u/quest4bliss

I’m assuming that most of the members here are part of several similar subreddits and that’s quite beneficial because acquiring all sorts of information and knowledge from various sources is beneficial.

I think it’s important on this journey to remember that we’re all uniquely different and our bodies are naturally going to respond quite differently than others. All the techniques and guides out there are happily shared because they are the blueprint that lead to someone’s “Eureka!” moment on their journey. Often, I’ll see posts from exuberant people that have reached a new milestone and are very excited to share what they’ve learned. And they should be excited. And they should celebrate and share their triumphs.

The thing is that while there’s commonality in certain areas, there’s also incredible diversity too. There’s also no standardized lingo and terms are casually tossed around by various people in different ways. This leads to confusion.

What one person calls P-wave might be what another calls a Mini-O.

One person might be getting results from a very “active” approach and celebrating success, but that success may not be the same success we’re aiming for. Their success may be in the form of sympathetic reflex-based orgasm achieved in a novel way, so it’s important not get too caught up in what appears to be working for others.

We’re after the orgasmic state that rises from the parasympathetic nervous system and it is the opposite of active. It’s about presence.

When looking at the posts that describe success, look for inspiration from it but don’t get fussed about trying to make it work for you step by step. Let its content give you ideas to try but use those ideas loosely. Experiment. Explore. Think of them as suggestions and nothing more.

I’ll leave you with an analogy, because it’s kinda my thing…

Consult several similar recipes looking for commonality between each and use the ingredients that show up in each recipe, but get creative and start adding ingredients you think you might like and make a unique meal from scratch but “inspired by” the other recipes. Maybe it’ll be a flop, but you learned something in the process.

Or maybe, you knock it out of the park and everyone starts asking for YOUR recipe!

What was the catalyst that pushed you towards learning to become multi-orgasmic and see of you could achieve novel pleasure?

And did you have any hang-ups that you needed to psyche yourself up about before you gave yourself permission to try?

Curious to know where everyone is at on their own quest for bliss.

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Being that this community is not just about the multi-orgasmic pursuit, but also about personal growth and improving your life alongside the goal, I’d like to get some engagement with the members. Especially those that don’t feel comfortable!

And here’s why… pleasure that lies dormant within you needs you to feel comfortable before it’s going to present itself.

This journey is especially powerful for those that are anxious, often uncomfortable and spend far too much time in their head. This journey is about learning to get out of your head and into your body, but it requires safety and trust to do so. Learning to let go, which is exactly what needs to happen, will feel uncomfortable.

Growth happens from discomfort. It need not be much, but just enough to begin to stretch your existing comfort zone. The more we expose ourselves to a bit of discomfort each day, the more resilient we become all while our comfort zone begins to slowly expand.

So… I want to hear from everybody on this one. It’s a two part question.

1. What’s ONE thing you’ve already learned on this journey that the moment you learned it, it resonated deeply with you or made you begin to see your reality differently?

2. What’s something you already know you’re going to have to face head on and contend with on this journey to unlock your true pleasure potential?

If you're new here and looking to get started on your own multi-orgasmic journey, I'd bet money on what you're actually looking for. A technique. A method. Step one of some numbered list that tells you exactly what to do with your hands, your breath, your body, so that by step seven you're somewhere you've never been.

I get it. That's how everything else in life works. You want to get better at something, you find the instructions, you follow them, you improve. Except this isn't that.

While there are a ton of guides out there, the biggest problem with trying to follow them is that what works for one person won't necessarily work for you, and attempting to follow a recipe card keeps you in your head analyzing the process rather than focusing on what you feel and what YOUR body responds to.

Nearly every guide, every toy recommendation, every technique floating around online assumes your body is already safe and trusting. Already open enough to receive whatever the instructions promise. Most people skip past that assumption without ever checking if it's true, then wonder why the technique that worked for someone else did nothing for them.

It's not the technique. It never was. The starting point is building the capacity to notice, without judgment, without a goal, without needing it to mean anything yet. For many, this is the exact thing that gets glossed over and leads to frustration.

So here's your actual first assignment.

Spend time exploring sensation on your own body with zero destination in mind. Touch, texture, temperature, pressure. Not to arouse yourself, not to achieve anything. Just to notice what's there. Where a certain kind of touch feels good, where it feels like nothing at all, where your attention wanders and requires you to bring it back. That's the whole assignment.

There is no wrong way to do this.

Afterward, write down or just contemplate what you noticed. It's not about what you achieved, but just what you noticed. You're quietly starting to build your own recipe card, one that helps you better understand your own body.

That recipe card is going to matter more than any guide ever could because this exercise meets you exactly where you're at, rather than a guide that assumes you're starting from the same place as the person who wrote it.

