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Me [26M] and my girlfriend [25F] got invited to a foursome by a couple we're friends with [30F + 32M].

This was an absolute surprise for both of us. We talked about this kind of scenario in the past but never thought this might become reality anyway so we never approached them about it. It turns out they were the first to start the convo.

We talked about this between us and we agreed we want to do it because we trust them about it. They're pretty open with their sex life and has been swinging before.

We know about consent, talk about preferences and boundaries. Is there anything else we need to bring up and discuss? Any dos and don'ts that we're forgetting?

Anyone with experience, help.

EDIT: We agreed on the no swapping rule. It'll only be a parallel play with some minor interactions.

Hey guys so I'm in my early 30s and I've pinpointed several aspects that affect the sex life of me and my gf. Any advice on any of these issues would be wonderful.

1. I don't stay hard for very long without stimulation

• If I'm jacking off, I can stay hard for maybe 30-60 mins. But that's with constant jacking and watching porn.

2. I'm not used to the rhythmic thrusts that are used to penetrate (as seen in pornography)

• Are there any hip exercises I can practice to make my lumbar region more flexible for penetration?
• Is it just me, or am I just not that flexible?

3. I'm about a foot taller than my gf

• It affects the "angle of attack" so when we're on the bed, I can't get in a comfortable position to penetrate
• I prefer my penis to angle down more (parallel with my thighs) even during masturbation, is there any position that helps with this? Some positions like spooning don't work.
• It also affects how long I stay hard, as shifting positions for a long time, to try to find the optimal position to penetrate, makes me go limp (maybe also affects my confidence?)
• Pillows in my opinion don't help too much because they're soft, and we're right back in the suboptimal position after a few tries.

4. Physical attraction aspect

• I find my gf very cute, especially with makeup on. but without makeup (also she doesn't have big breasts), she looks very young and I'm not into...you know what.
• This issue has improved with her putting make up on before we do the deed.
• But watching porn and jacking off at least daily reduces my sensitivity to girls I normally encounter in my daily life.
• I understand this issue also affects point #1. But I think NOT watching porn isn't a viable solution because it also serves as a stress reliever. I don't live with my gf so we can't have sex every day.

I'd like to ask if these problems are encountered on a regular basis by people in general.

Apart from sex, I think we are very compatible. At my age and in my country and situation, it's difficult to find someone else so I'd prefer not to break up with her.

TL;DR:

• I'm much taller than my gf, I'm not used to the rhythmic thrusting for penetration, and the "angle of attack" is an issue
• I'd like to know if there are any hip exercises to improve penetration?
• Are there sex positions that help with a more downward pointing penis (parallel with my thighs)?

Thank you again and all advice are greatly appreciated!!

When it was first introduced, he made it sound like it was just a kink, and I reluctantly agreed. I’m already really self conscious but having my boyfriend looking at other women, especially when they look nothing like me, while he’s supposed to be focusing on me just makes me feel really bad about myself.

He promised it wouldn’t be every time. But it’s been like a month and we haven’t had sex without porn on the tv once. He gets kinda snappy if I ask him if we can do it without, or he’ll say “Well yeah but I probably won’t finish”.

Every time I bring up how insecure it makes me, he just gets annoyed because “it’s always the same thing” with me. But it’s gotten to the point where now I’m not finishing because all I can think about is “Do I even still turn him on? Does he wish I had a body like that?” Not to mention the obnoxious sounds from the tv.

He also just.. casually watches porn throughout the day. It used to be just the one site, and even then I didn’t like it much, because.. well, I’m right here. But then he got sent to this one site that’s all live and it just feels more personal and it’s making me feel weird. I’m scared to ask him to stop going on there because he’ll just get annoyed with me again.

What do I even do here? It’s literally been keeping me awake at night.

Update: “Omg leave him!” I understand why you would say this, but come on guys. Not offering different ways to approach or anything, just saying to leave him. Guess what? If I wasn’t incredibly emotionally invested/attached to him, yeah, I might’ve. But I can’t just up and leave the guy for something that can be corrected with the right amount of effort and time.

Me and my partner have been struggling with having a decent sex session due to the heatwave in UK. We have tried with fan on, having a cold shower/bath first and in the morning but it just ends up being a quickie as its just been so hot. Anyone else struggling or got any advice?

I’m young(24) and am about to hookup with someone I found on bumble (58). I’ve never had sex with someone who’s more than 10 years older. I’ve heard women in this age generally have a good sex drive (assuming she does cuz she is the one who initiated talks about hooking up). Is there I should be mindful or aware of? Any tips on what I should and shouldn’t be doing. Kinda nervous about this

To clarify, when I say doggy, I mean doggy. Not pronebone. I love pronebone. I am 32, woman, sexually active since I was 16, multiple partners, I love sex, I masturbate a lot, I know my body and sexuality and I can orgasm very easily. I can even orgasm only by vaginal stimulation if done right.

