u/ScaryPineapple8511

WAIT subs & dommes - tell me your top choices for best domme or subspace music…

Here are some of mine:

The White Stripes - The Hardest Button to Button (when the brat is being tamed)

The Dresden Dolls - Dirty Business (if my sub is a fucking weirdo like me)

Cold War Kids - Hang Me Out To Dry (if we have chemistry)

New Constellations - Hot Blooded (if it’s luteal time)

Glass Animals - Gooey (if it’s ovulation time)

Pink Floyd - Essentially everything in their discography but especially Have a Cigar (I like old men and stoners)

Rolling Stones - see Pink Floyd

João Gilberto - Desafinado (For when I wanna feel like I’m stepping on someone on a Brazilian beach with a Caipirinha in my hand)

The Strokes - Reptilia (if my adderall is still active and subby is nervous)

Anything by U2 if it’s a humiliation / degradation / torture session. God they’re terrible.

Patrizia Pellegrino - Automaticamore (so fucking sexy)

And lastly, these songs make me think of domming Hunter Biden, with zero context:

Divinyls - I Touch Myself

Phil Collins - Sussudio

AWOLNATION - Sail

ABBA - The Winner Takes it All

There’s soooo many more I could add but I’m curious to hear yours 😌

“It’s not dominant to message first” - idk… I don’t really care what people think and if I see something I want, I express that. I don’t play games and I don’t give a shit if I don’t get an answer.

I just don’t want to wait to go after something I want.

If I saw someone I wanted to get to know IRL, I’d go up to them to start convo…. So what is that? Submissive? Lol

I just really like talking to interesting people.

And if someone is entertaining, respectful, and we still don’t click enough to continue chatting…then alright that’s cool 🤷‍♀️ I don’t consider it a waste of my time if I’m having fun. And if I’m not having fun, I just won’t engage.

I’m outgoing and pervy.

I’ve clicked with some really cool, compatible people this way.

I’ve often been told that they’ve been lurking already and are so happy to see my message.. or that they find it hot to be messaged.

Why? Because I only message people i can see posting or commenting in a way where it seems like we would vibe. I don’t just message anyone I recognize as a sub with a “pay me 🐽 “.

I never message anyone who is obviously owned, and if I’m told that someone is owned, I back off. I don’t need anyone else’s sub.

And yeah, I’ve also gotten a lot of no-replies… but I also have lots of fun memories I wouldn’t take back facilitating (I am a facilitating kind of girl, after all 😏) and idc if it’s the one time we ever talk - life is too short to worry about how we’re perceived (said as someone who worried about that the most, for SO LONG 🩷).

Who the hell has time for “oh how would it seem if I send a message”? I personally refuse to base my actions on the presumed reaction of an internet stranger. 🤷‍♀️ But that’s just me.

Tell me :

Dommes, do you have a hard boundary on not messaging first?

Subs, what do you think when a domme thoughtfully or uniquely messages you first?

“It’s not dominant to message first” - idk… I don’t really care what people think and if I see something I want, I express that. I don’t play games and I don’t give a shit if I don’t get an answer.

I just don’t want to wait to go after something I want.

If I saw someone I wanted to get to know IRL, I’d go up to them to start convo…. So what is that? Submissive? Lol

I just really like talking to interesting people.

And if someone is entertaining, respectful, and we still don’t click enough to continue chatting…then alright that’s cool 🤷‍♀️ I don’t consider it a waste of my time if I’m having fun. And if I’m not having fun, I just won’t engage.

I’m outgoing and pervy.

I’ve clicked with some really cool, compatible people this way.

I’ve often been told that they’ve been lurking already and are so happy to see my message.. or that they find it hot to be messaged.

Why? Because I only message people i can see posting or commenting in a way where it seems like we would vibe. I don’t just message anyone I recognize as a sub with a “pay me 🐽 “.

I never message anyone who is obviously owned, and if I’m told that someone is owned, I back off. I don’t need anyone else’s sub.

And yeah, I’ve also gotten a lot of no-replies… but I also have lots of fun memories I wouldn’t take back facilitating (I am a facilitating kind of girl, after all 😏) and idc if it’s the one time we ever talk - life is too short to worry about how we’re perceived (said as someone who worried about that the most, for SO LONG 🩷).

