Dating as a submissive man is a humiliation ritual.
I'm 31, submissive male my entire adult life, conventionally attractive, fit. I've pretty much had nothing but struggles in even getting dates, and it's not like I even wear this on my sleeve and go advertising to all women that I talk to that I'm a kinky sub. I think women just have a sixth sense about them and are just able to pick up that I'm not particularly masculine, and that is offputting to them.
Despite being 31, I've only had one relationship in my entire life (a little under 2 years). It was with a mommy domme type woman, but she was an abusive person and treated me terrible on a regular basis.
After that, I've been out with a couple woman, leading up to physical intimacy and them quickly finding out that I'm shy in bed and not going to be the man that can take them on a fun trip to pound town. The connection fizzles out after that. I had one woman tell me that "you're probably not submissive, just inexperienced."
Truly dominant women are a rarity, and the ones that exist have usually been scooped up by the first lucky good boy to have found them. There's nowhere to go meet them or connect with them consistently. Dating apps like Chyrpe are shit like any other app and are filled with findoms and catfish. Feeld has become overrun with nothing but polyfolk and swingers. You can't meet them at irl kink events because single women avoid them like the plague for very obvious and understandable reasons.
Dating as a malesub is simply a miserable slog through the dark as you try to put on some kind of faux confidence to approach women that you desperately wish would approach you first, maybe get lucky and form a connection, then usually find that they're not interested in a man that can't take the lead in the bedroom.
Rinse repeat ad infinitum until your you're so lonely and hopeless you just don't want to even bother anymore.