That said, I hate doggy and cannot find a way to make it work for me. It is uncomfortable. I can barely keep my position stable and all my energy goes there. I can't actually relax and feel any pleasure because if I do I will collapse on the bed. It hurts very easily because the penis goes too deep. There is no clit stimulation and I can't touch myself because if I do I will fall on my face. If my partner tries to touch my clit it feels like nothing because they are already multitasking and so am I. In pronebone I am confortable, lying on my stomach, touching myself, he is on top of me, our bodies are connected.

Is it just that I am not made for doggy? Are there any women who actually enjoy it, and if yes, how exactly? Thanks!

Edit: wow this blew up. I can't read every comment but from the ones I read I suppose I am not built for this position. Even when I am face down ass up it hurts. It also feels impersonal. For the ones saying I need to work out, I am actually pretty fit, so it's not that. Thanks a lot for your input! If I find a partner on the smaller side I may try it again very carefully.

My GF and I have been dating for 3 months now and have been having sex for about 2 months. She has a High libido and we been having sex 5-6 times a week. Anyways last week when I put it in and started thrusting she looks confused and said is it in I don't feel anything.

Before this I would've said I'm not insecure about my size. I know I am not well endowed but not micro level. I compensated by getting good with my fingers and tongue and I can reliability make her come before penetration. She said that the size was never an issue before and maybe she is just used to me now. However, It been a week now and we have had zero penetrative sex this week. I still make her cum but I can not for the life of me I cant get hard for the penetration. Every time her saying she can't feel anything is ringing in my ears. Even her trying to give me hand and blow jobs haven't worked for me getting hard.

I don't know what to do, I really like her and I am not gonna end the relationship over this. Do you guys have any advice?

I don't know

It feels strange because everyone talks about it like it's a man's paradise and a cure for women even though I feel disgusted whenever it's mentionedmy girlfriend used to ask me to perform oral sex and I always refused until one day she insisted

When I got close to her vagina I smelled a strange and foul odor that I couldn't describe and I felt repulsed and couldn't do anything I don't know if this is normal because I know my girlfriend well and she's very clean at least from what I see

Really, how do you do it?

My bf wakes up very early for his job so most mornings we’ll have a little half asleep quickie (I’m the one half asleep) before he gets ready, but then I’m so tired and comfy, getting up to pee is so annoying and it wakes me up too much to go back to sleep easily. It’s only like 2-3 minutes of penetration, surely I could just go back to sleep ? Or am I gonna get a uti ?

We are both each other’s firsts so we are both pretty new to having sexual experiences, however, I’m a bit of a freak.

I’m pretty hypersexual, with no actual experience in sexual intercourse. I’d admit I like watching pornographic material, even though I came from a rather religious background.

My boyfriend is quite the opposite. He doesn’t tend to engage in sexual “freaky” jokes or seem to be the “lustful” type ifykwim. And he’s not religious. He claims to not watch porn, and even though I didn’t believe him at first, his actions do prove it.

For instance, when we first opened up to each other, I expressed that I was pretty hypersexual, but that I’ve never actually had any prior experience in sexual acts. I’m very exposed to certain kinks and other freaky stuff, but he seems to not understand what I mean by “kinks”. Partly because English isn’t really his first language (it’s his second), but I mean, the internet is free, no?

Since I soon learned that he was pretty innocent, I tried to not engage in anymore freaky talk because I didn’t want him to feel uncomfortable. However, he started expressing that he’d get hard after spending time together and started liking being freaky…

Just to be clear, we are in our 20s.

He said he has never ejaculated before except the time he first got wet dreams, and he said that he’d run every morning when he’s hard so that his penis goes back to being soft. I didn’t believe him until I gave him a bj for the very first time and his cum went everywhere, like literally everywhere, it went all over my face and shirt. I swallowed, and he wiped his penis and also the floor with tissues from the leftover cum.

Ever since then we have gotten into sexual intercourse, however there is one thing he doesn’t dare to do. He doesn’t want to eat me out. I never knew what it felt like being eaten out by someone, he’s my first and only sexual partner. He said that the vagina is slimy, smells kinda fishy, and doesn’t really have an appeal to it being licked. He generally doesn’t like eating slimy things either like octopus and shi so i kinda understand if he meant not liking wet sticky stuff, but sometimes the vagina isn’t wet and he still wouldn’t want to lick it. It’s not like he didn’t try at first, he first tried licking mine and immediately stopped before the first lick (it was just a tongue poke)

This happened last year, it was one of the only times we had sexual intercourse since we live pretty far away from each other. Yet, I still crave wanting to be licked and eaten out.

I don’t want to force him to do something he isn’t comfortable with of course. I just can’t stand craving to be eaten out, yet I can’t get my partner to fulfill my sexual needs.

I have tried expressing this desire to him and he seems pretty compliant with wanting to try again on the condition that I “clean it first with soap” before he tries to lick it. The last time he tried, I wasn’t shaved.

Even though I’m grateful that my boyfriend still wants to try to please me (he always makes sure I come whenever we have intercourse), I’m afraid of pushing him to a point where he’d be uncomfortable.

