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My face and voice wouldn’t be included, it would be filmed on my phone, and I’d only transfer the final approved clip. I would also require an NDA/limited personal-use agreement stating that it can’t be shared, uploaded, copied, edited, shown to anyone else or used with AI.

Have any of you offered this as an add-on? Would you allow a client to keep the video at all? If yes, how much extra would you charge, and what rules or precautions would you put in place?

I’m currently considering around €1,000 extra, but I’m interested in hearing how others approach the permanent privacy risk.

I normally don’t offer video calls because I’m very private, but I’m considering allowing a short FaceTime call after the client has paid the deposit and completed screening.

Do any of you do this? Has it helped clients feel more comfortable, or have you experienced issues with screenshots or screen recording? What boundaries do you use?

I’m an escort in my early twenties based in Europe. I’ve been quite successful so far, and most clients tell me they genuinely enjoyed our time together—but I’m curious about what clients value most, both when initially booking someone and during the actual experience.
Could you rate each of these from 1 (not important) to 5 (extremely important)?

● Physical appearance/ Photos matching reality
● Chemistry/connection
● Genuine enthusiasm
● Warmth and affection
● Sexual compatibility/skills
● Conversation and intelligence
● Confidence
● Communication before the date
● Reliability and punctuality
● Discretion
● Price/value
● Feeling relaxed rather than rushed

What initially makes you book one escort over another? And once you meet her, what separates a merely “good” experience from one you genuinely remember and want to repeat?

I’m also curious about age. Does it meaningfully affect whom you book? Do you generally prefer younger women, older women, or is the individual connection much more important than the number?
Finally, when you tell an escort, “I had an amazing time” or “I hope to see you again,” do you normally mean that sincerely, or is it sometimes just politeness?

After a good date, what level of contact do you prefer?

● No contact unless you want to book again
● A short thank-you message
● Occasional friendly messages
● Regular conversation
● Personal photos/selfies between dates
● You prefer her to initiate the next conversation

I’d really appreciate honest answers especially details about the small things providers may not realize make a major difference. I would love to get more regulars and improve my experience with them (: <3

It could be related to boundaries, safety, pricing, clients, finances, privacy, or anything else. What do you wish you’d known or done differently from the beginning?

It immediately makes me feel like they haven’t read a single word and just want me to send them an explicit menu which I’m not comfortable doing anyway. Is this just a normal question clients ask, or do you also see it as a bit of a red flag? How do you usually respond?

(Feel free to send me a private message if this is too sensitive to speak on here)

I’m based in France and over the past few months I’ve been earning around €15–20k per month. I’m realizing that I really need to organise the financial side properly because I don’t want problems with my bank, frozen accounts, or unexpected tax issues later.

For those earning similar amounts in France: do you declare your entire turnover, and what percentage do you realistically reserve for taxes, social contributions and VAT? Are you still registered as a micro-entrepreneur, or did you change to another structure once your income increased?

I receive quite a lot in cash, but I would rather deposit and use the money than keep large amounts at home. How do you document cash income and make deposits without creating problems with your bank? Do you use a dedicated business account, and have you found a bank or accountant who understands the industry?

I’m not looking for ways to evade taxes, I’m trying to understand the safest and most practical setup. If you were in my situation, what would you do first? Recommendations for discreet, nonjudgmental accountants in France would also be appreciated.
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A warning for girls to be CLEAR on boundaries, I wished I did. I wished I was today…

Just want to start off by saying that throughout my escorting journey I belive I have been blessed with my clients, not had any single major issue with clients respecting me & my boundaries no matter how much they payed.

Until today…

I met a client today who seemed completely respectable and safe. He paid the deposit, completedp screening and had a very established professional presence 20,000 LinkedIn followers, several businesses and apparently a net worth of several million. He arrived early, bought me a drink and was polite and respectful. There genuinely weren’t any obvious red flags.

When we got to the room, everything initially seemed fine, although he gradually became rougher during sex. He repeatedly asked for anal, and I repeatedly said no. I said it gently because I didn’t want to ruin the atmosphere things like “No, I’m too tight” and “I don’t want to” but I still said no. Several times.

So then Later… from one second to another when he was behind me ha suddenly took both of my hand s down super hard so I couldn’t move and penetrated me anally anyway. I had not consented to it. It only lasted briefly and we used a condom, but that doesn’t change what happened: he physically restrained me and did something I had explicitly refused and I felt really unsafe in that moment.

After he came, he seemed ashamed. We talked
for around 40 minutes afterward, and he suddenly seemed almost childlike wanting me to hold and comfort him, telling me how amazing, intelligent and ambitious I was, and giving me advice about my life.

He then asked to see me tomorrow for a walk and coffee. It felt like he knew he had done something cruel and was trying to make himself feel better afterward.

This is why I never want to do doggy with anybody… or anything that is behind me that I can’t see…

I told him I couldn’t meet tomorrow. Right now, I’m just incredibly angry. It was so unnecessary. He could simply have respected my “no” instead of prioritising a few seconds of his own pleasure over my boundaries.
I’ve previously been fortunate to meet clients who listened whenever I said no, so this is the first time someone has done something like this to me.