Who the hell has time for “oh how would it seem if I send a message”? I personally refuse to base my actions on the presumed reaction of an internet stranger. 🤷‍♀️ But that’s just me.

Tell me :

Dommes, do you have a hard boundary on not messaging first?

Subs, what do you think when a domme thoughtfully or uniquely messages you first?

This is for the kinky, detail oriented, deep, and/or romantic dommes/subs. If you’re just about the money - that’s totally fine!! But then this isn’t a post for you. Any comments like “I just want that money” are just bait and you can have whatever easy prey gets stuck on the line 💋

I love when they have insatiable sex drives but don’t seem like obvious subs in real life so they’re just always horny all the time in inappropriate settings to be horny in

How about you?

This is for the kinky, detail oriented, deep, and/or romantic dommes/subs. If you’re just about the money - that’s totally fine!! But then this isn’t a post for you. Any comments like “I just want that money” are just bait and you can have whatever easy prey gets stuck on the line 💋

I love when they have insatiable sex drives but don’t seem like obvious subs in real life so they’re just always horny all the time in inappropriate settings to be horny in

How about you?

Another long ass post…

I’m gonna say this with the obvious disclaimer that there are outliers and not everyone is the same… and even though I get very real and a little harsh… I love subs. I really do. I really enjoy meeting all the different types of people I encounter in this space. I’m just very analytical and looooove to journal / ramble about my wild adventures throughout all things unconventional.

Anyway. Here we go:

✨Younger subs (under 40):

I’ve commonly encountered two types of young subs.. they can be more meek and pouty (usually including some form of 🥺, 👉👈, & text stuttering) OR arrogant in a “even though I got bullied in high school, I finally have a big boy job so I can flex my 80k a year to hot girls on Reddit”. (Again, there are exceptions)

They’re either shy and hope I do the heavy lifting (but are grateful for it) or they’re fuckboys looking for live porn… they think I don’t see it and *expect* me to do the heavy lifting (but love when I tell them off instead💋)

The arrogant ones are either quick to send… almost like their way of getting me to perform or risk being called “a scammer” while I still have due process to complete (av, discussing kinks and boundaries, seeing if we vibe at all)

…Or they’ll act like I’m on a job interview to prove why I deserve their 10’s of dollars. I am actually giggling as I write this. Dipshits 😂

The shy ones I encounter, are eager to send but timid about it… like they don’t wanna get in too deep. They typically have some hobbies/passions/interests in something nerdy, games (admittedly not my personal favorite), music, lit, history, occasionally sports, progressive politics, etc… and that’s where we usually connect. I can’t be bothered with one dimensional horny people. I like well-rounded perverts with varied ✨interests✨

The fuckboy young subs I encounter usually wanna take more than they serve and have not a single clue about actual kink play. They just want a diff girl online to fuck with them whenever they’re horny, show ‘em some ass, and tell ‘em how to cum. - and that’s fine, btw. This isn’t a judgement, even if it’s obviously not my style to entertain.

There is an ass for every seat and I don’t kink shame, even when my tone is harsh. I’m from Jersey. It’s just my nature.

Anyway.

They tend to be single and afraid of women irl or married and bored but too young to divorce over it.

Their PNC is strong enough to make them delete. They almost never say goodbye first.

✨Older Subs (over 40):

They’ve either been consensually (or not) abused at the hands of a domme for a while now or have only recently found Reddit.

They’re either jaded and act like they really don’t wanna be here OR they’re extremely attuned to what they like and typically grateful to meet someone real.

I find they’re definitely more open to outrageous shit in the name of the thrill. Typically, unrequited stuff they never did when they were desperate to be the young fuckboy sub I mentioned earlier. They put up much less of a fight when I give them a wild task - they tend to welcome it eagerly.

They’re more established, confident, and flaunt it in things like authentic compliments, servitude, and generosity.

They have stories, lessons, hobbies, passions, & opinions based on knowledge instead of emotion (which I find so hot, it helps me overlook the fact that they’re men 😜)

The topping from the bottom is split here too. Some are arrogant (esp the “I’m not like most subs” type) and some are so happy for the unique connection and consistency, they fall all over themselves for the opportunity to be in my orbit. It’s cute bc they don’t know me but you can see they’re really intrigued and eager to change that.

There’s a certain depth and maturity that comes with older subs. I’m trying not to be partial lol but I can’t help it. I love most things vintage.

