r/MFM_Lifestyle

1st time joining couple at hotel today! They reached out to me. Met once and also paid for my only drink. Suggested and reserved the hotel. I have offered to "split the cost or whatever is fair" and suggested again before final reservation "let me know if i can help". So far they have ignored this and no discussion on splitting has been had back. I am fulfilling a lot of their highest fantasies which they seem to imply others they have tried with havent.

Whats proper here? Do I just bring half the cost in cash and leave it on the table? Do I just let it be and help if they ask? Ask again after play? Should I really be the one reserving the room in the future?

Im good at overthinking if you cant tell. Althoufh i really want to make a good impression and continue this with them.Appreciate anyone's guidance on this!

Im ready to have the MFM talk with my wife. I want to propose a MFM, and let her know this has been on my mind for a while. My needs aside, I am open minded and prepared if she says “no”.
My worry is the after part, if she says NO, i have basically revealed to her that i have a desire and it will go unfull filled, which will lead her to asking other questions.

My ask: can anyone share stories where the ask for MFM was rejected, and did you continue to live normally as if the question never came up?

I am curious about your experiences with MFM when one guy has a bigger and thicker dick than the other.

Question for the guys who are smaller: do you feel pleasure when the other guy is bigger and you see the girl gladly taking his whole dick, or do you have any negative feelings? What are your sensations, both physical and psychological, when you enter right after that guy?

Question for the girls: do you prefer the bigger guy to go first, the smaller one first, or does it not matter? When the guy with the bigger size enters, does it make giving a blowjob harder, or does it not affect that? The next day, does sex with the smaller guy feel any different or not?

Question for the guy who is bigger: honestly, do you enjoy being bigger, or does it not matter to you? When you entered her for the first time, did you see any changes in her face or body language?

With sexy mfm scenes? My wife kinda liked the movie indecent proposal and I’m trying to see if there’s any out there. No porn lol

I'll start off with a little bit of a backstory for anybody who is curious about how we got into this:

My wife was very nervous and shy about being shared for the first time. It was an idea that had turned me on for years, but she always said that she would probably be too awkward and shy to try it, despite being a little curious and slightly turned on by the idea herself. It was about six months ago that she actually started to come around to the idea and seemed to want to discuss it more, and then she told me that I could start looking for someone online if I wanted to, but we would have to get to know him online for at least a few months before meeting in person. I’ll never forget how my heart started racing when she said that.

For a long time, it was one of my biggest fantasies to try sloppy seconds, and I was so excited that I might actually get to try it soon; the thought was overwhelming. My wife admitted that it was kind of a naughty idea that turned her on a little bit. I eventually did find someone online who lived near us, and we got to know him for a while online before we set this up and he came over to our house. Both my wife and I were a mix of nervous and excited the first time she was shared, like the kind of nervousness that feeds the excitement. While he was having sex with my wife, I could see in her face that she was both excited and shy at the same time, and she even blushed a few times; there was something so sexy about that!

My wife is on the pill, so it was perfectly safe for him to unload into her unprotected. I’ll never forget how I had that really intense excited butterflies feeling in my stomach when he started having his orgasm. Just the thought of sinking into a fresh load for the first time was so overwhelming; my mind was racing like it never had before. He got off of her, and I immediately made a beeline for her and kneeled between her thighs. The first thing I noticed was the glob peeking out of her entrance, but there was no leaking. He told me the day before on chat that he saved up for a week for us, so I knew that little glob was just the tip of the iceberg, and the thought of the huge globby mess inside her almost made me pass out with excitement lol. I couldn’t contain myself and pushed into her right after I noticed the glob. Ohhh myyy goooddd!!! Even now I still can’t believe how utterly incredible it felt! It was so ridiculously gooey, and even warmer than usual. And the way I effortlessly sunk in with zero resistance made me gasp out loud. I didn’t expect it to be that gooey and slippery; all it took was one little push and I instantly slid all the way in. It was like being instantly enveloped by warm velvet. It's such a complex sensation because of how soft, gooey, and mushy it feels, but the vagina is still gripping you like it normally would.

