u/Savings_Friendship83

I’m mid thirties-ish, woman. I’m a sub, but could say switch too. Mostly because I’m strong, independent and intelligent. This means it takes a very strong individual to bring out my sub side, and for me to trust a person with that side of me. I therefore have ended up being dominant in all my past relationships. I was young when I understood that I was a sub, but I never had enough knowledge to live it out. I didn’t know what I needed, and what I was looking for.

In most ways, I still don’t. I have very little knowledge about d/s relationships and how it works. I’ve never practiced it IRL, besides I probably met a dom male when I was young. The problem was none of us understood what we were, and how to live out the roles we were meant to have in a relationship. Therefore it just had some elements, but very few and we weren’t counsious about it. Got nothing fulfilling from it, ever. It’s just the only time I’ve met someone «strong» enough to probably be able to handle me. I’ve never been in a relationship which have fulfilled any of my sexual needs, far from. I’ve always had a strong sex drive, and never met anyone who can match/tame it in a way. This ended up with me lacking boundary, but only for a very short period of time (few months). Then it ended up with me setting very strict boundaries, and I hid that part of me.

So, I want to start exploring this side of myself. I feel ready. I also know I’m very open to many fetishes, if that matters. I know I need an emotional connection, and I know that emotional connection will be deep with the right person. I’m very loyal, maybe that’s typical for subs? I don’t know if that’s a part of me and the sub-thing too. Also, I need to feel we’re connected intelligence-vice. My goal would be to live in a 24/7 dynamic.

This got long very fast, could’ve gone on and on. But my point is, this is a big step for me. I’ve been debating how to get started, and how to learn more. I’ve read stories, info and watched videos. But I find almost all of it very shallow, and not fulfilling at all. Therefore I’ve decided I might want to establish an online d/s relationship. It would be with the goal to learn more about myself, and more about just being d/s. How different people seem to be within what I consider a small group to begin with, scares me a bit. It must be almost impossible to find a match. Also, cus I’m very loyal and I know the right d/s relationship would make me very emotionally attached, I think an online relationship is the right place for me to start. I’m also in a small town and country. Given I’ve got zero experience, and also very little knowledge about any of this, I think the online route is a good idea.

Where would I be able to find potential doms to start such a relationship with? Internet is so unsafe, and filled with people with the wrong intentions. Is a genuine relationship even possible to establish online? Also, where can I learn more about d/s relationships, and variants of it? To maybe learn more about where I am at the spectrum of variants. I also know a fee things already, that going to events, clubs or local communities is never going to be my thing.

Thanks for any guidance. It’s a huge step for me to even write this. Also, if you’re a sub reading this, and recognize any of it, I’d love to hear your comment. Like if any of this seems «normal», typical or familiar for sub behavior.

I’m mid thirties-ish, woman. I’m a sub, but could say switch too. Mostly because I’m strong, independent and intelligent. This means it takes a very strong individual to bring out my sub side, and for me to trust a person with that side of me. I therefore have ended up being dominant in all my past relationships. I was young when I understood that I was a sub, but I never had enough knowledge to live it out. I didn’t know what I needed, and what I was looking for.

In most ways, I still don’t. I have very little knowledge about d/s relationships and how it works. I’ve never practiced it IRL, besides I probably met a dom male when I was young. The problem was none of us understood what we were, and how to live out the roles we were meant to have in a relationship. Therefore it just had some elements, but very few and we weren’t counsious about it. Got nothing fulfilling from it, ever. It’s just the only time I’ve met someone «strong» enough to probably be able to handle me. I’ve never been in a relationship which have fulfilled any of my sexual needs, far from. I’ve always had a strong sex drive, and never met anyone who can match/tame it in a way. This ended up with me lacking boundary, but only for a very short period of time (few months). Then it ended up with me setting very strict boundaries, and I hid that part of me.

So, I want to start exploring this side of myself. I feel ready. I also know I’m very open to many fetishes, if that matters. I know I need an emotional connection, and I know that emotional connection will be deep with the right person. I’m very loyal, maybe that’s typical for subs? I don’t know if that’s a part of me and the sub-thing too. Also, I need to feel we’re connected intelligence-vice. My goal would be to live in a 24/7 dynamic.

This got long very fast, could’ve gone on and on. But my point is, this is a big step for me. I’ve been debating how to get started, and how to learn more. I’ve read stories, info and watched videos. But I find almost all of it very shallow, and not fulfilling at all. Therefore I’ve decided I might want to establish an online d/s relationship. It would be with the goal to learn more about myself, and more about just being d/s. How different people seem to be within what I consider a small group to begin with, scares me a bit. It must be almost impossible to find a match. Also, cus I’m very loyal and I know the right d/s relationship would make me very emotionally attached, I think an online relationship is the right place for me to start. I’m also in a small town and country. Given I’ve got zero experience, and also very little knowledge about any of this, I think the online route is a good idea.

Where would I be able to find potential doms to start such a relationship with? Internet is so unsafe, and filled with people with the wrong intentions. Is a genuine relationship even possible to establish online? Also, where can I learn more about d/s relationships, and variants of it? To maybe learn more about where I am at the spectrum of variants. I also know a fee things already, that going to events, clubs or local communities is never going to be my thing.

Thanks for any guidance. It’s a huge step for me to even write this. Also, if you’re a sub reading this, and recognize any of it, I’d love to hear your comment. Like if any of this seems «normal», typical or familiar for sub behavior.