Sometimes they’re married with alleged dead bedrooms and have a litany of reasons why they won’t divorce their wives who have no clue their quaint accountant hubby is jerkin the family vacay fund away on Reddit dommes.

Or they’re single and riding out their youthful pervert dreams (my fucking favorite).

Younger subs tend to love gaming and pretending to be stock brokers, whereas older subs love to bet, play 1-1 games, and have gamified TPE.

I will say, I’ve also had a lot of very financially responsible older subs who’ve done this for a while and do allocate fun money or stop when they need to cool it. I seen that far less often with younger subs. In my experience, they will just delete if they go overboard or fuck their lives up.

Older subs get PNC less frequently but when they do, they tend to get distant without fully deleting because they know it’s a pain in the ass to start over and they’ll likely be back soon anyway. (Not all, but most)…occasionally you get PNC from someone who doesn’t think they need therapy despite repeatedly doing this in cycles of regret, with at least one failed marriage under their belt.

So if you read all this, have played with me in the past and are wondering “is she talking about me?”

Well. The answer is yes. And no. Yes, because this is based what I often encounter, in general… and no, because no one individual sub was the inspiration for this.

AND AGAIN there are fuckin outliersssss (before I get all the bean soup comments)

Thoughts (besides this being too long)?

What differences between young and older subs have you noticed?

Another long ass post…

I’m gonna say this with the obvious disclaimer that there are outliers and not everyone is the same… and even though I get very real and a little harsh… I love subs. I really do. I really enjoy meeting all the different types of people I encounter in this space. I’m just very analytical and looooove to journal / ramble about my wild adventures throughout all things unconventional.

Anyway. Here we go:

✨Younger subs (under 40):

I’ve commonly encountered two types of young subs.. they can be more meek and pouty (usually including some form of 🥺, 👉👈, & text stuttering) OR arrogant in a “even though I got bullied in high school, I finally have a big boy job so I can flex my 80k a year to hot girls on Reddit”. (Again, there are exceptions)

They’re either shy and hope I do the heavy lifting (but are grateful for it) or they’re fuckboys looking for live porn… they think I don’t see it and *expect* me to do the heavy lifting (but love when I tell them off instead💋)

The arrogant ones are either quick to send… almost like their way of getting me to perform or risk being called “a scammer” while I still have due process to complete (av, discussing kinks and boundaries, seeing if we vibe at all)

…Or they’ll act like I’m on a job interview to prove why I deserve their 10’s of dollars. I am actually giggling as I write this. Dipshits 😂

The shy ones I encounter, are eager to send but timid about it… like they don’t wanna get in too deep. They typically have some hobbies/passions/interests in something nerdy, games (admittedly not my personal favorite), music, lit, history, occasionally sports, progressive politics, etc… and that’s where we usually connect. I can’t be bothered with one dimensional horny people. I like well-rounded perverts with varied ✨interests✨

The fuckboy young subs I encounter usually wanna take more than they serve and have not a single clue about actual kink play. They just want a diff girl online to fuck with them whenever they’re horny, show ‘em some ass, and tell ‘em how to cum. - and that’s fine, btw. This isn’t a judgement, even if it’s obviously not my style to entertain.

There is an ass for every seat and I don’t kink shame, even when my tone is harsh. I’m from Jersey. It’s just my nature.

Anyway.

They tend to be single and afraid of women irl or married and bored but too young to divorce over it.

Their PNC is strong enough to make them delete. They almost never say goodbye first.

✨Older Subs (over 40):

They’ve either been consensually (or not) abused at the hands of a domme for a while now or have only recently found Reddit.

They’re either jaded and act like they really don’t wanna be here OR they’re extremely attuned to what they like and typically grateful to meet someone real.

I find they’re definitely more open to outrageous shit in the name of the thrill. Typically, unrequited stuff they never did when they were desperate to be the young fuckboy sub I mentioned earlier. They put up much less of a fight when I give them a wild task - they tend to welcome it eagerly.

They’re more established, confident, and flaunt it in things like authentic compliments, servitude, and generosity.

They have stories, lessons, hobbies, passions, & opinions based on knowledge instead of emotion (which I find so hot, it helps me overlook the fact that they’re men 😜)

The topping from the bottom is split here too. Some are arrogant (esp the “I’m not like most subs” type) and some are so happy for the unique connection and consistency, they fall all over themselves for the opportunity to be in my orbit. It’s cute bc they don’t know me but you can see they’re really intrigued and eager to change that.