I remember my wife also gasping out loud and her voice quivering as she whispered to me, “Oh my god, this is so naughty!” She later told me that she had that really intense butterflies feeling in her abdomen too. Both of us were trembling with excitement at that point. I could tell by the look on her face and her rapid, shallow breaths that her heart was probably pounding as hard as mine was.

I was only able to last about 20 seconds before I lost control. The sensation of being in a fresh load and the butterflies in my abdomen was just too much to handle all at once. I was so excited that I was able to keep going without even stopping though, and lasted about another 3 or 4 minutes before I had a second orgasm. My wife had a big orgasm as I continued the second time; she said she was so ridiculously turned on thinking about how naughty it was that she had two different loads being mixed together inside her. She loved the gooey/silky/velvety sensation too; she said it makes her a lot more sensitive and it’s like the sensations of each thrust are magnified with the gooey texture and additional warmth. I don’t know exactly what she means, but I figure it must be somewhat similar to what I experience and how it increases my sensitivity too.

This is something that we both love now; there’s nothing that can match the intensity and excitement of it, and we don’t know what it is, but something about it just feels so natural too. We both agree on that but can’t explain exactly what it is. Something about it just feels so natural and right, as though people had been enjoying this since the dawn of time, almost like we’ve unlocked some hidden, primitive aspect of our species’ sexuality that we’re rediscovering after being dormant for so long.

Now what we love doing is finding guys who want to try it really badly but have never had the chance. We find it so hot for me to go first so he can go immediately after and finally get to experience it. The idea of someone being as excited as we were that first time trying it really sends us both over the edge It’s such an exciting thing that we want other people to experience it too.

So just want to get some input from others in this scene. Little bit of background I was doing MFM regularly with two men. I’m still with one of the men in a romantic relationship. Still currently looking for a third but anyways.

I landed a job opportunity that starts next month in much larger city, I’m from and living in a pretty rural/suburbanish town and the job is just something that’s a no-brainer. More money, better ladder for my career, more benefits, in a place with more stuff to do, etc. I am planning on bringing my BF with me as well and I’m really looking forward to it!

But I keep getting distracted from the other reasons of taking the job and all I can really think of and look forward to is the opportunity of having a larger dating pool and the possibility of bringing another man into the relationship again. Coupled with that, since there’s less risk of having anyone I know personally kind of find out about my MFM situation, I feel excited because I feel like I’ll be more free to pursue that and not “keep it secret” so to speak and maybe trying for more than just MFM but right now the focus is just getting back into mfm.

That all being said, am I too focused on MFM being the goal here? Obviously I’m not taking the job JUST for that, but still it’s coming into the picture a lot for me and my boyfriend, and I’m just wondering, does anyone else make like their life decisions with their MFM preference or relationship in mind or am I taking it too far and too fast?

This was like 2 summers ago, and it happened in Bayhead, NJ.. I went with a friend to the beach but he had to leave early because his work called so I said let me chill for a few more hours before I headed home.. there was this good looking couple who was sitting not too far from me, playing paddle ball. She was so into it and was playing well. He was good too, but she was just better. 

I went for a quick swim and when I was going back to my spot, I passed by them and I said "great game". He said clearly that she's more skilled than him, and he was just trying to keep up. I then said if any of them got tired, I would love to play.. and he was like: " here you go, she's all yours" I didn't think anything of it but I played with her for a good 30 min until we were both covered in a lot of sweat. When we went back to our spots, the husband was like, " You did much better than I would have done."  I complimented her play and said to be continued another time, hopefully.. we were all joking about it, then he asked what happened to my friend and why he ditched me. I explained the situation. And he was like, "Now we feel bad for you and invited me to join them." 

So I moved my stuff next to them, and we hung out for a couple of hrs, just talking about everything over a few beers.. it turned out they lived in North Jersey, and they Airbnb'd a place in the area for the week. During the conversations, I could tell that she likes me and she showed it several times but he didn't have any issues with it.. I thought to myself that it was a bit strange but I kept going with the flow.. I thought, "At best, maybe they have an open relationship, but I didn't think more than that."

