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Yes, of course this will be very extreme. I have no interest or desire to hear any argument or reason for why me and my partner should not engage in this behavior.

Me and my partner are in the process of opening our relationship with the end goal of having a fully open relationship down the road. My partner is almost exclusively sexually and romantically interested in women and because of this we knew from the start of our relationship that we would be engaging in non-monogamous sexual activity for presumably the majority of our relationship.

Despite having very little interest in men, my partner is considering having children with me, however we have run into several major hangups along the way. Due to my partners various medical conditions, getting pregnant could potentially cause severe physical/psychological risks to both her and to any child we may try to conceive naturally. Because of this, we are actively considering using a surrogate. Additionally, also due to my partners medical conditions, she is losing interest in being the egg donor and is considering allowing me to naturally breed one (or more) of her potential future partners if they are interested in being bred. While we both know this is a long shot, it is something we are seriously considering.

On the other hand... I have been interested in becoming a eunuch for pretty much my entire adult life so far. While my partner knows this, she has always been sort of on the fence about me getting an orchiectomy. If I were to get a sperm sample frozen she would probably be significantly more inclined to allowing me to go through with becoming a eunuch however. I have also been interested in becoming a eunuch on an ASAP basis, and would ideally like to go through with it in the next year or so. I have always considered myself a "masculine non conforming male" and present as rather feminine. Additionally, my testes cause me rather extreme pain on a regular basis, and I would love to have them removed for that reason.

Considering that it is physically impossible for me to naturally impregnate another woman if I do not have testicles I can really only choose one or the other. While the idea of impregnating one of my girlfriends lovers is an extreme turn on for me, I have also wanted to become a eunuch for years and am serious about becoming one. I have no idea how to properly balance these two options.

I hope this content is welcome on this sub and I would be glad to hear any constructive advice. Thank you.

Unfortunately I never ended up going through with it. One of my biggest regrets. Wouldn't mind discussing the whole ordeal though.

Edit: only interested in discussing in this AMA right now.

I didn't know where to post this because chances are it would get laughed out of any other subreddit.

My most recent ex was naturally inclined towards an anal only lifestyle, and was extremely into anal far before we began dating. While we did not exclusively have anal sex, "sex" to us meant anal. Vaginal sex was exclusively the backup option, as we both significantly preferred anal to PIV.

Towards the end of our relationship, we were making plans to exclusively go anal only however life got in the way. We did break up on friendly terms and eventually both started dating other people.

Due to medical issues my current partner has, anal sex is something that is most likely going to be off the table permanently, something which has been extremely difficult for me. I have always enjoyed giving or receiving (I am bi) anal over any other kind of sexual activity, as I have always considered it significantly more intimate than other sexual activities. Is there a way to keep the intimacy while leaving the anal behind?

22 cis bisexual. Currently with a 21F partner, no interest in breaking up.

In my head I have 2 different outcomes after being neutered: The outcome I am planning on where I will probably take T and maintain almost everything about my current life, and the outcome which I have pretty much always wanted where I either stay a natural eunuch or take feminizing hormones. One of my close friends who is also seeking to be neutered is advising that I go with option 2.

While I would like the 2nd option, I have no interest in socially transitioning. I feel as if this could be disruptive to my relationship however, and I also worry that I may be too old now to fully benefit from an orchie in this manner.

I genuinely never expected a community like this so if you all don't mind I have some questions:

1. After becoming a eunuch I would prefer to continue to maintain the same or similar physique, maybe allow myself to become a bit more feminine. Is this possible as a natural eunuch?
2. I have heard that individuals who voluntarily become eunuchs often have almost no psychological consequences from doing so, even if they remain as natural eunuchs. Is this true?
3. Is it true that the method of removal plays a direct role in the psychological benefits/consequences of becoming a eunuch?
4. How drastically will my sex drive change if I become a natural eunuch? Is it true that many eunuchs retain their sex drive or can relearn to have regular sexual function?
5. Should I have my prostate removed as well?
6. Me and my partner [21F] are in an ENM relationship, how will me becoming a eunuch potentially effect our dynamic? I plan on seeing both men and women after becoming a eunuch.
7. My partner is very on the fence about supporting me in becoming a eunuch, how have people here in M/F relationships helped convince their partner it would be a good thing?
8. How easily/how expensive is it to freeze sperm?

