A lesson in boundaries and patience
I recently had a 'fincuck' approach me (Dommes, you know the type)
He was inconsistent, and asking too much too quickly. Instead of leaning into the spiral (and giving him what he wanted) I took a breath, and took a step back.
I had already made my boundaries and expectations clear. The only way to have those respected is to stick to them!
So, I sent my payment links, and I stopped replying. He texted a lot over the next week, pleading and begging and trying every attention grabbing technique under the sun.
After a week and a half of this, he sent what I had told him to. No negotiating, no begging, just genuine obedience.
Now he's paid his 'fucking me around' fee, we actually have the opportunity to play. Now that he's learned his lesson, playing is fun.
He knows what consequences there are for disobedience, and he's motivated to obey.
It takes me back to when I first started out, how I would've fallen for that. I would've kept texting and trying to convince him, betraying myself and my boundaries in the process!
True dominance comes from understanding and respecting your own worth.
Bottom line: subs exist to serve us, not the other way around!
Stay superior, ladies
-Goddess Amber 💜 ✨