u/Acceptable_Pea8393

i was thinking about it for a bit and realised i never really had a proper discussion talk before...but it would be really helpful to already have experience with it...so if you are okey with suffering through my inexperience....would it be okey if we do some pretend discussion or me just asking loads of questions or just giving your side to a good discussion and such things? It would be really helpful and would be really grateful for it!!! I really dont wanna seem inexperienced when i actually meet a domme.....im a lot as is.......oki thank you!!

edit: my question was mainly about reaching out discussions...deal breakers and limits and kinks and likes and not likes.....so many things to say and i feel like i cant leave anything out because what if it might be a deal breaker and then i end up with a huge text wall without much coherence because i just keep overthinking every aspect of things....

HII, I'm sky (not my real name but I don't like my real name all too much) and I am 19!

I will update this as much as possible, and you can always chat me for questions! (I might not want to comment an answer).

ABOUT ME:

I live in west europe and so I am in gmt +1!

Sooo a bit about SFW me! I am quite chaotic and rambling and often switch a lot between projects because i have a lot of imagination but few hands!

I enjoy a lot! My main hobbies are reading (philosophy and literature), playing the drums, and my cubes!! But I do endlessly more!!

I am studying applied physics at the moment (second year) and would like to master in theoretical physics and study philosophy.

I am quite small...1.65 meters about and I am generally fit but not that muscular...I think I have thick thighs but idk I am below 65 kilos (I don't know exactly because i never really weigh myself but I am definitely below 65).

I am quite a lot online though I should sometimes focus on studies. Also, I am limited by parents so I cannot speak most of the time at all.

PREFERENCES FROM YOU:

Soo some things I am looking for i will put here. However, if you are outside of the boundaries, I might still like to do some play with you or be friends (I like making pictures sometimes), but I will decide all that when I get to know you!

I am looking for only Online!! (unless you are really close)

Age range: 18.5 - 38\*

\*It depends on your character, if it fits to me, I am okey with it!

Sexuality: feminine, I am gynesexual so I am open to trans girls or even femboys. Know that my preference is feminine and if you send a photo showing off anything masculine you lost me immediately.

Personality Traits: know that you don't need all but just some guiding traits i like. Playful, caring, nurturing, supportive, soft, patient, kind, considerate and understanding.

Physically: Again feminine. Tbh I am not that picky in what your body is like....though I would like it if it is well kept...also the cuter the better....if it looks soft to touch i will consider it that way.

Domme style: I am up to be dommed normally but my preference lies in gentle femdom with a mommy. I like being a little, and a pet. I will sometimes be very needy and other times be having a difficult time or something in between, if you want something long term you need to be able to handle all sides of me. Of course, you can always discuss about it with me!

If you want something short term; I would like you to be playful but not degrading! That is really important, you can be more daring and demanding, but not mean.

MY KINKS:

https://kinklist.com/k/qvzeokykhxbb

Favourite kinks: I love slime anything drooling tbh (but i am limited so cannot often do this), soft furs, feminization, pet play, wedgies and soft spanking and ass play.HARD LIMITS!! : So I am not into anything related to CBT or degrading stuff (very restricted). I also do not like to be called "baby" or "babe" at all. Lastly, rushing into things. I need my time so if you are pushing me endlessly I will use safeword and have to take a break. You can tell me to do things if i am being hesitant b ut if i say anything close to no..it is a no.

D/s style: again, i like being a little and be considered a pet. I like to be cared for and nurtured...given advice on things and supported through stuff like difficult studying or some bad thoughts or sexual uncertainty. I will get caught up in the dynamic, so we will discuss some emoji codes! You can leave me with a morning task, or make me embarrassed softly... up to you! (within my bounds of course).

Experience: I have had some short mommy relationships quite some time ago that ended either because it was not the right fit (I met my best friend this way haha) or I communicated badly...or spiraled because the other did not communicate their concerns early or well enough. I am aware of a lot but not knowledgeable so I can only try to do my best!

Equipment: I have a bra and feminine underwear pair, 5 meters of red nylon rope, and fleshlight with lube. I am however very limited in what i can use and when. Assume I can only do something with them once a week at most.

Pictures: I have a fetlife that you can also contact me at:

https://fetlife.com/maribovonludwig

HOW TO CONTACT ME:

In reddit you may dm me directly, but I will require more than just a hi...i need to know why you chatted me. Include what to call you, age, reason for chatting me, and why me specifically.

You can also comment on this post, asking if i like your profile so you do not have to chat me. I can take a look at your profile then (so the I expect not an empty one) and I will tell you if we should dm or not and I will set expectations in my comment.

You can also contact me on fetlife (link above) via a chat. I will not chat you first on fetlife, just a personal preference.

HII, I'm sky (not my real name but I don't like my real name all too much) and I am 19!

