u/tamtamdivaFinDomme

Best lines/works that pack drama and are very casually devastating for no reason, please share em. Can be romantic/horror/any genre; Tumblr/Pinterest quotes too, literally anything that makes you go "I need a minute or two to reel from this".

Just because money is involved in findom doesn't mean subs get to check out whenever they feel like it.

You don't get to change your mind about the dynamic and just vanish instead of saying something. Paying doesn't buy you an exemption from basic communication.

Your domme keeps you posted on her availability, her schedule, when she's free and when she's not. That's not a one-way courtesy. If you're stepping back, taking a break, shopping for other dommes, or done entirely, say so. It's a two-way street.

We're not kink-dispensing machines you can put down and pick back up on a whim. We're people running a dynamic that requires actual presence from both sides.

Respect the person on the other side of the dynamic, not just the kink you're getting from her.

What's the last meal you're having?

D/s, cherish those who bring whimsy in your life. Don't be obstinate, stubborn. Give in. It's more fun, when you stop taking everything seriously.

Any whimsy takers, pls hmu. I wish to yap. Thank you.

if you practice/offer GFE and are genuinely invested in the well being of your subs, hit me up. Open to any referrals for the same too!

it's 4 am for me, so this may or may not make sense. But I was wondering if adding a dash of sexual tension etc to a situation that might otherwise make you anxious be a good cure for it. Like ofc, there's systemic desensitization, but what if I have claustrophobia and I'm stuck in an elevator and then Chad Michael Murray walks in and pins me against the wall, and chokes me a lil and we makeout. Ofc, my association w lifts will change just a bit. Idk but have we considered this?

There's something about a man who already knows how to be quiet.

Not trained into it. Not performing it. Just, naturally understands that stillness is its own kind of strength.

You don't find many of them here. But when you do, it's worth saying out loud.

You're not lost. You just haven't been seen or found by the right person yet.

Your wife is calling. You'll call her back.

Right after you finish reading this.

You know she loves you, adores you even. But that's not enough for you, is it?

Afraid, timid, lost lil pup wiggling his tail, cumming at the thought of a new owner. That's more you.

23F. I'm not the one you should be texting. But we both know that you will.

Why does findom keep getting mixed up with GFE?

Like the moment money is involved people seem to forget these are completely opposite energies.

GFE is warmth, companionship, making someone feel good, and there's nothing wrong with that. But that's you giving. That's you performing something to justify the transaction.

Findom is the furthest thing from that. The tribute isn't payment for a service. It's an acknowledgment. Of your existence, your time, the fact that you're even allowing this.

The second you start softening yourself to earn the money, you've already lost the plot. And I think a lot of people might noteven realize when it's happening because it may be mistaken for being a soft domme/mommy domme.

Anyway. Curious if others see this too.

Why does findom keep getting mixed up with GFE?

Like the moment money is involved people seem to forget these are completely opposite energies.

GFE is warmth, companionship, making someone feel good, and there's nothing wrong with that. But that's you giving. That's you performing something to justify the transaction.

Findom is the furthest thing from that. The tribute isn't payment for a service. It's an acknowledgment. Of your existence, your time, the fact that you're even allowing this.

The second you start softening yourself to earn the money, you've already lost the plot. And I think a lot of people might noteven realize when it's happening because it may be mistaken for being a soft domme/mommy domme.

Anyway. Curious if others see this too.