There’s a certain depth and maturity that comes with older subs. I’m trying not to be partial lol but I can’t help it. I love most things vintage.

Sometimes they’re married with alleged dead bedrooms and have a litany of reasons why they won’t divorce their wives who have no clue their quaint accountant hubby is jerkin the family vacay fund away on Reddit dommes.

Or they’re single and riding out their youthful pervert dreams (my fucking favorite).

Younger subs tend to love gaming and pretending to be stock brokers, whereas older subs love to bet, play 1-1 games, and have gamified TPE.

I will say, I’ve also had a lot of very financially responsible older subs who’ve done this for a while and do allocate fun money or stop when they need to cool it. I seen that far less often with younger subs. In my experience, they will just delete if they go overboard or fuck their lives up.

Older subs get PNC less frequently but when they do, they tend to get distant without fully deleting because they know it’s a pain in the ass to start over and they’ll likely be back soon anyway. (Not all, but most)…occasionally you get PNC from someone who doesn’t think they need therapy despite repeatedly doing this in cycles of regret, with at least one failed marriage under their belt.

So if you read all this, have played with me in the past and are wondering “is she talking about me?”

Well. The answer is yes. And no. Yes, because this is based what I often encounter, in general… and no, because no one individual sub was the inspiration for this.

AND AGAIN there are fuckin outliersssss (before I get all the bean soup comments)

Thoughts (besides this being too long)?

What differences between young and older subs have you noticed?

This was from the beginning of the summer and I would love to play with someone else like this…

Ive said it’s like taunting someone with voyeurism.. ignoring the screen and doing vanilla or domestic things at home… while calling out commands, send amounts, prompts, etc and having it done.

Something about the contrast of a very common domestic action and having someone on my phone over *yonder*, listening to me as they crank some hog with zero acknowledgment, me in total control of how things “end”.

We do have some pool time left in the season… I’d love to go for a swim while you’re “seated” at the patio, following orders from the phone.

I love having fun and doing creative things with my subs. If it’s not fun, what’s even the point lol

This was from the beginning of the summer and I would love to play with someone else like this…

Ive said it’s like taunting someone with voyeurism.. ignoring the screen and doing vanilla or domestic things at home… while calling out commands, send amounts, prompts, etc and having it done.

Something about the contrast of a very common domestic action and having someone on my phone over *yonder*, listening to me as they crank some hog with zero acknowledgment, me in total control of how things “end”.

We do have some pool time left in the season… I’d love to go for a swim while you’re “seated” at the patio, following orders from the phone.

I love having fun and doing creative things with my subs. If it’s not fun, what’s even the point lol

Chef Carmy - I wanna boss him around a tight kitchen over Seven Fishes

James J Sexton - Lawyers make the best subs because they’re usually high strung, misogynistic dick heads in real life who love being called out / turn to warm flan in playtime. OR they’re simpy non-profit types who just love abuse. Honestly, I’d make him tell me crazy stories from his career and give him the occasional ball kick I know he likes.

Madonna - I feel like Madge could really take a strappin and tell me a funny joke at the same time.

E from Entourage - I enjoy a zesty, slightly neurotic ginger with a smartass comeback waiting in the wing at all times.

Ed Sheeran - speaking of… I’d pick very complicated recipes from my culinary school cookbook to watch him make while naked in a very cold kitchen. Watching Ed Sheeran get flustered is actually nature’s SSRI, idk if anyone told you yet.

Samantha Jones in her lesbian era - the only time she was actually simpy (I do not count any Richard bs)

Al Gore - I’d make him wear those slutty little shorts from the 90’s I know he still has

Oh and I’d have Jacob Elordi dress up like Princess Peach for shits and giggles.

Tell me your choices! Here are mine:

Jacob Elordi - I’d wanna get a running start and jump off a springboard like I’m a Harlem Globetrotter

Dermot Mulroney - this man is in everything so might as well everything in the man.

Joe Rogan - he’s already prepped and knows the best lube for lasting glide.

Jared Leto - I feel like he’d hold still and maintain eye contact, fuckin creep

Chris Petrone on insta/tt - a niche selection.

