u/SharleyQueen

This is happening to us more than we'd like, and we're still learning how to deal with it. During the week, we talk to several guys on apps; there’s a lot of stimulation, we both get turned on looking at different bodies, nice cocks, and having really spicy conversations. We build up a ton of expectation, we masturbate to the idea, and feed the lust thinking about the weekend meet-up, which is when we can actually get together.

But the day approaches and suddenly there are only one or two candidates left, and in the end, neither can make it, they don't reply on the last day, or we focus on just one and he completely ghosts us.

The real problem is the crash that comes after. I admit it gives me a brutal irritability. I need to prepare myself beforehand, get in the right headspace, and juggle logistics to move family schedules around. My body knows the date is coming, it preps for it, and it physically shows. So when everything gets called off at the very last second, it crushes me. I've caught myself in a really bad mood, being super reactive, and even taking it out on my husband. It's like this massive dopamine high that suddenly gets completely cut off and you have nowhere to release it. Readjusting all that built-up tension is incredibly hard for me.

Unfortunately, this happens to us a lot. Does this happen to you guys often? How do you handle that frustration and the emotional crash when you get flaked on at the last minute?