r/sexover50

Hi, I’ve been divorced for a while and haven’t dated so my sex life has been non-existent. I have a male friend, he is a few years older, we are both in our 50’s. He is single too and he is actually a handyman which is how we became friends, from him doing work in my home after the divorce.

Anyway, I’m really not attracted to him like I would want to be in a relationship but I must confess I have fantasies about sex. Maybe because he is a male friend and I’m horny. I also wouldn’t know how exactly to initiate the idea. I do feel like he deserves some pussy. We shared a hotel room once in Atlantic City, separate beds. I had the room and he stayed after we hung out one night. He works down there so I offered him to stay so he didn’t have to drive home. When we walked into the room he had a look on his face and I thought maybe he wants some but I didn’t so I just went in the bathroom and then back out to my bed. He didn’t make a pass but I think it was understood that nothing was going to happen. But now I’m thinking maybe I should get a room again and see if he will stay and then I can figure something out. I don’t know, I’m conflicted but also want sex or oral sex at the very least.

Also, do you enjoy getting pointers from porn when out of the loop for a bit like giving a good blow job? I mean I know how to do everything but it’s been a bit and I want to be really enjoyable if something does come about with my friend until I start dating again.

How was your week in sex?

I dunno about the rest of you, but I still find myself thinking about sexual matters a lot these days. I can't say I feel like putting the same effort into actually having sex, though. It is definitely not a physical limitation, more of a, "eh.... maybe later" kind of feeling. Anyone else similarly situated?

I recently learned about the platform mlnp.tv and want some feedback from anybody that has used their platform.

Thanks

My husband and I sometimes end up shifting forward too much when he's penetrating me, due to physics of repeated thrusting. I'm guessing it's also an age-related thing too because of our muscles or balancing. If he's standing he's found out that wearing sneakers keeps him in place better because of the rubber bottoms. Then he can help hold me in place easier too. Don't know if that will help anyone else!

Wife 49F and I 57M been together 26 years. Married 24 of them. We were open to non-monogamy from the start. We still are but our attitude has dramatically changed over time.

I'm curious to hear from others over 50 who've been committed but also open for a long time. How has it gone for you and has your experience with NM changed over time?

Ok not all men but just a reminder when rubbing your woman's clit, be gentle. Don't use enough pressure and force to remove a stain from carpet. My husband tends to get aggressive no matter how many times I say "lighter and slower".

It's hard lately because I am in the mood a lot. What time of day are you most excited? (Either male or female).

The subject of non-monogamy has been fairly popular recently, so I thought I’d weigh in with a curiosity. For most people, everything is better with friends you can trust, and at least for us as we get older we want to spend more time with people we have more in common with other than our kids go to the same school. Swinging and swapping doesn’t appeal to most couples, but same room sex is amazing! We’ve always enjoy watching porn together, and the idea of group sex was on our bucket list for year. Being in a group dynamic takes it to the next level with the sights and sounds!!! You feed off of each other’s energy and when you are with people you are comfortable with, you can let loose and really enjoy the moment. We’ve been going to lifestyle clubs and events for about 15 years now, but most of the time when we are in a group we still only play with each other. We have a playroom in our basement, a large hot tub and love to host our friends for game nights the turn spice. We’ve know some folks that said “oh I could never” come over and after a couple gummies and a glass of wine, totally let loose.

So the question, as you get older, does the idea of group play become more appealing to you?

54m wondering if anyone else my age has been having the feeling of wanting to be watched while masturbating

I’m talking to my Dom about visiting a sex club. I’m having some insecurities over what to wear though. It’s a 3 Hour Dr. so this is not something we’re doing spur of the moment. I should have time to plan. I will definitely get input from him but wanted to put the question out there to others in the 50+ sex positive community. I don’t really have any insecurities about my body, but I know that because I’m petite and fit, it’s not always easy to find stuff off the rack. Don’t laugh, but shoes are a big question for me. Very much a tomboy and don’t wear heels. Any suggestions?

How was your week in sex?

I think married life after kids go to college is looking great for our marriage. Anyone have some insite?

This story literally goes back more than 35 years to when my wife and I were dating, but we were just talking about it, and I thought it was worth telling.

My wife and I grew up, going to the same campground on weekends in the summer. That’s where we met and started dating. Needless to say, we fucked a lot when we were dating. On one occasion, we fucked in broad daylight in between two paths at the campground and we were totally seen by a couple that was walking on one of the paths. I mean, looking right at us.

On 4 July, we were out walking around 10 o’clock at night. We were walking by the lake and there’s this large flat rock that we always went to. It was a great spot for fishing, hanging out, swimming, skinny-dipping, etc. I laid out my leather jacket on the ground for her to sit on, and we started making out.

It wasn’t long and her shirt was off and next thing you know we were fucking missionary style right there on that rock. We could hear people across the lake, but it was very dark so we didn’t worry about anything. Then, all of a sudden fireworks started going off over the lake right above us. As soon as the fireworks went off everything lit up and we could hear the people across the lake, whistling and cheering. They could see us as clear as day! They were only about 100 yards across the lake because it’s narrow at that part.

Obviously, we were surprised, but we kept fucking. And there was definitely a thrill to having the fireworks go off and people see us. When my wife (then girlfriend) would get close to orgasm, she would beg me to fuck her harder. So there I was, bare ass, and her topless with her shorts pulled to the side, and I was fucking her hard with her with her legs wrapped around me and her tits jiggling with every thrust. We both came hard, literally with the fireworks going off right above us. It was fucking amazing.

What a memory!

My wife and I were up at our camp just a few days ago and I only have jokingly said that we should do that again. Of course being in our 50s now she’s not as excited to do that as we were when we were 18. We were wondering if the people that saw us ever recognized us at the camp. Still a great memory and fun to talk about.