r/MaleSexualHealth

I had sex today after consuming Cialis 2.5mg but it was an extremely traumatizing episode.

Major painful episodes were that I felt her vagina being sharp and hurting me. This hurt me a lot. Especially the right side of my penis due to which I had to stop. As soon as I would enter her vagina, I would find it sharp and painful and every thrust was painful.

The other episode was when my penis was in her vagina, I felt her vagina contracting and it hurt my penis due to which I pulled out immediately before my penis would snap.

Third episode, not major painful was when my softish penis inside her vagina bent slightly. It did hurt but I pulled out on time.

Later on, masturbated once gently and it wasn't painful.

Please guide as to what went wrong and how to heal myself?

I am a 28 year old Indian male. I am currently very depressed about a problem. Which has taken away my sleep and peace. I am looking for all those men who are happy in their sex life with 4 inches, and all those women who are happy despite their husband or boyfriend having 4 inches...

Hey guys ! I hope you all are doing great. So I had Really stressful year 6 month ago that was 2025. I don’t exactly remember when but between aug-sept I struggled with sleep. Not complete insomnia but constant tossing and turning. So while shopping at costco I came across youtheory’s ksm-66 ashwagandha 2 capsules 1000mg per day.

Initially it started to help me with my bloating due to extreme stress maybe high cortisol and slept better not completely but yes somewhat better. However what I noticed is earlier I used to wake up with horny feeling everyday and felt the urge to masturbate but gradually lost the urge and drive completely.

I blamed stress all the time but recently read posts and comments about side effects of ashwagandha then immediately I could relate to all those sexual side effects.
I can get hard but with zero pleasure. Like thought hit my head but nothing is felt in my penis. Even if i touch it deliberately it won’t do much. I ejaculate with zero pleasure. So stopped taking it completely.

It’s just been 4 days since I stopped it hoping to
Recover. I am open to all kinda suggestions for speedy recovery. Thank You.

I (39M) have been with my current primary doctor for a few years, and he never examined my genitals in the past. I wonder if this also happens to others in the US.

I feel I'm getting older, and there are multiple issues in my body in the past year. Not sure if I should let my doctor examine my genitals in my upcoming exam. What should I say?

Thanks for your input.

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M50 married with no health issues or under any medication. Regularly I wake up with morning wood, but not as hard as it used to be and also it drops very quickly.

Same is the case when i masturbate, loose erection quickly after ejaculation.

When my partner stimulates me, I get rock hard erections and it remains hard even after ejaculation and it drops off very slowly.

Is this normal for men at this age ?

This is more of a "Help me with my preferences" question, but it relates to my sexual health.

I'm 45 M and married. My wife and I still have lots of sex. 4-5 days a week. Sometimes more.

I got all kinds of hassle in other forums for this, but I don't like the feeling of having an orgasm/ejaculating.

It feels like I'm not in control of my body. It feels like I'm falling. I don't feel strong, I feel "soft". Like, if I just had an orgasm, I wouldn't be able to fight.

I don't use drugs but I've had surgeries for various stuff. I've had IV painkillers like Dilaudid. An orgasm feels like getting painkillers.

I know most men enjoy the feeling, but I don't.

So when we make love, 95% of the time I'm able to stop and pull out before that pre-orgasm feeling hits. Ditto for blowjobs. I'm usually able to tell my wife when to stop before I unload.

But sometimes I mess up and I cum. It's very frustrating. My wife is very understanding about it. She just gets a towel and wipes it up. During blowjobs we have a towel on hand. If I tell her I'm gonna blow we just throw the towel over my penis.

Any strategies to avoid orgasm? I know most of you WANT to orgasm but I don't.

So I guess I'm asking what "hurts" your ability to have an orgasm?

We have a great sex life. But I feel like crap after if I cum. I know sex isn't about me l, and I feel like I'm generally selfless (it's not sex unless she has at LEAST 3 orgasms). And I love the feeling of being inside of her. Just not the orgasm feeling.

Help is appreciated.

EDIT: Yes, I know it's good for the prostrate to cum. But... it's just not something I enjoy.

EDIT: ALSO, my wife does NOT like the feeling of semen. When we were having kids, I'd ejaculate in her. I've had a vasectomy. If we're having sex and I realize I'm going to burst, I pull out and do it on the sheets. So this is another reason why I want to prevent orgasm as much as I can.

I’ve been looking into different options for ED and didn’t realize how many online treatment services there are now. Has anyone here tried one instead of going through the usual in-person route?

I’m mostly interested in how easy the process was and whether you felt like you were getting proper medical guidance.

Edit: I ended up trying BraverX after looking into a few different online options. They offer prescription ED treatments like tadalafil and sildenafil, and I liked that I could go through the consultation online instead of having to start with an in-person appointment.

The process was pretty nice, especially since I was a little uncomfortable with the idea of discussing it face-to-face. Sharing in case anyone else is considering online treatment.

I haven’t posted in a few months my follow up.

At a year, two days ago, I must say I’m happy with my progress and implant.

Since late January, I was diagnosed with cancer and been through hell with chemo and radiotherapy at the same time. Lost 30 pounds of weight because of it. I’m currently in amends and in the re evaluation to see what’s the next steps. Between the hassle of the treatments and the effects of the chemo and radiation therapy kept me away from cycling because it caused me pain. Currently I’m being evaluated to see if surgery is necessary since it was caught very early. I’ll know more in a couple of months if I need surgery too but it seems that it disappeared. Hurray!

Started chemo and radiotherapy mid March until May, lost 30 pounds and I really thought it was the end for me.

For the last month or a bit more I restarted cycling and thought it would be difficult but I will say it’s not that bad.

Didn’t loose any length or girth and that is a good thing.

