d/s or ddlg in marriage
hi all! new to the sub space on reddit, I am looking at all advice or info you have on implementing a d/s or ddlg dynamic specifically within marriage. Any rules, sayings, non negotiables, how to get into the roles after a long day, anything you think would be useful to start building the dynamic sexual and non sexual (I’m a very type A person and have done a ton of research but nothing beats having someone know the situation and being able to relate to the aspects)
For context: I have been with my husband for 5 years and he got out of the military. While he was in, sexually he was dominant but domestically I take care of the finances and a lot of the decisions because he was gone a lot. Now he’s out and I’m overwhelmed with work and have stressed that I feel very masculine in nature and want to connect back to my feminine side also because we are about to starting trying for kids in the next year so my mental and physical health are something I’m trying to prioritize. I want to almost transition that dominant/caretaker role back to him because I love being submissive in my personal private life and because I think structure of the dynamic would really help him due to being in the military. Please let me know anything you got! Nothing is too much :) (also he is very open to this dynamic also after we had a long conversation and just needs help with ideas and we are slowly implementing instead of rushing into it all at once)
P.S a fictional book that really helped me get an understanding of the dynamic is Daddy Commands by Maggie Ryan 🙂↔️💞