Hope this is welcome here. I have a lot on my mind. Finding this community has been a massive boost to my mental health.

Essentially what is in the title. I am looking for advice and resources, as well as mental health literature, around becoming a eunuch.

I didn't know where to post this but I felt like this was the right sub, at least for now.

I did not lose my virginity until I was in college and had no experience until I met my previous two exes (21F and 19F respectively). Both of them were dom women and both had an extreme fascination with ball busting, to the point of them being firmly within the category of "castration play enthusiasts". My virgin brain had no way to process this. I was introduced to elastrator play when I was with my first ex and I became obsessed with the feeling. We broke up after about 4 or 5 months after we started engaging in sexual activity, and I knew I immediately needed to find a partner who was just as kinky as my ex.

Luckily for me, I was in my ex's friend group, which is where I found my 2nd ex (granted we did know each other beforehand). My second ex was into everything my first ex was into and more, especially when it came to ball-busting and castration play. She was also a nursing student, and knew her way around male anatomy very well. She was also significantly more hardcore than my previous partner, and told me on multiple occasions that if I would let her, she would in fact send me to the hospital and or cause permanent damage. She also made it clear that she wanted me to have to have my nuts removed, and if she wanted to, she could in fact do it herself. We ended up breaking up right before we were together a year.

Going from being a virgin to having needles stuck in and through your nuts (among other things) has sexually ruined me. I feel as if I am unable to properly connect to a woman who is not interested in this kink either. Also, I am 100% sure that I have permanent damage to my testicles, as they cause me a significant amount of pain on a regular basis. Yes I have been to a doctor.

I just figured I would share my story.

Edit: I genuinely wish one of my ex's finished the job. I hope a future partner of mine is able to, and Ideally really wants to.

I have been interested in producing my own guro content for several years now but have been unable to decide on a medium. After much deliberation I have decided that I would like to make a small guro themed indi game and I figured I would run it by you all to see if the plot and mechanics would be of interest. I have a long way to go and a lot to learn, so if I get around to actually making this it may be several years.

Setting:

High fantasy with some technological developments. While advanced medical technology exists, most people live in a state similar to that of the late middle ages.

Plot:

The kingdom you live in recently destroyed a weaker neighboring kingdom and took nearly all of its population as slaves. Your kingdom, despite having advanced industry and technology, is also known for its extremely lucrative slave trade, and you are a worker in a slave processing facility. Your objective is to process as many slaves as possible during your shift in accordance with the wishes of the individuals who purchased them.

Mechanics:

There will be 4 classes you can play as: Slave (female/futa/eunuch), Former Slave (female/futa/eunuch), Businesswoman (only female/futa) and Sadist (female only).

Class breakdown:

Slaves: Unable to earn money from processing other slaves however they will have significantly higher favor with many slaves they process, allowing for quicker processing and a lower chance of death. Tools can only be acquired via donations.

Former Slaves: Similar to regular slaves, except that they will have significantly less favor with the slaves they are processing and will also be allowed to earn money by processing slaves. They can use this money to buy better/new tools to allow for quicker/safer processing.

Businesswoman: Free woman who has never been a slave. Only interested in slave processing for money, but due to being new must get her hands dirty. Absolutely no favor with the slaves and can only gain favor by engaging in sexual activity with them prior to processing, which will greatly increase the processing time. Paid moderately more than the Former Slave.

Sadist: Actively enjoys causing sexual harm and starts out with negative favor. She can forcefully gain compliance through domination. Paid less than the business woman, but her perk is that engaging in sexual activity with slaves uses less time.

Processing:

Processing is the main component of the game and will involve a different operation for each procedure. Customers will expect to have their slaves processed in a specific way and you will earn income (if you play as a class which can earn income) by how well you processed each slave as well as how quickly. Additionally, playing as a slave/former slave who was forced to undergo a specific form of processing will allow you to more easily process slaves who have been designated to be processed in that manner. For instance a eunuch/castrated futa will be able to calm down a male/futa who is to be castrated allowing you to more easily castrate the slave.

