u/biteherlip

My (26f) sexuality and self hatred have become so deeply muddled, they are almost infused, some sort of two-headed monster I have no ability to fight.

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. I’ve completed a professional degree before being touched sexually. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and since my foray into gooning has only gotten worse. As smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

Porn, of course, has made all of this worse. My tastes are becoming distorted. I rub my pussy desperately, sometimes violently, becoming more obsessed with icky taboos. Condescending daddies and mean mommies, princess and puppy parts, knots, misogyny kinks, and being taken advantage of in literally every sense of the word.

My contaminated sexuality paired with my grotesque body, intensifies the shame that lingers in the air after each solitary orgasm.

Since I was a little girl i dreamed of being beautiful. Now, im desperately searching to little avail of a dom to fix me, bimbofy me, make me worthy of the attention I desperately crave and will soften the reality my increasingly degenerate sexuality. I don’t think I’m capable of thinking differently about this, and feel a bit sick over it.

Limits: scat, gore, raceplay

*reposting because I added the wrong flair*

Serious inquiries only please! One liners will be ignored

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on
\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\-accessories s
\\- makeup
\\- hair
\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\-sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

Serious inquiries only please!

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on
\- aesthetics / outfits
\-accessories s
\- makeup
\- hair
\- potentially diet and exercise
\-sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

\*serious inquiries only please!\*

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on
\- aesthetics / outfits
\-accessories s
\- makeup
\- hair
\- potentially diet and exercise
\-sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on
\- aesthetics / outfits
\-accessories s
\- makeup
\- hair
\- potentially diet and exercise
\-sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on include:
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- accessorizing
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- makeup
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- hair
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\\- sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on include:
\\\\\\\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\\\\\\\- accessorizing
\\\\\\\\- makeup
\\\\\\\\- hair
\\\\\\\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\\\\\\\- sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on include:
\\\\\\\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\\\\\\\- accessorizing
\\\\\\\\- makeup
\\\\\\\\- hair
\\\\\\\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\\\\\\\- sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

As a sub I think I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on include:
\\\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\\\- accessorizing
\\\\- makeup
\\\\- hair
\\\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\\\- sub training (handjobs, blowjobs, deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

Spring semester is officially over and im hoping to get a different kind of education this summer.

This week I met up with an experienced kinkster and it was such an exhilarating experience getting to talk about kink with someone in person. Hearing about all his experiences reinforced how eager I am to have some of my own, so im hoping to dedicate some time this summer to gaining some experience.

What I’m looking for:
Im looking to build some sort of dynamic / friendship with an older dom where we can go on dates, and have both vanilla and kinky conversations / experiences. I’m extremely inexperienced so patience and comfortability teaching is super important. I also want an actual friendship where we can have vanilla conversations from time to time. I’m open to things developing beyond that, but that is not an expectation or a requirement. I’m mainly looking to enjoy the warm weather with someone who can help me become the best sub I can be.

About me:
I’m a 26 year old bisexual grad school student. Outside of kink I like reading, baking, traveling, learning new things, exploring the city (think going to museums, restaurants, comedy shows, concerts, etc), and I consider myself a baby gamer as I’m just getting into legend of Zelda on switch. I would describe myself curious and emotionally intelligent, albeit a bit body conscious / insecure

Kinky side:

I’ve only had the opportunity to explore online so far, but I have cherished the moments within power exchange where I get to express my tenderness in the form of submission. I really am craving having the opportunity to explore this side of myself even more with a trusted partner

I think I’m still discovering my identity within kink but I’m majorly an obedient, doting submissive. I usually describe myself a a pet with little tendencies. I’m certainly not a brat but submission for me takes time and extended effort to build trust and respect. Anything less doesn’t work for me

I have a lot of kinks that I’d love to explore with the right person, and I’d love to discuss them more with you. Some of my kinks / kink curiosities include:

power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, ddlg/mdlg, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse, bimbofication

My limits are: raceplay, incest, bathroom stuff, extreme pain / violence, cheating, nonchalance

About you:

I’m pretty flexible with what I’m looking for. Age-wise my preference is older than me (30+). I really value experience with D/s dynamics and comfortability leading / teaching. Not looking for long distance so please be reasonably within my area. Please be emotionally intelligent, monogamous, and able to hold a conversation! Send me a wall of text I’m up for all of that 🙂‍↕️ Extra points always if you can make me laugh.

As always one liners and other low effort messages will be ignored

Talk soon ♥️

This week I met up with an experienced kinkster and it was such an exhilarating experience getting to talk about kink with someone in person. Hearing about all his experiences reinforced how eager I am to have some of my own. That’s why I’m conducting a more serious search for a dominant.

