u/superscar762

Ma femme est devenue de plus en plus belle au fil des ans ;

c'est une femme très attirante qui prend soin d'elle et sait se mettre en valeur.

Quant à moi, j'ai une apparence plutôt masculine : je suis grand, assez musclé, barbu et j'ai un fort caractère (en dehors de la maison).

Je trouve amusant de penser que la plupart des gens doivent croire que j'ai une chance incroyable d'avoir une femme aussi séduisante et que je dois passer mon temps à faire l'amour passionnément avec elle tous les jours, alors qu'en réalité, je suis extrêmement soumis à ma femme et je n'ai accès à son intimité uniquement avec ma langue que lorsqu'elle le décide.

What do you think about anal licking?

Is it an act of submission for you, or just a common practice?

In my case, it's really a fairly occasional ritual of submission, often to put me in my place. When my behavior hasn't been in line with my wife's expectations, for example, when I've contradicted her, I sometimes apologize and then lick her anus. Sometimes, I'm still sulking, she lies on her stomach and orders me to lick her ass to put me in my place.

In any case, it always has a particular meaning for us.

I think masturbation within a couple to be an act of domination. In my case, when my wife allows me to ejaculate, it's often in her hand. She only uses two fingers, amused to see me ejaculate so quickly and unable to resist her hand. Then I find myself covered in my own semen, having to find a way to clean myself up. For me, this practice highlights the fact that I'm incapable of penetrating her properly.

It's quite paradoxical; I get the impression that for people who fantasize about premature ejaculation and employ a thousand and one techniques to achieve it, the results are much less obvious than if you try to resist it.

As for me, several years ago, my wife decided to make me premature. It was very effective and quick, and now I'm happy with the result. But at the time, I resisted as best I could, and the more I resisted, the faster I ejaculated.

Now, I'm unable to penetrate her, and I ejaculate in a few seconds in her hand... she's won.

J'y réfléchis depuis un moment ; bien sûr, ce n'est que mon avis et je ne veux pas généraliser.

Je pense que le modèle FLR est un excellent modèle relationnel pour les couples de longue durée.

Au début d'une relation, il implique une répartition des responsabilités et de l'autorité afin d'établir une relation stable.

Plus tard, il me semble qu'un mode de vie FLR maintient une bonne harmonie au sein du couple. Dans mon cas, et dans celui de certains couples que je connais, avec le temps, la personnalité des femmes continue de s'affirmer, tandis que les hommes deviennent naturellement plus passifs. Il me semble aussi que les femmes sont généralement plus déterminées dans leurs désirs et leurs choix.

Cette différence de personnalité peut, à mon avis, engendrer de nombreux conflits inutiles concernant, par exemple, les décisions, les tâches ménagères, ou même des frustrations dues à une différence de libido. Ces conflits finissent par s'accumuler et en engendrer d'autres qui peuvent, à terme, détruire une relation.

Dans notre cas, j'essaie d'anticiper les besoins de ma femme ; je lui obéis. Sexuellement, c'est évidemment elle qui mène la danse. Quand je fais une erreur, je m'excuse ; si je ne suis pas d'accord, je donne mon avis, mais c'est toujours elle qui a le dernier mot.

Ce mode de vie nous évite de nombreux petits conflits et nous permet d'avoir une relation très épanouissante et heureuse.

Partagez-vous mon avis ? Si vous n'êtes pas d'accord avec ma « théorie », j'aimerais beaucoup connaître votre point de vue, mais je vous serais reconnaissant de rester respectueux dans nos échanges.

Que pensez-vous du fait de servir et d'obéir à votre femme en public ? Certains prétendent que c'est « imposer nos fantasmes » à des personnes non consentantes.

