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Hi girls,
I’m curious how other escorts handle this with family and close friends.

I’m extremely close to my family, but I cannot under any circumstances tell them what I actually do. I feel like I’ve created this whole “normal” explanation for my lifestyle, and lately it’s starting to feel complicated to keep up with.

For example, I travel quite a bit, stay in nice places, buy nicer things, and generally have a lifestyle that is hard to explain if people ask too many questions. I’ve kind of made up a story that I have a wealthy boyfriend who I travel with, because it feels easier than explaining where the money and trips come from.

(I am graduating from uni this year currently doing my internship)

But I also don’t want to look suspicious, lie too much, or create a story that becomes impossible to maintain long-term.

For those of you who are close to your family/friends but keep this work completely private: what do you tell them you do? Do you use a vague job title, say you freelance, have an online business, work in consulting/marketing, have a generous
partner, or something else?
And how do you explain travel, nice hotels, designer things, flexible schedule, or sudden income without raising questions?
Would really appreciate advice from women who have been doing this longer and have found a believable, low-drama way to keep their private life private.

I’ve noticed this can happen sometimes: the date is going really well, there is good chemistry, everything feels natural, and then after intimacy the energy suddenly changes.

Like some men seem to get very quiet, embarrassed, distant, or almost ashamed.

I always try to be warm, non-judgmental, and reassuring during the meeting. Afterwards when they have finished and we are laying next to eachother I try not to be clingy or intense, but I also don’t want to let the room become awkwardly silent. I usually keep the conversation light and normal, so they don’t feel like anything “weird” happened.

But honestly, sometimes it feels hard to manage emotionally because the shift can be so sudden. I know it may not be personal, but it can still feel uncomfortable.

How do other providers handle this? Do you give them space, keep chatting like normal, make light conversation, or just let the silence happen? Any advice for making the aftercare part feel more relaxed for both people?

I feel this is genuinely an issue of mine and makes it sometimes like a ”awkward” finish to the really good date

Do you always require a client’s phone number before confirming?

I had someone fill in the booking form on my website, but he didn’t want to include his phone number. I usually prefer having it for safety and communication, but I’m wondering how other providers handle this.

Do you make a phone number mandatory, or do you sometimes accept email/other screening instead? And how do you phrase it politely without sounding too intense or like you’re “checking” them?
I want to keep things discreet and professional, but also protect my safety.

Hi
I’ve had a few clients ask if I offer online services, like photos, videos, FaceTime calls, etc.
For those of you who do online work as an add-on, what do you usually offer?

Do you sell:
photo sets?
custom photos/videos?
FaceTime/video calls?
voice notes?
girlfriend-style texting?
subscription platforms?

Also, how do you price it, and do you use the same screening/payment rules as in-person bookings?
I’m curious if it’s worth adding, or if it becomes too much work / too risky for privacy.

Hi girls,
For those of you in Europe who declare your income, how do you handle taxes?

Do you use a normal accountant, or someone adult-industry/SW specific?

Also curious:
What country are you in?
What business category do you declare under?
Do you tell your accountant exactly what you do?
How do you track cash, deposits, gifts, and expenses?

If you know an accountant that is targeting this issue I would love if you could write a private message to me regarding this.

Not asking for legal advice, just real-life experiences.

Hi girls,
I’d love some advice on screening for a longer FMTY/14-hour booking in Italy.

A man first contacted me around two months ago. He was respectful, but I didn’t reply because the date felt too far ahead. Now he contacted me again asking for mid July.

He has sent me his ID, but says he doesn’t have LinkedIn. Since I would be travelling to him, I want to be extra careful.

What would you require before agreeing? Video call, references, work/company verification, hotel booking confirmation, full travel covered upfront, deposit, and public first meet?

(Since this is a public forum please do t mention the screening services, in that case contact me privately)

Would no LinkedIn be a red flag if he has sent ID and seems respectful?

Thank you 🤍

Hi girls 💗

I’m planning to be in Milan and London soon and I’m trying to figure out where it’s actually worth advertising.