I will update this as much as possible, and you can always chat me for questions! (I might not want to comment an answer).

ABOUT ME:

I live in west europe and so I am in gmt +1!

Sooo a bit about SFW me! I am quite chaotic and rambling and often switch a lot between projects because i have a lot of imagination but few hands!

I enjoy a lot! My main hobbies are reading (philosophy and literature), playing the drums, and my cubes!! But I do endlessly more!!

I am studying applied physics at the moment (second year) and would like to master in theoretical physics and study philosophy.

I am quite small...1.65 meters about and I am generally fit but not that muscular...I think I have thick thighs but idk I am below 65 kilos (I don't know exactly because i never really weigh myself but I am definitely below 65).

I am quite a lot online though I should sometimes focus on studies. Also, I am limited by parents so I cannot speak most of the time at all.

PREFERENCES FROM YOU:

Soo some things I am looking for i will put here. However, if you are outside of the boundaries, I might still like to do some play with you or be friends (I like making pictures sometimes), but I will decide all that when I get to know you!

I am looking for only Online!! (unless you are really close)

Age range: 18.5 - 38\*

\*It depends on your character, if it fits to me, I am okey with it!

Sexuality: feminine, I am gynesexual so I am open to trans girls or even femboys. Know that my preference is feminine and if you send a photo showing off anything masculine you lost me immediately.

Personality Traits: know that you don't need all but just some guiding traits i like. Playful, caring, nurturing, supportive, soft, patient, kind, considerate and understanding.

Physically: Again feminine. Tbh I am not that picky in what your body is like....though I would like it if it is well kept...also the cuter the better....if it looks soft to touch i will consider it that way.

Domme style: I am up to be dommed normally but my preference lies in gentle femdom with a mommy. I like being a little, and a pet. I will sometimes be very needy and other times be having a difficult time or something in between, if you want something long term you need to be able to handle all sides of me. Of course, you can always discuss about it with me!

If you want something short term; I would like you to be playful but not degrading! That is really important, you can be more daring and demanding, but not mean.

MY KINKS:

https://kinklist.com/k/qvzeokykhxbb

Favourite kinks: I love slime anything drooling tbh (but i am limited so cannot often do this), soft furs, feminization, pet play, wedgies and soft spanking and ass play.HARD LIMITS!! : So I am not into anything related to CBT or degrading stuff (very restricted). I also do not like to be called "baby" or "babe" at all. Lastly, rushing into things. I need my time so if you are pushing me endlessly I will use safeword and have to take a break. You can tell me to do things if i am being hesitant b ut if i say anything close to no..it is a no.

D/s style: again, i like being a little and be considered a pet. I like to be cared for and nurtured...given advice on things and supported through stuff like difficult studying or some bad thoughts or sexual uncertainty. I will get caught up in the dynamic, so we will discuss some emoji codes! You can leave me with a morning task, or make me embarrassed softly... up to you! (within my bounds of course).

Experience: I have had some short mommy relationships quite some time ago that ended either because it was not the right fit (I met my best friend this way haha) or I communicated badly...or spiraled because the other did not communicate their concerns early or well enough. I am aware of a lot but not knowledgeable so I can only try to do my best!

Equipment: I have a bra and feminine underwear pair, 5 meters of red nylon rope, and fleshlight with lube. I am however very limited in what i can use and when. Assume I can only do something with them once a week at most.

Pictures: I have a fetlife that you can also contact me at:

https://fetlife.com/maribovonludwig

HOW TO CONTACT ME:

In reddit you may dm me directly, but I will require more than just a hi...i need to know why you chatted me. Include what to call you, age, reason for chatting me, and why me specifically.

You can also comment on this post, asking if i like your profile so you do not have to chat me. I can take a look at your profile then (so the I expect not an empty one) and I will tell you if we should dm or not and I will set expectations in my comment.

You can also contact me on fetlife (link above) via a chat. I will not chat you first on fetlife, just a personal preference.

oki soo i am curious about weighted blankies or plushies or whatever makes you calm down!

if it is a weighted blankie....how heavy is the blankie...what material??

if its a plush what is it made of and what is inside it??

i wanna know the details!!

my main reason for asking is because idk what the best weight for a blankie is but im also curious about general calming items...not consumables btw so no tea or things...

oki hope im not bothering anyone with this i think it is allowed here and all....i've never been in sub space neither have i ever been even remotely intimate with someone irl...wanna be sorta prepared....parents probably wont allow me to get weighted blankie anyway because i already have two blankies one extra on my bed and one downstairs....anyway shouldnt ramble so just sending oki

HII, I'm sky (not my real name but I don't like my real name all too much) and I am 19!

I will update this as much as possible, and you can always chat me for questions! (I might not want to comment an answer).

ABOUT ME:

I live in west europe and so I am in gmt +1!