Personnellement, je pense que cela n'a rien à voir avec la sexualité ; c'est simplement agir comme nous le faisons au quotidien. Par exemple, ce soir, mes beaux-parents viennent dîner ; je m'occupe de préparer leur arrivée en faisant les courses et en cuisinant. En leur présence, je servirai (je sers toujours ma femme en premier) et je lui obéirai si elle me donne des instructions. Pendant les conversations, je ne prends la parole que si ma femme me le demande. Lorsque nous avons des invités, ma femme attend de moi que je sois soumis, car cela fait partie de notre mode de vie, et nous pensons qu'il serait malhonnête de le cacher pour nous conformer aux normes sociales.

Yesterday, to observe the eclipse, we planned to go to a beach, swim in the afternoon, have a snack there, and then watch the sky.

A few weeks ago, my wife ordered a rather "sexy" swimsuit for me online (low-rise and high-cut at the buttocks) that left no doubt about the size of my penis.

Before leaving, I was getting our beach things ready when my wife handed me the swimsuit. A little embarrassed, I asked her, "Isn't this just a swimsuit for home?" She replied, "You don't have to be ashamed, you'll look perfect."

Once we were there, it wasn't a problem at all. I simply had to walk the distance to the water and then get in; no one could see this ridiculous swimsuit. Then, once I was on my towel, it remained discreet.

The beach gradually filled up, and everything was going well until my wife asked me to go get us something to eat. The snack bar was a few hundred meters away, and the beach was packed, so I started gathering my things to get dressed. My wife simply told me, "Just go in your swimsuit, and right now."

So I headed towards the food truck. After a few meters, I started to feel people staring at me (having taken advantage of the relatively cool sea, my penis was definitely at its smallest size). As I covered the distance separating me from my destination, I saw dozens of men and women staring at me, young women giggling amongst themselves, but the height of absurdity came when I got in line to collect my order;

a few customers were in swimsuits, but most were fully clothed, and there I was, in the middle of all these strangers, in my tiny swimsuit.

I then had to make my way back, tray in hand.

Strangely, I felt very comfortable this time because I knew I was giving my wife satisfaction; from a distance, I saw her watching me and smiling. The stares of these strangers no longer mattered. Once I arrived, I also felt a great sense of satisfaction at having gone through this "ordeal" for my wife, and I felt safe by her side.

Sometimes my wife makes decisions that seem unreasonable to me, but there's always a purpose behind them, and that's why I trust her completely.

My wife likes to let me go long periods without orgasm, usually about a month or even longer.

The longer it goes on, the more submissive I become. Generally, for the first few days, I massage her legs and feet.

Then, after a few days, I can't help but kiss and then lick her feet to prove my devotion.

If, after a few days, I behave well, she allows me to lick her genitals.

I find it rather pathetic and humiliating when the excitement wanes, but I always end up offering her my buttocks so she can penetrate me with a plug.

She loves to tease me about it:

"You'll end up giving me your ass again," she says. Embarrassed, I reply, "Not this time," but we both know how things end.

The days go by, and naturally, I present my anus to her more and more, which she can freely caress. Then, when she spoons me, I can't help but rub my buttocks against hers. She likes to thrust her hips into me as if she's sodomizing me.

Then, before going to sleep, she usually says, "Tomorrow I'm going to fuck you." Having given up all resistance, I reply, "Yes, ma'am."

Finally, the next day, I give her the plug myself. She coats my anus with the oil I use to massage her and shoves the plug roughly between my buttocks before taking me in her arms.

During our relationship, my wife got me used to ejaculating quickly in her hand;

I've ejaculated far more times in her hand than in her vagina.

Over time, I've developed a strong attraction to her hands: her long, slender fingers, the fleshy part of her palm, and even the soft back of her hand. When I see her hand, I feel instantly aroused.

When she's holding objects, the arousal is even stronger.

I relive images of her hand gripping my penis, her fingers tracing its length. I see her hand quickening its movements as I beg her to slow down because I'm about to ejaculate too quickly. Finally, I see her wiping herself on my chest after I've come.

I think I've become a hand fetishist. Sometimes, I can't help but kiss her hands to show my devotion; other times, I have to look away to avoid being overwhelmed by arousal.

Is this also the case for some of you? Like me, does your partner mainly use their hand to make you orgasm?

I have the feeling that this kind of dynamic will develop in the coming years.

