u/superscar762

As I've mentioned in other posts, I'm submissive to my wife, and my in-laws also live in a dominant/submissive dynamic.

My wife doesn't hide her control over me from her family.

Yesterday was my mother-in-law's birthday, and we couldn't visit her, so I sent her a text message to wish her a happy birthday. She replied,

"Thank you, my dear son-in-law. I'm so happy that you're so obedient and submissive to my daughter. She's trained you well, and you know where men belong. I'm very proud of you both." This event made me reflect. I truly realized that my submission was real and acknowledged.

I'm both proud and a little embarrassed.

I think that women who are used to being dominant in their daily lives develop a certain "aura" over time.

Indeed, taking my wife as an example, I've noticed that over the years she's gained a lot of self-confidence.

For instance, she takes great care of herself, always stands tall, walks with a determined stride, and her voice is both authoritative and kind....

All these behaviors, which originated in our relationship, have become habits.

Now, when we're out and about, with family or friends, whereas she was rather reserved about twenty years ago, she's now very self-assured.

I've especially noticed that people's behavior towards her has changed; men seem much more attracted to her (her body has also changed over the years), and women seem to naturally show my wife respect, sometimes even a little fear (even though she's absolutely not aggressive or frightening).

Even when we're out on the street, I notice the behavior of strangers we pass who seem different.

I'm very proud to see my wife like this, and it's one of the reasons why I fully embrace my role as a submissive man in public.

Have you also noticed this type of change?

When I was younger, I fantasized a lot about CFNM (clothed female, naked male).

I was very excited by the idea of being naked in front of a clothed woman in everyday situations, exposing my intimacy and making me feel vulnerable.

Now, this kind of situation has become my daily life, and I've gotten used to being naked in front of my wife. My wife wants me to be completely naked when we're alone and for my private parts to be constantly visible (for example, I can't hide an erection with my hands), while I never see her completely naked.

This situation has a significant impact on my submission and on our power imbalance.

My wife very rarely pays physical attention to my penis, but she loves seeing my small, tattooed, and perfectly shaved penis wandering around in front of her.

She loves seeing me get pathetically hard in everyday situations, like when she's giving me orders in an authoritarian manner and I can't control my erection. She also likes to see me in unusual positions; she loves watching me do what she calls "the frog" (lying on my back with my legs spread and folded up towards my chest). My exposed penis and anus always amuse her greatly.

Do you also practice CFNM, and do you have any little games or rituals surrounding this practice?

*I apologize if my text seems awkwardly written; English is not my native language.

For some time now, my wife has forbidden me from wearing underwear under my pants on weekends. Following this training, what I suspected has come true.

This morning, she announced that I would be going to work without underwear.

She encouraged me, saying that if I could control my erections, I wouldn't have to worry and that I had no reason to get an erection without her being there. I trust my wife completely and I obey her, but I'm a little apprehensive. I can't wait for the day to pass quickly and to make my wife proud of me.

For the past few days, my wife has been shamelessly exposing me to her mother.

My wife talks a lot with her mother, and she's perfectly aware of our dynamic. On several occasions, both on the phone and in her presence, my wife has mentioned that I'm "pussy-free," premature, have a small penis, and am submissive to my wife.

So, my mother-in-law visits us almost daily, and with the recent heatwave, I usually walk around the house in my underwear. But when my mother-in-law is there, I thought I could keep a t-shirt and shorts on.

My wife decided otherwise a few days ago. While my mother-in-law was there, she called out to me, "You're going to get too hot, take that off."

A little embarrassed, I did as she said in front of my wife and mother-in-law, leaving me in my underwear. The main problem is that my wife chooses my underwear, and it's usually very tight, low-rise boxer shorts with a high cut that leaves no room for doubt about my private parts.

Seeing my embarrassment, my The woman added, "Don't worry, Mom won't be shocked," which amused my mother-in-law.

So, for several days now, I've been in underwear in front of the two women, serving them refreshments.

With this intense heat, my wife is revealing herself and allowing me to see her in very sexy outfits.

Usually always dressed in trousers, in this heat she walks around the house in her underwear and lounges in unusual positions, giving me glimpses of her intimacy.

