How do you personlize?

Hello there lovely people! I hope everyone is doing well. I've had a question that's been on my mind for a while and been trying to figure out the best way to word it. So, after doing some digging I thought, maybe, here seemed like the right place to post to get some discussion going.

Some background: I have circled the world of buying content but never really took the dive. Reached out, made a few posts, talked to people but ultimately never jumped in. I've been trying to psychoanalyze myself and figure out what it is that ultimately stops me from making the jump.

Here is what I've basically come to: I'm not rich and don't have a lot to spare so, if I am going to spend money I want to make sure I'm getting exactly what I want. Part of that comes from a) knowing myself and then also from b) being confident in myself to express that in an appropriate way.

The number one thing I find myself wanting is for whatever it is to feel absolutely super personal to me. In a sense, that seller wouldn't give or do this for anyone except for me. That is not to say I am someone special that they adore over everyone else; not what I mean at all. Just that, in the moment, this was for me and me alone. I realize of course, that customs come with a higher price tag. So, again, I want to know what I'm getting is super personal and what I want and am happy with. Whether it's a picture, a video, a voicemail, a sexting session, a gfe, etc.

If I've ever put out the feelers for something like a GFE I feel like everyone says they want to make it feel real and like a connection and not some paid exchange but then after we chat a bit, and I do some research I realize any media they send is going to be premade and so, again, I loose that feeling of personal and connection immediately.

So, my question to you all is: how do you, personally, find ways to make a fulfillment personal and genuine for the person you are doing it for, if that's what they want?

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u/KernEvil9 — 8 days ago

[REQUEST] M39 Looking for an online companion

Hello there lovely people!

I'm looking for an online companion. Someone to enjoy the virtual world with. I'm hoping that somewhere out there, one of you will be that person!

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

I live in Central Time US and often when I work at the hospital it is the night shift. So, I can have a weird schedule. But I'm often up later though I'm trying to be better about getting to bed before midnight. So, either someone in a similar time zone or at least a schedule that lines up!

I'm often either sleeping (if I work) or running errands/doing chores during the day and then hop on to play games around 9:00pm or so. I'm often free for messaging throughout the day but not free for voice chats until later.

What I'm looking for:

Genuine connection with someone. We don't have to be into all of the same things. But I enjoy hearing about the things people love and I want someone who wants to hear about the things that I love.

Someone who would totally hop in a voice chat while I play a game. Maybe they're doing something else and we can just chat while we do our own things. Maybe they want to watch me play or play with me.

I have ADHD and that combined with being a nerd means most days all I want to do is talk to someone about all the random crap I found out that day or I random thought of. I've been reading a bunch of things from the Revelation Space series but Alastair Reynolds and I want to talk to someone about it!

I also used to work out everyday and I fell out of that habit and it's been incredibly hard to get back into it. Probably some ADHD stuff going on there. So, I would love a cheerleader to help be an external motivation. I'm happy to be yours as well!

I hope that this has resonated with some of you and would love to hear from you and start a conversation to see if we might be a good fit for each other.

I am an 18+ Adult offering/requesting SFW companionship to other 18+ adults only.

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u/KernEvil9 — 23 days ago

39 [M4F] American guy looking for an online flirting and sexting Indian partner

Hello there, I am looking for a fun, sexy, flirty, interesting online companion. I'm white and from America.

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

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u/KernEvil9 — 23 days ago

M39 I'm in a funk...

Got not great news yesterday. Been at work all night. I'm just not in a great mind set. So, yes; I am being that guy asking for joy in my inbox to cheer me up.

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u/KernEvil9 — 1 month ago

39 [M4F] flirting and sexting partner - Reddit: DM

I would just love to have a fun cute nerdy girl who I can geek out with and who will also ask if I want to see her boobs.

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

Appearance:

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago

39 [M4F] White American man looking for sexting parting.

I would just love to have a fun cute nerdy girl who I can geek out with and who will also ask if I want to see her boobs.

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago

39 [M4F] White American guy looking for flirting and sexting partner

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago

39 [M4F] Looking for my online flirting and sexting partner.

Hello there lovely people!

I'm still looking for an online companion. Someone to enjoy the virtual world with. I'm hoping that somewhere out there, one of you will be that person!

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

- Have three boys

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white, american

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

I live in Central Time US and often when I work at the hospital it is the night shift. So, I can have a weird schedule. But I'm often up later though I'm trying to be better about getting to bed before midnight. So, either someone in a similar time zone or at least a schedule that lines up!

I'm often either sleeping (if I work) or running errands/doing chores during the day and then hop on to play games around 9:00pm or so. I'm often free for messaging throughout the day but not free for voice chats until later.