Procedures:

Castration: Male/Futa

Circumcision: Male/Futa

Clitoridectomy/Female Circumcision: Female

Penectomy: Male/Futa

[EDIT] Pussy and Womb Amputation: Female

Breast Amputation: Female/Futa

Nipple Removal: Female/Futa

Arm and Leg amputation: All

Nipple/Genital/Body piercings: Female/Futa

Vaginal Stretching: Female/Futa

Anal Stretching: All

[EDIT] Urethral Stretching: Futa/Male

Lobotomy: All

Additionally some customers will want their purchase deceased prior to being handed over. These customers will generally be necrophiliacs and or cannibals. You will be able to kill slaves in 3 ways: Beheading, impalement, and disembowelment.

Accidentally killing/failing to kill a slave will result in a strike. Incorrectly processing a slave will result in a substantial fee or a torture minigame which if failed will result in a game over.

The game will expect you to balance speed of processing with accuracy. Depending on class you will be able to unlock tools to preform safer/quicker procedures or purchase them with your income.

I would very much so like to have a discussion about my concept and how feasible it would be to potentially turn into a rather small indi game. I hope you all enjoy my concept.

Edit: All classes will be allowed to keep removed body parts which will be worked into the games mechanics somehow. Also, there will be a cruelty meter which will directly effect game-play. The higher your cruelty the faster you can preform procedures but it will also make the game harder. You can increase your cruelty by purposefully botching certain procedures, preforming unnecessary procedures, or failing to console the slave you are processing. An example would be preforming an unnecessary circumcision on a slave who is going to get his/her genitalia fully removed. Additionally, all classes will be able to engage in a variety of sexual activities with the slaves.

My most recent ex, along with having a male circumcision fetish, was also extremely fascinated by labiaplasty and wanted to have the entirety of her inner labia and clitoral hood removed. While I have met several women who explicitly were into circumcision why is the fetishization of labiaplasty so rare?

Me [22M] and my partner [21F] have been interested in having threesomes since our second date nearly 2 years ago, however we have run into several major hangups, one of which I would like to cover is how long it is to wait between meeting someone and actually having a threesome?

About 6 months after the start of our relationship we discovered that a mutual acquaintance of ours was actively interested in having a threesome with us. She was familiar enough to both of us that we would be comfortable actually having a threesome with her but not close enough to effect our everyday life if there was fallout. This individual expected that we would probably plan something out in the next couple of weeks, but my partner had other plans. My partner then spent the next several months trying to get to know this individual better, something that I believe sort of annoyed her and worried me. Eventually she got so fed up with it that she ghosted both of us.

With that backstory out of the way, what is an acceptable wait time between when an individual states they are interested in having a threesome and actually having a threesome?

I do not know if that is the proper phrasing, but both me and my my partner are switches who generally prefer being subs. While we do not always like being the submissive partner, it is something we both generally seem to gravitate to, at least based on our previous sexual experiences.

An issue we have been running into is that if one of us (often me) acts as the dom in the relationship for an extended period of time, they will sort of shut down, which can result in awkward situations or in my case freezing during sex if a decision needs to be made. I have often worried about sexual compatibility however I do not know if I should jump straight to that subject.

Additionally, neither me or my partner are interested a strictly monogamous relationship. We do not know exactly what "route" we plan on going down yet, however is it possible that this could eventually be a way to solve our issue? I worry about what may happen if both of us form relationships on the sides in order to deal with this issue.

It is possible that I am going about this the entirely wrong way, but I am rather new to all of this and still have a lot to learn. Additionally, neither me nor my partner are neurotypical which adds a layer of complexity to this situation. Needless to say we're still working on furthering our communication skills.

I have heard a "myth" pop up in certain circles I have been in which states that circumcised guys find it easier to orgasm from anal stimulation as opposed to uncircumcised guys. The idea goes that due to circumcision reducing the sensitivity of the penis (I have seen 0 hard evidence of this and a lot of evidence saying the opposite) that anal stimulation becomes more pleasurable. While I do not believe that circumcision reduces penile sensitivity does it effect anal sensitivity at all?

This could just be me, but has anyone legitimately had an ex who refused specific sexual activities due to being uncircumcised? I had an ex who refused to engage in any kind of penetrative sexual activity (including oral) with me until I got circumcised.

Note: I am aware of the risks involved with getting an orchiectomy, both physically and psychologically. I have had nearly a decade to research this subject.

I have had testicular dysphoria since I was around 12-13 and I am now 22. I am actively planning on getting an orchiectomy within the next year if possible. Me and my partner are in the process of opening up our relationship and I am activity wondering if my desire to get an orchiectomy with other individuals, as we plan on experimenting with individuals together and potentially separately as well.