I’m sharing it because screening, a deposit, professional success, money and a polished public image do not guarantee that someone will respect consent. A soft “no” is still a no.

Please trust yourselves, be careful!! and don’t dismiss persistent boundary-pushing just because the person otherwise appears respectable.

I don’t really know what to do with the anger right now. I think I mainly need some support from people who understand. ):

EDIT:

The IRONY in this is that he has a record of having multiple businesses fighting against depression and Mental health!! I don’t even know what to say…

Also please how do I Bl4ck l1st him? Please send me a private dm

Not sure if it’s stupid to even post about this here lol, but I’ve been wondering if anyone else in this industry is in a similar position? Like having a somewhat public/social media presence while also keeping this side of your life separate.

How do you manage the two without them crossing over too much? Has anyone actually been recognized before?

Hi! I’m looking for photographer recommendations, ideally in France/Paris but open to anywhere in Europe.

I’m specifically looking for someone who produces really high-quality, polished, editorial-looking images beautiful lighting, flattering posing/direction and professional retouching. More luxury/fashion/editorial than the typical quick content shoot.

For those of you who’ve done professional shoots in Europe: who have you personally worked with and would genuinely recommend?

Happy to travel for the right photographer and invest more if the quality is noticeably better.
Would especially love recommendations where you can share their Instagram/website or examples of your shoot with them. 🤍

I’m really curious about how other escorts structure their work and finances, especially long-term. I also love data and curious about how other escorts are viewing this work (:

If you’re comfortable and (just want to take 2 min to answer this it would be very interesting):

1. Where are you based?
Europe / UK / USA / Canada / Australia / elsewhere?
2. Roughly how much do you make from escorting per month?
An average is fine I know it can vary massively month to month.

3. Is escorting your full-time job?
Or do you have another source of income?

4. If you have another job, what kind?
Corporate / WFH / freelance / entrepreneur / your own business / studying / something else?

5. How many days or hours per week do you usually spend escorting?

6. If escorting ISN’T your full-time thing, would you ever consider making it full-time?
Why or why not?

7. If escorting IS your full-time thing, do you see yourself doing it long-term?
Or are you using it to work toward something else?

8. What are you doing with the money?
Investing / property / building a business / saving / enjoying life / a mixture?

9. Would you ever go back to a traditional corporate/9–5 career? Why or why not?

For me, I want to use SW to live my dream life now while also building my future. I want to invest a good portion of what I earn and use the freedom and capital to build my own business and eventually have multiple income streams.

I personally don’t see myself returning to the traditional corporate route, so I’m really interested in hearing from women who have taken a similar path especially anyone who has used SW as a stepping stone to entrepreneurship or financial independence.

I’m really curious about how other escorts structure their work and finances, especially long-term. I also love data and curious about how other escorts are viewing this work (:

If you’re comfortable and (just want to take 2 min to answer this it would be very interesting):

1. Where are you based?
Europe / UK / USA / Canada / Australia / elsewhere?

2. Roughly how much do you make from escorting per month?
An average is fine I know it can vary massively month to month.

3. Is escorting your full-time job?
Or do you have another source of income?

4. If you have another job, what kind?
Corporate / WFH / freelance / entrepreneur / your own business / studying / something else?

5. How many days or hours per week do you usually spend escorting?

6. If escorting ISN’T your full-time thing, would you ever consider making it full-time?
Why or why not?

7. If escorting IS your full-time thing, do you see yourself doing it long-term?
Or are you using it to work toward something else?

8. What are you doing with the money?
Investing / property / building a business / saving / enjoying life / a mixture?

9. Would you ever go back to a traditional corporate/9–5 career? Why or why not?

For me, I want to use SW to live my dream life now while also building my future. I want to invest a good portion of what I earn and use the freedom and capital to build my own business and eventually have multiple income streams.

I personally don’t see myself returning to the traditional corporate route, so I’m really interested in hearing from women who have taken a similar path especially anyone who has used SW as a stepping stone to entrepreneurship or financial independence.

Hi everyone,
I’d love some honest feedback from experienced providers.

I’m based in Paris, have my own website, and my current rates are:
2h – €900 (my minimum booking)
3h – €1,200
5h – €1,700
Overnight – €3,000 (14h)

A bit about me: I’m well educated, speak multiple languages, I’m very well-rounded socially, and before escorting I worked quite a bit as a model (I still do occasionally, but escorting has become my main focus). I invest a lot into my branding, photography, website, fitness, and overall client experience.

Last month I earned around €20k, so things were going really well. This month I decided to increase all my rates by €100, and suddenly business feels much slower.

Do you think a €100 increase could realistically have that much of an impact, or is this more likely just normal seasonality? August seems to be a strange month, and I’m wondering if I’m overthinking it.

For those of you working in Paris or other major European cities:

Do my rates seem reasonable for the market?
Would you keep the rates where they are, or lower them again?

Have you noticed August being significantly slower than previous months?
I’d really appreciate honest opinions, whether you think I’m priced appropriately or not. Thanks!

