u/Immagoodboy1701

I fell into the hotpast hole and really enjoyed hearing her, albeit limited, stories. Some thing serially gave me that adrenaline rush of jealousy and competition that I got semi addicted to. Wanting to know all the details and hearing everything she can remember. Her details and memory were pretty hazy for the most part due to time and alcohol so I reached the end of the well. Then I got her to write me stories to fill in the gaps....or even imagine she ran into an ex and they went off and fucked whilst I was away from work. Even role played a bit too.

But here we are and like most addictions you eventually can't get enough so I'm weaning myself off. But I do wonder if I return to it later on will it come back a little and will she remember different stuff ...time will tell.

Any other long term hotpasters ​ run out of steam on this kink? Stepping it up to hotwifing or the like isn't going to happen from her point of view

I've been playing with sleeves for a while and to limited success. Wife has to be in the right mood and turned on etc and even then I don't think she's ever asked for a sleeve off her own back. It is at my suggestion or just wearing. To be clear this is not against her will and she does enjoy those nights where it is working well. But I do note that much longer than me and she can end up quite quickly not enjoying. I'm only 6 BP and I've went with the 7s on 3 sleeves that I have bought. It is sexy when she takes the whole length but that is balanced out by her times when it is not going to well. I do all the good things and swarm it up and lube and make she's turned on etc. She just enjoys my cock haha.

Anyway I noted in the early days of sleeve thinking she had mentioned a bit of girth could be fun so ive been hunting for the right sleeve that's not too long but gives some girth.

Finally I note the Girthy Boy sleeves and seem to be exactly what I want! Cut it back to be just a little longer than me and perhaps find that Goldicock I've wanted to give her. I love seeing her take the sleeves and seeing and hearing her enjoy and I can last forever. But if o go to deep I see her wince and and that's no fun for anyone. She loves when o am ball deep so holding back is a bit bleairgh

So anyway... question....how is the Girthy Boy for those who have tried the others. Does the shorter sleeve and shorter extension work well? I like the idea of being closer to my size in length. Does the soft silicon work ok?.whisper finish up to the job?

Last night we were both tired and she had been out with friends. Not drunk but we both knew we were on for sex. My wife takes quite a while of clit stim to cum and so sometimes the gentle chill sex may not result in her orgasming. I'll go to go down but will pull me up... oversensitive clit due to perimenopause at moment.

Anyway.... She gets me hard, I lube up...make sure she's ready to go....n missionary a while and then I know I want her to cum. Grab her clit sucker vibe so she can hold to her whilst I work on her inside and out with my hands. Pull her to edge of bed and I stand thrusting into her still with her vibe ...pull off and using two middle fingers on her g spot till her crashing orgasm....me back in her with us both enjoying the aftershocks of her orgasm to my finish.

I love that we know each other well enough and am happy enough to reach for the toys and have a lovely, for us... back to basics session that has her cum too

I've been with my wife 20 plus years. Have had a good sex life for the majority of those years with it being relatively vanilla in the early days but still hot with oral and positions explored and occassional outdoor sex etc.

Coming into more recent years it has occured to me that the plethora of easy to access information, toys, porn, advice etc etc available online is amazing. Our relationship and our age means we are perfectly happy on the internet but sort of grew up in a time prior to it being what it is now.

The changes this has brought aligns with our comfort with each other but I do think it would have been cool to have discovered much of this before. Obviously it was all available but harder to find.

For us main changes would be

Easy and mass volume porn access without having to buy DVDs;

Easy to buy research and purchasing of toys. We did have a little lipstick vibe for a long time. Now with online shops have a drawer bulging with toys

Advice... Books were out there and indeed my wife learned some stuff from a book as a young woman but now between Reddit, websites, online training courses, E books there is so much to learn about biology, psychology, techniques etc etc. no real excuse to not be able to bring new things to the bedroom to at least try!

Plethora of erotica for my wife to read.

Bad things..... Comparison and potential envy that your life isn't like what is out there. Unreasonable expectations ...Am I big enough? Why doesn't she wants to do XYZ? Why don't I last as long as porn stars, why does she not cum within 5 seconds 😂, how often should we be having sex etc etc. even when partner is obviously satisfied the doubts can still creep in

Those who are a bit older and together with partner a long time. What areas of your sex life has the internet made easy for you or changed you.

We have been married 20 years and when I take a moment to reflect I think we have a good sex life. I would like to ask though how unusual or otherwise would the following be?.

• A wife who has actively engaged in trying new things.
• Use of porn as part of our sex life
• Extensive use of toys
• Enthusiastic receiver of entry level BDSM...bit of spanking, crop, Dom Sub role play
• Blowjobs and oral on her to completion often
• No anal or other people involved beyond fantasy

Most of this is driven by me but she does engage and enjoy and at this age I feel really lucky. This is not humble bragging and we have had to discuss and put the effort in to attempt new things. Also our relationship has probably formed during peak sex advice and toys availability on the internet 😂

But I guess my question is... Is this quite normal at late 40s/50s. I don't talk much on sex with our friends and Reddit is full of dead bedrooms and sad chat. It is all to easy to wonder what if.