In any case, as sunset approached, I was dreading going back to the city in traffic as it was Sunday evening on a summer weekend.. he was like you should leave much later because traffic would usually ease up and that they would love to continue hanging in their place.. it was their last night, and we may as well all hang out some more. At that point, aside from some harmless flirting between me and the wife, things seemed platonic, but I loved the idea because they were really cool, and we kinda clicked pretty well.  

When we got to their place, things kinda changed quickly. 

When she went to shower, I told him that he's lucky that his wife was cool and that she's pretty hot, he was like that he thought she liked me too. I asked how he would feel about that, and he said that he didn't mind at all and her happiness and satisfaction mean everything to him.. 

I took a shower after she came back and when I came back, they were making out then when they saw me, the husband said that it was his turn to take a shower and to feel home.. I sat next to her and it was full blown flirting at that point then I kissed her once, then another kiss, then full wet passionate kisses for a long time until she she was melting in my arms.. I then removed her robe, and we enjoyed each other tremendously, at first just her and I, then in front of her husband for the remaining of the night.  It was an incredible experience. I didn't leave their place until 9 am the following day and with probably 3 hours of sleep. 

Do you like it when your boyfriend takes a backseat during the MFM? Meaning, he participates, but for example, during foreplay he watches, and the invited guy takes the lead; when the MFM is in full swing, it's hard for the girl to focus on both, and the priority goes to the invited guy — or is it the other way around? Is it important to you that the priority stays with your boyfriend?

So you finally worked up the courage to tell her. She said no. Now what? I noticed 90%+ of the responses say accept it or move on. No one actually provided advice. Well my wife said the same thing once, and 15+ years later we are finally doing it. So here is what I did.

First. Accept it. Say ok. Say you will never do it. She is yours always and always will be. Let her know it’s purely a fantasy. That’s it. Telll her it makes you want her more when you feel like you have to fight or compete for her. Tell her it’s just a sex fantasy. That is it and you just wanted to let her know. And now she does.

Now you need to really accept it. This isn’t a garuntee way to make it happen. It just happens to be my luck.

Now feed off what she gives you and let her know that is what got you going. Even the tiniest thing, like seeing the drive through guy smile at her. Show her how those things make you feel about her. And when you accept that your fall will never do those things, those little things will absolutely turn you on.

Never push or ask her to go further with your fantasy. In the meantime discover hers and give them to her to the max. Tell her how much you love making her feel when you do them. Over time she will resipercate or push her own boundaries for you. For us it was when I bought a ‘discover your fantasies’ sex game that broke the ceiling.

This is my own experience. 26 years together, 15 years between me telling her and her finally agreeing on my fantasy on her terms. Be patient my guy. Now I have to keep her on a short leash; so to speak, becasue she likes the attention from other men more than I do.

She claims I Pavlov’s (?the right name?) dogged her over the years. She said she noticed how much better I fucked her or how excited I’d get which mad sex hotter for her. She said her brain connected those thing naturally. “oh, I stay and chat this guy an extra second and it get 3 more orgasms tonight.” Then she said she would do it on purpose and it naturally turned her on because she knew what was coming. :)

A random guy I talked to at a lifestyle party put it like this - a guy is willing to step out of his comfort zone and explore their partners’ fantasies when he has been with that same girl in bed 1000 times. It takes a woman 3000 times to have the same amount of comfort to openly sexually explore what she doesn’t care for.

Good luck.

My girlfriend and I enjoy playing with a realistic dildo, especially when she goes back and forth between me and it on her knees.
We’re thinking of trying the same with a real guy, strictly oral only. Is it realistic to ask and keep it oral-only? Any practical tips on finding someone respectful who actually respects the limits? Has anyone done this more than once with the same person?
Just honest feedback from people who’ve actually done it. Thanks.

My gf just informed me that it made her uncomfortable that I kept asking for her to sleep with someone else. She also said that because of how she views sex, she'll never be ok with the idea of this.

This is such a strong fetish for me, I don't know how to cope. I feel like I'm grieving what could have been. It's just vanilla sex for me from now on I guess. Anyone here know how to deal with it?

Wife is new to this but we talked about MFM and she wants to do it.

