u/GordonTiger

In general, it is men who harbor fantasies about sharing their wives, swapping partners, or engaging in similar activities. Are there any wives or girlfriends who have taken the initiative?

I caught my wife cheating on me. She was using our country house behind my back. What I didn't know was that she wasn't just sleeping with one man; she was bringing several of them there for threesomes, foursomes, or even full-blown gangbangs. It wasn't just a suspicion—I kept an eye on the house and saw them arriving.

When I confronted her with the truth, she burst into tears, pretended to be sorry, and promised never to do it again; she claimed she hadn't had the courage to tell me about this desire of hers and had therefore sought out opportunities outside the marriage. That’s obviously a lie, because if she had told me, I would have been more than happy to indulge her.

And in the end, when I cornered her, she confessed that not only was she doing it at the countryside house, but she had also been to some swingers clubs to get fucked.

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Many wives and girlfriends feel more at ease with men other than their husbands or boyfriends. This is likely because a lower level of emotional intimacy, combined with a focus on a specific aspect like sex, allows them to express themselves without taboos.

In fact, many women end up experimenting with lovers, studs, or bulls, engaging in sexual activities that are more daring or unconventional than anything they have done or ever will do with their husbans and boyfriends. What favors do you grant other men, but not your main partner?

My wife has broken the rules. I had asked her to always keep me updated on her adventures, but I discovered she is having a sexual affair without telling me. Outsiders to this lifestyle might argue that whether or not she told me is irrelevant, given that I’ve allowed her to have sexual relations with other men for about twenty years; however, those who share this lifestyle know full well that boundaries are crucial, as the relationship is built on trust.

At this point, I’m not sure exactly how to handle the situation with her. I haven’t said anything yet, but there will certainly be consequences. I don’t know what form they will take. I certainly have no intention of divorcing or making a dramatic scene, but our dynamic will change For example, I could turn into a "hot husband".

Every husband has his own non-negotiable boundaries and rules of the game. There are those who always want to be present, those who ask their wives to be constantly informed about everything, and those who want photos or videos of her adventures in return. Some do not want their wives to date people within the same social or professional circle; some only accept a steady and trusted boyfriend, while others only allow occasional encounters, and so on. Which of you hotwives has ever broken these agreements? Did you confess it to your husband, or did it remain a secret? Did you do it for the thrill of transgression, or due to extenuating circumstances?

When I met my wife, she was already into the lifestyle, so I never had any trouble introducing her to the scene. I’ve noticed that a lot of posts on this subreddit are from husbands who don’t know how to convince their wives, or from wives who are hesitant to go along with their husbands’ wishes. For me, though, it was all very easy. A friend told me he’d met two girls who were interested in checking out a swingers’ club, and I happily joined them.

One of them became my wife, so the lifestyle has always felt completely natural to us. The idea of swinging and similar dynamic had always intrigued me, but before I met her, I’d never had the courage to ask a girl if she was interested in trying something like that. So I completely understand the difficulties people can have when they want to get into this lifestyle but face real obstacles.

Obviously, the easiest situation is when the woman is the one who brings it up, but that happens very rarely. In general, it tends to be more of a male kink. For us, it all happened very naturally. We’ve been married for twenty years, and after ten years of swinging, we started exploring the hotwife lifestyle, which we’re still happily enjoying.

I'm experimenting with role reversal: I'm no longer the one penetrating her; she's the one penetrating me. I'm wearing the chastity cage; she's wearing the strap-on. It’s a double-ended strap-on that goes into her vagina; so, when she rides me, she feels pleasure with every thrust and can even reach orgasm. She fucks me in every position until I reach a prostate orgasm.

As I mentioned in a previous post, I found out my wife is cheating on me. I didn't say a word and just kept an eye on her. I finally managed to get access to her phone. I went through all her messages and private chats on various apps, and what I found was absolutely mind-blowing. Flirty texts, heart emojis, and dirty jokes from a ton of guys of all ages, including colleagues and people we both know.

And there are also people I suspected and asked her about, but she had always flatly denied it. But the most shocking thing is the sheer number of romantic dates and hookups for sex she set up: "Let's meet here, let's meet there," "I'm free today, I can't tomorrow," "My husband is around, he's away," "I can't come to you," "Better you come to me." On some apps, I saw that she’s also exchanging nudes with some guys, and some of them are straight-up pornographic.