Sooo a bit about SFW me! I am quite chaotic and rambling and often switch a lot between projects because i have a lot of imagination but few hands!

I enjoy a lot! My main hobbies are reading (philosophy and literature), playing the drums, and my cubes!! But I do endlessly more!!

I am studying applied physics at the moment (second year) and would like to master in theoretical physics and study philosophy.

I am quite small...1.65 meters about and I am generally fit but not that muscular...I think I have thick thighs but idk I am below 65 kilos (I don't know exactly because i never really weigh myself but I am definitely below 65).

I am quite a lot online though I should sometimes focus on studies. Also, I am limited by parents so I cannot speak most of the time at all.

PREFERENCES FROM YOU:

Soo some things I am looking for i will put here. However, if you are outside of the boundaries, I might still like to do some play with you or be friends (I like making pictures sometimes), but I will decide all that when I get to know you!

I am looking for only Online!! (unless you are really close)

Age range: 18.5 - 38\*

\*It depends on your character, if it fits to me, I am okey with it!

Sexuality: feminine, I am gynesexual so I am open to trans girls or even femboys. Know that my preference is feminine and if you send a photo showing off anything masculine you lost me immediately.

Personality Traits: know that you don't need all but just some guiding traits i like. Playful, caring, nurturing, supportive, soft, patient, kind, considerate and understanding.

Physically: Again feminine. Tbh I am not that picky in what your body is like....though I would like it if it is well kept...also the cuter the better....if it looks soft to touch i will consider it that way.

Domme style: I am up to be dommed normally but my preference lies in gentle femdom with a mommy. I like being a little, and a pet. I will sometimes be very needy and other times be having a difficult time or something in between, if you want something long term you need to be able to handle all sides of me. Of course, you can always discuss about it with me!

If you want something short term; I would like you to be playful but not degrading! That is really important, you can be more daring and demanding, but not mean.

MY KINKS:

https://kinklist.com/k/qvzeokykhxbb

Favourite kinks: I love slime anything drooling tbh (but i am limited so cannot often do this), soft furs, feminization, pet play, wedgies and soft spanking and ass play.HARD LIMITS!! : So I am not into anything related to CBT or degrading stuff (very restricted). I also do not like to be called "baby" or "babe" at all. Lastly, rushing into things. I need my time so if you are pushing me endlessly I will use safeword and have to take a break. You can tell me to do things if i am being hesitant b ut if i say anything close to no..it is a no.

D/s style: again, i like being a little and be considered a pet. I like to be cared for and nurtured...given advice on things and supported through stuff like difficult studying or some bad thoughts or sexual uncertainty. I will get caught up in the dynamic, so we will discuss some emoji codes! You can leave me with a morning task, or make me embarrassed softly... up to you! (within my bounds of course).

Experience: I have had some short mommy relationships quite some time ago that ended either because it was not the right fit (I met my best friend this way haha) or I communicated badly...or spiraled because the other did not communicate their concerns early or well enough. I am aware of a lot but not knowledgeable so I can only try to do my best!

Equipment: I have a bra and feminine underwear pair, 5 meters of red nylon rope, and fleshlight with lube. I am however very limited in what i can use and when. Assume I can only do something with them once a week at most.

Pictures: I have a fetlife that you can also contact me at:

https://fetlife.com/maribovonludwig

HOW TO CONTACT ME:

In reddit you may dm me directly, but I will require more than just a hi...i need to know why you chatted me. Include what to call you, age, reason for chatting me, and why me specifically.

You can also comment on this post, asking if i like your profile so you do not have to chat me. I can take a look at your profile then (so the I expect not an empty one) and I will tell you if we should dm or not and I will set expectations in my comment.

You can also contact me on fetlife (link above) via a chat. I will not chat you first on fetlife, just a personal preference.

HII, I'm sky (not my real name but I don't like my real name all too much) and I am 19!

I will update this as much as possible, and you can always chat me for questions! (I might not want to comment an answer).

ABOUT ME:

I live in west europe and so I am in gmt +1!

Sooo a bit about SFW me! I am quite chaotic and rambling and often switch a lot between projects because i have a lot of imagination but few hands!

I enjoy a lot! My main hobbies are reading (philosophy and literature), playing the drums, and my cubes!! But I do endlessly more!!

I am studying applied physics at the moment (second year) and would like to master in theoretical physics and study philosophy.

I am quite small...1.65 meters about and I am generally fit but not that muscular...I think I have thick thighs but idk I am below 65 kilos (I don't know exactly because i never really weigh myself but I am definitely below 65).

I am quite a lot online though I should sometimes focus on studies. Also, I am limited by parents so I cannot speak most of the time at all.