For the past few days, when I come home from work, knowing I'll find her dressed like this, I get a strong erection even before I cross the garden gate. I present myself to her with a glass in hand, and it's the beginning of a most exciting evening.

For hours I see what is usually forbidden to me: her generous buttocks peeking out of her panties, her thighs, her breasts free of bra through her t-shirt, the shape of her nipples, her sex tightly contained in her panties, a few hairs peeking out—it's truly paradise.

The excitement reaches its peak when we go into the bedroom; she lies down on top of the duvet, still in her panties, her legs spread. I lie down perpendicular to her at the foot of the bed, completely naked. Unable to hide my excitement.

I massage her legs and feet for a long time. I have a privileged view of her genitals and the lower part of her buttocks; I glimpse her skin, her panties clinging perfectly to her sex. The excitement is so intense that I can't resist licking her feet and sucking her toes.

My erect penis, which she sometimes takes the time to observe with a knowing smile, serves as a footrest for her.

Even though in those moments I dream of removing her panties and penetrating her, we both know very well that these few hours spent together are far more exciting than the pathetic performance I could give her with my small penis.

I am convinced that men who are unable to properly satisfy their partners (size, clumsiness, or duration of the "performance") need to accept it and stop trying to impose their pathetic performances on their partners.

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For many women, penetration boils down to being crushed by a clumsy partner and ending up covered in semen. Many men are unable to give pleasure to their partners and complain, blaming them: "My wife has a low libido, my wife doesn't like sex."

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If, like me, you are unable to offer quality penetration that will lead your partner to orgasm, don't wait for your weekly "pity" penetration. Instead, perfect your massage skills, strengthen your tongue, and use it!

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Let's not forget that we are animals, and like every species, we are not all made for penetration.

Sometimes, routines settle in and I feel like I have a "classic" lifestyle, but when I take the time to analyze my daily life, I realize I'm definitely in a FLR relationship. I've been up for two hours, and in reality, everything is dictated by this dynamic. I got up before my wife to prepare her breakfast and tidy her house. Then I got ready (I have to shave my entire body because my wife wants to emphasize our difference in status). Next, I put on the clothes my wife chose yesterday. I'm not wearing underwear because she decided that's the case. My wife woke up; I served her breakfast. Wanting to make a purchase, I asked my wife for permission (she initially said she would think about it before agreeing). Finally, I asked her for some spending money. By taking the time to analyze my daily life, I realize that our life now corresponds to the life we have chosen, and I thank my wife every day for the organization that this requires.

I'll also add the little comments my wife loves to tease me with; when I asked her before going out if my "package" bouncing freely in my pants wasn't too noticeable, she burst out laughing and said, "Given the size of your little maggot, it doesn't matter what cut your pants are, you're not concerned by this problem, my poor darling."

Since I wasn't allowed to penetrate my wife, I got into the habit of giving her oral sex at her request. Having completely given up on the idea of penetration, I started to really enjoy oral sex. Usually, my wife is in bed, she slips under the covers, takes off her pajamas and panties, and tells me, "Lick me!" I do it while she watches TV and scrolls on her phone. Having noticed that I've really developed a taste for this practice, for some time now, my wife has started refusing to let me lick her. For a while now, my only access to her body is to be at the foot of the bed and kiss and lick her feet. She told me that tonight she wanted me to lick her genitals, but she added, "I want it to be perfect, I want it to be the best cunnilingus of my life." Over time, I think I've become quite good at it, but please, I really need your advice and tips so that she can have the best orgasm of her life.

My wife has completely reshaped my desire. When she started refusing me penetration, I began giving her much more oral sex. In return, she allowed me to ejaculate in her hand about once a month, and I still fantasized about penetration. For some time now, she has refused to let me give her oral sex. She finds it very amusing to see me beg her to lick her genitals for days. Now, penetration doesn't even cross my mind; my only desire is to be allowed to lick her genitals. She doesn't even bother to touch my penis anymore. When she allows me to ejaculate (about once a month or every two months), she asks me to put a towel on the bed, turns around, and offers me her anus to lick. I can't resist for more than a few seconds and I ejaculate miserably onto the towel. That's how, in just a few years, I went from penetration "at will" to a submissive foot-licker at my wife's command.