Indeed, I'm almost 40 and I've witnessed the rise of the internet and pornography. Unlike my elders, who were content with a few Playboy magazines and their imaginations, I developed my sexuality with an avalanche of more or less extreme pornography, thus creating the perfect foundation for becoming a premature ejaculator.

Furthermore, society has evolved considerably, and women are much freer and more independent. As a result, they can easily take control of the relationship or look elsewhere.

In my case, my wife has made me very premature; she controls me through this, and she, and only she, decides whether or not to make me ejaculate (usually it only takes a few seconds with her hand). I have no choice but to submit and do everything to satisfy her (mainly with my tongue) without expecting anything in return.

I started by giving my age because I think this observation is even more pronounced with regard to the next generation. In my country (France), I'm seeing more and more articles mentioning that young people are having less and less sex. On the other hand, I get the impression that certain kinks involving female dominance are becoming increasingly prevalent.

In conclusion, I feel that, in general, sexuality is evolving; men who ejaculate prematurely are becoming submissive to their wives.

Have you ever considered this type of reasoning, and do you agree with it?

I'd like to share a rather amusing anecdote; this morning, my wife was captivated by a squirrel in the garden. After a moment's thought, I said to her, "It's funny, we tend to feed squirrels and find them cute, whereas we chase rats away and are disgusted by them, but it's essentially the same thing." After a brief silence, she let her gaze drift down towards my penis, then looked me in the eyes and said with a smile, "Just like with humans, it's all about the size of the tail."

Every time my wife lets me ejaculate, she likes to remind me why I'm not allowed to penetrate her; she takes my penis between her thumb and forefinger and masturbates me. It usually doesn't last more than a few seconds, never more than a minute. When I ask her to slow down, she usually speeds up. When I try to move to get out of her grip, she grabs my penis with her whole hand to hasten the inevitable. She loves to see me ejaculate pathetically in a few seconds; it always makes her laugh to see me struggle to last a few more seconds. When the excitement subsides and I find myself covered in my own semen, she reminds me in a soft voice why we've come to this: "You see, that's why you can't penetrate me. Your little penis can't even withstand my two fingers for more than a few seconds."

As I've mentioned in other posts, I'm submissive to my wife, and my in-laws also live in a dominant/submissive dynamic.

My wife doesn't hide her control over me from her family.

Yesterday was my mother-in-law's birthday, and we couldn't visit her, so I sent her a text message to wish her a happy birthday. She replied,

"Thank you, my dear son-in-law. I'm so happy that you're so obedient and submissive to my daughter. She's trained you well, and you know where men belong. I'm very proud of you both." This event made me reflect. I truly realized that my submission was real and acknowledged.

I'm both proud and a little embarrassed.

I think that women who are used to being dominant in their daily lives develop a certain "aura" over time.

Indeed, taking my wife as an example, I've noticed that over the years she's gained a lot of self-confidence.

For instance, she takes great care of herself, always stands tall, walks with a determined stride, and her voice is both authoritative and kind....

All these behaviors, which originated in our relationship, have become habits.

Now, when we're out and about, with family or friends, whereas she was rather reserved about twenty years ago, she's now very self-assured.

I've especially noticed that people's behavior towards her has changed; men seem much more attracted to her (her body has also changed over the years), and women seem to naturally show my wife respect, sometimes even a little fear (even though she's absolutely not aggressive or frightening).

Even when we're out on the street, I notice the behavior of strangers we pass who seem different.

I'm very proud to see my wife like this, and it's one of the reasons why I fully embrace my role as a submissive man in public.

Have you also noticed this type of change?

When I was younger, I fantasized a lot about CFNM (clothed female, naked male).

I was very excited by the idea of being naked in front of a clothed woman in everyday situations, exposing my intimacy and making me feel vulnerable.

Now, this kind of situation has become my daily life, and I've gotten used to being naked in front of my wife. My wife wants me to be completely naked when we're alone and for my private parts to be constantly visible (for example, I can't hide an erection with my hands), while I never see her completely naked.