What I’m looking for:
Im looking for an older Dom/me (30+) where we can go on dates, shoot the breeze and dive into the kinkier side of things. I’m extremely inexperienced so patience and comfortability teaching is super important. I also want an actual friendship where we can have vanilla conversations from time to time. I’m open to things developing romantically but that is not at all a requirement. I’m mainly looking to enjoy the warm weather with someone who can help me become the best sub I can be.

About me:
I’m a 26 year old transplant. I’m bi, I like reading, baking, traveling, learning new things, going to museums, restaurants etc, and I consider myself a baby gamer as I’m just getting into legend of Zelda on switch. I consider myself curious and emotionally intelligent, albeit a bit body conscious / insecure

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, ddlg/mdlg, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse, bimbofication

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

If you’re interested please tell me a bit about yourself in your first message. One liners get ignored.

Talk soon ♥️

The gist is that Im a fat virgin with social anxiety and depression. Im on track to finish my masters degree before I ever have sex, and only had my first kiss a couple of months ago. I struggle with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. I’ve had this problem since I was young, and Aa smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. Beautiful women invoke this really weird mix if jealousy and arousal that makes me really embarrassed of myself. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I’ve posted this a couple times as I’m developing more of an idea of what I want this to look like.
I think part of it might depend on who messages me. The psychological aspect of this really interests me, and I’m curious about conditioning/ hypnosis. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me, but all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes (30+) preferred

I think I’m still discovering my identity within kink but I see myself as a puppy sub with little tendencies. I’m majorly an obedient, doting, occasionally clingy submissive I require some level of “breaking” or domestication. I can be a bit skittish in the beginning.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention, freeuse

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages, fake Dom/mes / unearned submission

Some elements id like some guide on include:
\\- aesthetics / outfits
\\- accessorizing
\\- makeup
\\- hair
\\- potentially diet and exercise
\\- sub training (handjobs, blowjobs / deepthroating, eating pussy, etc)

If you made it to the end, tell me a bit about yourself and what you’re hoping to get out of this dynamic. Please put a bit of effort into your first message to help me sort out the people who are seriously interested

Talk soon

Hi! This post is a bit long, but I’m trying to be very intentional about what I’m looking for in the hopes of attracting someone who is looking for something similar.

What I’m looking for

I’m looking for a long-term relationship full of mutual adoration and care that incorporates DDLG elements. Someone i can be myself with and never feel like I’m being too much. Even though this is a power exchange dynamic, I want to extend that same level of care back to you, always make you feel special, loved and looked after. I want to go on day trips and read books together, talk about everything and nothing. Although I am submissive, I am not easy to make submit. I want to get to know each other organically, have trust and intimacy build over time. If you’re not in it for a long haul, I don’t think I’m the sub/partner for you.

About me

I’m a 26-year-old black bbw. I would describe myself as curious and empathetic. I love to learn new things; I’ll definitely extend this curiosity to you and your interests :) My sense of humor can be occasionally dark but never mean-spirited. I love to bake and sharing treats with people I care about is a deep joy. As a semi-recent transplant so I spend a lot of time exploring the city, whether that be comedy shows, concerts or museums. I sometimes struggle to make myself go out on my own and would love someone to explore with. That being said I also do love slow mornings cuddling, watching tv, or even parallel play, as long as we’re spending time together. I’m still working on myself in many ways but at my core, I’m a really sensitive loving person and I’d love the opportunity to let that more vulnerable side come through with a loving daddy/ owner while also taking on the responsibility of being a good partner to someone.

Kinky side

A dynamic is an intense expression of intimacy and I therefore want to experience it with someone who cares deeply for me.I’ve only had the opportunity to explore online so far, but I have cherished the moments within power exchange where I get to express my tenderness in the form of obedience.

I think I’m still discovering my identity within kink but I see myself as a puppy sub with little tendencies. I’m majorly an obedient, doting, occasionally clingy submissive but need to be domesticated so to speak to get to that point, which takes time and extended effort to build trust and respect. I want to honor a deserving dom

I have a lot of kinks that I’d love to explore with the right person, and I’d love to discuss them more with you. Some of my kinks / kink curiosities include:

power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, free use

None of these are hard and fast rules. Every dynamic / relationship is different. Please don’t feel put off if any of these aren’t your thing. As for limits I do not like:

Race play , bathroom stuff, violence / gore, incest, nonchalance (I’m so serious about all of these 😤)

About You

Im looking for a patient, experienced dom (30+). I am looking for a LTR first and foremost, so compatibility in terms of political / social views is important (socially liberal). Not looking for long distance, so please be reasonably in my area. I tend to get along well with people who are curious, passionate and caring. If I don’t feel that emotional intimacy, the sexual element is unfulfilling to me. Please be emotionally intelligent, emotionally available, monogamous, and able to hold a conversation! Extra points always if you can make me laugh. I’m inexperienced, so patience and a genuine interest in cultivating romantic connection is paramount.