I've been submissive to my wife for years, and there are few things I refuse. Except for one thing: I hate moaning. I find it truly degrading; I hate hearing my voice distorted by pleasure (don't judge me, it might sound strange, but that's how it is). My wife knows this and loves to tease me about it. After a period of abstinence (usually a month), she caresses my stomach and pubic area. When she notices I'm holding back from moaning, she usually says, "You're holding back. We'll wait two weeks, and then you'll give me what I want. You're going to moan like a little slut." Then, she imposes a two-week period with no contact from her. When her hand touches me again, I abandon all willpower. She caresses my stomach, my pubic area, my buttocks, the inside of my thighs, and lightly touches my genitals. Without any restraint, I moan, I beg, and I writhe like a worm. She finds this very amusing because she always ends up getting what she wants.

I think that, as in the animal kingdom, not all humans are equal, and it's no coincidence that men are so obsessed with penis size. Personally, I have a small penis, and I'm lucky enough to live with a wonderful woman. In our relationship, I think I instinctively accepted my place so that it would work. Over the years, I've accepted the fact that I can't fully satisfy her. Now, I'm submissive to my wife; I obey her, I don't penetrate her, and only her satisfaction matters to me. I find my satisfaction in serving her.I already consider myself very lucky to have the chance to massage the feet of such a beautiful woman. and we are both very happy.

Personally, although I am not a foot fetishist, I regularly feel the need to kneel and kiss my wife's feet to show my devotion. On a daily basis, I find that there are no stronger gestures to remind each other of our place, but I am open to suggestions.

Last night, we had my best friend over. Being a globetrotter, we see him quite rarely (about four times a year).

Although he's perfectly aware that my wife is the one in charge of our relationship, she's usually fairly restrained in her dominance around him (for example, she sometimes sets the table or helps me serve).

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Yesterday, however, she decided otherwise. She bossed me around completely throughout the evening. It seemed clear that she was the host and that I was there to serve them; I prepared the barbecue, served them, and kept their drinks refilled (my wife and my friend didn't get up all evening).

Furthermore, while my friend was recounting an experience he'd had in Asia after taking an aphrodisiac, my wife mentioned (after a few drinks) that I didn't need it because we don't have penetrative sex, and that only her pleasure mattered because I was premature and unable to satisfy her.

The three of us had a wonderful evening; my wife and my friend had a great time, she was extremely relaxed, and I was truly delighted to be able to share our unfiltered dynamic with my best friend.

Here's how I became a premature ejaculator over the years.

My wife has a very strong personality, and I ended up submitting to her over time. We're in a 24/7 FLR (Friends with Benefits) relationship, and obviously, she controls our sex life. She made me premature by imposing long periods of abstinence and making me ejaculate in her hand.

When she started "conditioning" me, she forbade any physical or visual contact for periods of up to one or two months, then she would masturbate me to make me ejaculate quickly (at the time, it could last about a minute before I ejaculated). By repeating this, the ejaculation time decreased significantly.

Now, I'm unable to have any contact with her genitals or penetrate her without ejaculating instantly. This has greatly reinforced my submission.

Now, I am completely devoted to her. Our sex life has evolved considerably. Every evening, she gets into bed in front of her chosen program, calls me over, I undress completely, and then I sit at the foot of the bed to massage and lick her feet. When she wants, she asks me to lick her genitals or anus.

Sometimes I ejaculate accidentally while licking her. Our sex life is solely focused on her pleasure. About once a month, she masturbates me and allows me to ejaculate in her hand. Sometimes she masturbates me and refuses to let me ejaculate.

She finds this situation very amusing; she loves having this power over me, and she enjoys reminding me that I am incapable of lasting more than a few seconds in her hand.

More rarely, she likes to tease me by letting me penetrate her after warning me, "I know you're not going to make me come, you'll ejaculate again in less than 10 seconds." And indeed, sometimes before I've even managed to get my glans inside her vagina, the excitement forces me to ejaculate miserably onto the sheets. Rather than reassuring me, she likes to emphasize that I'm incapable of satisfying her with my penis and that I'm only capable of making her come with my tongue.

I would very much like to know if other men have been driven by their wives to become premature and what pleases the women who have made their husbands premature.