Russel Brand - I’d name the strap “firework” and exclusively play I Kissed A Girl over and over until he snaps

Sasha Baron Cohen - I’m a sucker for tall and funny. The way he commits to the bit, shows real chutzpah. He’d have to bring his glorious wife with him.

Tom Hardy - he continuously gives mmf

Gavin Newsome - he’s hot, bratty af, and seems very hygienic. There’s a slight JFK kink here but I won’t explain further.

The ensemble cast of the first Magic Mike installment - I’d make them stand in a row, starting with Mcconaughey.

Ethan Slater - weird little SpongeBob dingus

Daniel Radcliffe - I’ve only seen one of the HP movies (the last one. I was drunk on a date and had no idea what the fuck was happening) but I honestly enjoy all his other movies I’ve seen. “You walk a mean dog” (points if you can name the movie). Or that movie where he played a bloated corpse? Fantastic role choices. I know it’d be a 10/10 peggin

Hugh Grant - I just know he’d make me laugh and grumble-gossip with me.

Willem Dafoe - but only if he does the Green Gobblin voice the whole time

James Spader - old Black List Spader, not young Baby Boom Spader. I’d request orchids be present (iykyk)

Hunter Biden - elaborating from yesterday’s post.

Timothee Chalamet - he’s dying for it but I’d have to use extreme vocal fry to help him relax and feel familiar.

I feel like I’m forgetting so many but here’s what I can conjure for now.

How about you? Any creative ideas?

Chef Carmy - I wanna boss him around a tight kitchen over Seven Fishes

James J Sexton - Lawyers make the best subs because they’re usually high strung, misogynistic dick heads in real life who love being called out / turn to warm flan in playtime. OR they’re simpy non-profit types who just love abuse. Honestly, I’d make him tell me crazy stories from his career and give him the occasional ball kick I know he likes.

Madonna - I feel like Madge could really take a strappin and tell me a funny joke at the same time.

E from Entourage - I enjoy a zesty, slightly neurotic ginger with a smartass comeback waiting in the wing at all times.

Ed Sheeran - speaking of… I’d pick very complicated recipes from my culinary school cookbook to watch him make while naked in a very cold kitchen. Watching Ed Sheeran get flustered is actually nature’s SSRI, idk if anyone told you yet.

Samantha Jones in her lesbian era - the only time she was actually simpy (I do not count any Richard bs)

Al Gore - I’d make him wear those slutty little shorts from the 90’s I know he still has

Oh and I’d have Jacob Elordi dress up like Princess Peach for shits and giggles.

Jacob Elordi - I’d wanna get a running start and jump off a springboard like I’m a Harlem Globetrotter

Dermot Mulroney - this man is in everything so might as well everything in the man.

Joe Rogan - he’s already prepped and knows the best lube for lasting glide.

Jared Leto - I feel like he’d hold still and maintain eye contact, fuckin creep

Chris Petrone on insta/tt - a niche selection.

Russel Brand - I’d name the strap “firework” and exclusively play I Kissed A Girl over and over until he snaps

Sasha Baron Cohen - I’m a sucker for tall and funny. The way he commits to the bit, shows real chutzpah. He’d have to bring his glorious wife with him.

Tom Hardy - he continuously gives mmf

Gavin Newsome - he’s hot, bratty af, and seems very hygienic. There’s a slight JFK kink here but I won’t explain further.

The ensemble cast of the first Magic Mike installment - I’d make them stand in a row, starting with Mcconaughey.

Ethan Slater - weird little SpongeBob dingus

Daniel Radcliffe - I’ve only seen one of the HP movies (the last one. I was drunk on a date and had no idea what the fuck was happening) but I honestly enjoy all his other movies I’ve seen. “You walk a mean dog” (points if you can name the movie). Or that movie where he played a bloated corpse? Fantastic role choices. I know it’d be a 10/10 peggin

Hugh Grant - I just know he’d make me laugh and grumble-gossip with me.

Willem Dafoe - but only if he does the Green Gobblin voice the whole time

James Spader - old Black List Spader, not young Baby Boom Spader. I’d request orchids be present (iykyk)

Hunter Biden - elaborating from yesterday’s post.

Timothee Chalamet - he’s dying for it but I’d have to use extreme vocal fry to help him relax and feel familiar.

I feel like I’m forgetting so many but here’s what I can conjure for now.

