u/50_ShadesOfBlueBalls

In the past my Queen has often asked if she could leave the kids with me so she could go shopping, spend time with friends, or just leave the house alone. She ​is a SAHM and has the kids (two toddlers) most of the time, making it difficult to run errands. This last weekend she started to ask out of politeness, then stopped herself and said

"I am leaving by myself to run some errands. The kids will stay with you."

Later that evening she invited her parents over for dinner. We all ate outside and talked for a while. Then, as they were about to leave, my father-in-law started to pick up his plate to take into the kitchen. My Queen said,

"Dont worry about that. (My name) will get that," which i reiterated by telling him to not worry about it & that I'll grab it.

Those two comments made my head swirl! She is beginning to shed society's conditioning of being a "polite, selfless girl" ​who sacrifices herself for the convenience of others, and is actually becoming comfortable with allowing me to serve her.

So my wife and I have been slowly dabbling our toes into this. It started with cuckolding and chastity, then evolved more and more. We're both new to FLR, but she is stepping into this role beautifully.

She never liked how much I watched porn before, so we agreed that I would stop. We put a porn blocker on my phone and I deleted everything I had saved that wasn't of her.

One day, i was briefly unlocked and then we later got into an argument, so I masturbated without permission. She then made me lock all the sexy videos and pictures I had of her on my phone, and I cant see her nude for awhile, or be a participant in her orgasms (e.g. using my mouth, fingers, etc).

She also admitted to me that she never felt like she could spend money on herself. She would feel guilty getting a pedicure, buying new underwear, or anything really. However, I would spend money without talking to her, which made her feel like she had to pull back on spending even further. With my adhd obsessions, sometimes that would be a lot.

Today we decided that 100% of my paycheck will go into a joint account where she's the primary owner (previously it would go into a joint account where I'm the primary owner). Bills would be paid from that, then then a set amount would be transferred to an account only she owns and can view. Eery purchase i make, however, has to be approved by her.

I can't explain just how much this fulfills me. I feel like this has been something I have needed, yet missed my entire life.

A little background/context.

We have two young kids, both under the age of 4, and she is a stay at home mom.

I work a 9-5 job, plus have other work projects on the weekend that require my attention & often gone in the morning before anyone wakes up.

In the evening, I get the kids ready for bed, fixing their dinner, brushing their teeth, changing diapers/clothes, reading books, etc. I take over the whole night-time routine and then have then kiss and huh mom before I put them to bed.

I try to do dishes at night, but admittedly it doesn't happen every night.

I wipe off our counter and table, clean up after the kids eat and try to declutter it as much as i can (she hates clutter).

I try to quickly tidy up after kids go to bed.

i make coffee every morning before I leave work.

I try to refill her pill box, and help her remember to take them, but I even forget mine (I have adhd)

I know i need to be better and meal planning and knowing what groceries we need.

I need to be better at remembering when towels & sheets need washed.

I'm locked in chastity & any physical connection is focused entirely on her. I give her massages, foot rubs, hand rubs, etc (as is common in similar relationships). She has total sexual freedom and autonomy as well, sleeping with whomever and whenever she desires.

What are other things I can do to help reduce her mental load and help her relax after being at home all day with the kids? I'd love suggestions just as a husband/partner, and also some to help solidify and show my submission to her.

Anyone have advice on staying consistent with adhd?

Was almost 9 months PIV free (and only had PIV twice last year), and my wife let me inside her for Father's Day.

Well, kinda. After giving her 2 orgasms, she let the tip inside of her while she blocked me from inserting my penis all the way in, essentially letting me fuck her hand with only the tip inside​. Im fairly small and can't last long at all, so PIV with me has usually left her unsatisfied. So she has total sexual freedom and has sex with other men and women.

Since we've been married (6 years), my PIV total time is 54 minutes (that's how many minutes my penis has been inside a vagina). Total time my wife has had PIV sex, 28 hrs & 34 min. This is only PIV & doesn't include other types of sex like oral, toys, etc.

I lost my virginity by paying a prostitute at 19.

Although girls often found me attractive, once they got to know me I was always placed in the "friendzone" category. I was always "too" nice, went out of my way to help, and just gave off massive beta-friend vibes.

There were times when I would start to be intimate with a girl, and then after removing my pants she always made an excuse on why we couldn't have sex. One girl made me eat her out then said she wasn't ready yet afterwards. Never gave me a bj or hj.

I'm now 36, married, and don't have PIV sex with my wife. The last BJ I received was 2 years ago, and she even stopped after a few seconds cuz she got bored. It's been 8 months since I've had PIV sex (although she did let my tip go inside her for father's day as she blocked me with her hand from going all the way in, basically just letting me fuck her hand with the tip barely inside)

I added up the total PIV sex i've had since we've been married (almost 6 years), compared to my wife (she has total sexual freedom and fucks other men and women). Total time my penis has been inside her is 54 minutes, & most of that was out of a feeling of guilt, duty, etc. Now, my wife doesn't feel bad at all for denying me. I dont last very long and have a small penis, so PIV with me has always left her unsatisfied

Total time my wife has had PIV sex has been 28 hours and 34 minutes.

My father was a pastor and I grew up going on mission trips and playing guitar in the worship band, at not only my father's church but 2 other local churches as well. I lived at church, was homeschooled, and went to mission school after High School.

I'm now in a marriage where my wife has the same sexual freedom and autonomy as single women, able to flirt and have sex with anyone at any time, while I'm locked in chastity & denied PIV sex.

My purpose in our marriage is to serve her as Christ served the church, laying himself down for her. We have lots of sex, but the focus is ALWAYS her physical pleasure & her orgasms. I give her foot rubs, hand rubs, massages, use toys, and just worship her. My ultimate pleasure is vicarious & derived from seeing her satisfied.

I couldn't ask for a better relationship!

I bought a few cages from Cherry Keeper and I love them, but I really want one of my favorite cages to be shorter. (I like it way better than kink3d). However, Cherry Keeper has stopped taking custom requests on 2020.

I dont have a 3d printer and I'm not gonna ask my friends who have one to make pne for me lol.

Other custom cages ive found are really expensive (cherry keeper is very reasonable), and I'm nervous to order from sites I don't know because I'm not sure if they're reputable and i want body- safe nylon or resin.

Does anyone know of a company or manufacturer that takes custom requests? I basically want this one cage (with total touch stop and headlock) to be shorter.

Thanks!