PREFERENCES FROM YOU:

Soo some things I am looking for i will put here. However, if you are outside of the boundaries, I might still like to do some play with you or be friends (I like making pictures sometimes), but I will decide all that when I get to know you!

I am looking for only Online!! (unless you are really close)

Age range: 18.5 - 38\*

\*It depends on your character, if it fits to me, I am okey with it!

Sexuality: feminine, I am gynesexual so I am open to trans girls or even femboys. Know that my preference is feminine and if you send a photo showing off anything masculine you lost me immediately.

Personality Traits: know that you don't need all but just some guiding traits i like. Playful, caring, nurturing, supportive, soft, patient, kind, considerate and understanding.

Physically: Again feminine. Tbh I am not that picky in what your body is like....though I would like it if it is well kept...also the cuter the better....if it looks soft to touch i will consider it that way.

Domme style: I am up to be dommed normally but my preference lies in gentle femdom with a mommy. I like being a little, and a pet. I will sometimes be very needy and other times be having a difficult time or something in between, if you want something long term you need to be able to handle all sides of me. Of course, you can always discuss about it with me!

If you want something short term; I would like you to be playful but not degrading! That is really important, you can be more daring and demanding, but not mean.

MY KINKS:

https://kinklist.com/k/qvzeokykhxbb

Favourite kinks: I love slime anything drooling tbh (but i am limited so cannot often do this), soft furs, feminization, pet play, wedgies and soft spanking and ass play.HARD LIMITS!! : So I am not into anything related to CBT or degrading stuff (very restricted). I also do not like to be called "baby" or "babe" at all. Lastly, rushing into things. I need my time so if you are pushing me endlessly I will use safeword and have to take a break. You can tell me to do things if i am being hesitant b ut if i say anything close to no..it is a no.

D/s style: again, i like being a little and be considered a pet. I like to be cared for and nurtured...given advice on things and supported through stuff like difficult studying or some bad thoughts or sexual uncertainty. I will get caught up in the dynamic, so we will discuss some emoji codes! You can leave me with a morning task, or make me embarrassed softly... up to you! (within my bounds of course).

Experience: I have had some short mommy relationships quite some time ago that ended either because it was not the right fit (I met my best friend this way haha) or I communicated badly...or spiraled because the other did not communicate their concerns early or well enough. I am aware of a lot but not knowledgeable so I can only try to do my best!

Equipment: I have a bra and feminine underwear pair, 5 meters of red nylon rope, and fleshlight with lube. I am however very limited in what i can use and when. Assume I can only do something with them once a week at most.

Pictures: I have a fetlife that you can also contact me at:

https://fetlife.com/maribovonludwig

HOW TO CONTACT ME:

In reddit you may dm me directly, but I will require more than just a hi...i need to know why you chatted me. Include what to call you, age, reason for chatting me, and why me specifically.

You can also comment on this post, asking if i like your profile so you do not have to chat me. I can take a look at your profile then (so the I expect not an empty one) and I will tell you if we should dm or not and I will set expectations in my comment.

You can also contact me on fetlife (link above) via a chat. I will not chat you first on fetlife, just a personal preference.

(AI had to rewrite because it was a jumbled mess again)

I could use some perspective on a situation I’m unsure about.

I posted a picture recently, and someone in the comments started being playful with me. I liked the energy—he seems kind, cute, and engaging.

That said, I’m feeling conflicted.

There were a couple of moments that made me pause. He used degradation (“loser”) without asking if I was into that, and when I brought it up, he said he was just trying things out and expected me to say if I didn’t like it. He also sent me a video that I’m not sure I explicitly consented to, which left me a bit unsure how I feel about it.

I’m also unsure about his experience. When I asked about BDSM, he said he knows “a bit,” which feels a little vague. I’ve read that it’s important for someone in a dominant role to have awareness and control both within and outside the dynamic, so I’m wondering if I should ask more about that.

On top of that, I’m struggling with my own preferences. I’m not really into masculine people, but I do like softness and a more submissive or gentle energy, which makes this situation confusing for me. i liked the energy! and he said he could try and be more fem to me like shave maybe and i asked if he could maybe get clothes if he was open to it...and he said hed like it if he was also caring of me....but then also said he wouldnt mind me just being a slut (i introduced that term though)

I guess I’m trying to figure out whether this is something worth exploring further, or if there are signs here that I should be more cautious about. Any thoughts would be really appreciated.

Okwy redoing because I'm too chaotic. Lemme try using white lines maybe that's easier.

Parents are immature and I'm afraid they'll find my toys.

Can't go to clinic for mental help or munches because parents are usually home and know I don't go out ever so I can't lie to them.

I dont get how to ever get out of this because later I'll have roomatws or neighbours or random people that might also see me...

How to go out without anyone knowing about it?

That's was much better??? It feels much clearer!!! Maybe I should write in white lines more often? Hmm I'll think about it!!