Will try to keep posting more in a monthly basis. Will answer questions, and if I feel it’s too intrusive I would prefer the question privately.

Best wishes to the new bionic guys out there and wish you luck. If you are going to ask questions please read my previous posts to catch up with my story

So I would want to confess about my weird sexual/physical urges and i don't know what to do.I am 6'1 guy,21M, good in study, have a good job, doing good in my life but going through hell right now.

Few things about me first:

I first mastrubated at age of 20( when i felt like doing it, but did watch porn before).

But I had a very weird obsession wherein I would watch

strong huge woman fighting/wrestling in wwe and even search videos for them, i dont know why but it gives me immense pleasure watching women dominating men physically , verbally and mentally .

After i have started mastrubation it started with a feeling of sex and intimacy.But now for past 2 years it has turned to fantasies and desires. Wherein either I want to be dominated by opposite gender or dominate them so brutually( in extreme) nothing in between , both cases at points give me some much mental and psychological pleasure that i can't explain.

I did explore as to why they are happening but the reason came out to be old versions low self-esteem, but now i am sufficiently confident and dont face any societal hirearch issue, actually no issues at all as to escape to these sexual desires.

The thing is I now only ejaculate seeing femdom handjobs edging scissorholds or wrestle, as if i have no control over myself. On other days its like I am a beast and want to fuck the other person and dominate them so intense not just sex but physically.I am Virgin with limited yet decent interaction with girls, but a friend i know liked/attached to me and wanted to kiss/ become intimate with me .though i rejected/ tried to ignore her for many reasons as a gf or even for a casial relation or even just a one night stand, The entire night i visualized me dominating her extremelyand having sex, not in a bad way but like we both would enjoy this.

It has taken a toll on my mind as i can't seem to find a reason to leave it that would suffice my guilt of desires and mastrubation.Its like why not? Like if in your free time do this instead, I would even create time for myself for doing these kind of things.

I mastrubate almost 3 times a day for past few months, i can't do so by watching sex but am able to easily do so being femdom dominated and desires most times with minorly also seeing men dominating women.

Help me i know somethings wrong with me and it but i am unable to do it or even tell someone. I want to stop it I am not like this at all in real except when i am doing the deed.Help me to stop it or give strong reason my brain will accept that this is fucking wrong(not just because its wrong or its disturbing my mind) .I need question as to why these desires are there and how to stop them.

Pls help 🙏🙏🙏

A lot of guys with phimosis think getting cut is the only answer. But there are other options. Steroid creams. Stretching routines. Minor procedures that don't remove the foreskin.

Surgery is an option but it's very rarely the first one. I used to suffer from it personally and have managed to sort it out by using steroids and stretching rings. Your not alone and there is help available

My girlfriend wants me to lick her pussy, but I don't want to because there is a taste or smell that I don't like. I tried once, but I couldn't do it. Meanwhile, she licks my penis for a long time, and I feel embarrassed because she does something for me that I am unable to do for her.

Hey everyone,

Up until a year ago, I had rock-hard morning erections that stayed for nearly 30 minutes.

For the past year, I still wake up hard while groggy (sometimes fully hard, somtimes semi), but the second my brain fully turns on and becomes conscious, it starts deflating. It rarely lasts more than a minute now.

I know waking up shifts your brain from relaxed to alert, but it’s hard not to overthink it.

Has anyone gone through this exact same change and still had a totally normal, problem-free sex life? Did fixing stress bring it back?

Would love to hear your experiences. Thanks!

I know it arguably just allows one to start the day more relaxed, but are there any other real benefits?

Unfortunately, my wife and I seem to be about 12 hours apart on our sexual desire schedule… she’s interested and ready to have sex in the evenings before bed, but I in the other hand am ready in the morning, before getting out of bed. As we’ve gotten older it’s become a bit more of an issue as we each struggle when it’s not our time of the day….

I say all that as a background to my initial question. I mean, if there is some real reason to release in the morning, at least I could take care of it myself, if she’s not into participating….

In Febuary of this year, me and my wife who have been together for 17 years (5 married) called it quits. The only one woman I truly loved for a long long time. Moving on, I also had a weight problem and was eating too much fast food and eventually diagnosed with a fatty liver. The doctor put me on zepbound shots. At the time, I was 6'0 (just including my height) and weighed at 265. Today, I weigh 210.

I feel great, losing over just 60 pounds but my problem is.....I am just not interested in sex. Like I cant think of getting it up or anything like that and it is killing me. I figured with the weight loss and blood flow going better, you would think I would be ready to go but no. It is just bleh. I dont get erections very often and well, the urge to cum is not there. I have seen a couple of girls and well, just this kind of last time, it didnt seem like I came and the feeling was not there.

I tried blue chew gold last time and couldn't tell much of a difference, I might just try the Viagra pill the doctor subscribed me that is 100 mg. I think honestly this zepbound stuff is getting to me and messing me up. I did some research about it and it says it can lower the sexual drive because of the body changing all around. I called my doctors office tuesday and pretty much said, I am lacking my sex drive big time and he left a message that it should not be doing that, stop the meds and I have a visit with him the 24th to find out what we can do.

Losing weight is great but yeah, I would rather put on a couple pounds and get that sex drive back. Hopefully that is all it is. Like I said, I feel good other wise but hopefully, it is something minor, HOPEFULLY.

I am 47 and frequently have sex with my wife. I have been noticing lately that my erections have not been the same as in the past. I am not stressed, everything is and have been the same. Is there any suggestions that could help. I am on lipuitor and metformin currently. I work out and am very active at my job. We also role play,dress sexy and use toys in the bedroom so we have a healthy sexlife. Does anyone have any suggestions. Thanks guys!