Would some people be turned off if they saw that I was visibly lacking testicles or would most people not mind?

I don't know if this is the normal experience, but nearly every woman I have been in a relationship with has asked me to get circumcised. My first ex slowly started disliking my foreskin and eventually wanted me to have it removed when we began engaging in sexual activities, while my second ex was genuinely disappointing that I was uncircumcised and told me she explicitly preferred circumcised men.

I have talked to women outside of the US about this issue as well and they also generally seem to prefer circumcised over uncircumcised. I have a close female friend who was born outside of the US and lives in a country where circumcision is incredibly rare and she is one of the few people I have met with a genuine circumcision fetish. Most women either seem to prefer cut over uncut or have no opinion on the matter. I have only met a small handful of women who genuinely prefer uncut and this is largely because they have never slept with an uncut man (at least according to my friends gf).

Any thoughts or did I draw the cut straw with the women I have dated?

Hello, I think I used the right tag but I don't know. I also do not know if this is the right subreddit for this post but here goes nothing.

I have wanted to get circumcised for at least the last 6 years but have been unable to do so for a verity of reasons (primarily because I come from an intactivist family). I have found that I am unable to go through with scheduling a consultation or getting the ball rolling in any regard unless I have some kind of outside push to actually get it done, my internal willpower is not enough. My brain tells me that I have to get it done for someone else or for a legitimate reason, my own physical and mental health do not count (brain is dumb). The closest I got to actually getting circumcised was when I was dating my explicitly pro-circ ex, however we broke up before I could get the procedure.

Has anyone else experienced anything like this?

EDIT: I have severe decision anxiety. I am the kind of person who has multiples of the same set of clothes so I do not have to think about what I am wearing. I am neurodivergent of some sort. I believe why my "circumcision anxiety" goes down when someone else wants me to get cut is because they are removing the mental obstacle of making all of the small choices.

After looking through almost all of the "START HERE" reading list I have realized that many of my views and ideas I have had about threesomes (and ENM in general) have been rather incorrect.

That being said, I figured I would share some of my bad ideas with the class for me to hear your opinions.

Threesomes with friends:

Me and my partner have had 2 opportunities to have threesomes with friends of ours but neither of them actually happened. My partner was uncomfortable with one of the individuals (so was I, but he was hot, although I agreed with my partner), and one ended up ghosting us after we delayed for several months. Additionally there is another individual in my friend circle who explicitly was interested in engaging in sexual activity with me who me and my partner attempted to contact, however since reading the literature have given up on contacting her.

Threesome/Foursome with a Couple:

My closest friend has been in an ENM relationship with his girlfriend for nearly 4 years now and both me and my partner (and them) have wanted to either engage in a partner swap or a foursome. My friend recently informed me that his girlfriend is actively interested in potentially having a long term side relationship with me and possibly my partner as well. While they have years of experience with this lifestyle, I have no clue if this would be a good idea, especially if his girlfriend expects a "large" amount of 1 on 1 sexual activity.

NGL I expected to have more "bad ideas" when I started writing but it looks like I'm out for now. Outside of not attempting to pick people up at school or work, which neither of us have tried to do, I cant think of anything else.

I have yet to do any research on this (my bad) but I figured I'd get a discussion going. Awhile back me and my close friend (also bisexual) were discussing anal sex and anal fixation and he mentioned that he just thought it was a "bi thing". Him, his girlfriend (bi as well), and myself all enjoy both giving and receiving anal. I personally have had an anal fixation since I was around 12 or 13 years old. Almost every bi (or pan) person I have known who I have discussed this subject with has either admitted to either being ok with anal or actively REALLY enjoying anal. Anal, giving or receiving, is my personal favorite sexual activity regardless of my partners gender. Do any of you have any thoughts? Is this normal or is there no real correlation here.

My partner (21F) and I (22M) have actively been looking for a threesome partner for the past year and while we have had some luck we have had to either turn down every option due to the behavior of the other individual or it simply not working out. My partner is completely disinterested in potentially having a MFM or MMF threesome despite both of us being bisexual. Currently we have no experience with threesomes and I am just looking for experience for both of us so we can better mature into this lifestyle. I have no interest in going against her wishes, however from everything I have read so far getting MFM/MMF experience seem to be a good way to eventually end up in a relationship situation that my partner actually desires.