A summer evening ..
Golden twilight drapes her amber gown,
As soft night whispers through the trees.
She lays her heavy, gilded crown,
To dissolve into the evening breeze.
u/Exotic-feet-farEast — 22 hours ago
r/PoiseReclaimsFindom
Master Eve here, enchanted.
Hi everyone, I’m Master/Goddess Eve a French Goddess with the most prominent 'oui oui' accent.
I’m new to Findom, but definitely not to Femdom.
To tell you a bit more about myself: I’m a faceless Domme who only shows her face to her most loyal subs. I’m a massive reader and a full-on nerd. I’m currently graduating in medicine and law (and I work in tech, lol). I think my professional path shows exactly what kind of Domme I am - versatile. I can be as strict or as soft as I want to be.
I thrive on intellectual curiosity and witty banter, but I also love my simpy boys. I value connection and communication.
Basically, I love jesters fighting to stay in my good graces and I demand to be stimulated both intellectually and financially
Anyway, I'm mostly a soft Domme with a huge sadistic streak. Sometimes I feed on whimpers almost as much as I do on money.
I love to mess with minds, make people addicted to my attention, and become the absolute center of lives.
My likes :
NSFW: Service subs, simps, human ATMs, lifestyle domination, TPE, GFE, arousal and denial, chastity/key holding, CEl, blackmail, psychological manipulation, and so much more.
SFW: Reading/writing, gaming, learning in general, anime, horror, arts, sports, and many more I can't even think of right now.
Anyway, I'm pretty glad to be joining this community and to meet you all!
u/StormedEve — 4 days ago
The Love of the Game
Do you ever meet someone who has been done absolutely dirty by a past domme? Insecurities used against them, savings absolutely liquidated, confidence completely destroyed…and the more you get to know them the more you realize nobody deserved it less than this sweet soul in your phone. It becomes a dynamic oddly satisfying in ways many others aren’t. I’m the first person to admit I’m a very sexual individual. But there’s something to be said for the platonic dynamics where someone simply needs a person in charge to tell them they’re good and they’re valid and they’re on the right track. These are my For the Love of the Game dynamics. I get so much joy from simply being a person who builds up another person in the way they need. In the way they should have been build up instead of ruined by past dynamics. These are the dynamics that fulfill me in ways I can’t explain.
u/Zealousideal_Ad_7329 — 5 days ago
Authentic dommes and subs
Constantly showcasing dominance is without question grueling. I wouldn't pretend to know enough to cultivate a counterargument. But I will say being genuine is usually, in a great majority of cases, less laborious than performing dominance.
Being true to one's authentic identity should not take a back seat to our emotional state in a given moment. Expressions and assertion of one's role aren't necessary in proving that these identities exist. They come naturally, or they don't. They come when appropriate, not when coaxed or demanded.
As a submissive, I never feel compelled to prove my identity as submissive without any solicitation from a domme, and a domme should enjoy those same conditions without feeling their perceived identity is in question.
As subs, do we demand attention in the here and now at the cost of a solid, fulfilling future? We shouldn't, but we do. Often to our own detriment.
Women, as dominants, often display subtleties that require a more detail oriented observer to fully realize. Their control over us is not binary. It doesn't turn off and on to accommodate anyone, especially not their submissives. It's a presence that builds. It's a gradual course correction that takes time, not a sudden u-turn.
Being submissive needs to be more active and never passive. Being dominant is usually misunderstood by subs to require constant effort in maintaining "character." Without active submission, you can expect your relationship to fail no matter how good she may be.
Confident domination doesn't need pushing like our submission may be relying on for direction. Instead, it's ever present nature is deeply rooted in a relationships construction. The best of which is unspoken, and maybe unrealized by one or both partners.
It's a gradual process between a domme and sub that involves both parties orbiting a center of gravity where the pull of each is unbalanced. When woven together with submission that is given with deliberate intention, it grows. The end result is a submissive who is useful to his domme and a life of purpose for both of them.
One takes the lead while the other acknowledges its their job to match the energy. This is where it becomes deliberate. Submission is actively giving. Dominance receives, not takes. Submission acts in the interests of another, actively. Dominance accepts and approves and redirects when needed.
Submission actively serves, anticipates, cares for and nurtures, is proactive and reactive, is always on high alert, and eventually acts without hesitation.
Dominance fills the voids left in submissions wake. She corrects the course and trains and exhibits patience for her submissive as he learns his dynamic role in her life. She can be catered to without having to prove herself to him. Bc she is not trying to assimilate to his life, but rather the other way around.
Submission is a gift and should not be given lightly. But when it is given, it should be understood and given fully.
None of this should be mistaken as an excuse for dominants to be passive, lazy, uninterested, or uninvolved. That's counter to the point that interpersonal relationships aren't born and nurtured in "sessions."