What I'm looking for:

Genuine connection with someone. We don't have to be into all of the same things. But I enjoy hearing about the things people love and I want someone who wants to hear about the things that I love.

Someone who would totally hop in a voice chat while I play a game. Maybe they're doing something else and we can just chat while we do our own things. Maybe they want to watch me play or play with me.

I have ADHD and that combined with being a nerd means most days all I want to do is talk to someone about all the random crap I found out that day or I random thought of. I've been reading a bunch of things from the Revelation Space series but Alastair Reynolds and I want to talk to someone about it!

I also used to work out everyday and I fell out of that habit and it's been incredibly hard to get back into it. Probably some ADHD stuff going on there. So, I would love a cheerleader to help be an external motivation. I'm happy to be yours as well!

I hope that this has resonated with some of you and would love to hear from you and start a conversation to see if we might be a good fit for each other.

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago

[REQUEST] 39M in a weird place in my life and no clue what I want..

I feel like I do one of these every few months and end up never finding the thing I'm looking for. Not even sure I know what I want. I'm in a strange place in my life and it's kind of complicated but also not kind of complicated. Part of this is that I simply don't have the means to pay people the amount that they rightfully deserve and I just genuinely end up feeling like I'm taking up bandwidth that should be used by others who can give the amount you all deserve.

I guess if you've gotten past that I'll list the rest out.

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

I live in Central Time US and often when I work at the hospital it is the night shift. So, I can have a weird schedule. But I'm often up later though I'm trying to be better about getting to bed before midnight. So, either someone in a similar time zone or at least a schedule that lines up!

I'm often either sleeping (if I work) or running errands/doing chores during the day and then hop on to play games around 9:00pm or so. I'm often free for messaging throughout the day but not free for voice chats until later.

What I'm looking for:

Genuine connection with someone. We don't have to be into all of the same things. But I enjoy hearing about the things people love and I want someone who wants to hear about the things that I love.

Someone who would totally hop in a voice chat while I play a game. Maybe they're doing something else and we can just chat while we do our own things. Maybe they want to watch me play or play with me.

I have ADHD and that combined with being a nerd means most days all I want to do is talk to someone about all the random crap I found out that day or I randomly thought of. I've been reading a bunch of things from the Revelation Space series but Alastair Reynolds and I want to talk to someone about it!

I also used to work out everyday and I fell out of that habit and it's been incredibly hard to get back into it. Probably some ADHD stuff going on there. So, I would love someone to help be an external motivation. I'm happy to be yours as well!

I hope that this has resonated with some of you and would love to hear from you and start a conversation to see if we might be a good fit for each other.

I am an 18+ Adult requesting SFW companionship to other 18+ adults only.

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago

39 [M4F] Looking for my BOF: Best Online Friend!

Hello there lovely people!

I'm still looking for an online companion. Someone to enjoy the virtual world with. I'm hoping that somewhere out there, one of you will be that person!

A bit about me:

- I'm a super nerd. Probably even the king of nerds. I love Star Wars, LotR, video games, anime, dinosaurs, etc.

- I have my doctorate in music and am an organist and composer

- I was a professor and mainframe systems engineer

- I am certified as an EMT and Firefighter

- I currently work at an ER for a hospital

- Have three boys

Appearance:

- 5'10"

- 195lbs

- basically height weight appropriate with a little dadbod in there

- white

- dark blonde hair

- hazel eyes (it's really just a way to make swamp brown sound nice, haha)

I live in Central Time US and often when I work at the hospital it is the night shift. So, I can have a weird schedule. But I'm often up later though I'm trying to be better about getting to bed before midnight. So, either someone in a similar time zone or at least a schedule that lines up!

I'm often either sleeping (if I work) or running errands/doing chores during the day and then hop on to play games around 9:00pm or so. I'm often free for messaging throughout the day but not free for voice chats until later.

What I'm looking for:

Genuine connection with someone. We don't have to be into all of the same things. But I enjoy hearing about the things people love and I want someone who wants to hear about the things that I love.

Someone who would totally hop in a voice chat while I play a game. Maybe they're doing something else and we can just chat while we do our own things. Maybe they want to watch me play or play with me.

I have ADHD and that combined with being a nerd means most days all I want to do is talk to someone about all the random crap I found out that day or I random thought of. I've been reading a bunch of things from the Revelation Space series but Alastair Reynolds and I want to talk to someone about it!

I also used to work out everyday and I fell out of that habit and it's been incredibly hard to get back into it. Probably some ADHD stuff going on there. So, I would love a cheerleader to help be an external motivation. I'm happy to be yours as well!

Also, I would definitely like if there could be a flirty side to the relationship.

I hope that this has resonated with some of you and would love to hear from you and start a conversation to see if we might be a good fit for each other.

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u/KernEvil9 — 2 months ago