If any of this resonates with you, please send me a message! Tell me a bit about yourself, put a little effort into your message and include a cupcake emoji 🧁so I know you made it to the end.

NOT looking to sext or trade. Any one-liners will be ignored; don’t waste my time or yours. Your ability to hold a conversation is more interesting to me than your dick size; if you need to rely on it, we’re not a good fit. Be kind and flirt respectfully

Talk soon ♥️

Hi! This post is a bit long, but I’m trying to be very intentional about what I’m looking for in the hopes of attracting someone who is looking for something similar.

What I’m looking for

I’m looking for a long-term relationship full of mutual adoration and care that incorporates DDLG elements. Someone i can be myself with and never feel like I’m being too much. Even though this is a power exchange dynamic, I want to extend that same level of care back to you, always make you feel special, loved and looked after. I want to go on day trips and read books together, talk about everything and nothing. Although I am submissive, I am not easy to make submit. I want to get to know each other organically, have trust and intimacy build over time. If you’re not in it for a long haul, I don’t think I’m the sub/partner for you.

About me

I’m a 26-year-old black bbw. I would describe myself as curious and empathetic. I love to learn new things; I’ll definitely extend this curiosity to you and your interests :) My sense of humor can be occasionally dark but never mean-spirited. I love to bake and sharing treats with people I care about is a deep joy. As a semi-recent transplant so I spend a lot of time exploring the city, whether that be comedy shows, concerts or museums. I sometimes struggle to make myself go out on my own and would love someone to explore with. That being said I also do love slow mornings cuddling, watching tv, or even parallel play, as long as we’re spending time together. I’m still working on myself in many ways but at my core, I’m a really sensitive loving person and I’d love the opportunity to let that more vulnerable side come through with a loving daddy/ owner while also taking on the responsibility of being a good partner to someone.

Kinky side

A dynamic is an intense expression of intimacy and I therefore want to experience it with someone who cares deeply for me.I’ve only had the opportunity to explore online so far, but I have cherished the moments within power exchange where I get to express my tenderness in the form of obedience.

I think I’m still discovering my identity within kink but I see myself as a puppy sub with little tendencies. I’m majorly an obedient, doting, occasionally clingy submissive but need to be domesticated so to speak to get to that point, which takes time and extended effort to build trust and respect. I want to honor a deserving dom

I have a lot of kinks that I’d love to explore with the right person, and I’d love to discuss them more with you. Some of my kinks / kink curiosities include:

power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, free use

None of these are hard and fast rules. Every dynamic / relationship is different. Please don’t feel put off if any of these aren’t your thing. As for limits I do not like:

Race play , bathroom stuff, violence / gore, incest, nonchalance (I’m so serious about all of these 😤)

About You

Im looking for a patient, experienced dom between the ages of 30 and 45. I am looking for a LTR first and foremost, so compatibility in terms of political / social views is important (socially liberal). Not looking for long distance, so please be reasonably in my area. I tend to get along well with people who are curious, passionate and caring. If I don’t feel that emotional intimacy, the sexual element is unfulfilling to me. Please be emotionally intelligent, emotionally available, monogamous, and able to hold a conversation! Extra points always if you can make me laugh. I’m inexperienced, so patience and a genuine interest in cultivating romantic connection is paramount.

If any of this resonates with you, please send me a message! Tell me a bit about yourself, put a little effort into your message and include a cupcake emoji 🧁so I know you made it to the end.

NOT looking to sext or trade. Any one-liners will be ignored; don’t waste my time or yours. Your ability to hold a conversation is more interesting to me than your dick size; if you need to rely on it, we’re not a good fit. Be kind and flirt respectfully

Talk soon ♥️

What I’m looking for

I’m looking for a long-term relationship full of mutual adoration and care. Someone i can be myself with and never feel like I’m being too much. Even though this is a power exchange dynamic, I want to extend that same level of care back to you, always make you feel special, loved and looked after. I want to go on day trips and read books together, talk about everything and nothing. Although I am submissive, I am not easy to make submit. I want to get to know each other organically, have trust and intimacy build over time. If you’re not in it for a long haul, I don’t think I’m the sub/partner for you.