Après vingt ans de vie commune, nous avons progressivement développé une dynamique FLR (Familiale, Sexuelle et Reproductive) assez marquée. Concrètement, ma femme m'a façonné et je suis extrêmement soumis. Je suis à ses pieds et obéis à tous ses caprices dans tous les aspects de notre vie. Avec le recul, et compte tenu de la nature de chaque sexe, de la société actuelle et de notre espérance de vie, je ne crois pas qu'il existe de modèle plus fiable pour maintenir une harmonie durable dans un couple que la soumission du mari à sa femme. Avez-vous déjà envisagé cette possibilité, ou pensez-vous que mon opinion est complètement farfelue ?

Edit : Many reactions in the comments seem to be quite vehement, I may not have posted in the right sub but I want to clarify that I did not write a thesis on the subject, it is more of a "shower thought" that I wanted to share. In my post, I write "I believe", I do not claim to have absolute knowledge, I simply share my feelings about my experience to see if others have already had this thought or to hear the opinions of others, simply to exchange with kindness.

While I haven't been allowed to ejaculate for several weeks and haven't seen my wife naked for months, she had fun getting out of the bathroom in a thong and leaning in front of me, revealing the contours of her anus. I had to look away and concentrate to avoid ejaculating in my pants. To maintain my excitement, she then put on an extremely tight pair of pants that highlighted her buttocks and the shape of her sex. I no longer even consider penetration, but I will crawl at her feet and beg for permission to lick her anus. A few years ago, I was free to penetrate her without realizing how lucky I was, and I wasn't able to satisfy my wife for years. Now, I have to make her orgasm by putting my tongue in her anus. But to be honest, we are both much happier now.

A few days ago, as I explained in another post, I made a truly pathetic mistake by ejaculating on the sheet while licking my wife's anus.

As if that humiliation wasn't enough, my wife decided to highlight this performance by regularly reminding me that I'm incapable of controlling my ejaculation and satisfying her.

Last night, she decided I was too fragile to deserve any contact with my penis. After massaging and licking her for several hours, she started caressing my nipples, stomach, and thighs. I was convinced she was going to let me ejaculate in her hand.

She stopped abruptly and said, "That's it for today. Premature ejaculators don't deserve any more. You're too fragile to even get a handjob." She took me in her arms to comfort and calm me down. I was writhing like a worm.

She found it very amusing; she laughed while telling me, "Calm down, it'll be alright."

Last night, I had a very humiliating and pathetic experience.

Having been made premature ejaculator by my wife, and not being large enough to satisfy her, I'm rarely allowed to ejaculate in her hand and I almost never see her naked. Needless to say, this doesn't help my performance problem.

Yesterday, as usual, while she was lying in bed watching her show, I was in my place like a "good dog" at the foot of the bed, massaging and licking her feet. Suddenly,

in a teasing mood, she said to me,

"Imagine if your colleagues knew you lick my feet like a good submissive every day."

She continued with, "You're not so bossy here?" (I'm in charge of a team at work), "Who's the boss here?"

I replied timidly, "You are, my love."

She retorted, "I didn't hear you."

With a certain embarrassment in my voice, I repeated louder, "You're the boss."

After a few moments of silence, she continued, saying, "You're going to lick my ass now, that'll put you in your place."

Immediately, she got up, took off her panties, and lay down with her legs spread wide in front of the TV.

Having not seen her naked for a very long time, I was very excited and got a strong erection. As I approached her anus, the excitement increased even more.

The second I placed my tongue on her anus, I felt spasms throughout my body. I couldn't help but moan loudly and ejaculated a large amount onto the bed.

She turned her head towards me. "Don't tell me you've already come, it's getting worse and worse, finish what you started!" Then she started laughing.

I could feel her anus dilate under my tongue as she laughed heartily. I was bathed in my own semen as I licked her until... I told her to calm down and reach orgasm.

Then she immediately got dressed again. I told her I was going to clean the sheets, and she said, "You'll sleep in your own semen and you'll change the sheets tomorrow, you ass-kisser." My stomach, thighs, and genitals were already covered in semen. I lay down in the sheets soaked with my own seed.

Needless to say, I had a lot of trouble falling asleep.