"Dominate me" is a demand that sounds to me like "make me laugh." The demand is the very thing that disallows the act that follows, the one being demanded.
My partner gives me more than I could ask for, and that makes me give back more. And she responds by surprising me with even more. So begins the volley of all things virtuous that they will share going forward with sacrifice and compromise, giving part of themselves to create something much larger than they put in.
u/Over_Art_1000 — 6 days ago
Stop talking about alphas. You’re making me barf.
Let’s start here: I love a cuck. I love to tease. I love to push your buttons. I love to know that you know it’s date night and I’m having a series of orgasms at someone else’s hands.
Here’s what I don’t love: when you say a man is my alpha.
Even just typing that, I barfed in my mouth a little.
First off, go fucking unsubscribe from the brain-rot influencers who taught you that word. Repeating it makes you look stupid.
Because all it takes is a few minutes of research to find out where the term came from—and that it’s been debunked.
The idea of alphas began with a scientist studying wolves. The pack had an alpha, he said. The strongest wolf. The main wolf. The boss. The “dominant” wolf.
He published a book on it. And then realized he was wrong and spent his entire life trying to undo the damage.
Because, news flash #1: wolves don’t have alphas. He was observing a family. The parents trying to keep their kids safe, teach them, guide them.
News flash #2: he was observing captive wolves—and very quickly observed that wolves don’t behave the same way in the wild. It’s like saying we can study a prison population and use that study to talk about how people behave outside prison. These two things are not the same.
And news flash #3: even if neither of those things were true, you are not a wolf. You are not a bear. You are not a lion. And you are not a lobster. If every animal behavior were part of humanity, hoo boy would life be different. Hamsters eat their babies. Squid *punch sperm into their bros* (go look it up). Show a dog a piece of roadkill and he’ll probably roll around on it. Wolf behavior isn’t any more predictive of human behavior than any of those examples.
The reason you think it is is incel culture. That’s where the talk of alphas and betas in the world of men took off. So feel free to be embarassed that you adopted the idea uncritically.
Just using the word alpha drops my estimate on your intelligence. And thinking I would let a man dominate me drops it further.
When I say I love submissive men, I fucking mean that shit. I mean that in my heart and my soul and my bedroom. I mean that the love of my life is the same man who comes over almost daily to pick dog poop out of my yard, who curls up after a long day with his head in my lap, who was the first person to collar himself with me. He is the one granted entry to the most sacred spaces of heart, mind, and body. Not because he is in charge, but precisely because he’s strong enough, centered enough in his masculinity and authenticity to let go of that.
He is not having his way with me; I am having my way with him.
Nobody is the alpha (because that shit is stupid). But I am the boss. The holder of space. The lap he rests his head on. The safe space where he can take off his mask. The Goddess at the center of the universe.
Not every woman is submissive for “the right man.” The alpha bros are not our fantasy. They are yours. And fantasy is the operative word.
You want to admit my partner is a better man than you? You want to serve him? You want to serve us together? Go for it. But do not co-opt me into the patriarchal fantasy that women are all secretly submissive for some sort of extra-masculine bro. I do not consent to be dominated—even in your fantasy and even not by you.
I am his boss and yours. That is kinky for both of you.
I am not conquerable—period. And frankly, that reality is healing if you’ll let it be. You are not submissive because you are less. You are not submissive because someone else is a better man. You are submissive because you are submissive—no value judgement attached.
And if you want to play humiliated cuck? Well, when I say you can’t please me like he does, it’s not because he’s alpha or dom. It’s because of choices he makes every single day. Which means when you don’t measure up? That’s all choices too. And I can push your buttons even harder when we take “I’m just this way and nothing I can do about it” well and truly off the table.
u/that_villainess — 6 days ago
Quasi-Community Subs?
Do quasi-community subs exist here - or elsewhere? Subs who enjoy talking to some of the most amazing, beautiful women, authentically? Who have moments of intensity with among Goddesses of a wider but select group? A space where competing demands of pure singular ownership take a back seat to respectful presence and perhaps even broader community building over time? A space where constant chronic cravings can exist without judgement? Or is that unrealistic - the dream of engagement and unique chemistry but openly shared across a select space? It always seemed a rarity / difficult dream across these various communities. What might that look like? Thoughts?
u/compulsivegentleman — 6 days ago
New to this subreddit but not to findom 💖 AMA ~
Hi, I'm Queen Sorsha. I like stealing hearts and gently fucking wallets juuust until their limits are reached. My hobbies include deep interpersonal connection, singing, rock climbing, baking, relaxing in the sauna, anal play, gardening and dance. I'm a passionate and prolific writer (you can read some of my free smut on literotica.com). I'm definitely a psychology nerd. I love tiger lilies, the color turquoise, consent, and not having to repeat myself. 5'9" scorpio with sky blue eyes and size 11 feet. Ask me anything!