She told me doing MFM right away is too much for her so she wants to take small steps. She has certian ideas she put out. Ex. She wants to just go on a date and flirt/touch with the 3rd. She wants the 3rd to just watch at first. She just only want to do bj once she get comfortable. Etc.

Is this normal for other couples?

No one to talk to about this in real life. Putting the Mrs in a hotel room tonight (Friday) and we may not come out again until Sunday. Instead of doing something in the city or a fun outing she opted to just stay in to fuck. I've got her regular guy coming by tonight and a new guy with the regular returning tomorrow.

I told her I'm tying her down with a blindfold for the new guy (she doesn't meet them in advance so its a stranger - we've done this before, she doesn't usually take the blindfold off and has never asked for a name). She doesn't know the regular is coming back for a surprise mini-gangbang/train. I have the best good girl.

Edit: update in the comments. Thanks for having fun with me!

I can't believe I am writing this but I am chickening out. It took 3 years to tell my girlfriend (now my wife) my fantasy, 1 year of her warming up to it, 2 years of roleplaying and now we are finally exploring a third. I didn't talk to anybody yet but she gave me the green light to choose a third to introduce to our bed for an experimental threesome (we discussed to do oral only for a first encounter but its a barrier that can come off if we all feel comfortable) and I cant just bring myself to do that. She said I have the green light to choose whoever I see fit. But I cant bring myself to make a choice. Every time I see a picture of a third and his cock, I imagine his hands on my wife, his cock in her mouth. My petite innocent wife with a body count of 2 (she slept only with a high school sweetheart prior to me) will try another cock in front of me.

Now, the fantasy very much turns me on, It was my fantasy from even before meeting her, to share my partner with another man. But now that its becoming real, I feel like I am chickening out. Any advice for me?

Me (28f) and husband (31m) have recently been discussing the possibility of bringing another male into our sex life but we’re not really sure where to start and are nervous to get into the lifestyle at all

Any advice?

Me(33) and my partner have been talking about exploring the idea of adding a third, and been thinking on moving forward with it.
My question is how do you and your partner come to an agreement of what kind of guy you want. Do you just list what you want? Would it be better to travel and find someone or better to find local?

Has anyone else experienced this? To be clear, I am in no way concerned that my wife is going to leave, like some other guy more, or want to replace me in any way. We are a team, and a damn good one…. But ever since we’ve started this adventure I have found myself speaking, writing, acting, and fucking her like we just started dating again. I hadn’t been treating her poorly in any way, but some of the things that I did to win her years ago had sort of fallen by the wayside as we’d fallen into the routines of daily life. Those things are back with a vengeance now! I’ve put some thought into it, and feel confident that it’s not coming from a place of insecurity but instead one of love and even deeper commitment to our relationship. Having given up “ownership” of her sexual being on occasion, I now find myself seeking to deepen all of our other ties. The imperfect analogy that comes to mind is like losing your vision and your hearing gets sharper.

So, I’ll ask again….has anyone else experienced this shift and has it stuck throughout the time you’ve been doing this?

If we ain’t gonna do this thing yet then I just want my wife to take charge of me. I’m dominant in day to day stuff but nothing turns me
on more than my wife taking charge in the bed. Example: when I fuck her and she tells me to put my sleeve on or she tells me to take it out and kiss her while she finishes herself. All of a sudden my imagination runs wild and it makes me bust so fast. I try to fight the thought of her getting fucked but I just can’t 🤣🤣🤣 this is so wild.

I feel like I’m constantly thinking of the hot times I’ve shared her before. It was definitely some of the hottest sexy I or we have ever had. I get constantly horny thinking about it all day haha

For people who have experience with MFM, I’m curious about the practical/social side of it.
How does it usually work when one person finishes earlier than the others? Do they normally stay involved, hang out, or just give the other two some space?
And once everything is over, what’s the usual etiquette with the third person? Do you hang out for a bit, talk/cuddle, have a drink, etc., or is it more normal for them to get dressed and leave? How do you make the goodbye feel natural instead of awkward?
Obviously I know every situation is different and communication beforehand matters, but I’d love to hear how people handle this in real life, especially the first time.