u/Submissive_96

Hi. I'm a collared and caged sub to my domme fiancee.

Every night, she demands a foot rub. She found that after she orders me to take a couple of sniffs, I'm more enthusiastic and give better foot rubs.

She's planning to get me to take 2-4 sniffs every night while I rub her feet, and also to take heavier and more frequent doses when I'm doing my chores at the weekend.

My concern is that I'll build up a tolerance to the point where they are not effective.

Is this realistic? If so, is there a way of avoiding building such a tolerance?

Thanks in advance for your advice.

Having been requested by a few kind commenters to update with progress, here's an update and a couple of questions.

Being a leader at work is tiring so giving up the dom role for a sub role has been very liberating.

My fiancée dictating which chores need doing in the house has made it far easier to keep on top of. I've been far more productive.

Being caged has made me appreciate my fiancée a lot more and the affection that she had missed is well and truly back.

She's been frustrated with things happening out of her control. Being able to exert control over me has helped her with this.

With all this in mind, we've agreed to try a female-led relationship. The chastity will be permanent for now, but I'll be allowed out when showering for hygiene.

I'm also expected to wear my collar whenever we're home alone. She'll also be choosing what I wear each day and any clothes that I buy in future.

However, I will still be taking a dominant role in her personal care and during sexual activity. I'll be keeping the collar on as a reminder that she's ultimately in charge and the power exchange is only temporary.

I'd like to thank all those for their advice and feedback. This outcome was very unexpected but, having now experienced the advantages of this first hand, I really don't think I want to go back. I think an FLR and (mostly) sub life is for me.

My questions:

1: How do you deal with the constantly increasing surge of horniness without it disrupting your daily life?

2: I'm on track to be allowed to climax in my cage today. But should I? Will doing this push me out of this headspace which is making me a better partner?

I've always been the dom for my fiancée. She loves being dominated - specifically in the bedroom and in terms of looking after her well-being.

However, she did note that the dom/sub dynamic meant that some of the more vulnerable affection was lacking.

We decided to do a month's trial of switching roles - me as her sub and she as my domme.

The trial would involve me being caged and - when home alone - collared. She would call the shots on everything.

Since wearing the cage, our intimacy and affection has greatly improved and I'm much better at getting jobs done around the house, especially when collared.

We've decided that our dom/sub dynamic will evolve.

In terms of her wellbeing and sex, I'll be the dom. Although I may still need to wear my collar during sex - she'll let me dominate her but on her terms.

In terms of household, her comfort and everyday life, she'll be the domme.

Most importantly, we've agreed that me being permanently caged will continue indefinitely (with releases for hygiene and sex) as it's a great benefit to our relationship.

Has anyone else experienced a dom/sub dynamic where the roles have been so specific?

I'm a dom to my sub fiancee, but she feels like she needs a break from being submissive so we're doing a temporary switch.

I'm going to be pussy free and caged for the month. I've already practised wearing the steel cage for a few consecutive days during the day.

When we're home alone, I'm also wearing a steel collar when we're home alone. It was only going to be occasional but she loved how I looked in it. I'll even have to wear it whenever I have sex with her once the month is up.

I'll be able to earn orgasms with the wand.

A few questions:

1: Does anyone have any tips for long term caging?

For example, should I remove intimate hair? Should I remove the cage during the night if quality sleep is essential?

2: Has anyone tried going from dom to sub?

If so, how was the adjustment? Especially from being able to cum regularly to only occasional climaxes.

3: Will a month of being caged affect erection quality? I don't want to be in a position where I return to my dom role and can't perform.

Thanks in advance!