Been talking hotpast for a while now and as a follow up to a set of messages questions she was riding me and said she had got her body count wrong and I laughed and said yeah I thought you had missed one....been aware of her number a long time. As she rode me I asked her to name them all which was pretty hot. But then the funny part and thought bubble. At least two were so drink or stoned they had trouble getting it up and didn't cum.... Does she get to claim that haha...one was described as toothpaste into the tube type.... So I was left wondering if her body count should be lower or perhaps higher if the definition of sex changes.... Perhaps I should ask Bill Clinton for advice 😂

Can anyone relate to this Hotpast Origin story?

In our early days as a couple we would discuss at a high level our last but looking back she was fairly tight lipped. We discussed and I sort of established (or so I thought) that I was the more experienced and she had had a decent number of partners but she sort of let me believe it was all a bit boring and I was the largest and best she had been with. 

Many years later and married with kids we somehow were talking about sex in a totally non erotic manner and I casually said something about being her biggest to which she rapidly replied...erm...no you're not. This threw me as I had spent my entire near 20 years relationship not really thinking about my cock size. Hilariously I am only just above average in length and girth so slightly ridiculous to think I was biggest. This sent me into the rabbit hole of asking who and by how much and how did it feel etc etc. She was not comfortable and wouldn't answer and as it was during the day and kids awake etc I could only sit and ponder whilst trying to ask questions almost coded 😂 Eventually she told me and it was suprisingly hot to hear more details. We went to bed and as she was trying to remember she actually got a piece of paper and drew round my erect cock and then did his. I kept this sheet for a long time haha. 

Soon after I persuaded her that I found this all hot, I sent her some articles from online and she  was stroking me saw and felt me cum hard one night as she told me a story...laughed and said ok I guess you do enjoy this. 

Been fun for a few years now but I do believe I have heard it all but every now and then I see a new question to ask or something she can reveal that gives me a little thrill...bit nothing like that initial jealousy / horny moment of the first cock size  reveal. I do wonder how this guy would feel if knew he had been the subject of endless fascination. Him and the others but this guy who was a long term FWB is my go to.... Fact they were just fucking is the gold for me.

Married 20 years and still having a suprisingly varied and fun sex life. Has involved ebbs and flows and some robust discussions but right now at aged 48M and 51F we are going well.

Last night exemplar

We had discussed and agreed that me leading the erotic fun sex stuff was a bit unfair and that she should also be able to bring food stuff to the table beyond being up for sex...understand that just having both parties keen is a win.

We agreed that she, once a fortnight would be in charge. So last night she came into bedroom and told me to brace myself 😂 Came out wearing very revealing lingerie which is not normal so definitely for me. Proceeds to give me an all over body massage under low light and music, long luxurious blowjob before mounting me and demonstrating the lingerie is crotchless. She rode me for a good while before getting off to remove the clothing and then got into a position where I am on my back, legs open and she then faces away from me on wide knees and inserts me...bot like a wierd doggy position. Always feels good.

She's not one to cum without help so I sort of took over at this point and got her new vibrating g spot egg toy and slipped that in her plus my cock which was very filling.... plus her clit sucking bone and she was off....had fun playing with the settings on the app before I lost control and came. Pulled out and unusually for her she was happy for me to go down and help finish the job. Not often I am getting my own cum back out of her and it was hot as

She came hard and long and so finished another night of play.

Setting the fortnightly expectation and promise from her (is in her calendar) may seem a bit excessive but she realised she just doesn't remember and before you know it six months have passed and she has not worn the lingerie or done anything special that she had agreed would do. This is not done resentful my and was her suggestion. She loves my reactions 😂

I love to research how to get my wife off and have spent many hours and lots of money learning and putting the learnings into action. She is not the easiest to get off which is rewarding in its own way because when she does it feels earned if that makes sense. It uses to be easier but time marches on and she is now perimenopausal. On the HRT which is great and helps a lot but some other go to techniques have taken a hit. Going down on her was always my go to but in last while has became too sensitive so other ways and means have come to the fore.

Massages, yoni massages, spanking etc etc but got to love bringing some electric toys to the fun. Have a ridiculous amount of them now but love the process of researching, wondering if will work for my wife and then buying and waiting for the right moment. Last night was the moment....

