r/MFM_Lifestyle

My previous post was about our first encounter with my wife's guy friend in our hot tub. We were on such a high from that experience. I remember waking up the next day and feeling surprisingly great about the experience. All of the anxiety I felt leading up to the previous night's hot tub hangout was gone. Instead I felt super clear and at ease about everything.

Now that I had met the guy and had an open conversation with him, I no longer felt worried or threatened by him. My wife asked if she could have a hall pass for some 1 on 1 fun with him. After some thought, I granted her a conditional hall pass. If she chose the hall pass, she would have to face certain punishments at home afterwards. Some of the punishments included things we've never done before. DM me if you want details.

The next time my wife saw him at the gym, she told him she had a hall pass and wanted to cash it in. They agreed to meet at noon at his place. My wife texted me with the update and asked for a final green light. I remember my hands feeling a little shaky as I texted back and told her to go for it.

She met up with him and spent an hour at his place. The first 30 minutes was fucking. He took the lead and tried every position he could think of. Apparently he has a lot of stamina. Maybe it was harder for him to cum after the fun we had just the night before. Either way, he definitely wore my wife out by the time he finally finished. My wife didn't orgasm but loved being used for his pleasure.

My wife came home and immediately wrote down all the details and shared the play-by-play with me. The next night, I set out a new red lingerie set for her to wear and told her the punishments she must face. I could tell she loved the roleplay and was eager to pay for her sins. We enjoyed some of the hottest, kinkiest sex we've ever had that night. It was sexy, reassuring and full of adrenaline all at the same time.

Feel free to message with any questions. I love chatting about this stuff and hearing from others, especially those with more experience.

Wife posting. Long post ahead. We have been fantasizing about a MFM threesome for over a year. We finally pulled the trigger and texted one of his buddies last weekend. They had a good conversation about it, his friend said he was down, but just wanted to hangout and feel out the vibe beforehand, which we were all cool with. A few days later I started a group chat to make plans, his friend happened to be available the following evening.

His friend came over, we all ate dinner together and had some alcoholic drinks. Afterwards we sat on the couches in the living room. My husband and his friend sat on our three seater couch on opposite sides. I didn't want to move things alone too quickly so I sat on the couch adjacent for the first hour or so. We were all just drinking and chillin. Eventually I got up to use the bathroom and when I came back, his friend moved the pillow in between them and motioned for me to come sit down. Quickly after that I draped my legs over his lap while leaning my head on my husband's shoulder. We were just listening to music and chatting, vibes felt good. His friend started rubbing on my legs, it felt really nice being in between two men. This went on for about half an hour until my husband asked his friend if he wanted to go to the bed. Friend said he needed to use the bathroom first, so we went upstairs to wait for him.

After a few mins, his friend wasn't coming upstairs, so I told my husband to go check what's going on. He goes down and I hear them chatting for a few mins. Eventually I decided to go down to see what's up (at this point I had taken my leggings off and was in just a crotchless thong and thin crop top.) When I got downstairs, his friend seemed a bit hesitant but also intrigued by my lack of clothing. We could sense he didn't want to go to our bedroom, so we suggested staying on the couch where he already made himself comfortable.

We all go to the couch in the same sitting arrangement as before. They both start rubbing on me and my man tells me to reach for his cock. So I reached under both of their pants. My husband was already rock hard, his friend unfortunately was still soft. Eventually they both pulled their pants down and after a few mins of them rubbing and sucking on my tits, and both of them taking turns putting their fingers inside me, I began to suck my husband off so his friend got an idea of what was to come. I realized his friend still wasn't getting hard (started to feel really bummed out) but I asked him if he wanted me to put it in my mouth, he said yes. I figured I'd be able to suck him to get hard. Unfortunately, despite feeling him pulsing in my mouth trying to get hard, it didn't happen. I checked in with him to ask if there's anything specific he likes or needs, but we could tell he was starting to disconnect. He pulled his boxers back up and we just sat there seeing if anything would change. My husband and I both reassured him that everything was cool, no pressure. His friend expressed that he was too "in his head" to get there. We all decided to call it a night.

The following day, I texted in our group chat to apologize for any discomfort and asked if he would be interested in trying again at a much slower pace or if he wanted to keep things platonic. Unfortunately his response was that he doesn't think he can handle the intimacy part at this time. We're not sure if it is him worried about someone catching feelings or being naked around another guy, because he seemed totally willing from the get go. We don't feel like we pressured him into it at all, but it is very disappointing that it didn't work and he doesn't even want to give it another try.

I guess I'm just looking for some solidarity or any advice, if we ever decide to try again. If you read this entire thing, I greatly appreciate it. It's been a rollercoaster of emotions the past few days.

It all started last week.

He came over for drinks one thing lef to another and we fucked her in every way imaginable. She slept that night. Next day she wanted more so we did it again. For hours! Sunday we relaxed had sex a few times.

Every day this past week shes just been constantly wet. Ive been fucking her non stop whenever I get the chance. He came over again last night and we pulled a late night again. Having her deep throat us, we switch off fucking her. Spit roasting her. Just having a blast until we covered her in cum and fuck.

She is so incredibly sexy. It blows my fucking mind. It all feels perfect and natural. No awkwardness. Way more communication. Way more intimate and not just sexually. Might be the best choice weve made in a long time!

I cant stop thinking about it and rewatching the videos we made and looking at the photos. Fuck. How did I get so lucky to have such a sexy slutty wife!

long time lurker, first time posting. i’ve always been into mfm but it would be next to impossible to get my husband onboard. any ladies out there experiencing this? i am open to talking to just about anyone but will be selective w dm replies.

How did y’all’s convos going after having your first experience with your wife ? And how did y’all both feel immediately after your third left ?