Right now I only use Tryst and Erobella, but I’m curious if there are other good platforms for these cities especially ones that attract more respectful / higher-quality clients rather than just time wasters.

For Milan, do you recommend Erobella, Eurogirls, private websites, Twitter/X, or something else?

For London, I know Tryst is common but I’m wondering if there are any other sites that actually work well there, or if it’s better to focus on social media / personal website / agency-style networking?

I’m not looking to overpost everywhere, just trying to choose 2–3 solid places before travelling.

Would love to hear what has worked for you in Milan or London 🤍

Hi ladies,
Maybe this is a dumb question but I’m curious how you all see Seeking.

I’ve been wondering if most people use Seeking as another way to meet clients, or if you keep it more separate and treat it like actual sugar dating. I have noticed I have got previously som x.xxx offers there and some guys really know the escort terms and we do the meeting same as escorting. I only use seeking as a ”backup” and I have not managed to charge my excavator hour rates but close to it.

I feel like it gets confusing because some men on there clearly want a proper arrangement, but others basically want a paid meet they just use “allowance” or “PPM” wording instead of being direct.

Do you usually keep your normal structure/rates, use allowance language, only do longer arrangements, or just decide case by case?
Also do you screen the same way as you normally would?
Would love to hear how you guys handle it because I’m still figuring out the best way to approach it.

Hi everyone,
For independent escorts who have worked in Europe: which city would you say is better for bookings Milan, Madrid, or Paris?
I’m curious about the client quality, safety, rates, demand, and overall market vibe.

Is Milan or Madrid actually worth trying, or is Paris generally stronger for higher-end clients?
Would love honest experiences from people who have worked there!

I’ve been speaking to a potential SD and we already talked on the phone. He seems nice, but I want to make sure he’s actually legit before meeting.

Is it normal to ask to exchange LinkedIn, just for screening? I don’t want to blur personal/professional boundaries, but I also don’t want to meet someone without verifying who they are.

How do you usually screen SDs LinkedIn, FaceTime, ID, references? And is there any risk with sharing LinkedIn from my side?

Question about working during your period
For those who provide full-service dates, how do you usually handle bookings when you’re on your period?

I have a bit of period cramps

I just got my period and currently I am dealing with cramps etc. It is the first day and it came early…

Do you cancel/reschedule completely, offer non-penetrative options, or use soft tampons/sponges if you feel comfortable? I’m still fairly new and trying to understand what is normal and realistic.

I’m mainly asking because I sometimes get cramps on the first day, and I don’t want to put myself in a situation where I’m uncomfortable or stressed during a booking. At the same time, I don’t want to cancel last minute unless it’s necessary.
Would love practical advice from people with experience. How do you usually communicate it to clients, and what boundaries do you set?

Hi girls 💕

I’m curious how other independent escorts handle taxes, especially those making around 10k+ a month.

Do you declare everything you earn, or do you declare part of it and keep some cash undeclared for spending? For example, if you make 15k/month, do you pay tax on the full 15k or declare maybe 10k and keep 5k as cash?

I’m not asking for legal advice, just genuinely wondering what people actually do in real life, especially in Europe/UK/US.

Do you work with an accountant? Do you declare under another service category? Have you ever had issues with banks asking questions?

Would really appreciate honest experiences I feel like this is something people don’t talk about enough. 💗

Hi everyone, I’m still quite new to figuring out which advertising platforms are actually worth it, so I’d love to hear what has worked for others.

I make around €15k/month pretty consistently as an independent, but I’m always looking to improve where I advertise.

Right now:

Tryst is by far my best platform and where most of my inquiries come from.

Seeking has also been good for me, mostly because I’ve built a few reliable connections there.

I’ve been on LadyXena for about a month and only had a couple of inquiries.

I recently joined Erobella UK because I’m planning a London tour, but so far it feels a bit more high-volume than what I’m looking for.

I’m considering Slixa and EuroGirlsEscort, but I’m not based in London full-time and I usually prefer a more selective, higher-end clientele. I also have a 2-hour minimum and don’t really focus on volume.