I’m mid thirties-ish, woman. I’m a sub, but could say switch too. Mostly because I’m strong, independent and intelligent. This means it takes a very strong individual to bring out my sub side, and for me to trust a person with that side of me. I therefore have ended up being dominant in all my past relationships. I was young when I understood that I was a sub, but I never had enough knowledge to live it out. I didn’t know what I needed, and what I was looking for.

In most ways, I still don’t. I have very little knowledge about d/s relationships and how it works. I’ve never practiced it IRL, besides I probably met a dom male when I was young. The problem was none of us understood what we were, and how to live out the roles we were meant to have in a relationship. Therefore it just had some elements, but very few and we weren’t counsious about it. Got nothing fulfilling from it, ever. It’s just the only time I’ve met someone «strong» enough to probably be able to handle me. I’ve never been in a relationship which have fulfilled any of my sexual needs, far from. I’ve always had a strong sex drive, and never met anyone who can match/tame it in a way. This ended up with me lacking boundary, but only for a very short period of time (few months). Then it ended up with me setting very strict boundaries, and I hid that part of me.

So, I want to start exploring this side of myself. I feel ready. I also know I’m very open to many fetishes, if that matters. I know I need an emotional connection, and I know that emotional connection will be deep with the right person. I’m very loyal, maybe that’s typical for subs? I don’t know if that’s a part of me and the sub-thing too. Also, I need to feel we’re connected intelligence-vice. My goal would be to live in a 24/7 dynamic.

This got long very fast, could’ve gone on and on. But my point is, this is a big step for me. I’ve been debating how to get started, and how to learn more. I’ve read stories, info and watched videos. But I find almost all of it very shallow, and not fulfilling at all. Therefore I’ve decided I might want to establish an online d/s relationship. It would be with the goal to learn more about myself, and more about just being d/s. How different people seem to be within what I consider a small group to begin with, scares me a bit. It must be almost impossible to find a match. Also, cus I’m very loyal and I know the right d/s relationship would make me very emotionally attached, I think an online relationship is the right place for me to start. I’m also in a small town and country. Given I’ve got zero experience, and also very little knowledge about any of this, I think the online route is a good idea.

Where would I be able to find potential doms to start such a relationship with? Internet is so unsafe, and filled with people with the wrong intentions. Is a genuine relationship even possible to establish online? Also, where can I learn more about d/s relationships, and variants of it? To maybe learn more about where I am at the spectrum of variants. I also know a fee things already, that going to events, clubs or local communities is never going to be my thing.

Thanks for any guidance. It’s a huge step for me to even write this. Also, if you’re a sub reading this, and recognize any of it, I’d love to hear your comment. Like if any of this seems «normal», typical or familiar for sub behavior.

I’m mid thirties-ish, woman. I’m a sub, but could say switch too. Mostly because I’m strong, independent and intelligent. This means it takes a very strong individual to bring out my sub side, and for me to trust a person with that side of me. I therefore have ended up being dominant in all my past relationships. I was young when I understood that I was a sub, but I never had enough knowledge to live it out. I didn’t know what I needed, and what I was looking for.

In most ways, I still don’t. I have very little knowledge about d/s relationships and how it works. I’ve never practiced it IRL, besides I probably met a dom male when I was young. The problem was none of us understood what we were, and how to live out the roles we were meant to have in a relationship. Therefore it just had some elements, but very few and we weren’t counsious about it. Got nothing fulfilling from it, ever. It’s just the only time I’ve met someone «strong» enough to probably be able to handle me. I’ve never been in a relationship which have fulfilled any of my sexual needs, far from. I’ve always had a strong sex drive, and never met anyone who can match/tame it in a way. This ended up with me lacking boundary, but only for a very short period of time (few months). Then it ended up with me setting very strict boundaries, and in a way hide that part of me.

So, I want to start exploring this side of myself. I feel ready. I also know I’m very open to many fetishes, if that matters. I know I need a emotional connection, and I know that emotional connection will be deep with the right person. I’m very loyal, maybe that’s typical for subs? I don’t know if that’s a part of me and the sub-thing too. Also, I need to feel we’re connected intelligence-vice. My goal would be to live in a 24/7 dynamic.

This got long very fast, could’ve gone on and on. But my point is, this is a big step for me. I’ve been debating how to get started, and how to learn more. I’ve read stories, info and watched videos. But I find almost all of it very shallow, and not fulfilling at all. Therefore I’ve decided I might want to establish an online d/s relationship. It would be with the goal to learn more about myself, and more about just being d/s. How different people seem to be within what I consider a small group to begin with, scares me a bit. It must be almost impossible to find a match. Also, cus I’m very loyal and I know the right d/s relationship would make me very emotionally attached, I think an online relationship is the right place for me to start. I’m also in a small town and country. Given I’ve got zero experience, and also very little knowledge about any of this, I think the online route is a good idea.

Where would I be able to find potential doms to start such a relationship with? Internet is so unsafe, and filled with people with the wrong intentions. Is a genuine relationship even possible to establish online? Also, where can I learn more about d/s relationships, and variants of it? To maybe learn more about where I am at the spectrum of variants.

Thanks for any guidance. It’s a huge step for me to even write this. Also, if you’re a sub reading this, and recognize any of it, I’d love to hear your comment. Like if any of this seems «normal», typical or familiar for sub behavior.