps. Stay locked!

Most of the custom metal cages I’ve seen online seem to have a security screw in lieu of a cylinder lock. Are there any custom cages that have a cylinder lock? My wife is not interested in needing a specific tool to unlock me. She needs the simplicity of a key.

We understand that the security screw is more secure and holds the cage in better. We’re not looking to be persuaded to try one. We’re looking for options that utilize a key.

I have been self-locking since the start of February. I decided to start keeping track of my progress each month. My wife has caught me wearing it a few times and just laughs it off. To date, she’s been very reluctant to key hold. I’m trying to normalize the idea of me being caged, reduce my masturbation habits, and being more attentive to her needs/wants. Here are April’s results.

19 days locked
1 self release (achieved caged via plapping)
2 anal play sessions (solo, no penile orgasms)
3 orgasms with my wife
7 orgasms for my wife

I’d like her to have a 3:1 orgasm ratio, at least, but this is definitely progress.

Woke up with the urge today. Jessica was not going to be denied. So this morning, after I settled in to work from home, I prepped my hole in the shower, and shaved above the stocking line. Then I got dressed up in my little jean shorts, white crop top, VS thong, red hair wig, and fishnet stockings.

I did a little work until I had a break in my meetings. Then it was whore time. I went on dirtyroulette, and gave as many guys a show as were willing to watch in the hour that I had. I think I only made 6 guys cum while my little clit stayed locked up. I had a few dry orgasms but did not cum otherwise.

Now I’m back in my regular attire after cleaning everything up. That little slut just can’t be held back sometimes. Not sure what I’m going to do with her…