I also want to add that I do -Not- have my own website, I have been offered a girl doing it for me for 500-1000€ depending on complexity, so for the girls that have a decent looking website is it worth investing in?? Or should I try do one myself?

For those of you doing well in Europe or the UK, where are you getting your best clients from these days?

Paris girls are my rates too high?

I’m trying to figure out if I’m pricing myself correctly for Paris. I only do 2h minimum, and right now my rates are:

2h: €800
3h: €1,100
5h: €1,700
Overnight: €2,500

My vibe is more elegant GFE / dinner date / longer unrushed bookings, and I’m aiming for quality clients rather than volume.

Does this sound realistic for Paris, or too high? Especially curious about the overnight rate does €2.5k make sense or should I adjust it?

I get an ok amount of bookings currently about 15k a month , but I believe so many French guys get ”scared away” from my prices?

Would love honest opinions from anyone who knows the Paris/European market.

Hi So basically I am 50/50 about doing protected oral. If I find a client attractive and clean I’ll do it without otherwise I do protected .

However I curious if there are any escorts here who charge around x.xxx an hour or more and still only do protected blowjobs?

I feel like sometimes clients act like if they’re paying more, then everything should be “included,” but for me safety and boundaries are still safety and boundaries, no matter the price.

I’m trying to position myself more high-end / low volume, but I also don’t want to feel pressured into things I’m not comfortable with just because the rate is higher.

So I’m wondering for girls who charge ”premium” rates, do you still keep protected oral as a rule? Do clients respect it? Does it affect bookings, or is it mostly about how you present yourself and communicate your boundaries?

Also, how do you say it in a way that sounds confident and not awkward? Like not too clinical, but still clear? Would love to hear your replies!

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Hi girls, I’m curious how others handle alcohol with clients.

I’m someone who can drink now and then and it doesn’t really bother me, but I do worry that alcohol isn’t great for my health in general. I don’t want it to become a regular thing, especially because I hate feeling hungover.

I also like care quite a lot about staying in good shape, feeling healthy, and taking care of myself, so I don’t want alcohol to start affecting that. I do enjoy drinking socially and I think it can be fun, especially with dinner or champagne, but not too often.

Ideally, I would maybe only drink with a client maximum once/twice a week, and otherwise try to drink less.

Before I started, I used to sometimes drink before seeing clients, but now I only drink if the client is drinking, and I try to keep it as minimal as possible. But when you have several bookings in a week, even “just a little” can quickly become a lot of alcohol, and that doesn’t feel very healthy long-term.

Also! Like I never want to eat a lot of food either, but I don’t want to come across as weird or like I don’t enjoy the food, but I am very like fitness focused so I feel like I have to just take a few bites. How do you guys do?

So I’m wondering: do you usually drink with clients? Do you avoid it completely, or do you have rules for yourself, like one drink maximum, no shots, only wine/champagne, etc.? And do you feel like drinking regularly with clients affects your health, body, skin, fitness, or energy?

Hi girls, I wanted to ask how strict you are with screening, especially those of you based in Europe / Paris.

I’m based in Europe (Paris) speaking with a potential client from the neatherlqnds and I’m a bit torn. He has been very respectful in every message, not pushy at all, and we also had around a 10-minute FaceTime call. He was very good-looking, calm, well-spoken, and seemed completely normal. He Said he have a pretty high position in finance working in New York, Overall, he gave a good impression.

The only issue is that he says he is very paranoid about his identity and does not feel comfortable revealing his full real name or sending full ID before meeting. He said he understands my concern and would be willing to meet me for a one-hour drink in public first, (he is staying at a nice 5 star hotel here) so I can feel more comfortable, but he still does not want to share his full name.

For for my EUROPE girls who screen clients : would this be enough for you, or would you still require full ID / LinkedIn / hotel details before meeting? Do you ever make exceptions when someone seems respectful and agrees to a public drink first?

I’m trying to find the balance between being safe and not scaring away genuine discreet clients, but I also don’t want to ignore my own boundaries.

Curious how others would handle this. 🤍