u/sigmaxiss96

i was in Dore Alley over the last weekend and there’s a lot for me to try and experience! One thing that kind of makes me wonder if that’s more of my problem or else…

i would consider myself having a relatively tight hole as i don’t get fucked all the time (except this Dore weekend). i went to Cumunion on Sunday late afternoon after wandering around Dore Alley Street Fair, hoping to get fucked and all that. While i was there, i noticed that some Tops were trying to fuck me but for some reason their (semi hard) Cock weren’t able to get in, and i couldn’t see how upset their face turned to be and walked away so fast.

i was so confused at first as if i was the problem being too tight or not hot/ attractive enough to make them hard enough to use my hole. Meanwhile, i also understand that being in such an environment where so many sex is happening, Cocks are nearly impossible to stay rock hard the entire time.

This was also my first time to go Dore Alley and sex parties like this, so i don’t know if this is normal or it is just unfortunate to have a bad timing for both Top and bottom like myself to get into?

i think i really enjoyed the tightness and the isolation of sensation when i first got a rubber hood, feeling myself super submissive and can't stop touching myself.

i always see people wearing full catsuit and wondering it would feel so amazing to feel entirely wrapped up, skin-tight, with rubber/ latex. Yet i noticed that the price of a catsuit is definitely not low, nor somthing i feel confident just throwing a bunch of money to something i just start and want to explore...

i wonder being in the US, Los Angeles specifically, if there is any recommended shops/ brands that i can look into for browsing and maybe getting my first rubber/ latex gear?

and i also wonder if it would be a good idea to go rubber/ latex meetups to help myself getting the courage to get more into this... would be nice to get some ideas where i can start as i don't have much gay friends who are into kink and all these stuff...

i (29 asian male) have been trying to make myself more visible in the community, hoping to meet gay people and kinksters around my age in Los Angeles since this Pride Month. i have been to some speed datings, pool parties, and some themed parties (underwear and towel). However, i just feel like most of the events, especially parties that i go to tend to be dominated by 40+ and middle-aged gay Men. I also know that leather bars in Los Angeles, such as Eagle and Bullet Bar also tend to have a more mature demographic, which feels out of place and does not feel belong. i tried to hang out and play with older Men but i do not find it romantically or sexually attractive to me.

Is West Hollywood the best shot to meet younger gays and/ or kinksters? Or is there any events or parties that i can try to go to meet younger people, for kink?

Sub faggot boy looking for a kinky relationship, may be able to do TPE relationship to the right one, where i feel like i can both be abused and loved from being submissive and offering control to the One i love.

Located in Los Angeles, not looking for relocation nor online only.

Expect basic respect to figure out a consensus on limits and protocols.

- Long term chastity
- Kiss/make out
- Oral
- Anal
- Spit
- Slap
- Lick/rim
- Nipple play
- Ass play
- WS
- Verbal (loved being called a good boy/faggot)
- Humiliation/ Degradation

Things looking to explore and improve with Sir/Master guidance
- Deepthroat
- Face fuck
- Butt plug
- Fisting
- CNC
-Race play (WMab or BMab)
- Domestic chores
- etc… It is a field where to gain bonding and trust with Sir/Master

Hard limits
- Scat
- Permanent marks
- Public
- Expose

i (29 asian male) have been trying to make myself more visible in the community, hoping to meet gay people and kinksters around my age in Los Angeles since this Pride Month. i have been to some speed datings, pool parties, and some themed parties (underwear and towel). However, i just feel like most of the events, especially parties that i go to tend to be dominated by 40+ and middle-aged gay Men. I also know that leather bars in Los Angeles, such as Eagle and Bullet Bar also tend to have a more mature demographic, which feels out of place and does not feel belong. i tried to hang out and play with older Men but i do not find it romantically or sexually attractive to me.

Is West Hollywood the best shot to meet younger gays and/ or kinksters? Or is there any events or parties that i can try to go to meet younger people, for kink and sex purposes?

Hi all. I have always wondered how bottoms manage their time for potential hookups while traveling. I have done a couple solo trips within the US these years, traveling new cities to explore and do some touristy things.

I always have my grindr or other hookup apps open here and there to browse people around and see if there's something to come up. However, my rational thoughts always turn down messages or hookups because I want to dedicate my time to sightseeing and having good food; douching and prepping for hookup would just take too much precious time for me, not to mention if douching goes south or getting flaked/ ghosted, wasting the time that could have been spent exploring the city or resting.

Maybe a trip just to hookup or have sex isn't impossible, but I am not a content creator nor having that much discretionary spending to travel JUST for this purpose. How do you usually evaluate or decide which to prioritize during leisure traveling?

Sub faggot boy looking for a kinky relationship, may be able to do TPE relationship to the right one, where i feel like i can both be abused and loved from being submissive and offering control to the One i love.

Expect basic respect to figure out a consensus on limits and protocols.

- Long term chastity
- Kiss/make out
- Oral
- Anal
- Spit
- Slap
- Lick/rim
- Nipple play
- Ass play
- WS
- Verbal (loved being called a good boy/faggot)
- Humiliation/ Degradation

Things looking to explore and improve with Sir/Master guidance
- Deepthroat
- Face fuck
- Butt plug
- Fisting
- CNC
- Race play (WMab or BMab)
- Domestic chores
- etc… It is a field where to gain bonding and trusting with Sir/Master

Hard limits
- Scat
- Permanent marks
- Public
- Expose

i feel like i have been missing quite many opportunities and chances to have a potential dynamic to Dom/ Master across my journey searching for "the One", and i don't know how to make myself separate more between my "love" and "kink" needs...

i was once owned by a Master for two months, but i decided to depart from the dynamic because i realized i didn't know how to advance when i realized my Master did not find me to be romantically attractive to Him. i couldn't get my mind up on how i could submit when one day Master had His love while i only had this dynamic and felt immensely stressed and anxious if i didn't perform well and got discarded and abandoned by my Master.

However, since the departure, i had been trying to search my Dom/ Master that had the intention to be both kinky and romantic. Yet while i was able to connect with some Doms and Men to talk and so on, many (which i understand) sought only sexual connections, and not looking for a relationship. i internally treated them as a dealbreaker and soon decided not to advance or try to do anything with Them. Thinking that i was avoiding prior experience to my first Master, but also knowing that i might be pushing myself away from all kinds of opportunities that might turn into something nice and enjoyable...

i feel like Dom/sub and Master/slave relationships usually seek my headspace as a sub/slave to enjoy servitude and pleasure from serving the Dom and Master, and make His desire to be my priority. But i feel like i am still a selfish person that i crave my own desire to be satisfied from serving Men first, alongside obeying and serving Dom/ Master's needs. my constant battle between defending my own boundaries and the shame that i have for not being a good sub/slave for making the compromise to be obedient is really hitting me, and i don't know how to handle this...

Should I readjust my own goals and expectations to give myself some grace to enjoy the moment instead of holding such a high bar that already seems to be hurting myself?