Me and my fiance are in our mid to late 20's and been together for years and very happy, probably our best year together has been this year ngl.

Anyways we've discussed mfm, mff and other couples, it began as "thats crazy" kinda for both of us, then lead into more direct questions and some more vague conversations. I've looked into reddit and some of the apps like Feeld just to test the waters to see the experience. There seems to be some options out there I could see her considering IRL

The only issue is finding someone.. she has said once or twice that she isn't into finding someone that it takes the fun out of it and that i can find someone. But I want to be open with her and dont want any part of it to be secretive but i also dont want to overshare and turn her off on the idea.

How do I get to the step with her of actually pursuing finding someone and stop dancing around it?

Without being being pushy like " I found the app and the subreddit should I post tonight ?"

(To me that just sounds like a bad approach)

Thanks to anyone for the help!

( if anyones uncomfortable to comment like I usually am, will accept message requests )

Single M here. Been in the lifestyle for a couple years now and one of the best things I’ve learned is this:

When you’re all in the hotel room (or at home) and things are about to heat up, it helps a ton if the husband steps away for just a couple minutes. Go pour some drinks, fix the music/lights, hit the bathroom, whatever.

When all three of us are in the room chatting and vibing, it can be so awkward for the wife and me to just break off and start kissing or touching while her husband is right there watching. Just give us a couple minutes of privacy, it makes the transition so much easier for everyone.

For the husband, it also means you have control over when things kick off, and you avoid the dreaded “now what do I do?” moment at the very beginning. By the time you come back, she’s already warmed up and you can jump right in smoothly as a threesome.

I get it might feel weird leaving your wife alone with a stranger for a few minutes. But again, you don’t even have to fully leave the room, just give her a bit of space to help her get into it.

The first couple I played with who did this had a dramatically smoother and hotter experience compared to others I’ve been with. Try it out or let me know what you guys think.

Would love to hear people’s first time experiences and how them and their SO got into this LS ?

So, going back around four or five weeks ago, we met our third in Central London. We grabbed a coffee for an hour or so, had a really good chat, and got to know each other. He’s a genuinely nice guy — charming, friendly, respectful, and very easy to talk to.

After we parted ways from the coffee meet, the three of us were immediately messaging each other. We all agreed it had gone really well. My wife was still unsure how things would progress sexually, but she found him very handsome, so we arranged to meet again two weeks later.

We booked an Airbnb and planned some crazy golf beforehand so we could spend more time together and get comfortable in each other’s presence before anything happened. Then we headed back to the Airbnb.

It was a little awkward at first. We put a movie on and sat close together on the sofa. After a while, we both moved a little closer to my wife. Again, it felt slightly awkward at first, but eventually we both started rubbing her legs. She relaxed more and then started kissing both of us.

Not long after, one thing led to another and before we knew it, things really took off. It was amazing. I loved every single second of it — seeing her enjoying herself and being the centre of attention. She absolutely loved the experience, and honestly, so did I. Seeing her so turned on and happy was incredibly hot.

Things went on for around an hour and a half before we stopped for a break. She had a cigarette, we watched another movie for a bit, and then we ended up going again for another hour or so.

After it all ended, he said his goodbyes and told us he’d love to do it again sometime. Afterwards, me and my wife made love again, went to sleep, and woke up the next morning with the biggest grins on our faces.

Ever since that day, our relationship has genuinely never been better. We feel closer, more connected, and more open with each other than ever before. We honestly can’t wait to experience it all again.

My wife is on the fence, we play with toys to recreate MFM and really enjoy it, and we enjoy the idea of it. She is just worried that it may change how I look at her, or our relationship.
I’ve reassured her it won’t, and that it’s something we both want to try and if it isn’t both sides then I wouldn’t want it neither. Has to be both of us.

Is there any advice/tips/experiences from the females that my wife could read?

Thanks in advance.

So me and my wife have been role-playing this fantasy for a while. It all started at a wedding one time when we were drunk and from there, we have just been role-playing it and role-playing it one day. I finally decided to ask her outside the bed if it’s something that actually turns her on and she said yes, it does and then I asked her if it was something she would actually be down for and again she said yes, but only if it makes me comfortable. I then told her it was something that actually turns me on and I would be down to do but the conversation just ended there and nothing really went past that I’m asking for advice on how I can actually ask her if she really wants to make this happen like for real for real I tend to get nervous when talking about this just because I get scared talking about these things haha but would love to hear opinions. I guess I’m more scared of her being weirded out that I really want to do a mfm w her even tho she somewhat agreed to it already.

Hi everyone, I’m 25m who’s relatively new to swinging. I’ve had two experiences in the past, but that was about 10 or 12 months ago, so I took a break from sex. Recently, I’ve been talking with a couple, and we get along really well. We’re planning to meet soon for an evening together. However, I’m a bit worried, as it’s been a long time since I last had sex, and I’m concerned about lasting long during the entire session. I would love to know if this has ever been a concern for any couples here, and if you have any advice on how to last longer or if it could be a problem. Just to mention, I’m straight, and the couple I’m talking with is a straight couple as well, and we’re all focused on the woman in the dynamic. Thanks in advance for any advice or insights!

Update: do you think I should give them a heads up?

What‘s everybody’s favorite part of mfm? What makes you like it so much?

What kind of apps can I get into for finding a 3rd? I already tried "feeld" but it says it is not compatible with my device

Or do you like both? Provide a reason for your answer.

Hello,

I really want to share my GF wi the with another man. I’ve done MMF/MFM before with “friends with benefits” but never a partner. Would love to connect with others in same situation for discussion only. Thanks!

What are some questions you would ask of a prospective third? Took a long time to get to this point and want to make sure the third understands his role is her pleasure. What are some questions you'd ask to gauge their experience as a third and just general things you would want to know. Thanks!