My wife only sends me view once photos and videos, and I can't save any of the them. I let her sleep with other people, as long as she doesn't cross two non-negotiable boundaries.

First, she always has to tell me what she's doing; nothing can happen behind my back. Second, it has to happen out of town, or at least with people from somewhere else. In extreme cases, if it is someone from our city, they must be completely outside our social circle, acquaintances, or work network. These are my boundaries. She, on the other hand, set her own rule: she will only ever send me view-once photos because she doesn't want this material saved. I understand her reasons and I respect them.

Finding someone outside our city is actually very easy for her because she's a CEO, and she's constantly traveling around Europe, sometimes for one or two weeks at a time, so she has no trouble finding partners far from home. Every time she has an encounter, she lets me know and sends me a photo with the guy she's about to fuck or just fucked. While she is traveling, she keeps me updated on her activities.

When she sleeps with someone from her professional circle or a client, she sends me only an innocent-looking selfie (taken at a bar or restauran) pretending it is merely a keepsake; she does not tell her partner the photo is meant for me, as she does not want to reveal her "hotwife" lifestyle to colleagues, preferring instead to appear as a married woman who has simply lost her head over a charming man. When she meets new people outside of her professional circle, she often shares very hot pics and videos of her experiences.

However, these selfies and videos remain view-once. Sadly, I can only see them once and I can't save them. But for me, the excitement of the moment makes everything worth it.

I allow my wife to live the “hotwife” lifestyle, subject to two non-negotiable limits. The first is that I must be present when she has her encounters, or at least informed when that isn’t possible. The second is that she has to find people who live in nearby cities, because I don’t want the news of her lifestyle spreading here where we live. For her it’s very easy, since she travels abroad for work and is away for up to a full week; as a result, she has no problem finding partners outside our social circle.

However, I discovered that she is in a threesome relationship with two guys who go to the gym with her, and she kept it hidden from me precisely because it violates our agreements. In fact, she is breaking both of the limits I had set. Until today I didn’t feel like confronting the situation, but yesterday I wrote a post on this subreddit telling the story and it made me want to talk about it. So this afternoon I did.

She is currently abroad, and today at lunch she sent me a selfie taken last night that showed her with a guy in a bar. The accompanying message said: “Last night was hot. Stay tuned for updates. I’ll tell you everything when I get back, as always.” That “as always” really annoyed me, it meant she was mocking me.

When she made her usual video call in the late afternoon, I seized the opportunity, backed her into a corner and told her to her face that I know the truth. The video call lasted 40 minutes and ended in shouting; then she called me back, and we spent another hour talking. I said: “You’re getting fucked by two guys from your gym at our country house. You made a copy of the keys and go there in secret. I followed you and saw you.”

When she was confronted with the truth she admitted it, but then I pressed her, asking how many other times she had done things without telling me. Under my insistence she said: “Do you really want to know? I can’t remember exactly all the adventures I’ve had during our twenty years of marriage without telling you anything, but I can try, hoping I don’t leave any out.” And she started counting.

The list includes a guy on the beach she gave a blowjob to in the cabin, another who fucked her in a club bathroom, one of my former colleagues, one of her colleagues, a neighbor in our bed, another bodybuilder at the gym, a worker who used to come fix our garden, and the guy she said was simply her best friend of all time. Then she mentioned a couple of other strangers she met during her trips.

What bothers me the most is that I was suspicious of many of them and had asked questions, but she always denied it; and yet now it turns out she had sex with the guys she claimed she had only chatted with. To get her to confess I promised I wouldn’t take any action or get angry; so I’m keeping my word and saying nothing, but I realize that my wife is a huge slut.

I allow my wife to live the “hotwife” lifestyle, subject to two non-negotiable limits. The first is that I need to be present when she has her hookups, or at least informed when that isn’t possible. The second is that she needs to find people living in nearby towns, because I don’t want word of her lifestyle to spread here where we live.