This situation has a significant impact on my submission and on our power imbalance.

My wife very rarely pays physical attention to my penis, but she loves seeing my small, tattooed, and perfectly shaved penis wandering around in front of her.

She loves seeing me get pathetically hard in everyday situations, like when she's giving me orders in an authoritarian manner and I can't control my erection. She also likes to see me in unusual positions; she loves watching me do what she calls "the frog" (lying on my back with my legs spread and folded up towards my chest). My exposed penis and anus always amuse her greatly.

Do you also practice CFNM, and do you have any little games or rituals surrounding this practice?

*I apologize if my text seems awkwardly written; English is not my native language.

For some time now, my wife has forbidden me from wearing underwear under my pants on weekends. Following this training, what I suspected has come true.

This morning, she announced that I would be going to work without underwear.

She encouraged me, saying that if I could control my erections, I wouldn't have to worry and that I had no reason to get an erection without her being there. I trust my wife completely and I obey her, but I'm a little apprehensive. I can't wait for the day to pass quickly and to make my wife proud of me.

For the past few days, my wife has been shamelessly exposing me to her mother.

My wife talks a lot with her mother, and she's perfectly aware of our dynamic. On several occasions, both on the phone and in her presence, my wife has mentioned that I'm "pussy-free," premature, have a small penis, and am submissive to my wife.

So, my mother-in-law visits us almost daily, and with the recent heatwave, I usually walk around the house in my underwear. But when my mother-in-law is there, I thought I could keep a t-shirt and shorts on.

My wife decided otherwise a few days ago. While my mother-in-law was there, she called out to me, "You're going to get too hot, take that off."

A little embarrassed, I did as she said in front of my wife and mother-in-law, leaving me in my underwear. The main problem is that my wife chooses my underwear, and it's usually very tight, low-rise boxer shorts with a high cut that leaves no room for doubt about my private parts.

Seeing my embarrassment, my The woman added, "Don't worry, Mom won't be shocked," which amused my mother-in-law.

So, for several days now, I've been in underwear in front of the two women, serving them refreshments.

With this intense heat, my wife is revealing herself and allowing me to see her in very sexy outfits.

Usually always dressed in trousers, in this heat she walks around the house in her underwear and lounges in unusual positions, giving me glimpses of her intimacy.

For the past few days, when I come home from work, knowing I'll find her dressed like this, I get a strong erection even before I cross the garden gate. I present myself to her with a glass in hand, and it's the beginning of a most exciting evening.

For hours I see what is usually forbidden to me: her generous buttocks peeking out of her panties, her thighs, her breasts free of bra through her t-shirt, the shape of her nipples, her sex tightly contained in her panties, a few hairs peeking out—it's truly paradise.

The excitement reaches its peak when we go into the bedroom; she lies down on top of the duvet, still in her panties, her legs spread. I lie down perpendicular to her at the foot of the bed, completely naked. Unable to hide my excitement.

I massage her legs and feet for a long time. I have a privileged view of her genitals and the lower part of her buttocks; I glimpse her skin, her panties clinging perfectly to her sex. The excitement is so intense that I can't resist licking her feet and sucking her toes.

My erect penis, which she sometimes takes the time to observe with a knowing smile, serves as a footrest for her.

Even though in those moments I dream of removing her panties and penetrating her, we both know very well that these few hours spent together are far more exciting than the pathetic performance I could give her with my small penis.

I am convinced that men who are unable to properly satisfy their partners (size, clumsiness, or duration of the "performance") need to accept it and stop trying to impose their pathetic performances on their partners.

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For many women, penetration boils down to being crushed by a clumsy partner and ending up covered in semen. Many men are unable to give pleasure to their partners and complain, blaming them: "My wife has a low libido, my wife doesn't like sex."

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If, like me, you are unable to offer quality penetration that will lead your partner to orgasm, don't wait for your weekly "pity" penetration. Instead, perfect your massage skills, strengthen your tongue, and use it!

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Let's not forget that we are animals, and like every species, we are not all made for penetration.