Been really busy and she has been on period but last night I knew it was time. I had bought her or us...a wevibe Jive2. Bought with intent of her being able to have inside her hands free as I massage or spank her. Got her warmed up last night and massaged and then her hips raised with sex pillow. Slid the toy in her...lubed and warmed and then set it off whilst continuing to massage her. She enjoyed the feeling straight away and was just sighing and murmuring into the pillow. The jive is meant to stimulate gspot and there is a sort of tail that is alledgedly good for the clit...reviews had warned me that the tail doesn't do much there and she confirmed as much. This was fine as I got my fingers in on the action on her clit and then in her along side the toy. Decided to see if my cock and the toy would fit and we did which was pretty hot.

After some time she moved onto her back after really enjoying but not quite reaching orgasm. Me controlling the vibe with phone. I had intended on using clit sucker when on her back but she signalled for me to go down...which is very unusual now...and praise be she was not overly sensitive and I could explore with my mouth for first time in a long time. She came and came hard but also long...usually she cums and throws me off as too much but this time I could gett going gently teasing her orgasm out for a long time.

Then moved into fucking her and finishing in standing over the side doggy with my pulling her hair.....

A wonderful new addition to the toy cupboard it seems. Love it when it all comes together...plenty of toys have not been a success haha

Wife having her period and she's never been up for sex during but happy to do me...even without asking. Go to bed last night...she whips back cover, blows me to completion, helps clean up and then leaves me to sleep. 20 years married and I recognise I am ridiculously fortunate. I of course put in the work for her pleasure too when she is online so to speak. It's a good arrangement 😂

So last night we had a bit of a Dom Sub type night. She dressed how I wanted and then as part of the scene I told her to stand in the corner and think about her ex fwb and then she was going to tell me all about him. I then proceeded to spank her for her naughty easy leg opening behaviour etc. Was cool and even some new details came out even though I have heard the whole thing a load of times. The sparkle in her eyes as she was telling me what she had got up to was hot. She was then answering my questions quite readily and leaning into the whole scene.

Can recommend if your partner is into this kind of play. Only been a recent addition to the sex menu.

As for new details... Nothing too much but she told me about him fucking her from behind whilst standing and she would bend over double with her hands on the floor ... I remember being impressed at that when she first did that to me....now I know haha. Also he was a lot taller than me so certain positions feel quite different for her / weren't doable.

In recent times wife and I have got into spanking. She is most suprised at how much she enjoys after a life time of saying and thinking hell no.

Anyway I want to add some spice to the mix. We have a lot of toys and I have used dildos and vibes whilst spanking but obviously need to keep it in place and it falls out etc.

Been exploring options and I am thinking a love egg might be the solution? What I want is for her to be able to be in her spanking position..either standing or lying and have the egg in her vibrating and not falling out.

Is this a thing that anyone else has done? Any stories of success or advice in general.

Internal vibrations don't necessarily do a massive amount for her alone but can be pleasant. The being filled appears to be more of a thing. On plain terms I want her to be able to relax with a toy in her and for me to not have to adjust every few minutes 😂

Or...are pussy plugs what I am looking for....

I have bought a massive amount of toys for my wife and we have had a lot of fun. Thinking a bit back to basics moment and wanting a Layon Vibrator. Don't have anything like this at moment and I envisage using it in situation where she is laying on or holding against herself as I spank her or fingering her g spot from behind and the like.

Giving consideration to the Wevibe Temp as seems to have potential broader fun range.

Last night had a pretty good session and I slipped on some hotpast for first time in a while. Had been perusing the plethora of questions that were out there on this Reddit and found a list of 52 for you to ask her to pick a number and then she would answer. Amazingly two questions that were relatively light on face me new, albeit light, details. Still hot to know I have more to hear.

1. Ever had dirty thoughts of a friend...this turned into a tale of male friend in high school that got as far as kissing and dry riding...she remembers enjoying and that he was probably pretty big....which then moved into a few other high school guys that she had got hot and heavy with but not all the way. Noted in her head...probably big...straining in their jeans. Couple of them really good surfer body types. First blowjob in a bunk bed with people in room...he went down on her too ....he didn't cum as she reckons she had no idea what doing haha....surfer guy...getting hot and heavy but parents got up and about so that was the end of that.... I think she probably masturbated to him a few times after haha

2. Roughest sex...nothing major but she suprised me with a name that I have heard before and was a one off on a conference table at a hotel work away day and night thing. Been drinking after the conference and they snuck off and he fucked her. Hadn't thought he had been pretty rough bust she said he was strong and would put her on position he wanted etc. nothing like we do now with spanking and hair pulling etc but was still hot.

I think I'll take my time with this list and allow these new small details to trickle out.

20 years married and been on a bit of a journey over last couple of years. Things added include porn, vibes, sleeves, dirty talk, spanking....last night was a suprise multi faceted night from what I assumed was a quickie...

So wife has been on her period and has been a busy weekend. Go to bed last night thinking we would be just sleeping. Nope...she throws covers back and starts gently stroking and chatting and then goes down on me a while. Goes to mount me and I'm like... Nah I want to do...and list a load of stuff. Get on with it then she grins at me.

