u/StudiousCuck1

Our FLR isn’t the kinkiest, aside from her knowing she never has to have sex with me if she’s not in the mood and her hall pass that never expires. 95% of it is just me trying to make her life as easy as possible. I love that I spend most of my free time cooking, cleaning, folding laundry while she gets to do whatever she’d like.

My thought process has always been if I’m going to submit I’m going all in on it. I had some less than healthy habits in the past that she didn’t like so I stopped doing them. As a result my health and our relationship has improved.

Kink is great but there is so much more to explore in this lifestyle.

My cuck instincts started to show in high school; I didn’t really fantasize about having sex but I did fantasize alot about going-down on girls I found attractive who always seemed to have this aura about them like I’d never be enough in bed but I could be useful other ways. My GF cheated on me with a guy in the marching band, I was a jock and the whole thing had me embarrassed and confused until one of her friends told me he had a big dick. (My ego was protecting me and I was talking all tough and her friend basically let it slip to shut me down. My gf was also in the band and they just got a long really well, she cheated the first time due to their conversation and connection, the second time was also because he had a big dick). After I found out about that I was still pissed but a part of me, burried deeply under my ego, understood. I had a friend who was taller, more jacked than I was who used to brag about being hung and making all these girls cum easily meanwhile I struggled to last more than 3 minutes in bed. Little bits and pieces showed early on.

In my 20s I stumbled onto some cuckold porn and it lit me up. I finally had a name for what I had instinctually felt and it all made sense. I was a cuck. I spent the next 20 years trying to accept my desires, going through the arousal-shame loop and finally made it to acceptance. It’s become normalized in our marriage, she knows she can fuck someone if she wants to, and i no longer stress over whether or not she’d see me as less of a man, a partner.

Where are you on your cuckold journey? Wives/Gfs, when did you realize this is a lifestyle you would enjoy? Bulls, at what point did you realize you had what it took to fuck other men’s wives/gfs and deliver an experience?

Long story short I recently talked to my wife about her taking full control of our sex life; we have it when she wants, I can’t complain when we don’t.

She wasn’t feeling it yesterday and allowed me to massage her feet instead. I attacked it like that foot rub was the most important service in the world. I started to get hard, who among us wouldn’t, but only as hard as the cage would allow. By the end of it she unlocked me and apparently I had been leaking precum. That’s never happened before, is that normal?

If you have read any of my posts you’d know I have been very up and down with my place in this lifestyle. Over the last 2 weeks things have clicked into place and I’m feeling much more secure in my place in our marriage.

From the outside it doesn’t look fair, we both work but I spend most of my off time cleaning, cooking, running errands, food shopping while she spends hers with whatever leisure activity she wishes. She shouldn’t have to spend a second on household tasks. When we have sex I get to worship her from head to toe, it’s a privilege. When we don’t, even for extended periods I quietly accept that A) if she doesn’t want it I don’t “deserve” it just because we are married, B) she’d rather do something else with her free time and she deserves that. C) Sex is mostly about intimacy at this point. I’m not blowing her mind in bed, making her cum like crazy. When we have it it’s about us and there are other ways to have that intimacy. Understanding that has been huge. D) it’s a subtle humiliation that she’d rather sip some wine than get into bed with me and my humiliation kink LOVES THAT.

From the outside it doesn’t look fair but we are both getting out of it what we need to grow and flourish as a couple.

If you have read any of my posts you’d know I have been very up and down with my place in this lifestyle. Over the last 2 weeks things have clicked into place and I’m feeling much more secure in my place in our marriage.

From the outside it doesn’t look fair, we both work but I spend most of my off time cleaning, cooking, running errands, food shopping while she spends hers with whatever leisure activity she wishes. She shouldn’t have to spend a second on household tasks. When we have sex I get to worship her from head to toe, it’s a privilege. When we don’t, even for extended periods I quietly accept that A) if she doesn’t want it I don’t “deserve” it just because we are married, B) she’d rather do something else with her free time and she deserves that. C) Sex is mostly about intimacy at this point. I’m not blowing her mind in bed, making her cum like crazy. When we have it it’s about us and there are other ways to have that intimacy. Understanding that has been huge. D) it’s a subtle humiliation that she’d rather sip some wine than get into bed with me and my humiliation kink LOVES THAT.

From the outside it doesn’t look fair but we are both getting out of it what we need to grow and flourish as a couple.

For some reason I’d always take notice of the guy(s) in the room who command attention anytime I’d go to a social function. I’d notice how my girlfriend/wife/other women in the room responded to him and keep her a little closer to my side throughout the night. I have always done this, long before I knew what a cuck was. Does anyone else subconsciously do this?

Until now I have been self locking and I’d like to bring up the idea of chastity with my wife. Before I do I have to ask, what do women get out of locking us up? In what ways is this fun for her? What are the benefits?

Until now I have been self locking and I’d like to bring up the idea of chastity with my wife. Before I do I have to ask, what do women get out of locking us up? In what ways is this fun for her? What are the benefits?

We talked about her fully controlling our sex life a few months back and we have had very little sex since then.

We are in the young family phase and she’s also very tied up in her career so time is scarce and in a way it’s vindicating that she doesn’t feel like she has to try to find the time for it.

A fear I have always had was if we stopped having regular sex it would mean our relationship was in trouble, the death of intimacy. Now I’m taking more of an optimistic approach; the sex isn’t great for her when we have it, I think it’s been something she’s done bc she feels like she has to and I don’t want that, especially now that time is extremely scarce. She still compliments me, I worked up a sweat cleaning the house yesterday and she told me I looked hot down on my knees, shirtless with the windex and paper towels in my hand. She also wants to get pregnant one more time this summer so it’s not like we aren’t intimate, we just don’t have PIV very often.

I used to think you needed to be having regular sex for the relationship to be healthy. Now I’m looking at it like she’s taking control and doesn’t feel the need to perform. I’m fully into it, I don’t deserve access to her body just because we are married, and I love that she has taken control.

I get worried it means she doesn’t love me, that’s literally the only reason it scares me a bit that it’s been so long. We talk and she does reassure me, I want to believe her but the deeply wired beliefs of what a healthy relationship looks like are deeply wired in patriarchal thinking. We have the relationship I want and the relationship I want scares the fuck out of me.

Just some early morning Saturday ramblings