I think I’ve found a what you could call “whale” client, (I don’t really like that word but I belive it is an accurate way to describe him) and I’m curious how others handle this dynamic.

Based on public information, his net worth appears to be in the hundreds of millions. During our recent 2-day trip together, he spent over €15k in total, including my allowance, hotels, restaurants, shopping, etc.

He’s genuinely one of the sweetest gentlemen I’ve met, he seems to be busy but I genuinely get along with him despite how different we are in life etc. We haven’t even had sex yet because he enjoys spending time together in other ways he is also in his older age so that might be an explanation. Since the trip, he texts me all the time saying he misses me and wants to see me again.

The only thing is, I feel like because he’s given me so much, I somehow need to “give back,” even though I know that’s probably just in my head. I also don’t want our relationship to become mostly texting between bookings.

For those of you with amazing regulars or whale clients:

How much do you text between meetings?
How do you keep the connection without becoming an online relationship?
Any advice on maintaining good boundaries while keeping a great client?

Hi, I recently discovered that a website called Renole has published an advertisement using my name without my consent.
I never created or approved this listing, and I’m concerned about my privacy and reputation. I would like the entire ad, including my name, photos, contact details, and any cached copies, to be removed as soon as possible.
Has anyone dealt with this website before?

Hi everyone,
I’m curious about realistic monthly income ranges in escorting, since I feel like numbers online can be very exaggerated.

For those comfortable sharing anonymously, could you say:

Your region: Europe / USA / Asia / other
Your age range: early 20s, mid 20s, 30s, 40s+
Your average monthly income before expenses
How many bookings you usually do per week/month
Whether you work independently or through an agency

Your main platforms/marketing methods
Whether your income is stable or very up and down
I’m especially interested in how much location, age, marketing, and positioning affect income. No need to share exact numbers if you prefer ranges.

Also PLS add if you have another full time job on the side thank you (:

Me: I am a white brunette early 20’s, currently working 50/50 remote and in office
and make around 10-15k a month based in Europe as an independent, done this for a few months, would say income is kind of stable.

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What do you usually charge for a full-day 10/12h booking, morning until evening, without an overnight?

For example, around 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. Do you have a fixed day rate, or calculate it based on the number of hours?

It would be helpful to know your country or region, whether the client is a regular, and whether travel is charged separately.

One of my regulars is asking, I am thinking somewhere between 2000-3000 he is very pleasant to be aroundz

Hey loves, I’ve been asked to fly out to another European city for a short booking, under 48 hours (probably 1–2 nights).
For those of you who do FMTY/travel, how do you usually price something like this? Do you go with a flat 24/48h rate, your normal hourly with a cap, or just base it on what you’d lose by being away from home?

Red flag is that: He said to me ”Ofcourse I’ll give you some pocket money for shopping etc” I am like Ofcourse!! You! Will! Like idk ah do he think I just want to travel for free like I have never lived in a 5star??

(I have seen this client before and he payed me 2000k for 8h)

Also, do you always have the client cover flights, hotel, transport, food, etc separately? And do you add anything extra for travel as time/ryt
I was thinking of quoting around €3k + all expenses, but would love to hear what you girls usually do 💕

I have a client who is genuinely very sweet and respectful, but he recently asked whether we could exchange private numbers because he would like to “develop a friendship beyond escorting.”

Part of me finds it flattering, but it also feels like he is trying to transition from being a paying client into having access to me privately for free. I’m not interested in dating him or blurring the line between my personal and professional life, but I also don’t want to be unnecessarily cold because I do enjoy his company.

He seems to be pretty well off, featured in businessmagazines etc, always staying in 5 star etc etc.

Has anyone dealt with this before? is this usually just a way of avoiding the professional arrangement? How would you respond while keeping the boundary clear? Like he clearly wantse to be his girlfriend , I have seen this guy maybe 4 times.

What would you do?

Edit: thanks for the replies! Actually now I sent him that I would love to be friends, now he asked me how much I wanted for spending 12+ hours with him lol.

I’m curious how people who know the industry define high-end escorting in cities like Paris and London.

I’m not asking what agencies advertise as luxury, but what genuinely separates the top tier from everyone else.
Some questions:
What hourly rates or overnight rates would you consider genuinely high-end in Paris vs. London?
Is it mostly about price, or are screening, discretion, and clientele more important?

Do high-end independent escorts usually rely on referrals and repeat clients rather than advertising?
How common are dinner dates, travel, and longer engagements compared to short bookings?
What qualities make someone stand out at the luxury end? (Appearance, education, conversational skills, languages, etiquette, branding, etc.)
Is there a noticeable difference between the Paris and London markets in terms of expectations and client behavior?

What are the biggest misconceptions people have about “high-end” escorting?
I’d especially love to hear from people with firsthand experience or who have worked in either market. Thanks!

For outcalls, do you normally ask the client to cover your Uber both ways, or do you include transportation in your rate?

How do you handle the payment without revealing your home address? Do you ask them to add a fixed travel fee, reimburse you in cash when you arrive, send an Uber gift card, or order the car from a nearby public location?

I’m especially curious about how other independents handle this professionally and safely, particularly in cities where Uber prices can change a lot depending on the time.