u/beloved_temptress

I just had someone message me on Telegram (a platform I do not have advertised anywhere on my profile) saying their account is too new to DM on reddit, and asking me to tell them about myself 😒😒

They have been blocked. Why?

1 - Do not message me on a platform I do not have advertised. If I wanted people to contact me on Telegram, I would say so.

2 - Even new accounts can send DMs, just a limited amount. So you used up your DM limit already is what I'm hearing 😒

3 - You are asking about me? When I tell you I have information on my profile, you admit to not remembering anything about me? So you have no interest in me as a person 😒 cool, I'll pass.

Question for everyone 😋 What's your process for solo play?

Are you just using your hands? Are you using both hands? Are you using toys? Insertion or nay? Vibrations or nah?

I just added a new reimbursement to my Throne lol and it made me laugh. I sometimes have my boy visit me at work 🤫 and sometimes will set up an air mattress 🤫 so we can do the deed more comfortably 🤫🤫 buuuuut they don't tend to last long 🤣 so I've now decided to have subs pay for a new one whenever it inevitably starts leaking.

So, what's a weird thing you have had a sub pay for?

Also how is everyone's week going so far?

Good morning lovelies.

Happiness *will* find you, you can't escape it.

You will succeed, it is inevitable.

Everything will be fine, you cannot stop it.

So I will try and keep this brief. I have been a part of the online bdsm community for a long time. I absolutely love femdom, especially gentle femdom, but have never had a chance to explore irl...until this year. I finally have a partner who is open to femdom and is excited to explore it with me. Now, I have had a very hard time actually stepping into the role because, you would have thought, irl is nothing like online...especially with someone who KNOWS you 😮‍💨 so all the trauma, the self doubt, the anxiety, the nervousness, it's all front and center on full display. That is overwhelming.

But to make matters even worse, the second he does anything that is slightly submissive, I get so flustered and turned on and can't think straight. He has kneeled in front of me a handful of times, and my knees genuinely gave out. He is every fantasy I've ever had, all wrapped up in this perfect package, and I don't know how to handle it all.

So...how do you get past the over excitement of it all?

I have been interested in shibari for a very long time and I'm looking to buy some rope finally. Any tips of buying the right kind of rope?

I have been interested in shibari for a very long time and I'm looking to buy some rope finally. Any tips of buying the right kind of rope?

Happy hump day as well 🤭

Weekly reminder to find yourself a nice quiet corner, get on your knees, and pull those underwear as high as you can cutie 😘 then go say thank you and send tribute to your Domme (or your crush if you are unowned) as always, photos are encouraged 🥰

Hope everyone is having a lovely week. Any fun plans for the weekend?

You go buy us both the same Lego set, and we build it together while chatting. Every time I distract you, you send 😋

...do you know where your submissive is?

Not everyone will get this. That's ok. For those that do, how's the back/knee pain today?

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented on my last post here about eldest daughter syndrome. I was surprised to see so many people felt the same way, but it was nice to not feel alone. I appreciate all the support and advice that was given and just wanted to send big hugs to all the lovely ladies who might be struggling as well 🫂🫂

You are all beautiful and you all deserve to be worshipped properly ❤️

The need to take care of everyone, the need for control and being responsible for everything, makes me a great Domme...but the hyper-independence makes it hard because there is a part of me that hates the idea of someone giving me anything 😤 not to mention the little bit of misandry in me that makes me feel disgust towards men...all of these things make me struggle with this kink, because it's a weird combination of "damn right I deserve this" vs "I don't need anything from you" vs this shame for taking money for kink.

I also hate the feeling that so many of the men in this space have no respect for women, and just want to throw money at us so they can cum, then blame us and judge us to taking the money. If you don't want to play, don't. But don't sit there and get upset with us for your lack of control. It's exhausting being mistreated, judged, and disrespected for enjoying the power exchange that comes from this kink. Mixing money into kink or sex, really brings out the worst men.

Just feeling frustrated and thinking it's time to take a step back, even though I know I won't because I genuinely love kink...though maybe not this one as much right now.

I've only been doing findom about a year now, but even in just this short amount of time, I have noticed a very significant increase in horrible men coming in here looking to abuse women. I know the bdsm scene as a whole has issues, despite that it's supposed to be a safe place, and I also am aware that so much of findom does not follow ANY bdsm standards...but this is getting ridiculous. This whole scene is feeling less and less safe by the day. We as women already have to deal with so much at the hands of men, it's exhausting that they come in and ruin spaces like this, where we get to explore.

I hiss at people when I'm irritated, and will sometimes purr. This is not even scratching the list of weird stuff I do lol but its definitely up there 👀

Who wants to share their weird with the class?

I hiss at people when I'm irritated, and will sometimes purr. This is not even scratching the list of weird stuff I do lol but its definitely up there 👀

Who wants to share their weird with the class?

I saw this idea somewhere and it seems like a cute thing to do with a sub 🤭 You have them buy 2 of the same Lego set, 1 for you and 1 for them, and you do it together 🥰 anyone done something like this?