So bend her over the side of the bed, stroke and massage her butt and shoulders, spank her whilst getting her to count the spanks... Teasing by not getting to final number kissing ass etc. Move to penetrate a little, back to spanking, good talk on her hotpast which I enjoy... Finally start fucking her with long hard strokes getting her to count to ten before back to spanking etc. Then I add in cock sleeve to the fun and fuck her with that for a while before pulling out. Move to fingering her from behind with focus on her g spot and then clit with other hand....she finally came very hard and deep. Mount her and fuck with sleeve for while before removing and fucking to my own completion.

An excellent session and love that after all this time we can still suprise each other.

Been getting into sleeves for a couple of years now. Started with the classic cheap one and it did not go well. Too hard, too big, didn't use it right etc. Was still determined to give it a go having seen my wife react well with a decent sized, good quality silicon dildo. Not orgasming just from that but certainly enjoying the depth and stretch albeit she was a little reticent to claim it.

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Switched to multiple density silicon sleeve from blissful creations. Used a warming pad and warmed lube and was reasonably successful. But did complain a bit on the biteyness or grippiness of it. Read about Manhuud and went for one of theirs with the slippiest coating and it was much better. Bring it out on occassional use. Still no orgasm.on just the sleeve but she does enjoy and I love to see me wielding a porn cock

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Now I am very aware that her g spot is pretty active and enjoys that along with a bit of clit stim. Bought the lovalova and it arrived today. For first time I decided to not be so cagey or reticent about showing her as she is now more on board. I am at work and asked her to open them and take pics of them and how they feel etc. She got into it and sent me.the pics and has said looks forward to trying them out. Hoping the curve does the trick! Perhaps tonight.....

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Please critique and make suggestions for tonight's session.

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Been married twenty years and we have been slowly but surely ramping up the Dom / rougher side of sex but nothing extravagant. I'm hoping for some advice on what else I could perhaps start adding into the mix.

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Current status. Wife doesn't like to have to think or role play as such but has recently said wants to have more rough / intense sex. I asked what this means to her and she said thrown about a bit, told what to do etc. She's not into pain for pains sale but has developed a like for spanking so you never know 😂

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So far so good.. to date we have done and enjoy the following

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Spanking with hand and paddle

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Hair pulling

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Arms behind back during doggy

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Manipulating into position I want

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Grabbing head and pulling to crotch for face fucking

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A little bit of ordering about but mostly done with actions.

Biting goes down very well especially when being fucked

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I would like to up the game a little and thus far today I have been messaging telling her that tonight I am in charge. I know her limits and have promised to not breach. I have ordered her to wear something nice for me and will go from there.

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Now for my question. During the session what would be a good scene or like to run. At present...once kids are in bed I am thinking I order her to bedroom to get ready for me. You have 10.minutes. I then come in and critique her before getting her on her knees to pull my cock out and suck me.

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From there onto spanking and use of our toys to her climax etc. with penetration finally coming and being hard and forceful before my finish.

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Without going blow by blow what would you suggest to keep that light Dom energy up but also get some amping up of roughness going?

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Toys are lined up and warming ready to go 😂

I read so often about women cumming again and again and again. I like to think I am good and have done my research and bring all the tools to the game but still the most my wife has had in a session is 3...was in a boutique sex toy hotel room dungeon set up.....and this was unusual...2 is rare with 1 being a relatively normal event but even then takes a while to get there. And then she is usually more than happy and focusses on getting me off.

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This sometimes bothers me and I wonder if I should be doing better for her.... ridiculous thought after 20 years of marriage and still having sex e to 4 times a week.

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Anyway how many of you out there are one and dones.

Edit... I have been with women before of whom some were remarkable at cumming and others not so much but it's been 20 years since 😂 Not unhappy but it must be awesome for wife to cum repeatedly....that said my wife cums so hard she often hallucinates which is cool

I introduced sleeves a couple of years back and have went from the cheap plasticky ones...bad idea...to expensive triple density ones from likes of Blissful Creations and Manhuud. They now form a part of our sex life like lots of other toys albeit they don't drive my wife wild like some of the stories on here.

But....she is always consistent in enjoying as we build up and I slide into her and carefully get her to full depth. Then can enjoy shallowing and going all the way in. After she always describes it as being stretchy..sometimes she'll say good but always reverts to saying prefers my cock.

Can women explain to a mere male what feeling stretched is and her words on stretchy may mean. Usually I use sleeve in prone bone whilst giving her a massage so is it like being massaged inside and out...like stretching your hamstring? Flip into missionary and get clit sucker on her and she cums quickly.

Tldr...Anyway please help...my wife is not particularly articulate at describing her feelings so what does stretched feel like for a woman taking a big sleeve or cock.