It is very easy for her, given that she travels abroad for work and is away for as long as a whole week; consequently, she has no trouble finding partners outside our social circle. However, I discovered that she is in a three-way relationship with two guys who go to the gym with her, and she kept it from me precisely because it violates our agreements. In fact, she is breaking both of the boundaries I had set. Until today, I hadn’t felt like facing it, but yesterday I wrote a post on this subreddit telling the story, and it made me want to talk about it. So this afternoon I did it.

She is currently abroad, and today at lunchtime she sent me a selfie taken last night showing her with a guy in a bar. The attached message said: “Last night was hot. Stay tuned for updates. I’ll tell you everything when I get back, as always.” 'As always”: it really bothered me to be considered an idiot who could easily be taken for a fool. When she made her usual video call late in the afternoon, I seized the opportunity, cornered her, and told her to her face that I know the truth. The video call lasted 40 minutes and ended with shouting; then she called me back, and we spent another hour talking.

I said: “You are getting fucked by two guys from your gym in our country house. You had a copy of the keys made and go there secretly. I followed you and I saw you.” When confronted with the truth, she admitted it, but then I pressed her, asking how many other times she had done things without telling me. Under my insistence, she said: “Do you really want to know? I cannot recall exactly all the adventures I’ve had during our twenty years of marriage, without telling you, but I can give it a try, hoping not to leave any out". And she started counting.

The list includes a guy at the beach to whom she gave a blowjob in the cabin, another one who fucked her in the toilet of a club, an ex-colleague of mine, a colleague of hers, a neighbor in our bed, another bodybuilder at the gym, a worker who used to come to tidy up our garden, and the guy she claimed was simply her best friend ever. Then she mentioned a couple of other strangers she met during her travels.

What bothers me the most is that I was suspicious of many of them and had asked questions, but she always denied it; yet now it turns out she had sex with the very guys she claimed she had only talked to. To get her to confess, I promised I wouldn't take action or get angry; so I’m keeping my word and saying nothing, but I realize my wife is a huge whore.

I discovered that my wife was cheating on me. I confronted her, we argued, and eventually she confessed to the dozens of times she had engaged in extramarital affairs. She gave me a choice: "If you don't like it, file for divorce, or else accept being a cuckold." I chose the latter, primarily for the sake of our childre, who didn't deserve the trauma of divorce, but also because I didn't want to start all over again with someone else.

My wife is a woman of rare beauty, perhaps out of my league, so it comes as no surprise that almost every man she meets desires her, even young, guys. She cannot resist being courted; it boosts her self-esteem and feeds her ego. At first, I simply endured the situation; then I got used to it, and now I even derive pleasure from it. I have discovered my true nature as a cuck, and I thank her for guiding me along this path.

I have a country house about half an hour from here, and every now and then I go out there to do some chores or tend to the garden. One day I walked in and saw the hair clip my wife usually wears sitting on the table, even though I was certain I'd seen it in her hair just a few days before.

That's when I realized she had been out there without telling me—probably the day before, when she told me she was going out with a friend. I didn't say anything. A couple of days later, the hair clip magically reappeared in her hair, and she still hadn't mentioned she'd been there.

So, one evening when she told me again that she was going out with her friend, I told her I was going out with my guys too. Instead, I drove down to keep an eye on the cottage. I saw her pull up with two guys and realized she was hooking up with both of them at the same time.

She hasn't the slightest suspicion that I know anything. In fact, I've been keeping tabs on her, and every day I discover more and more about what a slut she really is.

Years ago, my wife confessed that she craved intense, passionate sex, as well as the desire to meet new people and engage in partner swapping; our marriage no longer gave her the thrill she had felt at the beginning. So, we decided to frequent swinger clubs and meet other couples. Over time, I became a voyeur, watching her as she gave herself to other men.

She always tells me to take it easy: "We hotwives can have hundreds of lovers, but only one cuckold." So, I don't worry; the excitement comes from the thought of her with others or from watching her make love right next to me.

In our dynamic, I am often present while she is with her "bull." Then, when he leaves, she takes care of me. Penetration is not allowed. Usually, she give me a handjob or brings me to orgasm through prostate stimulation; on luckier days, I get a blowjob or she lets me rub my cock against her pussy. At first, she used to let me claim her right after she’d been fucked, but not anymore.