How about you? Any creative ideas?

I dislike Amazon as a company and don’t pay for prime…

But I had a sub a few months ago who requested a wishlist link from me and now I friggin love having it sprinkled in with sends. It’s so different to me, in such a subtle way.

I wanna keep it going with future subs too.

Like. Ok. “Coffee sends” - but that $20 could be used for anything.

On the wishlist, I can put the specific coffee I use at home on there. It feels different as I’m brewing it every day, compared to buying a cup of coffee after the fact. It feels like I’m being served way more specifically.

Gets that Dopamine flowinggggg 📈 🚀 🔥

I lost a pair of my favorite hoop earrings… I put new ones on there. I got them a few days later.

Wanted to try toe rings this summer… put them on there. Magic!

I’m aware a sub could finagle my address out of it. Well, I’m a lefty who carries. So 😂… but I’ll take my chances it’s just someone who wants to jerk off to me getting little presents.

Anyone else feeling horny, greedy, and loving the idea of a wishlist that doesn’t take 2 weeks to pay out and make you do the legwork of ordering? (Looking at you, throne)

I dislike Amazon as a company and don’t pay for prime…

But I had a sub a few months ago who requested a wishlist link from me and now I friggin love having it sprinkled in with sends. It’s so different to me, in such a subtle way.

I wanna keep it going with future subs too.

Like. Ok. “Coffee sends” - but that $20 could be used for anything.

On the wishlist, I can put the specific coffee I use at home on there. It feels different as I’m brewing it every day, compared to buying a cup of coffee after the fact. It feels like I’m being served way more specifically.

Gets that Dopamine flowinggggg 📈 🚀 🔥

I lost a pair of my favorite hoop earrings… I put new ones on there. I got them a few days later.

Wanted to try toe rings this summer… put them on there. Magic!

I’m aware a sub could finagle my address out of it. Well, I’m a lefty who carries. So 😂… but I’ll take my chances it’s just someone who wants to jerk off to me getting little presents.

Anyone else feeling horny, greedy, and loving the idea of a wishlist that doesn’t take 2 weeks to pay out and make you do the legwork of ordering? (Looking at you, throne)

I have to make a page for my art and interior design portfolio and I feel like having fun instead.

Any simpy IT subs wanna do it for me?

I’d post in homework subs but they hate findommes.

“How do you get paid though? 🙄 This is findom?” - ok, it’s a landing page for my business. I’ll make plenty. I get off on making money and subs who are eager to make my life easier.

Telegram me if you’d be happy to be of use 😘

It’s the best.

My energy is sky high.

My sex drive is always ridiculous but this week? My god. Needless to say, I keep my subs and service sub husband quite busy and dehydrated this week.

*Almost* nothing bothers me.

Glowy. Wet. Perky.

I become eveeennn more thoroughly committed to collecting fun experiences (which is huge to me, if you know me) - it makes me feel very perverted and extremely direct.

I’m absolutely insatiable in every way you can imagine. Give me fucking everything 🔥

To be totally real - I’m posting this so in a couple weeks, while deep in the throes of period bullshit, wondering if I will ever tolerate men again… I’ll have this to refer back to.

Anyone else? Just me? Grrr 💦

Well. I’m a horny, horny little thing most days of the month. Always have been. And I don’t do anything I don’t enjoy doing.

Some subs just wanna bone their Dr. Melfi (iykyk) and this is the closest thing.

But the thing about that is.. you gotta let someone in to actually feel that closeness and understanding - you gotta love the risk of the vulnerability, and be both attracted to and terrified of it.

My favorite types of subs seeking psych dommes are those desperate to be seen through, but hate looking desperate for anything - similar to my favorite clients irl. They’re desperate to mentally undress in front of someone who won’t judge them for being aroused the whole time we’re talking. They want to feel psychologically owned in a way that’s different than the aggressive control they may typically encounter with non psych dommes (although I believe there is always a psychological component, duh)

It doesn’t classically present as “serving” and challenges the roles of submission and dominance…I think there is an art to being a good psych domme who’s still able to maintain dominance and control (but that’s a whole other post).

I have a successful business irl working with normies with neuroses all the way up to executive douche bags who don’t get told off nearly enough for being generally mediocre human beings….And I’m also a successful psych domme, sought out for the same.

So what makes this any different?