Should I continue to encourage him to “eat me out” since he seems compliant to try, or should I try to find other ways of satisfying my sexual desires?

Ok genuine question, but I’ve (f22) only slept with a handful of guys, and I’ve noticed that they usually pick me up and flip me into missionary after not that long of cowgirl. And I’m wondering if that maybe means it’s because I’m bad at it?

I notice guys always love it when I’m on top of them during foreplay/at first, tell me how hot I look etc, but once im riding after a few minutes max they usually take over and change positions.

I prefer being on the receiving end anyway, but I always try and make an effort to put in the work especially on top, because I know guys like that. I know guys don’t want to have to do all the work, so the fact they do this makes me think maybe I’m not good at it?

I don’t want to be a “starfish” and I’m always an enthusiastic and active participant lol, but I find that I usually end up being one…
I always read men saying the worst thing a woman can do in bed is be a starfish / pillow princess - but that’s what I feel like they turn me into. When they are on top I’m so focused on how good it feels that I sort of can’t do anything else.

I’m curious I would love my gf to give me a bj but she doesn’t think she’ll like it but we aren’t at that stage yet I’m just curious if women actually enjoy giving a blowjob and if so, why

I recently started having sex, and I can't feel shit, like I get wet fast. And that turns on the guy immediately. I have had sex like 4 times already and never once did I feel the penis enter me or find it pleasurable. I can't cum during sex because I feel nothing. But I can feel it when they finger me. What's happening here can anyone help me understand

When I (25/f) didn’t have a sex life yet, I imagined it quite differently than it actually is now. I thought I’d like kinky stuff and a good mix of romanticism and roughness. I read novels with that stuff and found it really hot.

In real life, my body won’t let me to that kind of stuff. Even a bit rougher sex hurts me (even when the penis of my partner isn’t longer than average). A slight slap on my ass hurts me.
Then, the even sadder part: I can only orgasm through stimulating my clitoris with a vibrator. Licking me doesn’t even take me near to an orgasm. Fingering hurts, even with just one finger. So even the soft stuff isn’t really fun for me.
And I don’t really get wet down there, so at the start that hurts, too.

My (former and future) partners can’t truly be happy with me either. I’m a very hygienic person. I can’t give a bj when the penis isn’t freshly cleaned. I hate to be fingered with unwashed hands etc.

What should I do? My libido is not really high, but it’s there. And I like sex, but mainly how I imagine it, not when it actually happens. It makes me so sad …

Me and my girlfriend have weekly sex which I’ve always liked and ejaculating has came easily to me (pun intended)

However there are days where we have sex again and again until we’re both exhausted. And I’ve always enjoyed this side of my girlfriend. But I’ve had issues cumming towards the end of these days where less and less comes out until nothing does.

I’ve seen my girlfriend get visibly upset when I can’t cum and I want to tell her that I do love her and idk why not cumming

Can someone help.

(P.s. I barely had any sexual education and have used the internet to help. But every time is search my issue it usually gives lots of different responses)

Would it be possible for my other half to fill up her vagina with water or something and for me to drink it while going down on her?
Is this a thing? Searching just comes up with water sports but that’s not what I’m after.

So, I've (f) never felt anything exactly pleasurable with things inside of my vagina, be it dildos, fingers, or vibrators, but I lost my virginity and actually having a person in me felt different but not in an orgasmic way? I love sex and it feels better than anything else.

But. My boyfriend put a finger in my ass while we were having sex and for some reason it was more pleasurable than just his penis in my vagina. Is this normal? Is it weird that I can't cum from sexual intercourse?

I can finish fine from oral but sex just feels good in a different way.

When I told him how I felt (I loved having his finger up there more than I love just having his penis in me) I said it in a bad way (I get loopy after sex) and it upset him.

Is there anything I can do that can make my vagina more sensetive? Like, how do I fix the fact I don't feel a lot?

tl;dr: I can't cum from sex but i like it — my boyfriend put a finger in my bum and it felt so good I'm wondering if there's something wrong with my vagina. Help.

I’m plus-size, and whenever I’m on top everything starts off fine… then suddenly we’re playing a game of “where did it go?/ is it in”

I feel like I spend half my time trying to stay aligned and the other half performing emergency re-docking procedures. AND IT PUTS ME OFF

Is there a technique I’m missing, or is this just universal experience? OR AM I JUST TOO FAT (He’s not small or too big either)

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(23f) So I’m in a relationship that I actually feel comfortable in. He’s definitely kinky and open minded but I’m sooo embarrassed ab it I’ve never told anyone irl despite thinking about it every time I’m horny and being the main kind of porn I watch. Idk why but I’m kinda really into like pee, ever since ive been able to get turned on I’ve been into it. It feels so shameful tho. I want to tell him, I want to explore it as much as he’d be open to. I’ve only ever done things alone and watched videos so I don’t really know how I’ll feel but I’ve always liked it I’m just scared he’ll think it/ I’m weird or gross or even that he’ll do it but see me differently after. Any advice is so so appreciated.