u/Queen_Sorsha — 9 days ago
🥋 Who is in for a game with me? 💸
Next week on Friday I’m going to judo class again and I’m in the mood for a little challenge 😈. I’ll do my best to force as many people as possible into submission and you send me a gift for each person I submit 🥋💸. That does sound like so much fun, doesn't it? 😇 Who dares to play with me? 😈 You know where to find me if you are up for the challenge 😏. If you want more details just ask 😉.
u/Barashii_ — 10 days ago
Introductions are in order 🔮
I'm Evie, nice to meet you!
I'm 26, new to the findom scene and already so enamoured with the lifestyle. I've been an artist since my teens, love all things horror, cinema, media theory, Victorian art and Gothic literature. I'm a confident, eternally curious and dedicated person who is very active in my local queer community. I've made music, sewn and repaired vintage clothing, tattooed, facilitated support groups and queer meetups, organized movie nights, did everything from painting to animation. I'm a leader, I don't box myself in, I'm never bored.
I've been through enough to learn just how hard and lonely life can get, but two things are more important to me than the image of toughness: everyone deserves dignity; change is fundamental. Whoever you are, you can always choose to transform.
I'm good at feeling for people's needs, vulnerabilities and insecurities. May or may not be putting my P2P consulting skills to nefarious uses 🤭 I like to start out friendly, amicable and gentle to get you comfortable and get a feel for who you are. I put effort into building a safe space, but my nature is trickstery, so I take pleasure in quick transitions from a gentle guiding kind of force to uncaring bully. I rarely give orders, but I love manipulating someone to beg me for something they didn't realize they wanted in the first place. I have been ruthlessly friendzoning men for as long as I can remember. Having someone who is desperately craving me on a constant emotional rollercoaster of unpredictable switches from security to cruelty is my idea of a perfect imbalanced affair.
I'm a perfectionist. I like schedules, routines, contracts, extensive planning, building secure, efficient and productive systems to fall back on. Spontaneous in a control freak way: I'll test how ready you are to obey me when you least expect it.
Right now my favorite play fields are:
⋆ chastity/orgasm control;
⋆ delayed gratification and denial;
⋆ SPH;
⋆ CBT;
⋆ hypno;
⋆ prejac/stamina training;
⋆ censorship/beta humiliation;
⋆ scenes with risk of public exposure;
⋆ techdom/voyerism (let me snoop on your life);
⋆ praise and humiliation in general (I love concocting a hyper-specific mix of both to make someone both melt and reconsider their choices);
⋆ debt contracts;
⋆ drain games (especially with heavy elements of chance);
⋆ degradation roleplay (human ATMs, human toys, human pets);
⋆ devotional writing/homework (my sub has a quota of two movies and a book each month, each one reviewed).
As an asexual with a low libido, I have a special place in my heart for arousal torment and denial play. I could never relate to all-encompassing horniness I often hear people describe, and that only makes it more fascinating and fun to me. But more on that later, I already have an entire post planned out about this aspect of my style specifically 😋
Very excited to participate and learn from the wonderful people in this subreddit!
u/hissingkissing — 9 days ago
The altar I built with pallets and drywall screws
This is where I worship. It's made of pallet wood, be careful of splinters bc it's treated with copper napthanate and bromine. One splinter could be deadly.
Let's see more. Anyone else worship at a home made altar?
u/Over_Art_1000 — 10 days ago
one of life's greatest joys is a soak in a natural mineral hot spring ♨️
what's your favorite vacation activity? anything spa related and i'm in.
u/seleneofyourdreams — 12 days ago
Dommes' "hydration break"
Limoncello spritz and a glass of Sauvignon Blanc to beat the heat in the UK (at an air-conditioned sub-funded hotel, of course)!
What are your favourite ways to keep cool?
u/findom_pixie — 11 days ago
You can't ignore my presence.
I'm not arrogant. I am aware of the effect I have on people.
It's an effect I've always had.
I have a presence. I stand out.
Whether in real life or the digital world – you will notice my presence as soon as I enter the room.
It must almost feel like a threat.
It often causes insecurity – not just among men.
Yes, this is what I said.
I am self-confident. I know what I am capable of.
I know what I find acceptable and what I dislike.
I know what I want and who I am.
I am strong, confident, genuine and so different from you.
u/BellaBloomReal — 10 days ago
On a sub-funded vacation, eating seafood and truffles by the sea, proving that pretty privilege is a renewable energy source 🤭
u/Miss_Masha_ — 14 days ago