Progress here doesn't necessarily look like arousal, or getting closer to something specific. Progress is made because you slowed down, subtracted instead of adding, and carved out time to spend with your body without the pressure to follow a guide precisely. You practiced presence without demanding an outcome, and that skill is what everything else here is eventually going to depend on.

If you do this, come back and tell me what you noticed. There's nothing about this process that works or doesn't, it's simply just about what you notice while doing it.

We have a tendency to think orgasm happens in the genitals, but that's actually not the case. The orgasm happens in the brain, and it's felt in the body.

This is exactly why this community isn't gender or equipment based. Every human shares the same orgasm machine: the brain.

The type of orgasm this space focuses on isn't the kind most of us are familiar with. The orgasms we learned as teens are reflex-based, part of the sympathetic nervous system. Clitoral and penile ejaculatory orgasms are closely related. Both are reflex-based, baked into the human experience to provide incentive to procreate. They feel good and give us reason to engage in sexual activity, ensuring the survival of our species. But the multi-orgasmic pleasure that's dormant within us isn't reflex-based.

The orgasmic potential that leads to the blissful states I'm talking about arises from the parasympathetic nervous system instead.

Reflex-based orgasms don't require much. Direct physical stimulation of the primary erogenous zones, plus time, will eventually get you there. No real skill involved. It's easy by design.

Parasympathetic orgasms are a completely different beast. You can't make them happen, and the biggest mistake people make is trying to. Naturally, they apply the same strategy they've used their whole lives to reach sexual pleasure, but it doesn't work here.

Reflex-based orgasms are about taking action. Outward. Control. Doing.

Parasympathetic orgasms are about being. Inward. Releasing control, relaxing, letting go.

They happen when you've created the right environment for them to find you. They don't arrive if you chase them, and the more you chase, the further away they get.

Welcome to r/MultiOrgasmicBliss

I believe that within each and every one of us lies an untapped potential of sexual pleasure. Neither our gender nor the equipment we were born with matters. If you're human, I believe this dormant state of multi-orgasmic bliss resides within you.

For some, achieving this state is much easier than it is for others. For others, this path is extremely challenging and often frustrating. I believe that those who struggle to realize their true orgasmic potential also stand the most to gain in its pursuit.

It's for this reason that I've decided to build a community that goes well beyond where most sex-based communities live. While the primary mission is centered around realizing this hidden orgasmic potential, this community is also going to put a lot of emphasis on the journey itself — because the journey of sexual self-discovery is the portal to not only multi-orgasmic bliss, but the bliss that can be had in everyday life, arising from a ground-up approach on your quest for bliss. This community will be about growth as much as it is about the end goal, and that growth is the biggest distinction that separates this community from every other one online.

Where this started

Four years ago, I went looking for an alternative to pharmaceuticals for a Benign Prostate Hyperplasia diagnosis. I stumbled upon prostate massage as a possible answer to my worsening symptoms. Not only did I find relief, I found this state of multi-orgasmic bliss alongside the BPH symptom relief.

What I didn't realize was that this became the start of a journey that would begin to transform my entire life. Blown away that this pleasure had been dormant within me for years without my awareness, I began to teach my wife, on a hunch that it wasn't just something I was lucky to be capable of. Her success fuelled my desire to better understand the science behind it all.

Over the last year, I began working on myself, not realizing it was just a branch of the same journey. When my life started to change and improve in a myriad of ways, I began analyzing it and couldn't help but notice all the similarities between unlocking the orgasmic potential and transforming daily life. After reverse-engineering it to make sense of it all, I felt inspired to begin writing to help the vast numbers of men already trying to explore their sexuality and achieve novel orgasmic experiences.

I became inspired to help men struggling to achieve prostate orgasms find their way to novel pleasure, connection, and confidence in their bodies, so I began to write articles for them but also as gender-neutral information that could help all humans pursuing this same goal. If your prostate orgasm journey is what brought you here, this space was built with you in mind from the very start. But this community isn't dependent on gender, anatomy, or any particular starting point. It's about the commonality of humans — nervous system regulation, mindset, and our capacity for deep pleasure. It works the same way regardless of who you are or what your body looks like. So if you’re a human looking to discover your pleasure potential and grow along side that journey, this community is for you. This is for everyone doing this work.

We approach all of it through mindset, nervous system regulation, and mindfulness — not performance, not technique-chasing, not shame. If you're here because something feels stuck, blocked, or numbed out, you're in the right place. If you're here out of curiosity about what's possible, same.

Let's start building a community of like-minded people who recognize that the only way to improve this broken world is to work on ourselves, grow, and support each other — as we move toward unlocking the orgasmic bliss within us, and the bliss that can be ours outside the bedroom too.