Well, I don’t talk to my vanilla clients about my love of kink. I don’t tell them what I want. I don’t roleplay with them or tell them to do insane shit for my amusement “in the name of being better” lol. There’s a VERY clear boundary we do not cross when I’m in that mode. But when I’m in playspace, that boundary is as good as 1 ply toilet paper (do not message me about shitplay, it’s a euphemism) because I’m getting off just as much, if not more.

Because, circling back to the first point, Dr Melfi continued treating Tony because *she* enjoyed it. She got a thrill from undoing and truly seeing someone on the fringe of society, deeper than anyone ever has. There was a tabooed deepness to it. She got off on being told not to do it while doubling down on the risk of it all. That’s what it’s all about. That’s what makes this hot.

Would love to know everyone’s thoughts 🥂

Maybe it’s just my monthly feral phase now that my period’s over….

And I understand the whole concept of chastity making subs stay in subspace - I’ve seen the difference it makes in how attentive some subs can be while held there… but here’s the thing…

Some can be that same way, even if they’re lil pervs who cum for my entertainment lol

Idc… I’m a domme who thoroughly admires pleasure. I like having fun. I like flirting and shocking people. I like undoing people who might otherwise seem buttoned up. I looooove wit. I love banter. I love a sub who’s lived an interesting life so far. I love a sub who’s chatty. I love subs who genuinely loves me either taking or getting their money…. But who also love to put on a little messy show for me because I tell them to.

This is my bounciest, wettest time of the month… of courseI I want my subs to cum. Of course.

Idk. Anyone else?

I have been different degrees of domme, my whole life.

Even before kink was ever a part of it, I have always taken charge, been the leader, did everything myself (because I do it best)

I’ve had seasons of making subs reaaaally cry (it’s not that I *can’t* be awful… it’s that I consciously choose not to be) Ive had seasons of total psychological TPE. I’ve had credit card subs. In person sessions. Travel sessions. I’ve lived quiiiite the life as a domme and you prally wouldn’t guess it you saw/casually talked to me.

If you’ve been in dynamic with me, you know I’m playfully, quietly, wittily, psychologically… extremely perverted, intense, and totally obsessable (I made this word up)…

I love pleasure. I’m in awe that we get to experience it… and I like pain - when it’s balanced, intentional, and deliciously dirty.

I must say though, my fellow fiscal hoes… there’s just nothing like when you click with exactly the right pervert for YOU. That is unmatched. Esp for my weird ass.

I looove engaging convo, flirting, and psychological hunting WAYY more than I have ever enjoyed cliche degradation or empty drains.

I want to play. I want to build. I want to devour.

I am fully myself, 100% of the time…I don’t put on an alter for this lifestyle. I love finding that in someone else. Like, how hot when everything seems “normal” and real on the outside… but still have conversations that could get you fired. I really kinda loooove the dichotomy of a double life.

I love having fun. I love joking.

I love being playful AND deep, interchangeably. Unexpectedly. Boldly.

I love chatty, bratty subs with personality and an opinion…I’m really not a fan of the emotionally feeble subs. I like them confident and craving connection with someone who sees through the bullshit.

I have a thing for older, smart subs who love to banter and discuss deeper topics. I love when they have their shit together in their vanilla life (well… most of it, at least)

I see a lot of dommes accuse confident subs of “topping from the bottom” and idk, maybe they’re trying to, maybe they’re not… but isn’t it our job to knock it the fuck off if they are? Isn’t it our job to keep ‘em in line??

Why wouldn’t I want to melt someone the rest of the world deems “unmeltable”? Yum.

Why wouldn’t I want to make the person who’s seen and done it all… blush?

NOTHING turns me on like the unexpected. I live for it. I love providing it. I lovvvvve experiencing it. Very little catches me off guard anymore.

And how do we find this hot little ping pong?

We talk. We banter. We flirt.

And if we encounter someone possessing the personality of a fucking cashew, we keep moving.

“But they better send too” - well, Jessica, if you don’t act like you need the $25 to make rent this month, they will. And typically, pretty generously. (Unless it’s a freebie seeking fuckboy, which you should be able to weed out pretty quickly and easily)

Did you read this whole pointless thing?

Did you enjoy it? Something click?

😈 How fun.

What are some things you strive for in your ideal dynamics? Or just go read my pinned post and dm me.