About me

I’m a 26-year-old black bbw. I would describe myself as curious and empathetic. I love to learn new things; I’ll definitely extend this curiosity to you and your interests :) My sense of humor can be occasionally dark but never mean-spirited. I love to bake and sharing treats with people I care about is a deep joy. As a semi-recent transplant so I spend a lot of time exploring the city, whether that be comedy shows, concerts or museums. I sometimes struggle to make myself go out on my own and would love someone to explore with. That being said I also do love slow mornings cuddling, watching tv, or even parallel play, as long as we’re spending time together. At my core, I’m a really sensitive loving person and I’d love the opportunity to let that more vulnerable side come through with a loving daddy/ owner

Kinky side

A dynamic is an intense expression of intimacy and I therefore want to experience it with someone who cares deeply for me.I’ve only had the opportunity to explore online so far, but I have cherished the moments within power exchange where I get to express my tenderness in the form of obedience.

I think I’m still discovering my identity within kink but I see myself as a puppy sub with little tendencies. I’m majorly an obedient, doting, occasionally clingy submissive but need to be domesticated so to speak to get to that point, which takes time and extended effort to build trust and respect. I want to honor a deserving dom

I have a lot of kinks that I’d love to explore with the right person, and I’d love to discuss them more with you. Some of my kinks / kink curiosities include:

power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption

None of these are hard and fast rules. Every dynamic / relationship is different. Please don’t feel put off if any of these aren’t your thing

About You

Im looking for a patient, experienced dom between the ages of 30 and 45. I am looking for a LTR first and foremost, so compatibility in terms of political / social views is important (socially liberal). Not looking for long distance, so please be reasonably in my area. I tend to get along well with people who are curious, passionate and caring. If I don’t feel that emotional intimacy, the sexual element is unfulfilling to me. Please be emotionally intelligent, emotionally available, monogamous, and able to hold a conversation! Extra points always if you can make me laugh.

If any of this resonates with you, please send me a message! Tell me a bit about yourself, put a little effort into your message and include a cupcake emoji 🧁so I know you made it to the end. Any one-liners will be ignored; don’t waste my time or yours. Your ability to hold a conversation is more interesting to me than your dick size; if you need to rely on it, we’re not a good fit. Be kind and flirt respectfully.

Talk soon ♥️

Im posting something a little unusual for me. Im a fat, socially-anxious virgin who struggles with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. As smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I might revisit this post as I develop more clarity about what I’m hoping this dynamic to look like in a practical sense. I think part of it might depend on who messages me. I think having a woman dom me in this way could be really interesting and could provide a lot of firsthand experience / advice to help mold me,

But all perspectives are welcome. Im not against the potential degradation aspects of this, but as a sub, it takes a bit of sustained effort to get me to really submit and be accepting of degrading treatment. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting, and tell me a bit about yourself and what you hope to get out of this dynamic. Older / more experienced Dom/mes preferred

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages

Talk soon

Im posting something a little unusual for me. Im a fat virgin who struggles with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. im also get extremely nervous around people im attracted to to the point it feels like I don’t know how to operate. As smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I might revisit this post as I develop more clarity about what I’m hoping this dynamic to look like in a practical sense. If any of this sounds interesting, please reach out and tell me a bit about yourself/ your experience with D/s dynamics.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages

Talk soon

Im posting something a little unusual for me. Im a fat virgin who struggles with really intense all-encompassing envy towards conventionally attractive women. As smart as I am, I have been unable to logic my way out of it. Being bi (in my opinion) has only made the envy worse and more confusing. I often feel unattractive, grossed out by my own lust and have spent a ton of mental energy imagining my body looking different.

With this post I’m adopting a bit of a “if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em” philosophy. I want to become the object of lust, to wear feminine clothes, to feel more accepting of my sexuality because I’m viewed as a sexual being.

I’m looking for a dom/me who can help shape me into something more desirable. I’m really interested in D/s elements being a part of this because I want to be trained to be the most desirable sub that I can be. I’m curious about a kind of psychological focus / mind break situation but that’s tbd at the moment

I might revisit this post as I develop more clarity about what I’m hoping this dynamic to look like in a practical sense. For the time being, however, please reach out if any of this sounds interesting.

Kinks: power exchange, light impact, praise, degradation, edging, orgasm control, petplay, ageplay, cnc, sleep play, breeding, hypnosis, manipulation / corruption, mindfuck, attention

Limits: raceplay, bathroom stuff, extreme violence, incest, gore, nonchalance, low effort messages

Talk soon